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Mindfulness for Kids: Teaching Children the Gift of Silence

Child practicing mindfulness for kids during a quiet moment by the window

Silence is one of the greatest gifts we can offer our kids, yet it’s also one of the rarest. In a world full of notifications, background chatter, rushing, and constant stimulation, children rarely have the space to hear their own thoughts — or their own hearts. That’s why mindfulness for kids has become such an important tool.

And at the centre of that mindfulness, sits silence.

Silence is more than the absence of noise. It’s a gentle teacher. It teaches kids to slow down, pay attention, and understand themselves. It builds self-regulation, confidence, emotional maturity, and resilience — skills that stay with them for life.

In the silence series, I covered many aspects of the importance of silence in life. In this chapter, we’ll explore mindfulness for kids, why silence is essential for children’s emotional growth, how to introduce it without force, playful ways to help kids enjoy stillness, and simple quiet rituals you can bring into your home.

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Narcissism in Children: When Parenting Turns into a Mirror

Narcissism in children - an identity crisis

Narcissism in children rarely starts with arrogance or entitlement. More often, it begins with love—mixed with pressure.

Parents want to do well. They want their children to succeed. They want to feel proud, but when a child’s behavior starts to feel like a personal report card, something quietly shifts. The focus moves away from the child’s emotional world and toward the parent’s self-image. Children feel that shift instantly.

Most parents deeply love their children. They want them to feel confident, capable, and special. But sometimes, love quietly slips into over-praise, control, or emotional absence—and instead of growing self-worth, a child grows something else entirely.

Think of it like this: Self-worth is a strong internal spine. Narcissism is a shiny external costume.

When a child is either placed on a pedestal or left emotionally unseen, they don’t learn who they are, they learn who they’re expected to be. And if they grow up with a narcissistic parent, they often believe this dynamic is normal, even healthy.

This article explores how narcissism in children can develop through everyday parenting dynamics. How it differs from healthy self-esteem, what the research actually says, and—most importantly—how we can break the cycle and start experiencing our child as a separate human being rather than a reflection of yourself.

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The Danger of Believing “He’ll Grow Out of It”

In the wonderful journey of parenthood, we often encounter challenges that leave us scratching our heads, wondering how to navigate the troubled waters of raising children.

Whether it’s tantrums, defiance, or developmental delays, the phrase “He’ll grow out of it” has become a common strategy, offering just temporary comfort in moments of uncertainty. But what if I told you that this seemingly innocent phrase could be more harmful than helpful?

What if it isn’t just a passing phase? What if it’s a symptom of a deeper issue that requires attention and intervention? What happens if children learn that this is a good strategy to manipulate you and they practice it over and over again?

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The Gift of Silence in Parenting: How Pausing Helps Children Feel Seen and Safe

Parenting is often described as loud — literally and emotionally. Kids chatter, cry, argue, negotiate. Parents explain, repeat, call out, remind, negotiate back. And underneath all of that noise lies another layer: the emotional noise of stress, expectations, and daily overwhelm.

But hidden in chaos is one of the most powerful tools a parent can use: silence. Not the silent treatment. Not punishment. Not disconnecting.

But intentional quiet — the space that lets emotions settle, thoughts clarify, and hearts communicate without words. In psychology, we call it “containing,” where you become a container for your child’s feeling.

You don’t remove the feeling, not try to fix it, not try to prevent it, judge it, criticize it, or approve it but hold it with grace, while your child is processing it. You are giving your child a gift. A sacred space held in silence.

Families talk a lot. But they don’t always hear each other.

This is where silence in parenting becomes a gift. Silence helps children feel emotionally safe. It helps parents respond instead of reacting and it strengthens connection in ways talking simply cannot.

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Secrets of Silence and Emotional Intelligence

Father and son practising silence and emotional intelligence together

Silence is a powerful emotional tool most families never use intentionally. We’re taught to talk things out, explain, discuss, debate — but not to pause. Not to let quiet space do the heavy lifting.

And yet, some of the strongest emotional intelligence comes from moments when we say nothing at all.

Silence and emotional intelligence are working together.

Think of silence like the body’s cool-down after a run. Without that recovery time, the muscles tighten, the heart stays racing, and the system never resets.

In the same way, without silence, the emotional brain never cools down. It simply reacts, jumps, triggers, and spirals.

But when we give the mind quiet space, something extraordinary happens, reactions soften, thinking sharpens, and awareness rises. This is where silence and emotional intelligence meet — in the gap between stimulus and response.

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Why Manipulation in Parenting Isn’t a Swear Word

Manipulation in parenting is not like raising puppets

“He is very manipulative!”

You’ve probably heard this sentence before. Maybe you even used it yourself. It’s usually said with the same tone you’d use for moldy cheese or stepping on LEGO barefoot.

But here’s the thing: manipulation isn’t a bad word.

And before you scream, “Noooo, Ronit, don’t go there!”, stay with me.

In parenting, relationships, workplaces, families — even in our own health — manipulation is everywhere. And it’s not what you think.

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It’s Hard to Say “I’m Sorry” When You’re Not

Kids sometimes do things that others don’t like. Sometimes, they break things and even hurt others. It’s important to help them understand what happened, but parents should never force them to say, “I’m sorry”.

I think the idea of saying “sorry” is distorted because of social “expectations” that if someone is hurt, we must have done something to cause it. This makes parents “teach” their kids to say “sorry” even if it comes without actual “sorrow”.

It’s very easy to see it with young children. They take a game away from another kid (sibling), the other kid cries. Immediately, the parents scold them and force them to go to the other kid and say they’re sorry.

This is humiliating. It plants in those kids the idea that saying “sorry” is admitting guilt, even if they don’t think they’re guilty. And it builds up and stays with the kids.

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How to Have Better Communication with Children

Communication works like a bee. It can produce honey or sting. It’s true. Our communication is the tool we have to connect or destroy relationship. To be better parents, we need to develop better communication with our children.

When our kids are born, they have full trust in us. They trust us with their life. They have to, because without us, they would die. Literally.

Over the years, that trust is gradually lost. Not because the kids grow out of it, but because the parents change the way they communicate with their children.

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Negative Emotions: How to Really Help Your Kids Manage Them

As parents, it’s natural for us to want to keep our children from feeling what we perceive as negative emotions. We want to keep them from suffering. But as hard as it is to admit, by doing so, we often do more harm than good.

Most people grow up thinking that our purpose in life is to avoid suffering. But it isn’t!

We aren’t supposed to avoid suffering, we’re supposed to manage it. We should never fight it, or even try to control it. We must live with it and find ways to use it to our advantage.

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Helpful Staycation Ideas to Make Your COVID-19 Holidays Great

Staycation: suitcase with a laptop screen containing a home and a yard

The holidays are coming and this year, 2020, isn’t a normal year. We can’t go on vacation the way we did in previous years. So, what can we do? We can have a staycation. But first, we need some staycation ideas.

With COVID-19 looming, limited money, closed attractions, and restricted events and restaurants, a proper holiday seems difficult, even impossible. So, we either have a staycation or go nuts.

A staycation isn’t staying at home. It’s having a vacation, and enjoying our time, at home, or close to home. But how do we do it?

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