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What Happens When You Fight

Have you ever wondered what happens to your kids when you fight with your partner? Have you ever asked them?

Well, I did today and I was surprised and it got me thinking.

My 15-year-old son Tsoof is now on holidays, so he and I go for a walk around the neighborhood together in the morning. He sometimes brings his guitar and we sing, much to the enjoyment of passersby, but other times, we talk. Today, he brought his guitar, but we talked anyway…

At first, I asked Tsoof, “When you and your friends talk about how annoying your parents are, what do you say?”

“Nothing”, he said, “I don’t think you’re annoying”.

“Isn’t there anything we do that bugs you in some way? After all, we’re not perfect”, I asked.

“Well, I really feel bad when you fight”, he admitted, “It makes me want to disappear”.

OK, OK, so the big secret is out. Life coaches or not, Ronit and I are sometimes under pressure too and when that happens, we argue, as we did recently, with our unfortunate kids being present. Being from a culture in which expressing how you feel might involve raising your voice and making theatrical gestures (to help emphasize your point), we dominated the family scene, which apparently troubled our kids.

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Published: December 15, 2010 by Gal Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting, Relationships / Marriage Tags: relationships / marriage, conflict, family matters, needs, kids / children, stress / pressure, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, communication, behavior / discipline, focus, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, how to

"Yes" parenting

Parenting can be really challenging at times. Any parent will tell you that sometimes the challenge is so big they feel out of control – not control over your kids, but control over your reactions to what your kids do or do not do. After all, you are the “captain” and it is your job to run the “ship”.

The discussion about discipline covers many topics – the rights of the parents, the strictness of the discipline, the collaboration between parents (or lack thereof), the alignment of values between home and school (or lack thereof) – the list of philosophical discussions is very long. I have found out through my workshops that parents have only that much ability to discuss the philosophical issues of parenting and most of the time, they just ask, “Ronit, what can I actually do?”

In the first years of my work with parents, I worried about that. I said to myself that without understanding the philosophy behind things, they would not be able to manage the next challenge, but I was wrong, because parents can be awesome even if they cannot explain their theories and even if they do not have a deep understanding of the human mind. Some things just make sense to them and if they try them and they work, they just continue doing them successfully.

Today, I want to talk about a parenting technique that has worked for me like magic. It has helped me a lot not to get into arguments with my kids or with the kids I have coached.

I learned this technique from my dad – not from him being a role model of it, but from him being a role model of the opposite…

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Published: October 11, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting Tags: family matters, positive, communication, kids / children, focus, behavior / discipline, responsibility, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, how to, trust, negative, control, conflict

What Parents and Kids Fight about

Having conflicts between parents and kids is one of the main issues that parents raise in our parenting workshops. No parent in the world dreams of arguing or fighting as parts of parenting. When kids are born and their parents watch them for hours sleeping in their crib or rattling toys with their tiny hands, none of them imagines ever fighting with this little creature that they loved so much.

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Published: May 26, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 24, 2019In: Parenting Tags: computer, relationships / marriage, conflict, poll, tv, sleep, attitude, kids / children, stress / pressure, communication, behavior / discipline, school, practical parenting / parents

Things Kids Never Argue With

I once said (OK, I have said it hundreds of time) that kids believe everything you tell them. The younger they are, the truer this statement is. Parents do not know they are lucky that their young kids do not question them as much as they should. In fact, because kids do not doubt what their parents say, I would like to encourage all the parents reading this post to take advantage of this phenomenon and plant good thoughts and beliefs in your kids’ little minds. So if you are a parent and you want to learn how to plant good thoughts in your children’s mind, buckle up and enjoy the ride.

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Published: March 9, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 24, 2019In: Parenting, Kids / Children Tags: control, rules, motivation, conflict, kids / children, stress / pressure, communication, behavior / discipline, early childhood, practical parenting / parents, how to, beliefs

Marriage and Money

Believe it or not, arguing about money is one of three main causes of divorce. Difference in priorities are a main cause of arguments in marriage and when divorce is considered an option, it is more likely that the couple will waste much of their energy on their biggest argument ever about money.

Chances are that partners in marriage have their own ways of spending and saving money. They bring their perception about money from their life before the marriage and many of them find it hard to strike a balance between what he wants and what she want, between what she thinks it is best and what he thinks it is best for the family’s future.

Here are some of the common conflicts around money:

1. What is necessary (food, clothes, jewelry, big screen TV…)?
2. Who needs to contribute more money (many high expectation from men and sometimes too high expectation by men themselves)?
3. Should homemaking be considered equal to financial contribution (try hiring a nanny, a chef, a cleaner, etc)?
4. Should we save for the future or enjoy life today?

When getting married, it is hard for a couple to estimate what their financial requirements will be. Every time they face a financial challenge, it hits them straight in the face and many couples, having poor money management skills, feel that there is just never enough money for what they want in life. Financially, the difference between single life and married life are huge.

Yes, if both husband and wife earned similar salaries, agreed on every cent they spent and the ways to save, many of them would not consider divorce so easily. There is a slim chance for you both to agree on every financial decision. Therefore, in marriage, it is wise to choose your financial battles.

This post is part 13 of 34 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: September 29, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 24, 2019In: Relationships / Marriage, Success / Wealth Tags: family matters, wealth, financial freedom, communication, money, success, emotional intelligence, divorce, relationships / marriage, conflict

13 Useful Conflict Resolution Steps You Need to Know

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Today, we are going to explore the way conflicts influence self-esteem and how learning good conflict resolution can boost your self-esteem.

Most of our conflicts with others are caused by mixed or contradicting interests. One person wants something and the other wants something else, and many times, it is impossible to compromise because there is nothing in the middle, or at least, both parties THINK there is nothing in the middle.

The main problem with conflict is that it is a magnifier. If you have low self-esteem and you find yourself in conflict, your low self-esteem will become even lower and you will have more doubts about yourself.

This post is part 13 of 20 in the series Self Esteem Mini-Course

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Published: July 25, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 16, 2020In: Parenting, Relationships / Marriage Tags: self confidence / self esteem / self worth, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, communication, emotional intelligence, relationships / marriage, assertive, conflict

Parents of Teenagers: This is How to Destroy Your Relationship

Excited teenagers at a music concert

As you know, teenagers are very close to my heart. At the age of 16, I decided it was time for people to change their attitude towards teens if they want them to change their attitude towards their life and the adults in their life. Especially parents of teenagers.

I was a bit shocked to realize that the relationship I had with my parents from an early age had led us into constant conflict during my teen years.

Until that point, I thought all teens hated their parents. I thought all parents of teenagers lost their kids’ respect and trust during adolescence. I knew that having these thoughts did not help teenagers or their parents.

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Published: July 21, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Parenting, Teens / Teenagers, Relationships / Marriage Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, practical parenting / parents, communication, projection, relationships / marriage, teen books, conflict, teens / teenagers, stress / pressure

Monkey See, Monkey Do

Father and son in the same pose

This week, I have read (again) an alarming statistic about the rate of divorce and the devastating effect of divorce on children. When I think about my parents, I know I need to thank them in every way I can for being able to handle all the conflicts between them and reach their 50th anniversary.

Conflicts between parents are inevitable. After all, Mom and Dad are two separate people, coming from different backgrounds and sharing life together – a house, romance, kids and finances – in hope of making it the best experience ever.

In research done in 1982 (R.E. Emery) and 1990 (E. Mark), it was found that even young kids are strongly hurt by their parents’ conflicts. It is actually possible to measure parents’ anger through their kids’ psychological, behavioral an emotional state. When I worked with groups of 2-4 year-olds, I could tell when there was tension at home or when one of the parents was away from home.

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Published: July 8, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 17, 2021In: Kids / Children, Parenting, Relationships / Marriage Tags: focus, emotional intelligence, how to, role model, relationships / marriage, conflict, positive attitude tips, kids / children, education / learning, communication, practical parenting / parents

Just Wait Until Your Kids Become Teens

Teen girl's legs in Converse shoes

About 16 years ago, I went to visit a family member, who had her first child at the age of 42. I was very happy for her and traveled for 2 hours to see her precious new baby.

She was so overwhelmed by the 10 days of the “mom experience” she had had – sleepless nights, initial breastfeeding pains and crying – that for about 3 hours, she kept saying to me, “Ronit, just wait until you have a baby. Then you’ll see”, and I just smiled.

You see, motherhood can be hard at first, but when she said that, my own daughter was already 3 years old and I loved every minute of raising her and considered it a lot more rewarding than difficult.

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Published: June 16, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: May 28, 2020In: Parenting, Teens / Teenagers, Relationships / Marriage Tags: conflict, family matters, law of attraction, k-12 education, kids / children, teens / teenagers, communication, education / learning, school, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, relationships / marriage, teen books

Beliefs of Assertive People

Assertive man

Assertive people have sets of beliefs that help them to be assertive. If you want to find out what you need to do to become an assertive person, examine your beliefs.

Here is a set of questions to help you examine your beliefs:

– What do I think about this belief?
– Where did I get this belief (past outcome, education, media, environment, creative thinking)?
– How old was I when I adopted this belief?
– Is this belief good for me to have?

This post is part 10 of 20 in the series Self Esteem Mini-Course

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Published: May 19, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 18, 2021In: Success / Wealth, Relationships / Marriage Tags: success, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, emotional intelligence, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, beliefs, empowerment, assertive, conflict, anger, aggressive, communication, behavior / discipline

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