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It’s Hard to Say “I’m Sorry” When You’re Not

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Kids sometimes do things that others don’t like. Sometimes, they break things and even hurt others. It’s important to help them understand what happened, but parents should never force them to say, “I’m sorry”.

I think the idea of saying “sorry” is distorted because of social “expectations” that if someone is hurt, we must have done something to cause it. This makes parents “teach” their kids to say “sorry” even if it comes without actual “sorrow”.

It’s very easy to see it with young children. They take a game away from another kid (sibling), the other kid cries. Immediately, the parents scold them and force them to go to the other kid and say they’re sorry.

This is humiliating. It plants in those kids the idea that saying “sorry” is admitting guilt, even if they don’t think they’re guilty. And it builds up and stays with the kids.

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Published: March 31, 2021 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 31, 2021In: Parenting Tags: feeling, guilt, emotional development, practical parenting / parents, responsibility, values, change, kids / children, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline

How to Have Better Communication with Children

Mother and 2 daughters

Communication works like a bee. It can produce honey or sting. It’s true. Our communication is the tool we have to connect or destroy relationship. To be better parents, we need to develop better communication with our children.

When our kids are born, they have full trust in us. They trust us with their life. They have to, because without us, they would die. Literally.

Over the years, that trust is gradually lost. Not because the kids grow out of it, but because the parents change the way they communicate with their children.

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Published: March 24, 2021 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 24, 2021In: Parenting Tags: personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, guilt, emotional development, communication, practical parenting / parents, how to, trust, communication styles, relationships / marriage, sarcasm, kids / children, behavior / discipline

How to Clean Away Resentment and Be Happy

Couple showing resentment towards each other

Resentment is a destructive feeling. We get it from being forced to do things we don’t want to do. It comes from feeling powerless. But we can clear away resentment.

We’re all born with the disease to please. We learn thorough our parents’ behavior, and a set of “rewards” and “punishments”. This pressure to do what’s expected of us to avoid negative consequences develops a dependency on the approval of others. Later, when we go to school, we take this need to please others to the next level and eventually dedicate our lives to it.

The problem with pleasing others is that every second we spend trying to please someone else, we step further away from ourselves. We can’t find out who we are and express ourselves authentically. Many people find it very difficult to hear that it damages our self-image.

This post is part 7 of 48 in the series Make a List

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Published: March 9, 2021 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 10, 2021In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: behavior / discipline, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, how to, choice, control, happiness, motivation, relationships / marriage, anger

Manipulating Your Kids Will Make You a Good Parent

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Many parents feel uncomfortable about the idea of manipulation. They get upset when their children manipulate them, and feel uncomfortable about manipulating them in return. But I think it’s a valuable parenting tool.

The word “manipulation” has negative connotations and implies bad intentions. But in most cases, we don’t manipulate others to harm them. Quite the opposite.

In my parenting programs, I’m amazed by how many parents don’t think they have the right to make their children think or do some things. These parents don’t seem to understand their role.

What?!

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Published: December 30, 2020 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 30, 2020In: Parenting Tags: practical parenting / parents, success, emotional intelligence, how to, role model, behavior / discipline

Amazing Natural Treatment for Hyperactive Attention Deficit Disorder

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Children with learning difficulties are very close to my heart. I’ve written about kids with Hyperactive Attention Deficit Disorder (ADHD) before and shared tips and strategies to help them live a happy, fulfilling life. It makes me very happy when readers share their stories and tell me how they’ve used my tips to improve their ADHD child’s life for the better.

Claire is the mother of a boy with ADD/ADHD. She came to this blog and read some of the posts about ways to manage Hyperactive Attention Deficit Disorder. After just one month of trying some of the techniques, her son became a happier child, and she became a happier mom.

When she felt she was on the right track, she sent me a very happy and positive update on her son’s progress and how she’d used my tips. So I asked if I could share her emails with other moms.

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Published: October 28, 2020 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 28, 2022In: Parenting, Health / Wellbeing Tags: attention deficit / add / adhd, behavior / discipline, health / wellbeing, practical parenting / parents, hyperactive

Boring: What Does it Really Mean?

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As a parent, I hear the word “boring” a lot. I also heard it a lot as a teacher. There are two main reasons kids use the word “boring”:

1. They say “boring” instead of “hard” when they want to hide their difficulties.
2. They want to manipulate their parents and put pressure on them.

Today, I would like to talk about the reasons and solutions for the second type of motivation.

Children learn at an early age that their parents find the word “boring” painful. They know their parents feel uncomfortable when they hear it, so it becomes a “button” to press. This happens when the parents see themselves as being in charge of their children’s entertainment.

I am sure you have heard many mothers say that they can’t leave their babies on their own for 2 seconds. Those babies grow up to be kids who can’t entertain themselves, and later on, they become adults who can’t entertain themselves.

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Published: April 3, 2019 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: August 13, 2020In: Parenting Tags: motivation, tv, activity, kids / children, tips, behavior / discipline, guilt, emotional development, practical parenting / parents, responsibility

Pocket Money: Parents’ Dysfunctional Attitudes

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Pocket money is a topic that concerns many parents. “When to start, if at all?” and “How much to give?” are questions that almost every parent struggles with. To answer these questions, most parents should first answer the following question:

Why do I want to give my child pocket money?

I grew up in a poor family and pocket money was never an option for me. Only when I was 14 and we moved to a new town (which was only slightly bigger than the small town I grew up in), I discovered there was such a thing as pocket money.

I was so surprised. My parents had so little that whenever we asked my dad to buy us something, he said, “We don’t have money”. Therefore, in my mind, pocket money was part of wealthy kids’ life.

But it does not have to be.

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Published: March 14, 2018 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Parenting Tags: success, how to, empowerment, motivation, budget, attitude, behavior / discipline, practical parenting / parents, abuse, money

The Power of Complimenting: Don’t Be Stingy

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Some parents are stingy with complimenting. I do not blame them. They probably grew up with stingy parents, who probably grew up with parents that did not compliment them either. I have said many times that we suffer today for things our ancestors did, which have not evolved.

Wake up, parents! We do not need to do the same things our great-great-grandparents did, because in some areas of life, they were not great at all. Giving compliments was definitely one of these areas.

The belief “back then” was that compliments got in the way of “building character”. I have clients and friends who say it aloud, “If you compliment people, especially children, they become complacent”.

What?!

Since when is complacent a bad word, anyway?

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Published: April 5, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: August 13, 2020In: Parenting Tags: compassion, positive attitude tips, kids / children, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, emotional development, abuse, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, teaching / teachers, fear, motivation, k-12 education

No More Disappointment: The Biggest Loser Leads the Dance

Teenage boy looking away

Many forms of therapy try to help the client overcome pain. One big source of pain starts during childhood, when kids, with their lack of life experience, feel that they are a disappointment to their parents. Here is the story of Simon, who believed he was the biggest loser in his parent’s eyes.

Simon was an angry and frustrated teenager when he came to sit with me on my life coaching deck. I read what he and his parents had written to me and felt frustrated to see how yet another whole family was a victim of circumstances. Parents’ love can be overwhelming sometimes and being unaware of feelings and lacking the ability to manage them sabotages the relationships at home.

Parents need courage to realize that they are the most powerful in this dysfunctional dynamic, but most of them feel helpless and send their kids to be “fixed”. A relationship with a child is a dance. Some parents do not understand that they need to lead.

This post is part 17 of 19 in the series From the Life Coaching Deck

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Published: March 15, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Parenting, Beautiful people, Teens / Teenagers Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, emotional intelligence, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, beliefs, expectation, change, practical parenting / parents, Life Coaching, perception, interpretation, positive attitude tips, teens / teenagers

When Your Teen’s Friends are Bad Influence

A group of teenagers on Halloween costumes

As parents, we put all our heart and energy into raising our children to be the best they can be. We want them to be as healthy, friendly, successful and happy as possible. In their teen years, most of us are afraid that their friends will become the most important people in our teenager’s life. So we want to make sure those friends do not have bad influence over them.

Our investment in our children, both material and emotional, is tested several times during their life. Their social connections are one big test of parenting, because as parents, we try to pass our philosophy and values to our children. If they spend their time with friends who tell them the opposite, this may weaken their belief in our philosophy and our values.

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Published: March 1, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Teens / Teenagers, Parenting Tags: beliefs, rules, social skills, attitude, teens / teenagers, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, emotional development, practical parenting / parents, how to, choice

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