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Relationship Problems: Why You Shouldn’t Ask Why

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Relationship problems are a natural part of life, and usually stems from either or both parties’ insecurity. Many people think that if they understand the source of a conflict, they will find a solution more easily. Sometimes, asking “Why?” helps, but often, it can cause more harm than good.

Why?

Because “Seek and you shall find”. When someone asks us a question, we activate a mechanism in the brain that searches for an answer. It will not rest until it finds one.

Questions are like playing “fetch” with a dog. Ask, and your mind’s “dog” will search for the “ball” (or “stick”).

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Published: February 24, 2021 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: February 24, 2021In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: questions, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, communication, emotional intelligence, relationships / marriage, conflict, sarcasm

How to Overcome Fight, Flight & Freeze in Relationships

Little girl looking happy and excited

There’s some amount of stress in every relationship, and we respond to it through Fight, Flight or Freeze. So how can we overcome these responses, relax and stay together?

Watching babies and toddlers playing “hide and seek” can teach us a lot about the human mind and how we can improve the relationship game.

Our granddaughter is 3 years old, and we look after her once or twice a week (lucky us). She loves to play “hide and seek”, and we all love to watch her having fun.

For a long time, we had to nominate a person to hide with her, so she would get the hang of it. Because whenever we asked, “Where is Ayla?” she would answer from her hiding place…

Hilarious, right?!

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Published: December 9, 2020 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 9, 2020In: Parenting Tags: conflict, anger, aggressive, stress / pressure, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, how to, fear, trust, relationships / marriage

Self-Regulation in Your Marriage

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Marriage is a give-and-take relationship. It succeeds when two people balance their own desires with those of their partner. If you have been married for a while, you know that this balancing act is not easy. It’s not easy because it requires regulation of thoughts, feelings and behaviors, and when this self-regulation takes too much energy, the person collapses and so does the relationship.

Regulation is a science. To understand why people reach this point of “no more” and consider separation or divorce, you need to know how to prevent yourself and your partner from reaching break point and how to separate external and internal regulation (self-regulation).

Regulation is the ability to control thoughts, feelings and behavior, instead of doing things on impulse. The more we practice, the stronger it gets, like a muscle. Once it is strong enough, it’s much easier to resist temptation and function according to a plan, rather than going with whatever comes our way or whoever applies more pressure. Just think of a baby that needs to hold his pee until he gets to the toilet. He needs to regulate his impulse to pee in his pants (or diaper).

Here are three research conclusions about self-regulations.

This post is part 1 of 33 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: November 21, 2018 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 20, 2018In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: time management, tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, planning, gratitude, responsibility, emotional intelligence, how to, relationships / marriage, conflict

Choice Theory Can Save Your Marriage

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Relationships are very sensitive. Bringing two people together creates lots of fun and joy, but at the same time, it creates conflict and pain. According to Choice Theory, we can develop habits that create more fun and joy and less conflict and pain.

Dr. William Glasser is an American psychiatrist I highly appreciate. He developed Reality Theory, which later became known as Choice Theory.

In the seventies, Glasser’s work was not widely accepted by his colleagues. While others thought that human behavior was affected by external sources, Glasser believed in personal choice, personal responsibility and personal transformation.

Other psychiatrists categorized certain behaviors as mental disorders and prescribed medication accordingly. Glasser believed he could teach his patients to make better choices to achieve better results.

He applied his theories to education, management and marriage. The examples I give in this post are relevant to marriage.

This post is part 32 of 33 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: October 17, 2018 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 17, 2018In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: communication, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, focus, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, how to, choice, control, change, relationships / marriage, conflict, attitude

Men vs. Women: 6 Stereotypical Differences

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For many years, I stayed out of the “men vs. women” debate, mainly because of my dad. He is an old man who grew up in a very patriarchal and chauvinistic society, yet is the most admirable example of gender equality.

My dad cooked, took care of the kids, helped us with our did homework, cleaned the house (inside and outside), brushed our hair, did arts and craft and was never ashamed of any of it. He had four daughters and one son and I thought he was fair and equal in his attitude to boys and girls.

In fact, my dad’s behavior cluttered my outlook on life in a way, because whenever I heard someone talking about the stereotypical man, I said, “This is not true, because my dad is different”. Now, I have to admit that I was wrong. There is something true about the stereotypes about men and my dad was the odd one out.

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Published: December 6, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: change, relationships / marriage, work life balance, society, women, conflict, communication, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, focus, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, gender, empathy, men, emotions, emotional intelligence, feeling, control, expectation

Disrespectful Behavior is a Mirror: Talk With Kids, Not At Them

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“Kids today are very disrespectful” is a common phrase I have heard a lot lately. Parents and teachers are very frustrated about this issue of respect. When children exhibit disrespectful behavior, they get into lots of conflicts and trouble and their ability to learn and absorb information is limited.

Respect is a very popular topic at home and at school. Most parents and teachers demand respect and by that, they do not understand that respect is earned and works like a mirror. When your behavior is disrespectful towards children, they will have no respect for you either.

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Published: November 10, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Parenting, Education / Learning Tags: relationships / marriage, practical parenting / parents, conflict, teaching / teachers, k-12 education, compassion, video, kids / children, teens / teenagers, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, school, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, role model, education / learning

The Devastating Relationship between Expectations and Conflicts

Couple under signs in opposite directions saying "I am right" and "Me too"

Conflicts determine the quality of every relationship. Even the most loving couples, friends or family members face conflict in their life. It is because we are different people, with different life experiences, tendencies, desires, fears, challenges and upbringing.

Every moment in time, whether we have judged it as a negative, positive or neutral, has molded us into the people we are today. We can define ourselves as the accumulation of all those split-second moments of experience and how they have affected us.

It is important to remember that even twins, having the same genetic code, do not have the same path in life, because each of them was in a different place in their mother’s womb, was born at a different time, has a different name and reacts differently to the same experiences. As hard as it may be to accept, the chances that two people will go through the same experience and come out of it the same way is zero.

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Published: August 16, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 20, 2022In: Personal Development Tags: happiness, hope, conflict, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, expectation, communication, emotional intelligence, change

How to Release Negative Emotions: 10 Constructive and Healthy Ways

Sad mask with bad feeling words and happy mask with good feeling words

Most people think that emotions are not controlled. They come and go from somewhere in the brain or the body, and we have no control over them. In my coaching, I come across this misconception with every new client. Usually, they are not happy about something in their life and they come to me because they do not think they can change it on their own.

In general, emotions are not a problem. If they are happy emotions and if we feel good about them, we do not want to change them. But if they are painful and make us uncomfortable, then we want them out of our system and fast – and usually for the right reason. Feelings manifest into our physical world. If you think of emotions as vibrations, then we feel their vibration in our body as a physical reaction.

When I was young, my younger sister and I were fans of Louise Hay’s book You Can Heal Your Life.

We borrowed it from the local library and she bought it for me as a birthday gift. In the book, Louise Hay describes the connection between body and mind and explains how every thought, feeling, idea and action has a physical manifestation.

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Published: August 9, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: stress / pressure, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, responsibility, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, emotions, meditation, feeling, how to, expectation, negative, happiness, conflict, positive attitude tips, tips

What Others Think about You Is … None of Your Business

Man covering his face with a mask showing words like meaning, persona, memory, conditioning, etc

When I was young, if someone asked me to complete the sentence “What others think about you is …” I would have said, “the most important thing in life”. I thought that, because of how I grew up. My mom, who is over 75 years old now, still thinks that we live to impress other people and navigate our life based on what they think about us.

When I studied Education, I realized that most parents in the world teach this to their kids. At first, they say, “Whatever your parents think about you is the most important thing in life”. Later on, they say, “What your teachers think about you is also important”.

They are all very surprised when their kids become teenagers and transfer this to their peers and add, “Whatever your friends think about you is the most important thing in the world”.

It is a natural progression. If you practice worrying and navigate your life based on what others think about you, you become good at … worrying and navigating your life based on what others think about you.

Simple!

When you follow this path, you never learn who you are and how to navigate life based on what you think of yourself.

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Published: August 4, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 2, 2020In: Parenting, Education / Learning Tags: positive attitude tips, teaching / teachers, responsibility, leadership, emotional intelligence, stress / pressure, how to, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, role model, behavior / discipline, fear, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, beliefs, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, rules, education / learning, Life Coaching, expectation, social skills, emotional development, conflict, practical parenting / parents

I am not Black, You are not White and We are not Labels

I have been doing diversity education for the last ten years. The more people I saw, the more I realized how important this work was. For some unknown reason, people like labels. They think that labels help them define the world. I believe they shrink the world, limit thinking and restrict our range of experiences.

When I was 21, I was greatly inspired by one of my psychology teachers at university. She came to class and asked us, “Who are you?” At first, we thought she was weird. Well, she was weird (at least this is how we labeled her), but the more we discussed this topic, the more we realized that this weird question was all about the labels we put on others to help us define ourselves.

In one of the classes, she asked me, “Ronit, who would you be if your parents gave you a different name?” I looked at her, unsure if I had understood the question. I was puzzled for a while, and then said, “Me!”

In our psychology classes, we discussed identity and how the labels we give to everything around us limit the range of the experiences we have. At one stage, she told us to move around the room based on our labels. She asked all females to move to one side, all males to the other. Then, she moved us around based on other labels we are given in everyday life, like height, age, race, religion, the area of the country where we grew up, etc. It didn’t take us long to realize that labels divide us into groups, and when this is done, it is very easy to control us.

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Published: February 25, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Personal Development, Parenting Tags: control, identity, conflict, social, video, diversity, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, special education, role model

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