Soon, Gal and I are going to celebrate our 28 years of our life together. Every year that passes, we get more and more requests for our relationship program from people who are considering divorce. The good news is that they look for solutions before they “turn off the light and send the actors home”. The bad news is they are in an emotional turmoil and are very very unhappy.
If you have seen the movie Mrs Doubtfire or Kramer vs. Kramer, you have probably had a glimpse of what it means to divorce, although a movie cannot describe even a small portion of the emotional stress people go through when they think about separating.
The real problem is that the reasons people divorce do not just disappear after the divorce. In fact, there is a big chance they will give birth to more problems. If you are not happy with your marriage and think divorce will make you happier, think again. Chances are you have attributed the failure of the marriage to your spouse, but if it were only one person’s failure, life would be much easier.
Blaming someone else and trying to change the partner instead of working on yourself sounds like a convenient way to handle stress, but in fact becomes long term pain. Walking away only seems easy.