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Attachment Theory: Main Characteristics of Attachment

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The emotional bond between people depends on their ability to connect and the style of the connection. The attachment we have with the people in our lives (partners, children, siblings, friends and even our own parents) are strongly associated with the attachment we formed in our early years of life, with our primary caregiver (usually our parents). Similarly, the challenges we experience in our relationships as adults are shaped by the patterns of challenge from our early attachments.

According to John Bowlby, attachment is the connection a baby forms with its parent to ensure their basic needs of safety, comfort, care and pleasure are met. He described this attachment as “lasting psychological connectedness between human beings”. Bowlby believed that the style of the relationship between the parent (mainly the mother) and the child in this critical period of the baby’s development becomes a blue print for later relationships.

The main idea of attachment theory is that the caregivers provides the baby with a safe and secure base from which to explore the world. The baby knows that it is safe to venture out and explore the world, and that the caregiver will always be there to come back to for comfort in times of stress and discomfort.

This post is part 1 of 6 in the series Attachment Theory

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February 12, 2015 by Ronit Baras In: Kids / Children, Parenting Tags: anxiety, toddlers, practical parenting / parents, anger, trust, aggressive, safety, family matters, security, needs, research, kids / children, separation, stress / pressure, mother, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, father, baby / babies, communication, mom, feeling, early childhood, dad, emotional development

Talking Down at Your Kids

I often observe parents as they interact with their children and listen to how they use language and tone of voice. All too often, they “talk down” at their kids, rather than having a conversation with them, and that saddens me.

Think back to a time when somebody talked down at you. Maybe it was your boss, maybe it was your own parents and maybe it was your partner. Not a good feeling, right?

Did you feel any respect? How did you think the other person was perceiving you? Did they treat you as an independent, capable human being or see you only from their own perspective? Were they driven by love or perhaps by fear?

Let’s start with the language.

Many parents ask their kids closed or single-choice questions, like “Did you have a good day today?” “Do you have any homework?” “That was great fun, wasn’t it, honey?” “How about we go shopping first and then you can play?” or “Do you want to use the blue crayon for the sky?”

Closed questions are used to instruct and control, because the little person’s choice is limited to agreement or disagreement with something that is actually a statement. So basically, when you ask your child a closed question, you are telling them your opinion and trying to manipulate them into going along with it (or else).

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October 11, 2012 by Gal Baras In: Parenting Tags: motivation, family matters, communication, kids / children, early childhood, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, emotional intelligence, behavior / discipline, how to, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, choice, practical parenting / parents, trust, control, identity, toddlers

Mirror Mirror on the Wall

Raising kids with confidence has been my goal ever since I started studying education. It was funny to discover along the way that teaching my kids knowledge was not going to make them successful and happy in life. At first, I was a bit disappointed to discover this, but as I have chosen to focus on the role of the most important agents – parents and teachers – in raising happy, confident, successful, healthy and friendly kids, I kept searching for ways that work.

I have 3 kids of my own and they are everything a parent can dream of. They are “the full package”. One of my friends told me that if she did not know them, she would think I was making them up. Almost every person who meets my kids asks us, “How did you do it?” Modestly, we say we were lucky, and we were. I am convinced that some things were just lucky, but no one wants to know about your luck, because luck is not something you can bring into your life. So these people say, “Come on, Ronit, tell us how you did it”.

I think I am using this parenting blog to say how I did it. As of today, there are 911 posts (is this a sign?) explaining how 3 kids in big differences in age, each born in a different place in the world, who each went through many changes in their life, can all be their parents’ bliss.

Today, I want to share with you a very easy trick to raise such kids. I call it “the mirror trick”.

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April 23, 2012 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting Tags: emotional intelligence, home / house, how to, identity, toddlers, happiness, kids / children, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, baby / babies, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, early childhood, practical parenting / parents

Sleep Problems with Kids

This is the message from Julia, describing her sleep problem with her daughter. When she sent me the question, it was easier for me to give her a call and answer her question, but I wanted to share it with you too, just in case you are having similar challenges.

Hi Ronit,

I have looked around your site to try and find some info on sleep problems with kids but had no luck. I know you are very busy, but thought I would ask just in case you can direct me to something that could help me?

My 8 1/2 yr old daughter cannot put herself to sleep, we have her in a single bed next to ours, and one of us has to go to bed at the same time as her, and usually we fall asleep, as it takes her a while to nod off. So as you can see, there is never any ”adult time” in our house. Things are getting rather desperate, as it creates a lot of problems as you can imagine. Hoping you might have time at some point to help me.

Thank you,

Julia.

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July 19, 2010 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting, Ask Ronit Tags: rules, change, toddlers, lifestyle, sleep, kids / children, communication, behavior / discipline, practical parenting / parents, early childhood, how to, beliefs

Celebrating first birthdays

My kids had their one year old birthday years ago. Eden, my eldest, had her first birthday 20 years ago. She was our first and it was a fun party.

Some friends said to us, “It’s silly to have a party for a 1-year-old, because they don’t understand what’s going on and will never remember”.

Recently, my two sisters had their sons’ first birthdays. People around them said that it was not worth the effort, because the kids would not understand it was their birthday and would never remember it anyway. That brought back all my memories about my kids’ first birthdays.

I am not sure what people mean when they say kids do not “understand”. What is there to understand? And what do they mean when they say this kids will not “remember”? Do they mean the food?

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July 5, 2010 by Ronit Baras In: Babies / Maternity, Parenting Tags: happiness, family matters, baby / babies, practical parenting / parents, early childhood, love, choice, toddlers

Rescuers

At the beginning of their life, all kids are helpless. Therefore, all parents quickly develop the habit of doing things for them – feeding them, cleaning them, dressing them and keeping them warm. Unintentionally, this also fulfils the parents’ need for certainty and control – the baby will be OK as long as the parents do things properly and the baby does nothing to mess things up.

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May 6, 2009 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting, Relationships / Marriage Tags: toddlers, relationships / marriage, story, kids / children, focus, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, success, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, how to, fear, trust, control

How to Choose a Day Care Center?

Little girl at the kindergarten sand pit

Choosing a day care center for our kids requires self-testing. No doubt, the right choice can determine our kids’ happiness and can, in time, save us a great deal of energy and heartache when we move them from one place to another.

When you choose any day care center (I have to say I would not use the term “day care” because any place, which takes care of kids, needs to provide a lot more than just care. It needs to be a loving, nurturing, happy place), it is very important to make sure the center’s philosophy matches the parents’ philosophy.

A conflict between the two will always be reflected in the kids’ behaviour. Many behaviour problems of kids in the early years and even during school years are a reflection of the conflict between their parents and the system.

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March 17, 2008 by Ronit Baras In: Ask Ronit, Kids / Children, Parenting, Education / Learning Tags: focus, baby / babies, early childhood, values, how to, preschool, kindergarten, toddlers, child care, positive attitude tips

Optimism or "What’s the big fuss about Emotional Intelligence (Emotional Quotient)?"

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Since the Be Happy in LIFE program and the Garden of Eden program are based on promoting Emotional Intelligence, I have been asked many times to explain the main idea behind them.

Although Emotional Intelligence (EQ – Emotional Quotient) became popular after the publication of Daniel Goleman’s Book, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, in 1995, it was researched and developed during the 70’s and 80’s.

It was psychologist Howard Gardner’s book Frames of Mind, Frames of Mind: The Theory of Multiple Intelligences, which began the development of EQ.

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March 3, 2008 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting, Education / Learning, Emotional Intelligence, Kids / Children Tags: failure, kindergarten, toddlers, focus, communication styles, early childhood, learning styles, school, child care, values, k-12 education, success, positive attitude tips, emotional intelligence, education / learning

The Be Happy in LIFE Kids Coaching Program

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Last month, I wrote about the reasons we as parents need to appreciate and use coaching as a parenting tool.

Today, I would like to tell you a little bit about how it all started for me and introduce the Be Happy in LIFE kids coaching program.

It all started 18 years ago, when I wrote the Garden of Eden program, which put most of the emphasis emotional intelligence. I started an early childhood center with kids aged 1½ to 4 and proved that excellence depends on the teaching, not on the kids.

In the 2 years that followed, the kids at my center accomplished things that blew their parents away. They put together puzzles with many pieces very quickly, they built elaborate constructions, they painted the walls, they recognized written words and lots more. Oh, yes, and they ate healthy food and boasted about it.

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February 21, 2008 by Ronit Baras In: Life Coaching, Parenting, Kids / Children Tags: kids coaching, kindergarten, toddlers, early childhood, happiness, success, learning disabilities, emotional intelligence, child care, family matters, mother, k-12 education, father, academic performance, mom, practical parenting / parents, dad, teaching / teachers

How to Stimulate Auditory Kids

Auditory child's hands playing piano

Auditory kids pay the most attention to sounds. To them, voices, tones, pitches and rhythms provide a wealth of information and carry emotions that other kids simply ignore. They have superior abilities to “record” and “play back” TV shows, skits, songs and conversations. On the other hand, they are sequential thinkers and must be able to focus on one thing at a time.

Auditory kids can often be distinguished by the way they look down and talk to themselves. Their self-talk is often louder than what goes on in the outside world. On the other hand, they are distracted by sounds and disturbed by unpleasant or loud noises.

Here are some ideas that will help auditory kids learn better, be happier and love learning.

This post is part 4 of 4 in the series How to Stimulate Kids

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January 22, 2008 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting, Education / Learning, Kids / Children Tags: practical parenting / parents, auditory, preschool, kindergarten, toddlers, communication styles, learning styles, learning disabilities, child care, communication, k-12 education, early childhood

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