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Distracted Drivers Kill and Die

Driver holding a mobile phone

Yes, it’s a harsh thing to say, but distracted drivers kill people and distracted drivers die unnecessarily.

My nephew is dead. He was a young man, just starting his adult life, and he did nothing wrong. He was riding his motorcycle, having had zero accidents and zero fines for 4 years, when a distracted driver in a car driver failed to stop at a stop sign, smashed into him and killed him on the spot.

Any life lost is not only lost by the person who died. This accident, caused by a tiny distraction, cost many people’s lives. My nephew is dead, but his family, and many people he was connected too, lost something that will never be returned. The pain of his close family is something that will never heal. Death and injuries due to distracted drivers leave scar that never heal.

My nephew and our family cannot change the past, even though we’ve tried. But we can prevent other families from experiencing the pain and devastation that comes with such accidents.

It is important to understand that every accident is a mistake. No one causes it intentionally. No one wants to injure or kill anyone else. No one wants to live with the massive pain and guilt on their conscience and ruin their own life. This is why it is called an accident, but many accidents happen due to some form of distraction.

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Published: October 13, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 13, 2015In: Parenting, Teens / Teenagers, Health / Wellbeing Tags: lifestyle, technology, loss, teens / teenagers, mobile phone, practical parenting / parents, focus, responsibility, how to

Raising Babies: What about Dads?

Dad with little boy on his lap

Dads are a very important part of parenting. They are often neglected in discussions on parenting.

When I do parenting workshops, they are often filled with moms who come because dads are pretty much “hands off” when it comes to raising kids, not to mention raising babies.

It is very natural that moms who breastfeed their babies spend most of the time with them. Society is very accommodating towards moms. Sadly, not that much is invested in supporting dads. It is so bad that when Gal and I lost our baby, most people came to me to offer condolences and nothing to Gal. For them, I lost the baby because I carried the baby but Gal didn’t.

A dad’s role in raising a baby is very important and crucial in the success of the parenting experience. There are many things dads can do that do not require having boobs and breastfeeding.

In those first few months, when the baby comes home, the family goes through a time of bonding. This happens mainly through caring. Taking care of a baby is the way to make this bond stronger. The main caregivers become the most important people in the baby’s life.

This post is part 3 of 7 in the series Raising Babies

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Published: November 18, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 18, 2014In: Parenting, Kids / Children, Babies / Maternity Tags: kids / children, tips, baby / babies, mother, practical parenting / parents, father, mom, dad, family planning, sleep, loss

Choices: The Power of One Second

Remember time lost cannot be regained - written on a clock

Life is a series of seconds that lead us in different directions. Slightly different choices can lead us towards a totally different life. One second is all it takes to make a change, sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. This one second will never come by again. If we let it pass by, it will be lost forever.

If you want to know the power one second can have on life, think of the second the sperm connected with the egg that created you. One second earlier or one second later, could allow a different sperm to win the lottery of life and be the difference between you and another child.

If you are a parent, you know that every child of yours is a unique creation. The one and only option out of millions of possible kids.

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Published: July 17, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: practical parenting / parents, choice, mind, change, work life balance, time management, positive attitude tips, questions, loss, love, kids / children, success, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, fear

10 Tips for Re-Building Trust

Woman sitting by a lake with large dog

Trust is a very important ingredient in relationships and when it is broken, it is hard to mend. In all the years I have been coaching couples, the most challenging were those whose trust has been broken.

My mom used to tell me, “It takes a long time to milk a cow but seconds to spill the milk in the bucket”. Trust is just the same. It takes a long time to build and seconds to destroy. My first suggestion for all you couple is to guard their trust at all costs because it is one of the hardest things to fix.

Trust is built on honesty and telling the truth. In every marriage, there is an agreement to be truthful. As soon as one person lies, even once, it is like forming a tiny crack in the milk buckets which slowly lets out all the milk.

This post is part 22 of 34 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: June 3, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: April 20, 2020In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: women, loss, communication, focus, tips, love, feeling, men, partner, truth, emotional development, trust, home / house, mind, relationships / marriage, hope, conflict

12 Practical Ways to Parent Sore Losers

Boy lying on a football field

It is no wonder most of us are such sore losers. Winning is easy and losing is not. Let’s face it, regardless their age, no one likes to lose. Even the word “losing” sounds devastating.

Unfortunately, parents who are sore losers tend to raise kids who are sore losers. So, what can we do to make sure losing is not so devastating? What’s the best approach to parenting sore losers?

When I had my early childhood center, we stopped using the word “losing”. We replaced it with words like learning, opportunities, testing, growing and evolving. It does not sound like much but it worked well for the kids. It takes away a lot of the heartache and pain.

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Published: February 20, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 3, 2020In: Personal Development, Parenting Tags: empowerment, kids / children, sport, tips, identity, stress / pressure, change, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, relationships / marriage, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, focus, social skills, education / learning, success, conflict, feeling, emotional intelligence, positive attitude tips, emotional development, fear, attitude, practical parenting / parents, failure, humor, beliefs, loss

Jaap De Nie, rest in peace

On Friday, the 30th of September, Gal and I were honored to participate in the funeral of Jaap De Nie, a friend of ours who died at the age of 68 in Holland. The wonders of technology (a digital camera connected to a mobile phone using mobile Internet and broadcasting on a web address) allowed us to sit in our house with his daughter, her husband and their two lovely kids, watch and hear the funeral and say our last goodbyes to this inspiring man, who lived as an example and died as an example.

We were honored to have met him and be inspired by his determination and courage to cheat death and live to see his daughter’s wedding, the birth of his nephews and his two grandchildren and to spend time with them against all odds.

We met Jaap about 7 years ago through his daughter. He was 61 and looked much older. He came from Holland to visit his daughter’s family in Australia. He and his gorgeous 37-year-old third wife, Ali, who was only one year younger than his daughter, were a fascinating couple. We talked for hours, gathering pieces of his life story and being inspired.

10 years earlier, the doctors discovered cancer that had spread throughout his body. They removed some of his organs, he went through chemotherapy and when the doctors could do nothing more, they told him to sort out his things and say his last goodbyes to his loved ones.

But Jaap decided to die skiing in Malaysia (yes, it is possible). Jaap called his two children and asked them to join him for the last weeks of his life. The two kids flew to be with their father, had a great time and nobody died.

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Published: October 14, 2011 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 18, 2019In: Health / Wellbeing, Personal Development Tags: loss, projection, grief, inspiration, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, fear, choice, motivation, optimism, lifestyle, self-fulfilling prophecy, focus

Purpose: To Be a Great Dad

In the hierarchy of needs, survival comes first, then comfort and then meaning. We perceive purpose as a luxury that can only be based on a sufficient handle on life. But sometimes, we go through a strong experience that makes us change this order and brings us to choose meaning over comfort.

It just so happens there was a strong experience in my life that changed my priorities (see 35-hour baby) and brought me to the conclusion that being a great dad is what makes my life meaningful. It did not happen quickly, though. I carried sadness in me for nearly 10 years and had to see a therapist to get out of it.

But the final change happened while I was training to be a life coach. We had covered goal setting, beliefs, values, rules, needs and long-term goals. We had experienced great personal growth and refined our coaching techniques. Then, we got to Purpose.

To many religious Western people, purpose seems almost obvious: to serve God or maybe to be good enough to make it to Heaven. To many Eastern religious people, it might be to be kind or to reincarnate as a higher being.

But when you sit down and try to write a clear description of your life’s purpose, you can scratch your head for a really long time and then realize you have simply never thought about it. It is one of these things we associate with big words and famous people, like Mother Teresa or Gandhi, but seem too big for us mere mortals.

Yet, there is a way to come up with your purpose in life, which I would like to share with you. After that, I will make it even easier still.

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Published: July 6, 2011 by Gal Baras
Last modified: March 18, 2021In: Personal Development, Parenting Tags: Life Coaching, lifestyle, focus, family matters, vision, loss, inspiration, grief, emotional intelligence, kids / children, how to, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, choice, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, purpose, practical parenting / parents, happiness, motivation

Don’t Forget

I was sitting in the reception hall of the rehabilitation ward, waiting for Genia (not her real name), an old lady who needed interpretation. As she arrived, I heard her speaking very good English to the receptionist and wondered why she needed an interpreter. Genia was about 62 years old. She looked beautiful and fit, […]

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Published: July 4, 2011 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Health / Wellbeing Tags: fear, change, society, lifestyle, loss, grief, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, health / wellbeing

Nothing wrong with feeling bad

Everybody feels bad sometimes – sad, lonely, upset, worried, even angry. OK, except Tibetan monks, maybe, but only after 20 years of meditation and a strict diet of warm water. The rest of us sometimes feel bad.

The problem with feeling bad is not so much that we find something hard to deal with, but that we have been brought up not to feel bad, so we feel really bad about feeling bad. That, of course, makes everything worse, because now, we are feeling bad about ourselves and blocking ourselves from processing and letting go of the original bad feeling.

When I was growing up, I was often told that only girls cried. “Take it like a man”, people said to me and to all of my friends who were boys. The girls were not supposed to take it like men, but they were instructed not to bother others with their feelings and to “show their happy face” like “a good girl” should. So happiness was clearly good and resentment, anxiety, regret and sorrow were bad.

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Published: June 1, 2011 by Gal Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Health / Wellbeing, Personal Development Tags: beliefs, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, happiness, hope, relaxation, positive, loss, emotional intelligence, grief, meditation, stress / pressure, anxiety, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, negative, health / wellbeing

Give Me 22 Reasons

Tsoof showing off his award

For over six month, I have had a note posted here on the shelf over my computer. The note says, “Give me 20 good reasons”. All this time, I knew what I wanted to write, but I was not sure I would be able to go through the “open heart surgery” of telling you about my loss. I think I was building up the confidence to write about it.

Whenever I asked myself what I was afraid of, I knew I was scared of dragging myself again through old emotions of loss and hopelessness. I had been there twice and the feelings had faded but not disappeared.

This sticky note on my shelf is what made me write the posts about my loss.

This post is part 7 of 7 in the series 35-hour Baby

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Published: November 30, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: May 27, 2024In: Parenting, Babies / Maternity Tags: grief, happiness, death, motivation, family planning, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, optimism, baby / babies, family matters, practical parenting / parents, persistence, vision, pregnancy, inspiration, video, emotional intelligence, loss, choice

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