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How to Vaporize Psychological Pain with Psychological Painkillers

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Everyone understands what physical pain is. And the medical world is full of treatments and painkillers to eliminate this pain. But psychological pain is not that well-known and treating it is a bit more challenging.

Physical pain comes from damage to the tissues of the body. Psychological pain is a suffering with no apparent physical origin. You can even say that all the feelings we don’t like – sadness, grief, anger, contempt, frustration, rage, depression, etc. – are forms psychological pain.

Physical pain is often localized, temporary and associated with some harmful or damaging physical trigger. Psychological pain is a more generalized, lasting, unpleasant feeling resulting from an inability of to cope with emotional challenges. But sometimes, it manifests just like physical pain does.

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Published: October 21, 2020 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 21, 2020In: Health / Wellbeing, Personal Development Tags: focus, how to, interpretation, tips, health / wellbeing, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, feeling

No More Disappointment: The Biggest Loser Leads the Dance

Teenage boy looking away

Many forms of therapy try to help the client overcome pain. One big source of pain starts during childhood, when kids, with their lack of life experience, feel that they are a disappointment to their parents. Here is the story of Simon, who believed he was the biggest loser in his parent’s eyes.

Simon was an angry and frustrated teenager when he came to sit with me on my life coaching deck. I read what he and his parents had written to me and felt frustrated to see how yet another whole family was a victim of circumstances. Parents’ love can be overwhelming sometimes and being unaware of feelings and lacking the ability to manage them sabotages the relationships at home.

Parents need courage to realize that they are the most powerful in this dysfunctional dynamic, but most of them feel helpless and send their kids to be “fixed”. A relationship with a child is a dance. Some parents do not understand that they need to lead.

This post is part 17 of 19 in the series From the Life Coaching Deck

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Published: March 15, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Parenting, Teens / Teenagers, Beautiful people Tags: perception, interpretation, positive attitude tips, teens / teenagers, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, emotional intelligence, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, beliefs, expectation, change, practical parenting / parents, Life Coaching

Reasons: The Search for Cause and Effect

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I often hear that finding the reasons for things we do is the way to have a happy life. There are many public claims that understanding why we do things cures bad decisions and is the way to contentment.

However, it is important to distinguish between the search for a reason and finding a reason. Searching for a reason is a continuous state of limbo, based on the belief there is one true reason for something. Finding a reason is just an illusion that the reason we found is the one true reason.

There is a big challenge in searching for the one reason, mainly because most of our decision making (in fact, more than 90%) is done by our subconscious mind, which means we are not aware of it. We only know of 10% of it.

Our conscious mind can process a limited number of thoughts and memories, so it is unlikely to lead us to the “right” reason, or right decision. At the same time, our subconscious mind can process millions of thoughts and memories in a split second. We can never hope to be aware of everything that goes on “down there”.

So in humans, the concept of cause and effect is not that simple. There is no single cause that will lead to the same effect.

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Published: July 28, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, assumptions, emotional intelligence, choice, control, happiness, interpretation, decision making

Your Child’s Subconscious Mind Has No Sense of Humor

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When people ask me to summarize my studies, I say they were all about how the brain works. The first four years focused on how to use this knowledge to stimulate learning. Later on, I learned how to work with the subconscious mind to avoid misery and have more success and more happiness.

Learning about the brain is a never-ending quest. There is much research in the world about the brain and its functions in health, in success, in relationships, in learning and in everyday life. Over the years, I have tried to share my learning about the brain and its functions through this blog, especially in relation to parenting and education.

Why parenting and education? Because these two areas are very close to my heart. Since you are reading this, you probably care about them too.

Today, I would like to share some insight that is very important in parenting and in education. I want to tell you how the conscious and the subconscious minds work. Specifically, I want to tell you about how the subconscious mind deals with humor.

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Published: July 12, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: July 12, 2016In: Parenting, Education / Learning Tags: values, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, emotional intelligence, emotional development, how to, practical parenting / parents, beliefs, Life Coaching, sarcasm, interpretation, humor, kids / children, communication, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, responsibility, behavior / discipline

Expressing Feelings in a Marriage

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Expressing feelings in a relationship is very important. Feelings are at the heart of every marriage. We get married because we love and have strong and positive feelings towards someone, and we choose to spend our lives and have children with him or her.

As long as we express those happy and wonderful feelings towards our partners, the more happy our relationship with them will be. Problems start when we express those not-so-happy feelings and this can easily get out of control.

Many of my relationship-coaching clients confuse between thoughts and feelings. They learned that expressing feelings was important so they added the phrase “I feel” into their communication. Unfortunately, instead of expressing feelings, they disguised thoughts as feelings.

Imagine your communication with your partner as a ball game. You can throw the ball in a way that your partner will catch or you can throw the ball in a way that will probably hurt them. One of these is called communication and is a constructive way to create a happy marriage. The other is called “the blame game” or painful communication and it contributes to struggles in a marriage. No one wants to play a ball game if they need to protect themselves from getting hurt.

This post is part 25 of 34 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: October 7, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 2, 2020In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: divorce, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, control, emotions, happiness, feeling, relationships / marriage, thought, perception, partner, conflict, frustration, communication, family matters, focus, interpretation, love, positive attitude tips, emotional intelligence, positive, negative

Complaining about the New Generation (Cont.)

Comparing between the old and new generations bring lots of grief to children today. Last week we talked about the dangers of comparing, the risks of having an old vs. new mentality. This time, I would like to offer a more even way of comparing. A perspective where the old generation, my generation, learns to appreciate what each of us has brought to the table, rater than idealizing the old way.

Try to figure out how old the grandmother is in this story.

One day, a young boy asked his grandma about her thoughts regarding changes that happened in the world since she was born. This is what she said…

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Published: May 23, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting Tags: generation gap, teens / teenagers, change, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, family matters, contribution, story, expectation, interpretation, practical parenting / parents, generation X, Generation Y, attitude, grandparents, grandchildren, beliefs, kids / children

Complaining about the New Generation

In my work with parents and teachers I hear lots of complaints about the “new generation”. Adults seem to think that “children these days are selfish, materialistic, impulsive and have no respect”. This makes me really worried. Not because kids today are like that but because the older generation, my generation, holds on to these thoughts. In life, we get what we focus on.

The rules of the self fulfilling prophecy claim that whenever you treat someone in a certain way, you will eventually make them behave like that. So, if the new generation is treated like they are disrespectful, selfish, materialist and impulsive, they will eventually be like that. In other word, you see the world through the lenses you put on. If you want to change what you see, change your lenses.

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Published: May 16, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting Tags: grandparents, grandchildren, beliefs, kids / children, generation gap, teens / teenagers, change, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, family matters, contribution, story, expectation, interpretation, practical parenting / parents, generation X, Generation Y, attitude

The Bystander Effect

Human behavior was always something that fascinated me. During my studies I learned about the difference between what people think they do and what they actually do. Since then I have been hooked. You see, when we are under pressure, we react differently to when we have time to think, analyze and react at our own pace.

Some people say that under pressure, we reveal our true selves. Others think it is the opposite – we are ourselves all the time and the ugly side of us comes out when we are pushed. I tend to think that when we are under pressure, our reptilian brain, the one in charge of “fight or flight”, takes over. Like a survival mechanism, we react instinctively to protect ourselves when we are stressed or we think we are in danger (whether that danger is real or perceived).

Often times, we see other people’s poor behavior and say, “Oh, I would have done it differently. I would have done such and such and I would have said so and so”. The truth is, we can speculate about what we might have said until we are blue in the face but until we are in a stressful situation, we will not know how we will react.

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Published: April 18, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Emotional Intelligence Tags: aggressive, teaching / teachers, emotional intelligence, determination, anxiety, assessment, interpretation, fear, decision making, choice, video, safety, attitude, security, questions, action, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, research, behavior / discipline, conflict, feeling

Wired for Happiness: Wires and Highways

Last time we talked about the snake brain. Even though our brain has 3 parts, each with different functions, the primitive snake brain is far superior when we are stressed. It has two main functions: (1) food (yummy, yummy!) and (2) protecting us from danger with a fight or flight response. Meanwhile, the puppy brain stores information as emotions and uses them to navigate us. For example, on a conscious level, we would label all kinds of anger with the same five letters: a.n.g.e.r. The puppy brain is able to distinguish between “I was slightly angry”, “I was angry”, “I was very angry” and “I was soooooooo angry”. In the brain, the feeling is stored along with its intensity.

Whenever something happens to us, the puppy brain searches our emotion bank for similar feelings we experienced in the past. This helps it decide how to translate the new information.

This post is part 2 of 3 in the series Wired for Happiness

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Published: April 2, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: anxiety, interpretation, choice, decision making, negative, positive attitude tips, beliefs, positive, empowerment, attitude, change, stress / pressure, happiness, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, memory, emotions, anger, feeling, focus, aggressive, thought, emotional intelligence, affirmations

Happiness and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

My mission today is to convince you, my readers, that even though we dedicate most of our energy to changing the circumstances of our lives, we would better off using most of it to change the beliefs that are causing them.

Every thought in our minds is either weak or strong, healthy or unhealthy for us. It is amazing how much energy we dedicate to strengthening each of our beliefs, whether they are healthy for us or not. This is done at a completely subconscious level. Whatever we think is an interpretation of the things around us, which we distort and delete to support our beliefs. If we think we are awesome and wonderful, we will interpret, delete and distort what is happening to us to strengthen this belief. Next time, our belief that we are awesome and wonderful will be even more solid. It is unfortunate that in the same way, if we think we are worthless and helpless, we will interpret, delete and distort what is happening to us to strengthen this belief. The thought that we are helpless and worthless gets more and more solid.

As you can see from my example, strengthening our beliefs works to our advantage only if we have healthy beliefs. It causes us discomfort and pain if we hold unhealthy ones.

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Published: March 14, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: perception, self-talk, interpretation, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotions, thought, emotional intelligence, beliefs, mind, happiness

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