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Better Family Relationships: How to Build Trust

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Family relationships can be hard, let’s be honest. We have a relationship with everyone we come in contact with. Some relationships are short. Some are long. Some are intimate, and others not so much. In every relationship, our actions affect the dynamic. We can’t just do or say whatever we want, whenever we want.

Why? Because we don’t exist in a bubble. Our words have meaning.

It’s amazing how many people are never exposed to the concept of effective and thoughtful communication. I find people of all ages coming to my leadership camps and saying, “How has no one ever taught me this?”

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Published: March 3, 2021 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: January 24, 2023In: Parenting, Relationships / Marriage Tags: siblings, how to, trust, family matters, listening, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, sibling rivalry, communication, gratitude

Sharing Clothes in the Family

Eden, Tsoof, Noff and Ayla

Over the years, I’ve set thousands of goals, and still do. Not because I haven’t achieved my goals, but because my family grows and evolves, and I never stop adding wants and desires, with action, into my family journey. As an example, here is how I’ve achieved the goal of sharing clothes in the family.

The first time I asked the hard questions was the time I woke up. You need courage to do that and I had it when I was 16 years old. I asked myself “What do I not like about my family and how can I change my life without getting rid of any family members?” Obviously, getting rid of my family was not an option, and understanding this was enlightening by itself.

I asked and asked and asked for weeks without an answer. Then, it hit me that the answer was to change myself. That was a very hard understanding and I went through some resistance to it for a while.

I believed my family members “wronged” me and changing myself meant they could keep doing what they’d always done, which was unfair!

Fairness has always been my weakness (still is in some ways). I’ve always wanted things to be fair and had this internal sense of justice my family just didn’t get.

So, I asked myself “What does fairness mean?” It was amazing what came up, which was different from the dictionary definition of the word.

This post is part 4 of 7 in the series Family Goals

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Published: October 3, 2018 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 1, 2021In: Parenting Tags: family matters, justice, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, responsibility, goals / goal setting, success, siblings, sibling rivalry, how to, action, change, dreams

Attachment Theory: Secure and Insecure Attachment in Teenagers

Teenage boy

Babies’ relationships with their parents in the first years of life has a significant impact on their future relationship. As babies, the attachment they have to their parents will become a blue print of their attitude towards themselves and others. During that period, they create a “navigating map” and use it until they become teenagers. In teen years, which are considered to be between 11 to 25, teens renew this map and the relationship between them and their parents becomes even more important for their future relationship.

For parents, this is the perfect opportunity to fix any problems in the relationship. For example, amending insecure attachment or making an already slightly secure attachment more secure. This is our second and the last one.

Like in early childhood, a secure attachment in teenagers is characterized by the ability to seek comfort from a meaningful figure when they are going through difficulties. It is also measured by how fast and how easily they are comforted and able to get them back on track, enjoying life and being available to absorb new experiences.

This post is part 5 of 6 in the series Attachment Theory

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Published: March 12, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: April 1, 2020In: Emotional Intelligence, Parenting, Teens / Teenagers Tags: early childhood, separation, practical parenting / parents, love, rules, abuse, relationships / marriage, success, aggressive, emotional intelligence, positive, attitude, siblings, kids / children, how to, parenting teens, fear, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, security, emotions, beliefs, feeling

Good Relationship with Loving Affirmations

True love never lets go.

Relationships and the way we connect with others are very important and essential to our happiness and success in life. Research shows that people who are in good relationships are healthier, happier and they live longer. So, good relationships are the best prescription for a long life. I would take two prescriptions of that kind of medication.

We learn about relationships from the people closest to us – usually, our parents, later on our siblings and much later, from friends. If they model good relationships, we copy them. If the model bad relationships, we model that as well. Why? Because as kids we don’t have any way of filtering bad examples. It is only as we grow that we start developing critical thinking, and we start noticing that relationships at our house are different to other houses. Often times, that can make us frustrated because we don’t have the skills to make things change.

I once worked with a woman who was 37 years old. She had so many partners and no stable relationships. We checked her beliefs and found the source of the problem. We discovered that the origin of it was from her dad leaving her mom and her siblings when she was about 10 years old. He left to be with another women and she adopted a belief that “all man are assholes” (I am quoting). As a result, she did not trust men. With a belief like that, it is hard and even impossible to find a relationship, not to mention keep it.

This post is part 5 of 6 in the series Affirmations

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Published: October 23, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 23, 2014In: Parenting Tags: mom, freedom, change, partner, love, happiness, hobbies, skills, relationships / marriage, list, success, affirmations, guilt, siblings, positive, practical parenting / parents, trust, kids / children, forgiveness, negative, tips, beliefs, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, research, health / wellbeing, divorce, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement

The “Why” of Sibling Rivalry

If you have siblings, you are probably going to get into conflict with them at some stage in your life. I can probably go as far as saying that if you have parents, you are probably going to end up arguing with them at some point too. Why? Because parents and siblings are pains in the backside, regardless of how much you love them.

One of my clients gave birth to her second son about 3 years after the first one was born. She says there is a constant struggle to enjoy them both at the same time. Let me explain. The eldest is magnificent, beautiful, and smart, a perfect kid. But he is so jealous of his new brother that he has become aggressive, angry, short-tempered and not fun to be around. When he spends the time with mom or dad on his own, he is completely fine, but when baby brother is around, he gets angry and upset. Mom has to make sure he does not hurt his little brother.

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Published: July 9, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Kids / Children Tags: sibling rivalry, siblings, beliefs, research, conflict, family matters, video, kids / children, expectation, practical parenting / parents

Troubled Teens: Confusing Years

In the past, people thought that teens’ behavior during the teenage years was directly connected to physical changes they start to experience at the age of 12, which makes them feel strange with their body changes and confuses them. Today, the approach is that adolescence is a more gradual process that starts with the first time children want to try doing things on their own, sometime as early as the age of 3.

If teenagers seem confused to you, it is mainly because they have reached a point in their life when they need to define who they are, what they think, what they like or hate, what their beliefs are and what they wants to be later on in life. These thoughts are tough. I know many adults who have not reached that self-definition yet, so this is not easy for a 12-year-old to do, although they are expected to have some clue about it.

Around the age of 10, beliefs that were part of children’s identity are shattered and they need to put the pieces together to survive emotionally. Kids with high emotional intelligence can do that, but most cannot, so they have to ask for help from those who unintentionally create the problem – their parents or their teachers.

This series will give you a sneak peek into teens’ confused brain and help you understand why it is so hard do be a teenager. I still remember my adolescence, I am raising my second teen, the third one is reaching puberty soon and I have worked with lots of teenagers in the last 25 years, so this list is quite reliable.

This post is part 1 of 4 in the series Troubled Teens

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Published: April 20, 2012 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting, Teens / Teenagers Tags: school, motivation, responsibility, social skills, emotional intelligence, family matters, siblings, k-12 education, how to, attitude, role model, kids / children, fear, teens / teenagers, trust, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, identity, behavior / discipline, communication, rules, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, focus, change

Sibling Rivalry

A few weeks ago, we attended a musical competition where my brother and his school band played. It occurred to me that every player in the band had a brother or sister in the crowd, some of whom were very resentful of their sibling up there on the stage. After all, it is hard to be that person in the crowd who misses out on all the attention.

When I was in high school, it was very common to hear stories about brothers and sisters who fought with each other constantly. I heard things like “My brother is so stupid. He’s always in the way” or “My sister is such a terror she never listens”.

Now that I am at university with students who are a little older, they are much more aware of the reasons behind it all, but they still seem to fight and argue a lot with their siblings. When I ask if they get along with their siblings, they reply, “Sure don’t. He hates my guts” or “No way! I can’t stand her”. One of my friends was on such bad terms with her sister she would wish on an almost weekly basis that her sister would hurry up and move out.

It is said that sibling rivalry is influenced by things like parental treatment, birth order, personality and experiences. Apparently, sibling rivalry is particularly strong when one child is gifted.

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Published: August 4, 2010 by Eden Baras
Last modified: October 1, 2021In: Parenting, Relationships / Marriage Tags: family matters, kids / children, behavior / discipline, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, focus, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, sibling rivalry, siblings, how to, beliefs, relationships / marriage, family planning

Inspiring Kids

My daughter Noff (the youngest girl in the photo) is a very inspiring kid, especially since growing up in a house with two very talented siblings is not easy.

This is the story of how Noff composed her first piece of music at the age of 8, with very little knowledge and a lot of ingenuity, and how she continually uses her older brother and sister not as competition but as inspiration to stretch herself and do the best she can in every area.

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Published: November 5, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Kids / Children, Parenting Tags: focus, creative / creativity, projection, practical parenting / parents, inspiration, music, emotional intelligence, siblings, motivation, self-fulfilling prophecy, video, kids / children

Happy to Be Myself

Yesterday, when I drove with my daughter Noff to a “girls’ night out” at her school, she said to me, “I wish I had a baby sister or a baby brother”. That started a conversation about what is best to be – the youngest in the family (she is 8 years old and she is the youngest), the middle child (in our case, this is my 13-year-old son Tsoof) or the eldest (my 20-year-old daughter Eden).

Well, it was very interesting having a conversation like this with an 8-year-old, but she was mature enough to detach herself from her desires, stay in the conversation and examine all the advantages and disadvantages of each position. Here is how the conversation went:

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Published: November 3, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 24, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: choice, beliefs, happiness, family planning, family matters, kids / children, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, focus, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, siblings

It’s All Your Fault!

Pretty girl

Blaming is a natural reaction to feeling scared and overloaded, but it comes together with losing power. Zgalit was forever the most miserable girl in the neighborhood. She blamed us for nothing so much and so often that when her claims were real and valid, no one took her seriously.

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Published: June 9, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 24, 2019In: Parenting, Emotional Intelligence Tags: relationships / marriage, family matters, attitude, kids / children, communication, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, emotional intelligence, behavior / discipline, practical parenting / parents, siblings, how to, fear, choice

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