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There is an area in the brain, a bit like a muscle, that is responsible for “self regulation”. Self regulation is the ability to control ourselves and not do things impulsively without thinking them through. One of the big differences between parents who succeed in their parenting and those who think their kids are “from hell” is how big their self regulating muscle is, and who they are trying to control: themselves, or their kids.

Self Regulation: Controlling vs. Controlled Parenting

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This week, I met a guy at a social gathering and we introduced our families to each other. I talked about my wonderful kids and he told me about his kids. About the first two he just mentioned their age. About the youngest he said “This one is the kid from hell”. I talked to him a bit more and realized that you can tell a lot about successful parenting from a parent’s ideology about whether they should control their kids or control themselves.

There is an area in the brain, a bit like a muscle, that is responsible for “self regulation”. Self regulation is the ability to control ourselves and not do things impulsively without thinking them through. People who are able to self regulate have better relationships, mange conflicts better, have more money, were more popular as kids and have less conflicts and problems in life.

This post is part 1 of 3 in the series Self Regulation

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October 22, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting, Personal Development Tags: behavior / discipline, choice, conflict, control, goals / goal setting, kids / children, money, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, planning, practical parenting / parents, relationships / marriage, success, teaching / teachers

Self Regulation: Research

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In my last post I wrote about the difference between parents who try to control their kids and those who are self controlled. It all depends on the “self regulation muscle”, which has three levels of strength: weak, medium and strong.

This week, I would like to share some research on self regulation that might help you on your parenting adventure. It may even help prevent conflict and disagreement in your other relationships.

Remember, it is called “self” regulation for a reason. It is not something you can do to someone else. You have to do it for yourself. This is what most parents do not understand. They try to enforce regulations, but they are an external force so it does not work as well.

This post is part 2 of 3 in the series Self Regulation

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October 28, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting, Personal Development Tags: attitude, choice, conflict, control, emotional development, empowerment, focus, goals / goal setting, imagination, kids / children, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, planning, positive attitude tips, practical parenting / parents, relationships / marriage, research, role model, time management

Self Regulation: Tips

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Self regulation is the ability to control ourselves and not do things impulsively. This skill is like a muscle – the more we practice, the stronger it gets. Once it is strong, it is much easier to resist temptation and function according to a “plan”, rather than going with whatever comes your way or whoever applies more pressure.

In the last two posts in this series, I explained the mechanism of self regulation and shared some research on its importance, particularly in parenting. Today, I want to share some tips with you on how to strengthen the self regulation ‘muscle’. It can be easy to find self control and be the role model you want to be for your children.

This post is part 3 of 3 in the series Self Regulation

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November 5, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting, Personal Development Tags: change, conflict, control, emotional intelligence, exercise, focus, food, hobbies, how to, imagination, kids / children, listening, meditation, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, sport, tips

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