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Cancer is Like Tight Shoes

These days, cancer seems to impact pretty much everyone. My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer recently and Gal’s mom, who I loved very much, died from cancer about 8 years ago. For her, cancer was a long battle. She beat it over and over again for many years, until it beat her.

A very close aunt of mine died from cancer, and another aunt is fighting cancer for the third time now. Gal himself had cancer about 5 years ago.

And you know what? Life is not the same. Even if you are fortunate enough to recover, life is not the same anymore. It becomes divided between “before” and “after” the discovery.

For some people, cancer is a wake-up call that makes them embrace life and/or rearrange their priorities. Others drown themselves in self pity and completely let go of life.

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June 17, 2014 by Ronit Baras In: Health / Wellbeing Tags: health / wellbeing, focus, love, empowerment, mom, happiness, compassion, video, death

Give Me 22 Reasons

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For over six month, I have had a note posted here on the shelf over my computer. The note says, “Give me 20 good reasons”. All this time, I knew what I wanted to write, but I was not sure I would be able to go through the “open heart surgery” of telling you about my loss. I think I was building up the confidence to write about it.

Whenever I asked myself what I was afraid of, I knew I was scared of dragging myself again through old emotions of loss and hopelessness. I had been there twice and the feelings had faded but not disappeared.

This sticky note on my shelf is what made me write the posts about my loss.

This post is part 7 of 7 in the series 35-hour Baby

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November 30, 2009 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting, Babies / Maternity Tags: family matters, practical parenting / parents, persistence, vision, pregnancy, inspiration, video, emotional intelligence, loss, choice, grief, happiness, death, motivation, family planning, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, optimism, baby / babies

What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger

Mother, father and 2 children

I have always thought of myself as a good mother. It has been easier for me than for other people, because I have studied Special Education and I have had the knowledge to raise happy and successful kids.

Yet, during my Better Parenting Skills workshops, I surprise people when I tell them that a big part of my parenting confidence comes not from my studies or my professional experience, but from my personal loss (if you are here for first time, please read 35-hour Baby).

You see, when people talk about having it tough, I can relate to it and say, “When you are hit hard, you discover how much stronger you are than what you thought before”. When people talk about failure after failure, I can relate to it too. I have failed twice. Big time! I think the best thing I can give them is better perspective, because I have been through it and come out with a smile. If I can do a good job giving you this message about perspective, I will be happy.

This post is part 6 of 7 in the series 35-hour Baby

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November 27, 2009 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting, Babies / Maternity Tags: baby / babies, optimism, practical parenting / parents, family matters, persistence, vision, pregnancy, inspiration, loss, emotional intelligence, grief, choice, death, happiness, motivation, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, family planning

A Choice I Could Not Make

Pregnant woman's belly

I talk and write a lot about choice. It is no coincidence my motto is “Happiness is a choice!” Yet, there was a time when I could not live by this motto. It was after I had lost two babies. I wanted to make the choice to have only one child and to let go of my desire to go through another pregnancy to satisfy my wish to hold a baby, take him or her home and be happy.

… On my daily walks with Kathy, my doctor friend, I looked for a way to give up. One part of me longed for a baby, a healthy baby that I can take home, and the other part was afraid I would not be able to survive another pregnancy and possibly another loss. To make matters worse, another doctor I had seen told me that since I had already had one baby with a heart defect, my chances of having another one were no longer 1:20,000 but 1:10 (!) and that certainly did not make things easier.

This post is part 5 of 7 in the series 35-hour Baby

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November 26, 2009 by Ronit Baras In: Babies / Maternity, Parenting Tags: choice, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, motivation, baby / babies, family planning, practical parenting / parents, optimism, family matters, pregnancy, loss, grief, vision, death, emotional intelligence

Kid Grief

Happy baby face

Grief is hard for grownups and can be even harder for kids. As we grieved for our lost hopes and our two dead babies, our very-much-alive daughter Eden was going through a very tough time.

Eden was 5 years old and could not understand why these things had happened. She was angry with us and we could not comfort her, because we could not comfort ourselves. Most people treated me as the grieving person and did not recognize Gal or Eden’s loss. I was angry, sad, in pain and found it hard to give her answers.

This post is part 4 of 7 in the series 35-hour Baby

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November 24, 2009 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting, Babies / Maternity Tags: death, vision, kids / children, emotional intelligence, trust, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, relationships / marriage, baby / babies, family planning, health / wellbeing, family matters, practical parenting / parents, pregnancy, loss, grief

Another Baby Nightmare

Hands on pregnant belly

…I hugged my belly every day, trying hard to gain strength to survive another day. Twice, I did a special ultrasound check to confirm that the heart defect that killed my son would not hit us again. Every time, the specialist reassured me this baby girl was perfectly fine.

Eden, who was just 5 years old, was very anxious. As most parents know, time is not a concept kids understand very well. She had been asking for a baby sister (she would even settle for a brother) for over 2 years and waiting through two pregnancies was way too long for her.

Every time, she asked, “Mom, how do you know it won’t happen again? How do you know this baby won’t die too?” and every time, we said, “We go to the specialist and he checks and tells us that our baby is perfectly fine”. Every night, before bedtime, I explained to her that it had been an accident, that at the end of 9 months, we would bring home a baby and that this baby would bring the smile back to our life.

This post is part 3 of 7 in the series 35-hour Baby

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November 23, 2009 by Ronit Baras In: Babies / Maternity, Parenting Tags: pregnancy, loss, grief, death, kids / children, emotional intelligence, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, trust, baby / babies, family planning, health / wellbeing, family matters, practical parenting / parents

Baby Hope

The 2009 Weblog Awards

… I spent hours closing my eyes and trying to wake up in a different life, where the scar is not so painful. I knew what it meant to have a broken heart. I was broken, damaged, feeling like my body had failed me. I had been through a caesarian section and I was in such emotional pain I felt nothing at all.

“I have Eden”, I told myself, trying to find some comfort. Our house was in a total silence. We had to take the new crib back to the store and pack all the little things we had already put in the baby’s room. I was grateful I didn’t have to take care of the funeral arrangements – Gal did that with Eden. The thought of him choosing a tiny coffin was too hard for me and I tried closing my eyes, but that did not help.

This post is part 2 of 7 in the series 35-hour Baby

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November 20, 2009 by Ronit Baras In: Babies / Maternity, Parenting Tags: vision, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, emotional intelligence, baby / babies, relationships / marriage, health / wellbeing, family planning, friends / friendship, family matters, practical parenting / parents, pregnancy, loss, grief, death

35-hour Baby

Cute Baby

I have been writing this blog for over two years now and published more than 500 posts about parenting, but I know I have been skipping a big part of my own parenting. I have been skipping this part deliberately, not because I think it is not important, but because it is too important to write about it lightly. Writing about it means I need to open my heart and as all heart surgeries go, it may bleed.

Do you remember the last scene in the movie The Sixth Sense, when the kid tells his mom, “I’m ready to communicate”? I think I feel the same now. I am ready to open my heart and tell you about some of the defining moments in my life as a parent. It is long and a bit painful, so I think I will do it in installments.

It was on the 39th week of my pregnancy. I woke Gal up and told him my water had broken.

This post is part 1 of 7 in the series 35-hour Baby

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November 19, 2009 by Ronit Baras In: Babies / Maternity, Parenting Tags: pregnancy, loss, grief, death, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, vision, baby / babies, emotional intelligence, health / wellbeing, family planning, practical parenting / parents, family matters

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