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Turn on Your Motivation Switch with the Dopamine Reward System

I have been researching motivation for over 40 years. It started when I studied special education and realized that teaching people things without their ability to absorb it is a waste of energy. It was the first time ever I have learned about the motivation switch.

I was learning teaching techniques which were wonderful, but what made them successful was not my skills only but the person’s ability to receive.

This led me to the greatest philosophy in all my career. “It is not about what I have to give you, but what you are able to take”.

Motivation determines the ability to take what the world outside gives us. Motivation gives us the ability to be able to recognize what the world outside of us offers and only then the process of “taking” becomes active.

In my book “motivating kids” I explained how to turn on the motivation switch for children. In this post, I want to explain the brain function that builds this motivation from the inside and give you tricks and techniques to turn the motivation switch and stimulate motivation internally.

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Why Manipulation in Parenting Isn’t a Swear Word

Manipulation in parenting is not like raising puppets

“He is very manipulative!”

You’ve probably heard this sentence before. Maybe you even used it yourself. It’s usually said with the same tone you’d use for moldy cheese or stepping on LEGO barefoot.

But here’s the thing: manipulation isn’t a bad word.

And before you scream, “Noooo, Ronit, don’t go there!”, stay with me.

In parenting, relationships, workplaces, families — even in our own health — manipulation is everywhere. And it’s not what you think.

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Fear of Silence Psychology: Why Are Quiet Moments So Scary?

Fear of silence psychology: woman sitting in a quiet moment of reflection

Most people say they want peace. Most people say they want calm. But when real quiet finally arrives—when the TV is off, the phone is face-down, the house is still, the day slows—something strange happens.

Many of us don’t feel peaceful. We feel restless. Uneasy. Pulled to distract ourselves.

Suddenly, the silence that was supposed to comfort us… makes us uncomfortable.

This is where the fear of silence psychology begins. Silence becomes a mirror, and what we see in that mirror is not always easy.

In this second chapter of the Silence benefits for emotional wellbeing, we will explore why silence triggers discomfort, what happens in the brain during quiet moments, how early experiences shape our relationship with silence, and how we can begin to feel safe in the spaces between words.

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The True Meaning of Love: Personal Evolution of the Heart

Couple relaxing representing loving relationship

What is love?

It sounds like one of those questions that should have a simple answer. And yet, when we truly sit with it, we realise how complex, layered, and deeply personal it is. Over the years, I have discussed love with almost every one of my clients—sometimes directly, sometimes hidden inside conversations about relationships, parenting, grief, happiness, or self-worth.

The true meaning of love is not a definition we memorise. It is something we grow into. Something we peel back, layer by layer, experience by experience.

Many definitions of love sound like clichés. And I often wonder—are clichés empty, or are they simply truths that are so powerful, they had to be repeated until we stopped listening?

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Breaking the Generational Disability of Love: How to Teach Your Children to Feel Truly Loved

Love heart phrases to stop the Generational Disability of Love

We all know that warm, melting feeling when someone says, “I love you.” Three simple words, yet they reach every cell of our body like sunlight warming a cold room. We crave hearing them, and if we’re confident enough, we enjoy saying them too.

Love nourishes us — research shows that love strengthens our immune system, increases happiness, expands longevity, and even impacts financial wellbeing. The greatest thing in life is simply to love and be loved in return.

But here’s the strange, painful truth…

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How to Inspire Your Kids’ Natural Kindness

Toddles showing natural kindness to baby

Humans are kind in nature. Just watch young children. They are born with natural kindness. This is the main reason it’s so wonderful to be around children. They constantly give and engage in a way that makes you want to give in return.

Research has found that kindness is contagious. If you want to see it in action, try smiling at people as you pass them on the street. Smiling is an act of kindness! And when you smile, people smile back.

When babies see a puppet show with kind and affectionate characters, followed by rude and mean ones, they prefer the kind puppets. Yes, they were just babies. But they have an innate ability to mirror their surroundings. They can notice the tone of the voice and actions.

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Ovarian Cancer: Awareness is Key

I didn’t know what ovarian cancer was until my mother-in-law died from it. It started with what looked like breast cancer. She removed her breast, and years later, it started again and spread to her bones and liver. Only on her last months of her life, when things were hopeless, the doctors discovered she had ovarian cancer.

My mother-in-law was very dear to me. I knew her since I was 16 years old and she was very special in my life. She was a courageous woman who inspiring to me. I don’t think I’ve recovered from her death yet.

When our daughter got married, she was not here with us. When our granddaughter was born, I was sad she was not here to meet her great-granddaughter. In the last 10 years of our lives, she has not been here to experience life with us.

There were many questions about what she would have done if she knew. If she was diagnosed earlier, she could have been saved. Removing her ovaries earlier (after having all her children) could have guaranteed she would still be with us, and not just in spirit.

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From Sickness to Health: John the Wizard

My parents and their great-granddaughter

In the first week of my parents’ visit, we played a game. Everyone around the table talked about a good memory they had. Martin Seligman, the founder of Positive Psychology, said that if we focus on 3 happy things that happened to us throughout the day, our happiness level will increase.

We decided to do it as a family, so that my mom would be able to focus on good things in her life and learn to appreciate them and be grateful for what she had.

In our family, we play this game a lot in different versions. I also use it with my clients when I notice that their mind is full of fear of the unknown future, or when they only talk about bad things, doom and gloom. It works very well, and it is easy to see how their body language changes from the change of focus.

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Men vs. Women: 6 Stereotypical Differences

For many years, I stayed out of the “men vs. women” debate, mainly because of my dad. He is an old man who grew up in a very patriarchal and chauvinistic society, yet is the most admirable example of gender equality.

My dad cooked, took care of the kids, helped us with our did homework, cleaned the house (inside and outside), brushed our hair, did arts and craft and was never ashamed of any of it. He had four daughters and one son and I thought he was fair and equal in his attitude to boys and girls.

In fact, my dad’s behavior cluttered my outlook on life in a way, because whenever I heard someone talking about the stereotypical man, I said, “This is not true, because my dad is different”. Now, I have to admit that I was wrong. There is something true about the stereotypes about men and my dad was the odd one out.

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Best Mother’s Day Gift: Time for Self-Care

It’s Mother’s Day again this weekend and the quest for the best Mother’s Day gift is on. This time, I want to inspire mothers around the world to give something to themselves, and you can help.

As a mother, I find it very hard to take time for myself. I am so used to giving and giving and giving, maybe I forgot how to take. You see, I am self-employed and the balance between work and life is mine to control. Some say it is easier. I think it is harder.

I had my first business straight after I graduated from college and I was already a mother by then. It was tough, but it made me efficient. When my kids were young, I never protested. I accepted that giving was part of my role. Over time, I learned to take time for myself in the spaces between being with my kids, my husband, housework and my job, and gradually increased it.

Time for ourselves is short in our society and as hard as it is to admit, mothers have even less of it than anyone else.

Why mothers?

In our society, mothers are in charge of many aspects of family life. I do not really like the stereotypical jokes about what mothers do in the time it takes dads to say “Jack Robinson”, or what happens when mom is sick vs. when dad has the Man Flu, but there is a lot of truth in them.

One of my clients protested this for a long time. She was in charge of her household and family life for 4 years. When she was ready to get back to work and asked her husband to be with the kids for one evening a week, he did not manage.

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