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Open Home: Guests Welcome

Guests raising their glasses at a party

Good families don’t just happen. They are made with awareness and action. As a parent, I encourage you to write family goals, so you can lead your family to a happy, healthy and wealthy lifestyle. I didn’t grow up in an open home, and I decided to change that, so I set some goal.

In this post, I want to share one of my family goals, which I wrote to replace a behavior form my parents’ home I didn’t like at all – closed doors.

My mom was always preoccupied with what other people thought about her. I never blamed her for it. Well, that’s not true. When I was very young, I even hated her for it. It was exhausting.

Anyway, when I was 16 years old, I realized that this was how she had grown up. What other people think about her was her reason for living. She dedicated much of her life to please people whose opinion mattered to her. This took over her life and, as her children, also ruled our lives.

One thing that bothered her greatly was having a clean house. The problem was not that she wanted the house to be clean, but that she panicked whenever we had guests.

This post is part 6 of 7 in the series Family Goals

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Published: November 7, 2018 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 7, 2018In: Parenting Tags: change, lifestyle, family matters, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, goals / goal setting

My Personal Tips for Important Family Goals

Father playing water games with 3 kids

This post is personal, because I’ve been asked by people to share my view of the ideal family and how I reached that point in life when parenting was such bliss for me.

I have to say that I don’t think we are the ideal family. We have ups and down and challenges with our children. We just sort them out quickly and in a very efficient way.

Why do I say that? Because even if you are doing all the right things – give good instructions and coordinate things with your partner – you’ll face traffic jams. For more about this, read the Family Goals series from the start.

Why? Because that’s life. You take a deep breath, overtake the traffic jam and sometimes just need to meditate until the road is clear from glass scattered on the road from someone else’s accident but there is no life without it. I clarify this because some of my clients just collapse when they think they do everything well and still, there are parenting accidents.

So, here I’m sharing some of my goals (I’ve had thousands over the years). I hope it’ll give you some ideas of what you can aim for. Take only the goals that matches your philosophy in life. Remember, most of our decision making is done by the subconscious mind, if a goal that I chose to peruse is against something you have in your subconscious, you’ll go through lots of self-sabotage and experience lots of frustration.

This post is part 5 of 7 in the series Family Goals

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Published: October 24, 2018 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 24, 2018In: Parenting Tags: responsibility, success, how to, dreams, family matters, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, goals / goal setting

Sharing Clothes in the Family

Eden, Tsoof, Noff and Ayla

Over the years, I’ve set thousands of goals, and still do. Not because I haven’t achieved my goals, but because my family grows and evolves, and I never stop adding wants and desires, with action, into my family journey. As an example, here is how I’ve achieved the goal of sharing clothes in the family.

The first time I asked the hard questions was the time I woke up. You need courage to do that and I had it when I was 16 years old. I asked myself “What do I not like about my family and how can I change my life without getting rid of any family members?” Obviously, getting rid of my family was not an option, and understanding this was enlightening by itself.

I asked and asked and asked for weeks without an answer. Then, it hit me that the answer was to change myself. That was a very hard understanding and I went through some resistance to it for a while.

I believed my family members “wronged” me and changing myself meant they could keep doing what they’d always done, which was unfair!

Fairness has always been my weakness (still is in some ways). I’ve always wanted things to be fair and had this internal sense of justice my family just didn’t get.

So, I asked myself “What does fairness mean?” It was amazing what came up, which was different from the dictionary definition of the word.

This post is part 4 of 7 in the series Family Goals

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Published: October 3, 2018 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 1, 2021In: Parenting Tags: siblings, sibling rivalry, how to, action, change, dreams, family matters, justice, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, responsibility, goals / goal setting, success

Goals and Actions

Family watching the sunset by a lake

In the first post of the family goals series, I introduced “the taxi driver” – the part of our mind we need to work with to make changes. When we want to make changes, it’s like directing a taxi driver to take us to a desired destination. I shared a list of questions we must answer to give our “taxi driver” good directions.

In the post on family goal setting, I explained how to use the answers to those questions to write goals and how to write them in the way that will help us make the desired change.

In this post, I would like to talk about how focus helps the driver navigate the ride to suit your needs and get to the destination faster.

Many people say that they know what they want, but they don’t know how to get it. It is true that sometimes, the goal seems so far-fetched or hard-to-get that people feel overwhelmed and freeze. It is as if they know the destination, but don’t know which path to take to get there.

The thing is you don’t need to find the path. You just need to focus on what you want, and the “taxi driver” will do the rest. If you dedicate time to clarify your goals, that will help your taxi driver achieve them for you in a way that aligns the most with what you want.

This post is part 3 of 7 in the series Family Goals

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Published: September 12, 2018 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 24, 2019In: Parenting Tags: how to, action, dreams, family matters, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, goals / goal setting, responsibility, success

Family Goal Setting: Set Yourself Up for Success

Father and daughters blowing bubbles

Family goal setting is very important. If you’ve had a chance to read the post about family goals, you know that for a family to be happy and successful, you need driven parents who give good instructions to their “taxi driver”.

The taxi driver is the “creature” we have in our mind that at any point in time, asks us “where would you like me to take you?” and to do a good job, he needs two sets of coordinates – pickup point and destination – and very clear and specific instructions.

If you’ve answered the tough questions in the previous post, you should now have a better perspective on what you want your family to be like. You are already in better shape than most of the parents in the world.

I can tell you that in my personal research of thousands of parents, most of them didn’t know what they wanted. They were the kind of passengers that tell their driver, “Drive”, without saying where. They say, “I don’t know what to expect. Just take me to where most people go”. This guarantees they will get lost and bump into lots of traffic jams.

This post is part 2 of 7 in the series Family Goals

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Published: August 15, 2018 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: April 19, 2020In: Parenting Tags: how to, dreams, family matters, questions, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, goals / goal setting, responsibility, success

Family Goals: Let’s Ask the Tough Questions

Red question mark on a pile of grey question marks

Some people think it’s funny to talk about family goals, because they link goals with business and a family is not a business.

That’s true! They are not the same, but what drives them forward is exactly the same. Please note the word “drive”. Imagine that running a family is like driving a car. I can be a beaten car, no fuel, flat tires, squeaking wipers and no lights, or it can be in tip-top shape and race forward with air conditioning, a sound system, brand new tires and bright lights to show the way.

Which car are you driving your family in? What conditions are you creating for relationships to be strong and for the family members to succeed and be happy?

This post is part 1 of 7 in the series Family Goals

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Published: July 18, 2018 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 12, 2018In: Parenting Tags: dreams, family matters, questions, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, goals / goal setting, responsibility, success, how to

You Can Change Your Life

A bridge over a creek

Change is not easy and you can recognize the points that have changed your course in life only in hindsight. We call these points “quantum moments”. I have had many quantum moments in life and the ones that have steered me in the right direction included reading books, meeting inspiring people and attending empowering events. I contemplated each of them until I got to some realization that later became part of my being.

My biggest change in life was when I was 15 years old. I remember how before it, I dreamed every day of waking up to a different life. I said, “I wish…” and had millions of wishes. I hoped to be the Genie of the Lamp, but every morning realized I was not. I built up hopes and got up in the morning to realize they were just illusions that I had no power to fulfill.

You see, it is one thing to want and another thing to make it happen.

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Published: April 25, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 5, 2023In: Parenting Tags: happiness, motivation, financial freedom, positive attitude tips, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, inspiration, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, success, goals / goal setting, emotional intelligence, how to, empowerment, change

How to Focus: Juggling Life with Goals

Juggler with 6 balls

In How to Focus: 20-20-20 Vision, I explained how focus works and why it is essential in many areas of our life. I compared mental focus to clear vision. If we see well, we function well. If we are able to stay focused mentally, we also function well. Easy!

As I said before, when we focus on one thing, the rest is blurry. It is important to remember that we cannot focus on everything with the same level of intensity.

It is as if we juggle too many balls at the same time. Even highly trained jugglers can handle no more than six or seven balls at a time and they train for years to reach that point. If we want to juggle the things we need to do in life, we need to train for years, and the sooner we start, the better.

This post is part 2 of 2 in the series How to Focus

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Published: December 1, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, focus, goals / goal setting, success, how to, inner peace, Life Coaching, relaxation, time management, tips, stress / pressure

How to Focus: 20-20-20 Vision

Magnifying glass - helps you focus

If you wear glasses, you understand focus really well. Why is it easy for people who need glasses? Because many of them just cannot see what is in front of them without their glasses. If you cannot see clearly, it is very hard to function effectively.

I have been shortsighted since I was 15 years old. Without my glasses, I cannot read well, drive, enjoy TV or notice facial expressions from half a meter away. Without glasses, I cannot do my presentations, coach, cook, clean the house or even choose what clothes to wear. My vision plays a big part in my life, and without it, I am crippled.

Mental focus works the same. If we are not focused, it is as if our vision is blurred. The lack of focus affects all aspects of our life negatively and we are crippled.

This post is part 1 of 2 in the series How to Focus

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Published: November 24, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: inner peace, exercise, Life Coaching, relaxation, time management, tips, stress / pressure, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, focus, practical parenting / parents, success, goals / goal setting, how to

The Expectations Paradox: Danger Ahead

Sign: Danger, expectations ahead!

From the minute I woke up, at the age of 16, and took control of my life, I had a good understanding of the power of expectations. At least this is what I thought for a long time. I thought that I switched from having low expectation to high expectations and believed that high expectations were the key to success in life.

I still think so, although I believe that it is important to distinguish between expectations from ourselves and expectations from others. Even more important is what we do when our expectations are not fulfilled.

Expectations can be a blessing or a curse and we can always determine what they were after the event. Subconsciously, when we succeed, we tend to consider our expectations as blessings, as a ladder that led us to victory. When we fail, we consider them false, frustrating and painful. In victories, we reward ourselves for having “motivating expectations”. In failures, we blame circumstances and/or people, and sometimes, we blame ourselves.

Expectations are a double-edged sword if we do not define them properly.

This post is part 1 of 3 in the series The Expectations Paradox

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Published: August 30, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: motivation, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, expectation, responsibility, goals / goal setting, success, emotional intelligence, empowerment, control, change

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