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It’s Hard to Say “I’m Sorry” When You’re Not

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Kids sometimes do things that others don’t like. Sometimes, they break things and even hurt others. It’s important to help them understand what happened, but parents should never force them to say, “I’m sorry”.

I think the idea of saying “sorry” is distorted because of social “expectations” that if someone is hurt, we must have done something to cause it. This makes parents “teach” their kids to say “sorry” even if it comes without actual “sorrow”.

It’s very easy to see it with young children. They take a game away from another kid (sibling), the other kid cries. Immediately, the parents scold them and force them to go to the other kid and say they’re sorry.

This is humiliating. It plants in those kids the idea that saying “sorry” is admitting guilt, even if they don’t think they’re guilty. And it builds up and stays with the kids.

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Published: March 31, 2021 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 31, 2021In: Parenting Tags: practical parenting / parents, responsibility, values, change, kids / children, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, feeling, guilt, emotional development

How to Have Better Communication with Children

Mother and 2 daughters

Communication works like a bee. It can produce honey or sting. It’s true. Our communication is the tool we have to connect or destroy relationship. To be better parents, we need to develop better communication with our children.

When our kids are born, they have full trust in us. They trust us with their life. They have to, because without us, they would die. Literally.

Over the years, that trust is gradually lost. Not because the kids grow out of it, but because the parents change the way they communicate with their children.

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Published: March 24, 2021 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 24, 2021In: Parenting Tags: practical parenting / parents, how to, trust, communication styles, relationships / marriage, sarcasm, kids / children, behavior / discipline, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, guilt, emotional development, communication

Boring: What Does it Really Mean?

Little girl looking bored

As a parent, I hear the word “boring” a lot. I also heard it a lot as a teacher. There are two main reasons kids use the word “boring”:

1. They say “boring” instead of “hard” when they want to hide their difficulties.
2. They want to manipulate their parents and put pressure on them.

Today, I would like to talk about the reasons and solutions for the second type of motivation.

Children learn at an early age that their parents find the word “boring” painful. They know their parents feel uncomfortable when they hear it, so it becomes a “button” to press. This happens when the parents see themselves as being in charge of their children’s entertainment.

I am sure you have heard many mothers say that they can’t leave their babies on their own for 2 seconds. Those babies grow up to be kids who can’t entertain themselves, and later on, they become adults who can’t entertain themselves.

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Published: April 3, 2019 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: August 13, 2020In: Parenting Tags: motivation, tv, activity, kids / children, tips, behavior / discipline, guilt, emotional development, practical parenting / parents, responsibility

I’m Disappointed in You!

Boy sitting sadly on a stone step after someone said to him "I'm disappointed in you"

Think of the last time anyone said to you, “I’m disappointed in you”. How did that make you feel?

Being disappointed is part of life. I guess it is one of the greatest challenges in life. Realizing that life is not happening the way you want and managing to push through despite it.

Although being disappointed is part of life, being disappointed in others should not be. When I work with my life coaching clients, we deal with a lot of disappointment. Sadly, what hurts them most is not self-disappointment – that things didn’t happen the way they “should have” – but being a disappointment to someone close.

When I think of all the times I have heard this, I can see two groups of people that express disappointment in my clients: teachers and parents, in this order. I dare say that they cause a lot of damage.

Disappointment is “sadness or displeasure caused by the non-fulfilment of one’s hopes or expectations”. Therefore, saying to someone, “I’m disappointed in you”, is telling that person he or she is not fulfilling your hopes and expectations.

Who are you to cause someone a bad feeling for not fulfilling your expectations?

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Published: August 22, 2018 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: April 28, 2020In: Parenting, Education / Learning Tags: affirmations, k-12 education, kids / children, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, expectation, abuse, guilt, role model, practical parenting / parents, trust, teaching / teachers, failure, motivation

Live Life with No Regrets

Live life with no regrets written on a medal

Regrets are a heavy burden we carry with us throughout our life. They are punishments we give ourselves for thinking about something we have done, or not done, that we wish we could have done differently.

I remember my mom warning me “you’re going to regret this”. She said it because she had no other ways to convince me to do things her way.

Regrets are very funny, because we can only have them after we experience something. The reason I say they are funny is that if I was a fortuneteller and could predict the outcome, I would have done things differently anyway. So regrets can only happen in hindsight which is always 20/20.

13 common regrets we can all do without

If you want to know what most people regret, just to prepare yourself and try to rethink things before you do them, here is a list of the most common regrets. Try to avoid them as much as you can (if you can).

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Published: December 3, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 24, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: gratitude, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, love, guilt, money, forgiveness, emotional intelligence, inner peace, relationships / marriage, anger, decision making, time management, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance

10 Life Philosophies for Peace of Mind

Sleeping fox - such peace of mind

Life is full of stress and it can be hard to achieve peace of mind. Many people don’t even remember the last time they felt at peace.

Life coaching helps people understand that peace and stress are in our mind and we can control them by changing what we think. Once we understand that we are what we think, we can change our life by choosing to think other things.

Here are 10 quotes that can be adopted as life philosophies. With these philosophies, we can manage tough times, we can be happy and relaxed, avoid stress, be successful and take control over our life, rather than feel that life is happening to us and we are at the mercy of our circumstances.

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Published: December 1, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 24, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: how to, fear, choice, control, change, happiness, Life Coaching, gratitude, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, inspiration, guilt, success, forgiveness, emotional intelligence

The Placebo Effect: How to Treat Your Kids for Free

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“Using the placebo effect on kids is an effective technique to help them go through tough periods in their lives.”

This may seem like a bold statement, but when I learned about the placebo effect during my special education studies, I realized that the placebo effect activates the natural “pharmacy” we have in our bodies. When we believe something to be true, we make it true. It works the same when we take a physical tablet and when when we take an emotional tablet.

The more I explain what life coaching and emotional intelligence are, the more I realize how important the placebo effect is for my work. Most of my work is to plant positive ideas and beliefs in the minds of my clients. Once they hold on to those beliefs or ideas, I have done my job in setting them up for a better future.

The placebo effect works in the same way. You can plant an idea in your kids’ mind that they can do something, be healthy or be smart by giving them a sugar pill and telling them it will help them do or be what they want.

Actually, the placebo effect works for kids even when you apply it to their parents by convincing them that their kids are amazing and talented, because your pill will help them…

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Published: September 15, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 2, 2020In: Emotional Intelligence, Life Coaching, Parenting, Health / Wellbeing Tags: kids / children, beliefs, health / wellbeing, research, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, guilt, focus, change, practical parenting / parents, special education, Life Coaching, school, aggressive, skills, story, success, assessment, emotional intelligence, positive, meditation, attitude

Character Traits: Swapping the Bad for the Good

Sweet little girl with her doll

In the previous post about bad character traits, I gave an exercise to examine the bad traits parents and kids have. In this post, I will focus more on the good character traits and how to make sure they are “watered” well and kept alive.

Here is the list of good character traits again:

Letter A: Active, Adaptable, Adventurous, Agreeable, Appreciative, Articulate, Athletic, Ambitions, Artistic, Aesthetic

Letter B: Balanced, Brilliant, Brave

Letter C: Calm, Capable, Caring, Charismatic, Charming, Cheerful, Careful, Clean, Clever, Colorful, Compassionate, Confident, Conscientious, Considerate, Consistent, Contemplative, Cooperative, Courageous, Courteous, Creative, Curious, Crafty,

Letter D: Daring, Decisive, Dedicated, Deep, Discreet, Dramatic, Dynamic

This post is part 8 of 8 in the series Helping Kids Build Character

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Published: July 16, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: July 16, 2015In: Parenting, Kids / Children Tags: practical parenting / parents, identity, sarcasm, communication, positive, success, attitude, emotional intelligence, kids / children, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, truth, thought, trust, list, negative, guilt, beliefs, emotional development, control

Positive Character Traits for Children: Watering with Weed Killer

Mum, you plant the seeds...

The previous Character Traits posts focused on what parents should say to instill positive character traits in their kids. Character traits are like plants or trees that grow over time – all they need is for parents to plant good beliefs as seeds and provide reinforcement as water. Unfortunately, some parents use weed killer as water. This ensures this plant will never grow big and strong and even makes room for some nasty “bad” plants to grow.

It is amazing how the seeds of character sown in childhood can have a long-term impact. Some of my grown up clients (aged 25 to 65) are being held back by some very old and poisonous trees that creep into everything they do. It is as if there is a space in the brain dedicated for each good trait. As soon as the area has been poisoned by weed killer, nothing good can grow there. If a person feels fundamentally inadequate, this becomes part of their identity. If anything were to suggest that they are adequate, they will subconsciously resist with all their might. The subconscious minds is a tricky thing and it takes time and courage to access and heal.

This post is part 4 of 8 in the series Helping Kids Build Character

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Published: June 9, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Parenting, Kids / Children Tags: control, identity, sarcasm, positive, communication, kids / children, success, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, thought, truth, list, trust, guilt, negative, emotional development, beliefs, practical parenting / parents

The Want Muscle

Sometimes being yourself is scary until you stop and remember everybody in the whole wide world is scared about the exact same thing

Magda came to see me after 16 years of heartache and pain. She was referred by a client of mine. She had seen psychologists and psychiatrists before, but felt very criticized and had never gone for a second session with any of them.

When I finally got to meet her, I was a bit surprised. She was in her early fifties and looked amazing – almost like a doll. She was tiny and very well presented with beautiful skin.

Yet, during the first 10 minutes of introductions, she managed to say only bad things about herself. The gist of them was that she was not good enough, unworthy and helpless. She said 27 bad things about herself in those 10 minutes. I counted!

This made me very curious about her because at that point we had just met and I knew nothing about her.

Coaching is very much like solving a puzzle. I tried to gather information that would allow me to help Magda in a way that the other therapist could not. As it turns out, Magda was an only child, born to very old parents. Her dad died when she was very young and her mom never had another man in her life.

This post is part 10 of 19 in the series From the Life Coaching Deck

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Published: February 17, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development, Life Coaching Tags: relationships / marriage, guilt, neurolinguistic programmiing / NLP, emotional development, bullying, abuse, needs, fear, choice, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, divorce, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, empowerment, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, control, freedom, happiness, expectation, Life Coaching, frustration

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