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How to Have Better Communication with Children

Mother and 2 daughters

Communication works like a bee. It can produce honey or sting. It’s true. Our communication is the tool we have to connect or destroy relationship. To be better parents, we need to develop better communication with our children.

When our kids are born, they have full trust in us. They trust us with their life. They have to, because without us, they would die. Literally.

Over the years, that trust is gradually lost. Not because the kids grow out of it, but because the parents change the way they communicate with their children.

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Published: March 24, 2021 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 24, 2021In: Parenting Tags: communication, practical parenting / parents, how to, trust, communication styles, relationships / marriage, sarcasm, kids / children, behavior / discipline, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, guilt, emotional development

The Expectations Paradox: Mindfulness is the Cure

A tree with words about what love is

In the last two posts about the expectations paradox, I explained how expectations from others and ourselves can cause us lots of pain and why respect and acceptance are the keys to overcoming them. It is much better to be prepared for the future than to try to control a specific outcome. Today, I will describe how to develop respect and acceptance with mindfulness.

Mindfulness is a state of reflection with no judgment. This state is similar to mediation. We observe and do not let the ego interfere with our observation and tempt us to label and judge what we experience. In a mindfulness state, we do not give a rating to the event, thought or feeling. We only name it. In a higher state of mindfulness, even naming it is not necessary. We just notice.

I remember the first time I mediated. Gal and I were in California at a meditation course. Every week, we learned a different kind of meditation. We did walking, eating, light, mantra and visualizing meditations and we were very confused. Millions of thoughts ran through our minds and we had no control over them. When we got home, we went to sleep and felt overwhelmed.

This post is part 3 of 3 in the series The Expectations Paradox

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Published: September 13, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 21, 2022In: Personal Development Tags: change, communication styles, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, communication, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, responsibility, love languages, success, expectation, emotional intelligence, mindfulness, meditation, empowerment, control

The Expectations Paradox: Self-inflicted Pain

Rusty sign saying Welcome to Reality

In the last post about the paradox of expectations, I explained how unmet expectations can bring lots of misery to life when we do not understand them properly. Today, I will explore additional aspects of expectations and what happens to us when our expectations are not met.

Many people think that expectations are part of their identity. They expect so much of themselves that they believe this gives them the “right” to expect the same from others. I am sure that if you examine the definition of arrogance (“having or revealing an exaggerated sense of one’s own importance or abilities”), you will see someone who expects a lot from themselves and from others as arrogant. Thinking highly of yourself is great, but expecting others to fulfill your expectations is not!

Most people care a lot about what others think about them. They are in the approval trap and have the disease to please. It is very hard to be assertive and to take care of your own interests when you are busy pleasing others. It may be easier when you are young, but it becomes more complicated during the teenage years, when you realize that that some of the expectations of those around you contradict others.

More people find the pain we experience from unmet expectations unbearable. They think that life is hard when things do not happen the way they expect them to. But this is only because they believe life is supposed to work as they expect.

This post is part 2 of 3 in the series The Expectations Paradox

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Published: September 6, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 1, 2020In: Personal Development Tags: responsibility, expectation, success, mindfulness, emotional intelligence, empowerment, control, change, communication styles, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, communication, love languages

Children with the Kinesthetic Communication Style

Kinesthetic kids love mess. Two boys cutting out Halloween pumpkins

The idea that all kids are the same is false and brings parents and teachers into lots of trouble. Every time these kids are not “the same” as others, they think something is wrong with them. Nothing is wrong with them! They are just different and we should all be happy that there is not such a thing as “one size fits all”.

In my kids’ assessments, I check children’s communication styles. If I know their communication styles, I know what challenges they have and why, and I know the best ways to introduce new information to them.

During our sessions together, I pay attention to how they move. I check if they stand up while they work and if they move their legs or other body part. I notice if they are social and friendly and pay attention to how they talk about others. Moving a lot and talking about emotions, fairness, kindness and caring are typical for kinesthetic children.

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Published: July 26, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: August 13, 2020In: Parenting, Education / Learning Tags: social, academic performance, kinesthetic, school, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, touch, behavior / discipline, emotional intelligence, education / learning, motivation, practical parenting / parents, communication styles, teaching / teachers, learning styles, activity, assessment

Children with the Auditory Communication Style

Girl playing the piano

In my child assessments, I check children’s communication styles. I have been doing this for so long that my family members can sometimes identify the kids with auditory communication style right away, because they talk. A lot!

I usually pay attention to the way they use verbal stimulation to memorize things, if they whisper as they work and if they can repeat numbers and sounds. I also check the way they respond to verbal encouragement. Generally, they do much better when they can control their auditory space than when they are restricted.

Auditory kids are very influenced by the sounds around them and are unable to block them. They are very sensitive to arguments, shouting, yelling, crying, whining and scolding. Some of them say they feel pain when their teacher or parent shouts. Communicating with them in a loud voice may cause them to shut down completely. On the other hand, speaking to them in a soft, calm voice supports their learning greatly.

Children with the auditory communication style can learn anything, as long as it is associated with sound effects, a funny voice, an accent or even a lisp.

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Published: June 21, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 21, 2016In: Parenting, Education / Learning Tags: how to, practical parenting / parents, auditory, communication styles, affirmations, assessment, k-12 education, self-talk, questions, school, attention deficit / add / adhd, music, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, emotional intelligence, self confidence / self esteem / self worth

Don’t Clam Up

Clam shell

In previous chapters of the “Save your Marriage” series I explained the two communication patterns that can destroy every marriage: The king/queen and the nitpicker. As I said before, no one becomes a “king” or a “nitpicker” because they enjoy it. Most of the time, they do it on a subconscious level, because they grew up in a house where one or both parents were kings or nitpickers and made them feel small and helpless.

In the last chapters, I explained how parents who abuse or bully, like the “king/queen” or the “nitpicker”, can raise kids who are constantly on guard. In this chapter, I will explain how some parenting styles can “breed” kids who clam up and withdraw into their shells. This communication style can be very devastating for them in their future relationships and marriage.

This post is part 27 of 33 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: November 27, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 2, 2020In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: choice, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, change, emotions, communication styles, feeling, relationships / marriage, partner, hope, practical parenting / parents, conflict, communication, anger, focus, positive, abuse, kids / children, success, fear, self confidence / self esteem / self worth

Don’t Be On Guard

Fencing foil

In the last chapters of “Save Your Marriage”, I explained how some parenting styles can “breed” kids who clam up and withdraw into their shells. This communication style can be very devastating for them in their future relationships and marriage. In this chapter of the series, I will explain how parents who abuse or bully, like the “king/queen” or the nitpicker, can raise kids who are constantly on guard. These kids try to protect themselves from pain and heartache and by that, they invite bullies and conflicts into their lives.

Growing up in a household where you feel constantly attacked and ridiculed, where one or both of your parents make you feel small and helpless, where you have no support and protection, where one or both of your parents nitpick, criticize, complain, are never satisfied and often angry, can make children alert and hypersensitive to any small signs that someone is going to hurt them.

This is actually a very natural reaction, in an attempt to protect themselves. But when taken into adulthood, into relationships or marriage, it can be very damaging. There is a phrase, the best defense is offense. These kids adopt this philosophy because they were attacked a lot. As a result, they sometimes see an attack when there is none. They are very sensitive to criticism and their emotional state is “I am not OK, You’re not OK” (see series I’m OK, You’re OK Parenting for tips on emotional intelligence).

This post is part 26 of 33 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: November 20, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 29, 2018In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: self confidence / self esteem / self worth, change, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, happiness, partner, Life Coaching, practical parenting / parents, communication styles, relationships / marriage, conflict, positive, communication, kids / children, abuse, emotional intelligence, tips, negative

The Nitpicker

Nit comb

In the last chapter of save your marriage, I explained how a “king/queen” mentality can impact even the most wonderful of relationships. Over time, kings only strengthen their position of feeling superior, which can drive any “servant” out of the relationship.

In this chapter, I will talk about the king’s cousin, the nitpicker.

In a similar way to the king who adopts his mentality from his upbringing, the nitpicker adopts his habits from his parents. Growing up with a parent who is a nitpicker starts a pattern that children carry on into adulthood. Depending on their emotional state, kids will choose to either adopt or totally reject this mentality. They will either be like their parents or avoid their company and adopt a completely new way to communicate. This is not a conscious decision. Most people are not even aware that they do it. That is why external help is necessary if you want to change from a nitpicking communicating style.

This post is part 24 of 33 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: September 23, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 29, 2018In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: how to, negative, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, control, feeling, separation, partner, change, planning, happiness, practical parenting / parents, communication styles, relationships / marriage, communication, hope, focus, family matters, success, kids / children

Choice Theory: Happy Business

Which direction to take?

In the last two posts on “choice theory,” I covered William Glasser’s reality theory and the seven deadly and caring habits and their impact on relationships and parenting.

Glasser’s choice theory helped not just individuals but also organizations like schools and businesses to enable management, workers, and students to take part in the system using internal motivation and avoid conflicts.

Every business transaction (and schooling is similar) is a transaction in relationship. We call good relationship a good business transaction, and conflict, anger, disappointment, and frustration a bad business transaction. For a business to succeed, it needs to establish good relationship between all participants and connect well. Glasser called it “Lead Management.” Using the choice theory in business, employees, managers, suppliers, and clients replace external control with internal control based on happy and successful relationship and are very much dependent on the managers, who lead the organizations.

This post is part 4 of 6 in the series Choice Theory

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Published: October 10, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 10, 2013In: Emotional Intelligence Tags: gratitude, decision making, responsibility, leadership, success, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, evaluation, choice, guilt, failure, identity, Life Coaching, communication styles, listening

Teaching & Education Beliefs: I Am an Educator

Pile of small chalkboards

In today’s part of Teaching & Education Beliefs, I want to share with you the first 20 of the top 100 beliefs I have about teaching and education.

Last week we discussed where beliefs about teaching come from: from our parents and our own teachers. In this post, I want to share some helpful tips that I found useful through my career.

1. I am an educator. I teach, I coach, I present, I motivate, I do public speaking, I write, I do my community work. In all those roles, I educate kids and grownups on how to find the gifts they have inside and let themselves shine.

2. School is not a place where kids come to gain knowledge; it is a small version of real life. Children have opportunities to use trial and error without detrimental consequences. Kids come to school to learn about themselves, grow and evolve.

This post is part 2 of 6 in the series Teaching & Education Beliefs

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Published: June 6, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Education / Learning Tags: activity, success, k-12 education, emotional intelligence, academic performance, how to, attitude, books, kids / children, action, teens / teenagers, beliefs, tips, empowerment, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, communication styles, education / learning, learning styles, school, reading, teaching / teachers, touch

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