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Should My Child Repeat a Year at School?

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Last week, I got another letter asking “Why and when should children repeat a year of school?” Here is the letter and my answer for you to read, because I get many similar questions and I am sure many parents will find the answer useful.

“My daughter is 8 years old and will go to year 5 this year. She is quite young for her class and is studying with much older children. She is academically an average child and it is quite stressful to keep her where she is. We work very hard at home. Many a times she has mentioned that she finds Math difficult, but the teacher feels she is ready for the next class.

My daughter has a couple of good friends in the class but finds it difficult to be make new friends. When she does not win in various competitive activities, she gets very disheartened as she feels she really worked hard for it. I can understand it’s not easy to compete with older children. Many times, she finds it difficult to complain the teacher about the girls who trouble her, so in a way I would say she is not mature. On the other hand, she is a confident girl. She does speech and drama, dance and other few activities. We feel she should repeat the year, we have been toying with this since last couple of years but now we feel it is high time.

I am concerned about two things: my daughter is quite tall and since she is in year 4, will she cope well emotionally?

I am quite stressed as the school starts next week and we need to talk to the school management. Please can you advise if this is the right way for her?”

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Published: February 3, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: February 3, 2016In: Parenting, Ask Ronit Tags: how to, choice, change, parent coaching, social skills, k-12 education, academic performance, kids / children, education / learning, school, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence

Ask Ronit: My Son is Very Clingy

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Clingy kids can be very exhausting. We love them very much but we want to be able to do things without them from time to time. I have met many parents who are fighting this clinginess and they express a lot of frustration. I think the exhausting thing not necessary the clinginess itself. It is more from the fight, the feeling of failure and the expectation that it should be different.

This week, I received a question on my blog from a mother of a 9 year old boy. Mel wanted to know what I would suggest for dealing with a clingy child.

Here is what I wrote Mel. I hope you will find it encouraging. Most importantly, it is not as bad as it looks.

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Published: April 15, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Ask Ronit, Parenting Tags: tips, love, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, success, feeling, how to, expectation, failure, frustration, control, emotional development, mother, practical parenting / parents, hope, success experience, questions, kids / children

What Does Children’s Behavior Mean?

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This week, a client of mine asked about her son’s behavior. Thomas, her 3-year-old son, does not know what to do when kids take things from him. Sharon, his mum, says he starts crying immediately. She is worried that this will be his behavior in the future. She wrote in her email to me, “If a child cries when kids take toys from him, does it mean he will grow up to use crying whenever things do not go his way?”

The simple answer is:

No. Just because kids do certain things do when they are young, does not mean they will do them as adults.

Kids are inexperienced in searching for ways to get what they want. They have had limited exposure to “life” so they use more primitive and intuitive ways of getting things. When they were born, all they knew how to do was cry. And they found it to be an effective way to get what they needed. We all used crying as a method when we were babies, but that does not mean we do it now that we are grown up, at least, not in the same way.

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Published: October 31, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Ask Ronit, Kids / Children Tags: social skills, conflict, social, kids / children, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, education / learning, skills, emotional development, practical parenting / parents, action, mother

Discipline in Question

The topic of disciplining kids is going to be forever hot for every parent. It is a hot topic because it bothers many parents and it is hot because too many parents find themselves in a huge conflict over it. Here is a question I got about discipline from a reader.

“Hi Ronit,

My husband and I do not agree on the right way to raise the kids. I spend most of the time with them and he works until late and on the weekends he needs to rest and goes out with his friends.

This week, he said to me that his job is to be the provider and my job is to discipline the kids and that I was failing as a parent. He said that if he was my boss, he would fire me. He thinks I am not objective towards my kids and I do not prepare them for real life.

What is your opinion about discipline?

Gina”

Dear Gina,

How to discipline kids, what is discipline and related issues are a source of friction almost in every home. I think your husband has expectations from you and your children that are probably based on his definition of good parenting and discipline, which I am not sure are healthy, although they were very typical 20 to 30 years ago when he was a child.

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Published: September 30, 2011 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting, Ask Ronit, Kids / Children Tags: motivation, communication, family matters, focus, kids / children, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, love, behavior / discipline, responsibility, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, how to, choice, beliefs

Sleep Problems with Kids

This is the message from Julia, describing her sleep problem with her daughter. When she sent me the question, it was easier for me to give her a call and answer her question, but I wanted to share it with you too, just in case you are having similar challenges.

Hi Ronit,

I have looked around your site to try and find some info on sleep problems with kids but had no luck. I know you are very busy, but thought I would ask just in case you can direct me to something that could help me?

My 8 1/2 yr old daughter cannot put herself to sleep, we have her in a single bed next to ours, and one of us has to go to bed at the same time as her, and usually we fall asleep, as it takes her a while to nod off. So as you can see, there is never any ”adult time” in our house. Things are getting rather desperate, as it creates a lot of problems as you can imagine. Hoping you might have time at some point to help me.

Thank you,

Julia.

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Published: July 19, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting, Ask Ronit Tags: how to, beliefs, rules, change, toddlers, lifestyle, sleep, kids / children, communication, behavior / discipline, practical parenting / parents, early childhood

How to get your kids to help

I recently got this question from a mother:

“I agree with a lot of your parenting style but I set clear rules and boundaries but you say not to punish. What happens when your teens will not put their dishes in the dishwasher, won’t clean their room, or basically not do anything you ask. I even say please have your room cleaned by Sunday evening, giving them the choice and responsibility to do it. If I remind or ask again on Sunday evening, I am nagging.

How do you approach these situations?

We have 3 teens and a 24yr old at home, none of them pick up after themselves. We do and try to lead by example but nothing changes and I don’t want arguments anymore.

Thanks, Tina”

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Published: May 31, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting, Ask Ronit Tags: lifestyle, family matters, household chores, kids / children, teens / teenagers, behavior / discipline, responsibility, practical parenting / parents, how to, choice, change, motivation

Repeating a Year (revisited)

The topic of repeating a year bothers many parents. Recently, I was asked by another parent for advice on this matter. I have chosen to present her story here and hope other parents will benefit from my advice.

She write: “Last night I read your comments to Repeating a School Year, which is our own situation. My boy was also born in May and he started school when he was 4 & half years old. We struggled throughout his school years. I felt exactly the same like Mama Fiona – I also found a huge maturity difference to his peers who are 1 year older in most cases. Academically he is sound but struggles to remain there, and keeping him focused is a constant battle. My gut is telling me he needs to repeat, more so for confidence and to help him settle better with kids his own age. School is resisting this as academically he is not well below.”

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Published: February 8, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Education / Learning, Ask Ronit, Parenting Tags: academic performance, kids / children, friends / friendship, school, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, how to, choice, change, happiness, social skills, k-12 education

Repeating a School Year

Last week, I received the email below from one of the readers of Family Matters about whether or not her son should repeat a year at school. I am choosing to post my reply here, because I have been asked this question many times.

Hi Ronit,

My son is 7, born 3rd of May and is in year 2. I can now see a huge maturity difference to his peers who are 1 year older in most cases. Academically he is sound but struggles to remain there, and keeping him focused is a constant battle.

My gut is telling me he needs to repeat, more so for confidence and to help him settle better with kids his own age. School is resisting this as academically he is not well below.

Do you think I should keep pushing this?

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Published: October 6, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 18, 2021In: Parenting, Education / Learning, Ask Ronit Tags: how to, choice, kids coaching, communication styles, learning disabilities, k-12 education, academic performance, kinesthetic, education / learning, school, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence

Is My Kid Color Blind?

Q: My daughter can’t learn the colors. Is she color blind and what do I do if she is?
There is a big difference between challenges in learning the colors and being color blind. Most people believe someone who is color blind can only see in black and white, but monochromatic vision is extremely rare and is mostly caused by some disease or trauma. 99% of the time, color blindness is the inability to distinguish shades of green-and-red or blue-and-yellow.

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Published: March 6, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 18, 2021In: Parenting, Education / Learning, Ask Ronit Tags: learning disabilities, academic performance, kids / children, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, education / learning, practical parenting / parents

The Wizard of Oz

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I dedicate this post to you, the person researching the site to learn about me, and to the aspiring coaches out there. Over the pages of my blog, I will explain the process I went through when studying to become a life coach, the connection between education and life coaching and why I believe it is a winning combination. I hope that you will be inspired. I believe that the more coaches there are in the world, the closer we get to a better world.

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Published: November 18, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Life Coaching, Ask Ronit Tags: beliefs, purpose, Life Coaching, career, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, focus

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