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Attachment Theory: Main Characteristics of Attachment

Baby boy in a sailors hat sitting in a lifesaver float

The emotional bond between people depends on their ability to connect and the style of the connection. The attachment we have with the people in our lives (partners, children, siblings, friends and even our own parents) are strongly associated with the attachment we formed in our early years of life, with our primary caregiver (usually our parents). Similarly, the challenges we experience in our relationships as adults are shaped by the patterns of challenge from our early attachments.

According to John Bowlby, attachment is the connection a baby forms with its parent to ensure their basic needs of safety, comfort, care and pleasure are met. He described this attachment as “lasting psychological connectedness between human beings”. Bowlby believed that the style of the relationship between the parent (mainly the mother) and the child in this critical period of the baby’s development becomes a blue print for later relationships.

The main idea of attachment theory is that the caregivers provides the baby with a safe and secure base from which to explore the world. The baby knows that it is safe to venture out and explore the world, and that the caregiver will always be there to come back to for comfort in times of stress and discomfort.

This post is part 1 of 6 in the series Attachment Theory

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Published: February 12, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: February 29, 2020In: Parenting, Kids / Children Tags: family matters, security, needs, research, kids / children, separation, stress / pressure, mother, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, father, baby / babies, communication, mom, feeling, early childhood, dad, emotional development, anxiety, toddlers, practical parenting / parents, anger, trust, aggressive, safety

Ronit’s 100 Happy Valentine’s Day Tips

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This year, Gal and I are celebrating our 34th Valentine’s Day and we are very proud and happy to be together. We are also sad to look around and see that fewer and fewer couples are able to find happiness and love on this day. Over the last five years, more of my clients experienced relationship breakdowns than ever before. Divorce and separation are very sad and challenging for the couple and for their families.

This week, I received a request from a radio show to share 5 Valentine’s Day tips with their listening couples. This made me think that I have many more tips and the fill list from my relationship tool kit is below.

I highly recommend having such a list for yourself. If you could give other couples advice on how to have a happy relationship, what would you say? Write down your ideas and read them every once in a while (even I have to read my own advice from time to time, especially in tough times).

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Published: February 10, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: relationships / marriage, expectation, love, conflict, partner, money, family matters, list, hugs, needs, forgiveness, how to, positive attitude tips, choice, positive, trust, tips, divorce, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, valentine's day, love languages, change, freedom, happiness, feeling, touch

Shaming Kids: Good Parenting or Not?

Shaming kids - girl covering her face from pointed fingers all around

From time to time, I hear or read about parents who shame their kids in public as a way to “teach them a lesson”. I think Shaming kids is a very bad idea.

Shame is one of the most debilitating feelings. It can make people, young and old do horrible things. Many grownups I work with are trying to overcome a combination of guilt and shame which is impacting their lives. These feelings are born in childhood, when parents use this combination as an incentive, thinking, “If I shame you enough, you will feel guilty and the guilt and shame will prevent you from doing it next time”.

I grew up in a house that thought where shaming kids and using guilt were major tools in the parenting tool box. If parenting practices are the tools, my parents used a hammer. Yet my parents grew up with parents of their own who used this hammer as an educational tool.

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Published: January 27, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Parenting, Kids / Children Tags: attitude, fear, kids / children, father, behavior / discipline, change, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, motivation, feeling, anger, frustration, aggressive, guilt, poll, practical parenting / parents, focus, family matters, abuse, bullying, depression, video

Handy Family Tips: How to Get Kids to Eat Vegetables

Kid eating corn

Vegetables are good for our health, but they are not very popular. I think this is because the advertising departments of junk, sugary and chocolaty food companies are much better than the advertising departments of vegetable companies. It is very simple. If we had the same publicity for vegetables that we do for junk food, it would be easy to get kids to eat vegetables and they would do it happily.

Even more than advertising, the best way to get kids to eat vegetables is to love eating vegetables yourself and to buy lots of them for your home. If this is what kids have on hand, this is what they will eat. Obviously, this is not as easy to do as we might think. Otherwise, everyone would do it and every kid in the world would eat vegetables at every meal.

The A-Z Vegetable Challenge

One of the tricks I offer to my clients to get kids to eat vegetables and overcome eating problems is the A-Z Vegetable Challenge. Starting with the letter A, the family chooses a vegetable beginning with that letter to focus on for the week, to learn about, research, cook with and eat.

This post is part 21 of 24 in the series Handy Family Tips

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Published: January 22, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: May 17, 2021In: Parenting, Health / Wellbeing Tags: kids / children, art, tips, how to, health / wellbeing, education / learning, food, practical parenting / parents, lifestyle, family matters, activity, fun, cooking

Raising Babies: Talk, Talk, Talk

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I have three kids and they all started talking very early. Many new parents ask me if it is better for babies to talk early or not? Is it something they are born with?

Firstly, I personally do not think this is hard-wired. There is no timer in the brain of a baby that says, now you are 1 years old, you should start saying words. It is very much dependent on the stimulation the baby gets from their environment.

Secondly, babies who can communicate early are very easygoing babies.

Why?

Because they can express themselves and are not as frustrated as a baby who uses sounds to communicate.

This post is part 6 of 7 in the series Raising Babies

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Published: January 20, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 2, 2020In: Babies / Maternity, Parenting Tags: language, family matters, environment, kids / children, behavior / discipline, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, baby / babies, education / learning, communication, emotional development, early childhood, practical parenting / parents

Family Matters Wishes You Happy Holidays and a Happy 2015

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The end of the year is fast approaching. It has been another full year and it looks like it is going to end with some great changes for us. My family and I are going on a fantastic holiday just before Eden, my eldest, moves in with her fiancé and begins preparations for their wedding in 2015.

As at the end of every year, I am writing a summary of our adventures for the year. Here is my summary for 2014.

2014 has been a very full and active year for the Be Happy in LIFE family. Our children have enjoyed a great year and we had lots of opportunities for “pride therapy”.

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Published: December 4, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Personal Development, Success / Wealth Tags: change, happiness, motivation, family matters, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, list, goals / goal setting, success, books, holidays

Raising Babies: Extended Family can be Bliss

Grandparents with grandchildren

Your extended family can be a great help once a new baby arrives. I didn’t understand just how much until Eden was born. I was in my last year of university and working full time. My parents lived over 3 hours drive from us.

I never had a close bond with my mom. When others talked about having their moms around when you had a baby, I didn’t really know what to think about it. When Eden was born, I was in hospital for 10 days. I got a terrible infection and my mom came to stay with us after we were discharged from hospital because I had to go back every day to change my bandages.

We got home and I didn’t really know what would happen. But my mom incredible. She had already had 5 kids of her own and she knew exactly what to do. She said to me, “You focus on eating, sleeping and breastfeeding” and that is exactly what I did. Meanwhile, she cooked, cleaned and played with Eden, massaged her and sang songs. I never knew my mom could be like that. She was awesome.

This post is part 4 of 7 in the series Raising Babies

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Published: November 25, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: February 29, 2020In: Babies / Maternity, Parenting Tags: mom, grandchildren, change, kids / children, food, baby / babies, relationships / marriage, health / wellbeing, assertive, practical parenting / parents, family matters, sleep, needs, positive, grandparents

Expressing Feelings in a Marriage

Married couple walking down the road

Expressing feelings in a relationship is very important. Feelings are at the heart of every marriage. We get married because we love and have strong and positive feelings towards someone, and we choose to spend our lives and have children with him or her.

As long as we express those happy and wonderful feelings towards our partners, the more happy our relationship with them will be. Problems start when we express those not-so-happy feelings and this can easily get out of control.

Many of my relationship-coaching clients confuse between thoughts and feelings. They learned that expressing feelings was important so they added the phrase “I feel” into their communication. Unfortunately, instead of expressing feelings, they disguised thoughts as feelings.

Imagine your communication with your partner as a ball game. You can throw the ball in a way that your partner will catch or you can throw the ball in a way that will probably hurt them. One of these is called communication and is a constructive way to create a happy marriage. The other is called “the blame game” or painful communication and it contributes to struggles in a marriage. No one wants to play a ball game if they need to protect themselves from getting hurt.

This post is part 25 of 34 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: October 7, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 2, 2020In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: love, positive attitude tips, emotional intelligence, positive, negative, divorce, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, control, emotions, happiness, feeling, relationships / marriage, thought, perception, partner, conflict, frustration, communication, family matters, focus, interpretation

The Nitpicker

Nit comb

In the last chapter of save your marriage, I explained how a “king/queen” mentality can impact even the most wonderful of relationships. Over time, kings only strengthen their position of feeling superior, which can drive any “servant” out of the relationship.

In this chapter, I will talk about the king’s cousin, the nitpicker.

In a similar way to the king who adopts his mentality from his upbringing, the nitpicker adopts his habits from his parents. Growing up with a parent who is a nitpicker starts a pattern that children carry on into adulthood. Depending on their emotional state, kids will choose to either adopt or totally reject this mentality. They will either be like their parents or avoid their company and adopt a completely new way to communicate. This is not a conscious decision. Most people are not even aware that they do it. That is why external help is necessary if you want to change from a nitpicking communicating style.

This post is part 24 of 34 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: September 23, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 29, 2018In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: family matters, success, kids / children, how to, negative, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, control, feeling, separation, partner, change, planning, happiness, practical parenting / parents, communication styles, relationships / marriage, communication, hope, focus

Parenting 101: Top Parenting Essentials

Happy parents with toddler and baby

After coaching so many parents, and raising my own kids, I have accumulated many essential parenting tips that I want to share with you. I hope you find them useful.

Take care of your happiness first. Just like they tell you on a plane, you should put the oxygen mask on your own face before helping your kids. If you want to raise happy kids, you must take care of your own happiness first. If you do not have oxygen, you are no good to your kids. Happy Parents Raise Happy Kids.

Be positive. It is very easy to notice what your kids are doing wrong but harder to pay attention to the great things they are doing. Parents tend to take the good things for granted. In life, you get what you focus on and parenting is exactly the same. If you focus on good thing, you will have more of them. If you focus on problems, conflicts, difficulties, bad manners, you will have more of them. If you notice your child doing something good, say it! Praise kids for being kind, congratulate them for making an effort, acknowledge their kindness and you will see more of it.

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Published: August 22, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: April 20, 2020In: Parenting Tags: relationships / marriage, tips, how to, intelligence, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, role model, success experience, health / wellbeing, choice, family matters, focus, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, safety, decision making, school, education / learning, beliefs, compassion, responsibility, frustration, research, needs, values, emotional development, empowerment, positive, skills, practical parenting / parents, identity, literacy, money, change, leadership, success, happiness, kids / children, meditation

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