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How to Overcome Fight, Flight & Freeze in Relationships

Little girl looking happy and excited

There’s some amount of stress in every relationship, and we respond to it through Fight, Flight or Freeze. So how can we overcome these responses, relax and stay together?

Watching babies and toddlers playing “hide and seek” can teach us a lot about the human mind and how we can improve the relationship game.

Our granddaughter is 3 years old, and we look after her once or twice a week (lucky us). She loves to play “hide and seek”, and we all love to watch her having fun.

For a long time, we had to nominate a person to hide with her, so she would get the hang of it. Because whenever we asked, “Where is Ayla?” she would answer from her hiding place…

Hilarious, right?!

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December 9, 2020 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting Tags: stress / pressure, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, how to, fear, trust, relationships / marriage, conflict, anger, aggressive

Practice Fearless Parenting Under Pressure: Do It Your Way

Mother and daughter in nature

Parenting is one of the most important and difficult things we’ll ever do in life. And it becomes even harder when we doubt ourselves and stop trusting our own judgment. When others try to impose their methods of parenting on us, and we let it affect us, we have an even greater challenge.

I was lucky to start my parenting journey when our close friends didn’t have children and our family was too far away. Until our daughter Eden was 14 months old, Gal and I relied solely on our own judgment. We had no Internet and no people telling us what to do.

Eden was born after I finished most of my education studies. Although my course didn’t cover things like the best time to feed babies, or when to start giving solid food, it did help me build the confidence to raise her.

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September 9, 2020 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, practical parenting / parents, how to, choice, trust, control, social skills, tv, persistence, stress / pressure

How to Focus: Juggling Life with Goals

Juggler with 6 balls

In How to Focus: 20-20-20 Vision, I explained how focus works and why it is essential in many areas of our life. I compared mental focus to clear vision. If we see well, we function well. If we are able to stay focused mentally, we also function well. Easy!

As I said before, when we focus on one thing, the rest is blurry. It is important to remember that we cannot focus on everything with the same level of intensity.

It is as if we juggle too many balls at the same time. Even highly trained jugglers can handle no more than six or seven balls at a time and they train for years to reach that point. If we want to juggle the things we need to do in life, we need to train for years, and the sooner we start, the better.

This post is part 2 of 2 in the series How to Focus

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December 1, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: success, how to, inner peace, Life Coaching, relaxation, time management, tips, stress / pressure, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, focus, goals / goal setting

How to Focus: 20-20-20 Vision

Magnifying glass - helps you focus

If you wear glasses, you understand focus really well. Why is it easy for people who need glasses? Because many of them just cannot see what is in front of them without their glasses. If you cannot see clearly, it is very hard to function effectively.

I have been shortsighted since I was 15 years old. Without my glasses, I cannot read well, drive, enjoy TV or notice facial expressions from half a meter away. Without glasses, I cannot do my presentations, coach, cook, clean the house or even choose what clothes to wear. My vision plays a big part in my life, and without it, I am crippled.

Mental focus works the same. If we are not focused, it is as if our vision is blurred. The lack of focus affects all aspects of our life negatively and we are crippled.

This post is part 1 of 2 in the series How to Focus

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November 24, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: Life Coaching, relaxation, time management, tips, stress / pressure, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, focus, practical parenting / parents, success, goals / goal setting, how to, inner peace, exercise

Mental Pain Shouldn’t Kill You. It Can Make You Stronger

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I have written before about emotional pain as a reaction to a perceived threat and our body’s way of telling us that something is wrong. Mental pain is not the enemy. It is the messenger. And it is very important not to kill it.

Many people will tell you that when you come out of the other side of pain, you feel stronger. I have learned the hard way that the fear of pain takes more energy than the pain itself. Worry is an example of it. When we worry, we experience mental pain from something negative we have imagined in our head. Yes, all in our head.

There are many techniques to turn mental pain into psychological strength and the more you use them, the less you feel the pain. I have gathered some of them here to share with you. All of them are proven and practical. I use them with my clients.

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October 25, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development, Health / Wellbeing Tags: focus, stress / pressure, emotional intelligence, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, depression, health / wellbeing, anxiety, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, how to, empowerment, change, happiness, positive attitude tips, attitude

Assertiveness: Live by Your Own Standards

Faceless woman with a sign showing arrows pointing at the word CONFIDENCE

Assertiveness is a helpful skill in life, yet most people do not have it. They do not have it because they could not learn it at home or from anyone else except professionals. You see, the people who teach assertiveness must be very confident and not afraid that you might use assertiveness with them, and these people are hard to find.

Am I assertive all the time? No, not really. Sometimes, I choose avoidance or aggression, and every time I use them, I feel uncomfortable. They either hurt me or others, which is not very good. Still, I aim to use assertiveness in my communication with others and most of the time, I do.

Assertiveness requires confidence to express your own thoughts and feeling without fear and without the need, desire or intention to hurt anyone else. It is important to distinguish between having the intention to hurt and actually hurting someone else.

This post is part 4 of 6 in the series Assertiveness

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October 6, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: change, assertive, communication, positive attitude tips, responsibility, stress / pressure, values, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, emotional intelligence, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, choice, freedom, beliefs, expectation, empowerment, control

Assertiveness: Things You Should Keep to Yourself

A safe behind heavy doors

Keeping things to yourself does not mean keeping them a secret. Assertiveness comes from confidence, while secrets come from fear. Sharing is expressing yourself confidently without reservation and without any pressure to convince others or justify your own thoughts and beliefs.

Here is a list of things you can keep to yourself or share selectively. If you are confident about them, you do not need validation, approval or to have the majority with you to hold them. If you want someone’s opinion, ask. If someone asks for your opinion, respect their choice not to accept it or to do whatever they want with it. If they disagree, do not like it or do not want to use it, it should not create any doubt in you. Some things are yours to keep and you can share them, but never with pressure. Pressure is not assertiveness.

This post is part 3 of 6 in the series Assertiveness

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September 29, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: empowerment, control, change, assertive, positive attitude tips, stress / pressure, responsibility, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, emotional intelligence, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, choice, freedom, trust

Assertiveness: Keeping Things Private

A private sign on a gate

In order for us to be assertive, we need to create clear boundaries between us and other people. In the previous post about assertiveness, I explained that assertiveness is the ability to express our needs and desires without hurting others and that this skill is important, yet nobody learns it at school. In this post, I will describe the things we do (and should not do) that sacrifice our own best interest and let other people into our personal space.

In order to be assertive, we must understand that everyone is entitled to his or her own thoughts, beliefs and actions. At the same time, we do not have to accept them as applicable to us. We should always stick to the things that are important to us and take care of ourselves first.

This post is part 2 of 6 in the series Assertiveness

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September 22, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development, Parenting Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, emotional intelligence, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, how to, freedom, choice, practical parenting / parents, empowerment, control, change, assertive, aggressive, positive attitude tips, stress / pressure, responsibility

Assertiveness: It is better to be Wise than to be Right

I believe in me with a man jumping for joy

What a shame! Assertiveness is not something we learn at school, so if you cannot learn it from your parents, because they never learned it from their own parents, then you can be easily manipulated and pushed over.

Everybody hates being pushed over. I see it as a natural part of life. We all do everything we can to improve our position, and if others are in our way, we push them aside. Sometimes, well, most times, we hurt people along the way without any bad intentions. Assertiveness can help us do better in life without hurting anyone.

Many of my clients mainly need assertiveness. When we do not have it and we cannot express our needs and assert our rights, we resort to either avoidance or aggression. It is the old “fight and flight” response. We see a lion or a snake and we either run away or attack. So when I see aggression or avoidance, I know that assertiveness is needed.

This post is part 1 of 6 in the series Assertiveness

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September 15, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: responsibility, decision making, emotional intelligence, positive attitude tips, how to, stress / pressure, choice, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, empowerment, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, control, freedom, wisdom, expectation, change, work life balance, assertive, aggressive

How to Release Negative Emotions: 10 Constructive and Healthy Ways

Sad mask with bad feeling words and happy mask with good feeling words

Most people think that emotions are not controlled. They come and go from somewhere in the brain or the body, and we have no control over them. In my coaching, I come across this misconception with every new client. Usually, they are not happy about something in their life and they come to me because they do not think they can change it on their own.

In general, emotions are not a problem. If they are happy emotions and if we feel good about them, we do not want to change them. But if they are painful and make us uncomfortable, then we want them out of our system and fast – and usually for the right reason. Feelings manifest into our physical world. If you think of emotions as vibrations, then we feel their vibration in our body as a physical reaction.

When I was young, my younger sister and I were fans of Louise Hay’s book You Can Heal Your Life.

We borrowed it from the local library and she bought it for me as a birthday gift. In the book, Louise Hay describes the connection between body and mind and explains how every thought, feeling, idea and action has a physical manifestation.

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August 9, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: conflict, positive attitude tips, tips, stress / pressure, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, responsibility, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, emotions, meditation, feeling, how to, expectation, negative, happiness

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