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How to Switch Your Parenting from Preaching to Teaching

The best teachers are those who show you where to look, but don't tell you what to see - Alexander K. Trenfor

In Parenting is Teaching, not Preaching, I explained why kids resent parents who take too long to explain things and why a relationship based on lecturing your kids is not healthy and makes the kids just not listen to you.

Today, I share five tips that will make the communication and cooperation at home better for you and show you how to switch your parenting from preaching to teaching.

1. No Pink Elephants

Parents are used to telling their kids what not to do. The words “don’t”, “stop” and “no” are very common in the parenting vocabulary. Unfortunately, using them only makes the child do more of what you are trying to stop. Read Beware of Pink Elephants for more.

Rather than telling your kids what not to do, tell them what you want them to do and notice how their behavior changes dramatically.

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March 22, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting Tags: abuse, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, anger, behavior / discipline, beliefs, change, choice, communication, control, education / learning, emotional development, emotional intelligence, expectation, generation gap, how to, listening, practical parenting / parents, role model, rules, sarcasm, tips, trust, values

Parenting is Teaching, not Preaching

Boy in tree with Batman symbol on his forehead

Last week, I ran a parenting workshop and parents’ biggest frustration was “My kids don’t listen to me”. Everyone in the workshop shared this frustration whether their children were toddlers or teens. It took me some time to change the focus of the workshop from complaining about it, which is suitable for psychology or “recovery”, to thinking about what we can do about it and how to move forward, which is more suitable for coaching or “discovery”.

Going through life is like sailing a ship and being its captain (see Sailing the Ship of Life for more). When we complain, it is like dropping an anchor, and when we consider what to do about the situation, it is like raising an anchor and moving forward. Progress may be slow at first, but it is better to move than to be stuck.

Parenting is just the same.

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March 17, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting Tags: abuse, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, beliefs, change, communication, education / learning, emotional development, emotional intelligence, expectation, generation gap, how to, listening, practical parenting / parents, role model, trust

10 Rules for Civilized Dialogue

Couple Talking

Your ability to talk with your partner determines the level of the connection you have with each other. To save your marriage, you should be able to have a civilized dialogue.

When Gal and I were a young couple, we said we knew we would grow old together because we could talk for hours. We could talk about anything or nothing for hours and we loved every minute of it.

If you have been with the same partner for many years, you might think you know everything about them, but you probably don’t.

Why? Because people change. We change our thoughts and behaviors, and as hard as it is to believe, we even change the way we perceive our past.

Here are some rules that can strengthen and deepen your relationship and save your marriage…

This post is part 21 of 33 in the series Save Your Marriage

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May 22, 2014 by Ronit Baras In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, change, communication, conflict, focus, frustration, listening, love, memory, mind, partner, perception, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive, questions, relationships / marriage, rules, thought

The Art of Listening: Things to Watch Out For

Listen to hear, not to speak

To conclude The Art of Listening series, here are some tips on things to watch out for in deciding which listening style to adopt.

In previous posts, I covered situations when it is hard to listen, types of listening and how to become good listeners. However, putting all this into practice means you need to know when it is appropriate to adopt one style over another. There are some things to watch out for in making that decision.

Be a kind listener when:
1. The speaker is angry or in a bad mood.
2. The speaker feels judged or stressed.
3. When you want to please the listener or need something from him/her.

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January 14, 2014 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, change, emotional intelligence, empathy, feeling, focus, friends / friendship, how to, listening, negative, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive, relationships / marriage, social skills, tips

The Art of Listening: How to Listen

Listen more, talk less

To wrap up our the “The Art of Listening” series , here are some great tips on how to become a better listener.

To start off, we discussed 10 situations that turn off the listening switch and make it harder to keep engaged. In the previous post, I shared four listening types: the kind listener, the empathetic listener, the critical listener and the solution focused listener.

In this post, I will share ideas of how to become a kind listener, an empathetic listener, a critical listener and a solution focused listener and how to use each of these listening styles when appropriate.

This post is part 3 of 3 in the series The Art of Listening

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December 19, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, assumptions, change, emotional intelligence, empathy, focus, friends / friendship, how to, listening, motivation, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive, questions, relationships / marriage, social, tips

The Art of Listening: Listening Types

A row of ears with the word Listen

Listening is an essential part of every relationship. But not everybody listens in the same way. In this chapter of the Art of Listening, I want to introduce you to the different types of listening.

In the previous chapter, I covered 10 situations that make it hard for people to keep listening. In this chapter, I will explain the four listening types: the kind listener, the empathic listener, the critical and the solution focused listener.

The kind listener is very supportive, encouraging and always on your side. They are best friends and always manage to interpret whatever you say in a positive light. They won’t challenge you because their aim is to make you feel good, valued and cared for.

Kind listeners are easy to be around. They are generally loyal and trustworthy and are very good conversation companions. Their relationships are usually better and last longer. Empathic listening is an important tool for being good parents.

This post is part 2 of 3 in the series The Art of Listening

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December 12, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: aggressive, communication, emotional intelligence, focus, listening, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive attitude tips, practical parenting / parents, relationships / marriage

The Art of Listening: I Can’t Hear You!

Boy listening

The ability to listen is thought to be one of the major components of a good relationship. Whether you want to be a good parent, good partner, a good boss, a good friend or a good colleague, listening skills are your best relationship investment.

It is not as easy to listen as we might think. The common misconception is that listening is just passively lending your ear to someone. It is not. In order to be effective, listening has to be a lot more active than that.

Research suggests that men and women think different about listening. Listening cues like nodding, saying “yes”, “mmmm”, “uh huh” are interpreted differently by each gender. Men think they are an indication that someone agrees with them, while women think that they indicate how involved the listener is. So when women don not hear these cue, they think the man is not listen. When men hear these cue, they think the woman agrees with them.

This post is part 1 of 3 in the series The Art of Listening

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November 28, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: aggressive, communication, emotional intelligence, focus, gender, listening, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive attitude tips, practical parenting / parents, relationships / marriage, research

Self Regulation: Tips

Mother and son in conflict

Self regulation is the ability to control ourselves and not do things impulsively. This skill is like a muscle – the more we practice, the stronger it gets. Once it is strong, it is much easier to resist temptation and function according to a “plan”, rather than going with whatever comes your way or whoever applies more pressure.

In the last two posts in this series, I explained the mechanism of self regulation and shared some research on its importance, particularly in parenting. Today, I want to share some tips with you on how to strengthen the self regulation ‘muscle’. It can be easy to find self control and be the role model you want to be for your children.

This post is part 3 of 3 in the series Self Regulation

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November 5, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting, Personal Development Tags: change, conflict, control, emotional intelligence, exercise, focus, food, hobbies, how to, imagination, kids / children, listening, meditation, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, sport, tips

Choice Theory: Happy Classrooms

Teachers can make the classroom a happy environment for children by addressing the basic needs based on the choice theory and making sure kids have a choice.

In previous blog posts on choice theory, I explained William Glasser’s theory that everything we do in our life is a result of our choice. It is applicable to parenting, business, management, and relationships. It is very applicable to education and the way classrooms are designed.

Unfortunately, most classrooms are not places where one can be free to follow the basic needs based on the choice theory.

This post is part 5 of 6 in the series Choice Theory

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October 17, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Emotional Intelligence, Personal Development Tags: academic performance, behavior / discipline, choice, education / learning, emotional intelligence, k-12 education, listening, needs, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, rules, school, teaching / teachers, teens / teenagers

Choice Theory: Happy Business

Which direction to take?

In the last two posts on “choice theory,” I covered William Glasser’s reality theory and the seven deadly and caring habits and their impact on relationships and parenting.

Glasser’s choice theory helped not just individuals but also organizations like schools and businesses to enable management, workers, and students to take part in the system using internal motivation and avoid conflicts.

Every business transaction (and schooling is similar) is a transaction in relationship. We call good relationship a good business transaction, and conflict, anger, disappointment, and frustration a bad business transaction. For a business to succeed, it needs to establish good relationship between all participants and connect well. Glasser called it “Lead Management.” Using the choice theory in business, employees, managers, suppliers, and clients replace external control with internal control based on happy and successful relationship and are very much dependent on the managers, who lead the organizations.

This post is part 4 of 6 in the series Choice Theory

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October 10, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Emotional Intelligence Tags: choice, communication styles, decision making, emotional intelligence, evaluation, failure, gratitude, guilt, identity, leadership, Life Coaching, listening, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, responsibility, success

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