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The Stress Pill: 30 More Stressors

A pile of pills

In the previous chapter of The Stress Pill, I described some ways people make themselves stressed. I call them “stress pills”. Others call them Stressors.

Here are another 30 tips on how to increase your daily dosage of stress. Of course, if you can avoid them, your stress level will go down and your happiness will go up.

This post is part 3 of 4 in the series The Stress Pill

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Published: April 28, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: April 28, 2015In: Personal Development Tags: skills, anger, success, persistence, how to, positive, choice, tips, trust, stress / pressure, negative, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, failure, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, change, feeling, drugs, happiness, expectation, focus, relationships / marriage, procrastination, love, dreams, list

Attachment Theory: Secure and Insecure Attachment in Teenagers

Teenage boy

Babies’ relationships with their parents in the first years of life has a significant impact on their future relationship. As babies, the attachment they have to their parents will become a blue print of their attitude towards themselves and others. During that period, they create a “navigating map” and use it until they become teenagers. In teen years, which are considered to be between 11 to 25, teens renew this map and the relationship between them and their parents becomes even more important for their future relationship.

For parents, this is the perfect opportunity to fix any problems in the relationship. For example, amending insecure attachment or making an already slightly secure attachment more secure. This is our second and the last one.

Like in early childhood, a secure attachment in teenagers is characterized by the ability to seek comfort from a meaningful figure when they are going through difficulties. It is also measured by how fast and how easily they are comforted and able to get them back on track, enjoying life and being available to absorb new experiences.

This post is part 5 of 6 in the series Attachment Theory

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Published: March 12, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: April 1, 2020In: Parenting, Teens / Teenagers, Emotional Intelligence Tags: how to, parenting teens, fear, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, security, emotions, beliefs, feeling, early childhood, separation, practical parenting / parents, love, rules, abuse, relationships / marriage, success, aggressive, emotional intelligence, positive, attitude, siblings, kids / children

Ronit’s 100 Happy Valentine’s Day Tips

Couple sitting on a park bench

This year, Gal and I are celebrating our 34th Valentine’s Day and we are very proud and happy to be together. We are also sad to look around and see that fewer and fewer couples are able to find happiness and love on this day. Over the last five years, more of my clients experienced relationship breakdowns than ever before. Divorce and separation are very sad and challenging for the couple and for their families.

This week, I received a request from a radio show to share 5 Valentine’s Day tips with their listening couples. This made me think that I have many more tips and the fill list from my relationship tool kit is below.

I highly recommend having such a list for yourself. If you could give other couples advice on how to have a happy relationship, what would you say? Write down your ideas and read them every once in a while (even I have to read my own advice from time to time, especially in tough times).

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Published: February 10, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: list, hugs, needs, forgiveness, how to, positive attitude tips, choice, positive, trust, tips, divorce, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, valentine's day, love languages, change, freedom, happiness, feeling, touch, relationships / marriage, expectation, love, conflict, partner, money, family matters

Justifying our Parenting Style

Smiling mother and child

Finding your own parenting style is not easy. Most of us adopt our parents’ parenting style, without regard really thinking about it. We don’t choose our parenting style, but let the style choose us.

We also like to think that we are better at parenting than our own parents. We often don’t notice how we use the exact same parenting styles we hated in them. To our credit, we sometimes manage to make small changes and this makes us think that we are better than them. We can do something they couldn’t. We think that the harder it was to make the changes, the better we are. This is not always true. In fact, the damage from our choices can be as bad for our own children as it was for us (or even worse).

This is a very hard concept for parents to understand. Kids see things completely differently. If your dad beat you with a belt or hot iron and you only use your hands to beat your own children, it is not very effective to tell your kids that you had it worse and that you are better than your own dad. When you hurt your kids, they can’t really be all “Pollyanna” about it (Pollyanna was a girl who always found the positive side of everything).

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Published: January 29, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development, Parenting Tags: personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, violence, freedom, inner peace, feeling, focus, mind, evaluation, abuse, change, emotional development, how to, Life Coaching, practical parenting / parents, fear, relationships / marriage, choice, positive, truth, questions, safety, kids / children, beliefs, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, control

Don’t Clam Up

Clam shell

In previous chapters of the “Save your Marriage” series I explained the two communication patterns that can destroy every marriage: The king/queen and the nitpicker. As I said before, no one becomes a “king” or a “nitpicker” because they enjoy it. Most of the time, they do it on a subconscious level, because they grew up in a house where one or both parents were kings or nitpickers and made them feel small and helpless.

In the last chapters, I explained how parents who abuse or bully, like the “king/queen” or the “nitpicker”, can raise kids who are constantly on guard. In this chapter, I will explain how some parenting styles can “breed” kids who clam up and withdraw into their shells. This communication style can be very devastating for them in their future relationships and marriage.

This post is part 27 of 34 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: November 27, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 2, 2020In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: conflict, communication, anger, focus, positive, abuse, kids / children, success, fear, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, choice, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, change, emotions, communication styles, feeling, relationships / marriage, partner, hope, practical parenting / parents

Raising Babies: Extended Family can be Bliss

Grandparents with grandchildren

Your extended family can be a great help once a new baby arrives. I didn’t understand just how much until Eden was born. I was in my last year of university and working full time. My parents lived over 3 hours drive from us.

I never had a close bond with my mom. When others talked about having their moms around when you had a baby, I didn’t really know what to think about it. When Eden was born, I was in hospital for 10 days. I got a terrible infection and my mom came to stay with us after we were discharged from hospital because I had to go back every day to change my bandages.

We got home and I didn’t really know what would happen. But my mom incredible. She had already had 5 kids of her own and she knew exactly what to do. She said to me, “You focus on eating, sleeping and breastfeeding” and that is exactly what I did. Meanwhile, she cooked, cleaned and played with Eden, massaged her and sang songs. I never knew my mom could be like that. She was awesome.

This post is part 4 of 7 in the series Raising Babies

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Published: November 25, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: February 29, 2020In: Parenting, Babies / Maternity Tags: needs, positive, grandparents, mom, grandchildren, change, kids / children, food, baby / babies, relationships / marriage, health / wellbeing, assertive, practical parenting / parents, family matters, sleep

Don’t Be On Guard

Fencing foil

In the last chapters of “Save Your Marriage”, I explained how some parenting styles can “breed” kids who clam up and withdraw into their shells. This communication style can be very devastating for them in their future relationships and marriage. In this chapter of the series, I will explain how parents who abuse or bully, like the “king/queen” or the nitpicker, can raise kids who are constantly on guard. These kids try to protect themselves from pain and heartache and by that, they invite bullies and conflicts into their lives.

Growing up in a household where you feel constantly attacked and ridiculed, where one or both of your parents make you feel small and helpless, where you have no support and protection, where one or both of your parents nitpick, criticize, complain, are never satisfied and often angry, can make children alert and hypersensitive to any small signs that someone is going to hurt them.

This is actually a very natural reaction, in an attempt to protect themselves. But when taken into adulthood, into relationships or marriage, it can be very damaging. There is a phrase, the best defense is offense. These kids adopt this philosophy because they were attacked a lot. As a result, they sometimes see an attack when there is none. They are very sensitive to criticism and their emotional state is “I am not OK, You’re not OK” (see series I’m OK, You’re OK Parenting for tips on emotional intelligence).

This post is part 26 of 34 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: November 20, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 29, 2018In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: partner, Life Coaching, practical parenting / parents, communication styles, relationships / marriage, conflict, positive, communication, kids / children, abuse, emotional intelligence, tips, negative, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, change, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, happiness

Strong Affirmations: High Self-Esteem

Strong affirmations

Self-esteem is something that functions like fuel to the body. If we have high self-esteem, the ride is better in many ways. We move forward more smoothly, we have fewer problems and we get to our destination faster.

Everyone has some level of confidence in life. It is just that some people have more than others and they seem to go through life with much more success and happiness. People with high self-esteem have fewer doubts and they don’t blame their “ride” every time things don’t happen the way they want them to be.

Let’s face it, we can’t always get what we expect 100% of the time. If we could, we would be able to predict what will happen in the future (I don’t know if this is a better way to experience life but let’s leave this dilemma for another post). What we can do is make sure our beliefs set us on a very easy, smooth (as much as possible), happy and successful ride. If it can get us forward faster, all the better.

This blog is full of many beliefs about living life with confidence. I have written about ways to instill confidence in our children as parents or teachers. The list of affirmations that promote high self-esteem is endless. If I tried to write a list of them all, I would find myself spending years and never reaching the end of the list. There are millions of thoughts or combinations of thoughts that support high self-esteem and boost confidence. Notice these in yourself and in the world around you. Start collecting them and learning how to adopt them.

This post is part 1 of 6 in the series Affirmations

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Published: October 28, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 2, 2020In: Personal Development Tags: determination, list, fear, affirmations, practical parenting / parents, choice, positive attitude tips, teaching / teachers, failure, positive, beliefs, kids / children, mind, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, rules, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, change, certainty, focus, happiness, education / learning, success, dreams, feeling, emotional intelligence, perception, thought, how to

Good Relationship with Loving Affirmations

True love never lets go.

Relationships and the way we connect with others are very important and essential to our happiness and success in life. Research shows that people who are in good relationships are healthier, happier and they live longer. So, good relationships are the best prescription for a long life. I would take two prescriptions of that kind of medication.

We learn about relationships from the people closest to us – usually, our parents, later on our siblings and much later, from friends. If they model good relationships, we copy them. If the model bad relationships, we model that as well. Why? Because as kids we don’t have any way of filtering bad examples. It is only as we grow that we start developing critical thinking, and we start noticing that relationships at our house are different to other houses. Often times, that can make us frustrated because we don’t have the skills to make things change.

I once worked with a woman who was 37 years old. She had so many partners and no stable relationships. We checked her beliefs and found the source of the problem. We discovered that the origin of it was from her dad leaving her mom and her siblings when she was about 10 years old. He left to be with another women and she adopted a belief that “all man are assholes” (I am quoting). As a result, she did not trust men. With a belief like that, it is hard and even impossible to find a relationship, not to mention keep it.

This post is part 5 of 6 in the series Affirmations

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Published: October 23, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 23, 2014In: Parenting Tags: happiness, hobbies, skills, relationships / marriage, list, success, affirmations, guilt, siblings, positive, practical parenting / parents, trust, kids / children, forgiveness, negative, tips, beliefs, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, research, health / wellbeing, divorce, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, mom, freedom, change, partner, love

You Kick Like a Girl

As a young girl, I grew up in a small town where kids played in the street until their parents called them home for dinner. It was a small street and playing there was much like playing in your front yard. You could count about 10 steps from your front door to the street. It was a generation when most people had many kids. My family was one of the smallest – only 5 kids. Most of my friends had 6 or 7 siblings.

I was very much a tomboy and never did things “like a girl”. I played with the boys, mainly because there were more of them than girls. It seemed very natural for me to hang around them, even at night, when we went to the orchards to make bonfires. I think they did not notice I was a girl until I started wearing a bra. Until then, I was their equal – chasing one another on the street, riding bikes, fighting or playing soccer, there was no difference between us.

At home was another matter.

In my family, the roles of boys and girls were very clear – boys played rough while girls cleaned and cared for the family. My mom could not bear the thought of me hanging around the boys so much. So she told me I should act “like a girl”, because with so many bruises and cuts I would never be allowed to learn ballet.

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Published: October 21, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Parenting Tags: society, video, positive, attitude, women, questions, gender, kids / children, men, expectation, role model, emotional development, negative, practical parenting / parents, beliefs, mom

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