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The Stress Pill: 30 More Stressors

A pile of pills

In the previous chapter of The Stress Pill, I described some ways people make themselves stressed. I call them “stress pills”. Others call them Stressors.

Here are another 30 tips on how to increase your daily dosage of stress. Of course, if you can avoid them, your stress level will go down and your happiness will go up.

This post is part 3 of 4 in the series The Stress Pill

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April 28, 2015 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: anger, change, choice, dreams, drugs, expectation, failure, feeling, focus, happiness, how to, list, love, negative, persistence, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive, procrastination, relationships / marriage, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, skills, stress / pressure, success, tips, trust

Doing No More Than the Average in Education

Most people put in 25%, great people put in 50% and the few amazing people put in 100%

Last week, my kids were guests at a primary school assembly at a school which was not their own school (Tsoof is in his fourth year at university and Noff is in Grade 9). At dinner, they shared their experience with us.

“The deputy principal”, Noff said in shock, “Told the kids they would be getting report cards soon and that if they got a ‘C’ they should be very happy, because ‘C’ meant they were at the average level expected for their grade”. Tsoof joined Noff in her surprise, not believing they had heard this coming from a deputy principal. I was proud of them for rejecting the idea that getting a ‘C’ or the average score expected of them was something to be happy about.

Tsoof said, “How can you expect kids to aim higher if you tell them that a ‘C’ is what they should aim for?”

Noff said, “They think they’re helping their students feel better about getting a ‘C’, but it only makes them give up on doing better” (she is just 13 years old).

Gal and I sat in front of them feeling very proud of our kids for saying that the average is never a good enough aim.

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April 2, 2015 by Ronit Baras In: Education / Learning, Parenting Tags: academic performance, attitude, creative / creativity, education / learning, expectation, failure, fear, focus, k-12 education, kids / children, practical parenting / parents, purpose, school, self-fulfilling prophecy, story, success, success experience, teaching / teachers, wisdom

Strong Affirmations: High Self-Esteem

Strong affirmations

Self-esteem is something that functions like fuel to the body. If we have high self-esteem, the ride is better in many ways. We move forward more smoothly, we have fewer problems and we get to our destination faster.

Everyone has some level of confidence in life. It is just that some people have more than others and they seem to go through life with much more success and happiness. People with high self-esteem have fewer doubts and they don’t blame their “ride” every time things don’t happen the way they want them to be.

Let’s face it, we can’t always get what we expect 100% of the time. If we could, we would be able to predict what will happen in the future (I don’t know if this is a better way to experience life but let’s leave this dilemma for another post). What we can do is make sure our beliefs set us on a very easy, smooth (as much as possible), happy and successful ride. If it can get us forward faster, all the better.

This blog is full of many beliefs about living life with confidence. I have written about ways to instill confidence in our children as parents or teachers. The list of affirmations that promote high self-esteem is endless. If I tried to write a list of them all, I would find myself spending years and never reaching the end of the list. There are millions of thoughts or combinations of thoughts that support high self-esteem and boost confidence. Notice these in yourself and in the world around you. Start collecting them and learning how to adopt them.

This post is part 1 of 6 in the series Affirmations

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October 28, 2014 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: affirmations, beliefs, certainty, change, choice, determination, dreams, education / learning, emotional intelligence, failure, fear, feeling, focus, happiness, how to, kids / children, list, mind, perception, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive, positive attitude tips, practical parenting / parents, rules, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, success, teaching / teachers, thought

Goal Setting and Long Life

Set a goal

I was officially introduced to goal setting for the first time in my life when I was 18. I was doing a course at university, and goal setting was a very small component in it. I never realized how significantly it would impact the rest of my life.

Research published in Psychological Science says that setting goals, at any age, can add years to your life. I like to think of it in the opposite way as well: goals add life to your years. The study followed 6,000 people aged 20 to 75 for 14 years. The researchers where looking at three components:

1. If participants were goal oriented
2. If participants had more positive or negative relationships
3. If participants had more positive or negative feelings

Throughout the study, 569 participants died (about 9%). The researchers found that those who still lived had more goals and better relationships than those who died. The most surprising thing about the study was that it found that this was true for young participants as much as the elderly. Having goals led to better outcomes. Goals were an advantage for people who worked as well as for those who were retired. So goals get added to the formula for long life.

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August 14, 2014 by Ronit Baras In: Life Coaching, Parenting, Personal Development Tags: academic performance, emotional development, empowerment, failure, feeling, focus, goals / goal setting, hope, how to, kids / children, Life Coaching, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, research, success

Ask Ronit: My Son is Very Clingy

Boy clinging to mother's leg

Clingy kids can be very exhausting. We love them very much but we want to be able to do things without them from time to time. I have met many parents who are fighting this clinginess and they express a lot of frustration. I think the exhausting thing not necessary the clinginess itself. It is more from the fight, the feeling of failure and the expectation that it should be different.

This week, I received a question on my blog from a mother of a 9 year old boy. Mel wanted to know what I would suggest for dealing with a clingy child.

Here is what I wrote Mel. I hope you will find it encouraging. Most importantly, it is not as bad as it looks.

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April 15, 2014 by Ronit Baras In: Ask Ronit, Parenting Tags: control, emotional development, expectation, failure, feeling, frustration, hope, how to, kids / children, love, mother, practical parenting / parents, questions, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, success, success experience, tips

Start Your Happiness Journey

Happiness sign on the beach

My dad always said that the process of anything in life depends highly on how your start it. A good start will set us up for a nice and easy process, while challenging starts will set the tone for struggle. I think happiness is a lifelong quest. I chose to adopt my dad’s philosophy and tried to instill this belief in my children.

Here are my A to Z rules for having good starts and continuing the happiness journey. I hope you will find them successful and encouraging.

Act on your goals rather than waiting for things to happen to you. If you want to start feeling happy, make it happen. Act on it. Waiting for that “one day” when your life will be they way you want it to be will only reinforce the fact that you are far away from it. Moving slowly, by taking action, towards your goal, will make you feel like you are just that tiny bit closer.

This post is part 6 of 6 in the series A-to-Z Guides

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March 13, 2014 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: action, change, emotional intelligence, failure, goals / goal setting, happiness, hope, list, motivation, negative, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive, success, tips

12 Practical Ways to Parent Sore Losers

Boy lying on a football field

It is no wonder most of us are such sore losers. Winning is easy and losing is not. Let’s face it, regardless their age, no one likes to lose. Even the word “losing” sounds devastating.

Unfortunately, parents who are sore losers tend to raise kids who are sore losers. So, what can we do to make sure losing is not so devastating? What’s the best approach to parenting sore losers?

When I had my early childhood center, we stopped using the word “losing”. We replaced it with words like learning, opportunities, testing, growing and evolving. It does not sound like much but it worked well for the kids. It takes away a lot of the heartache and pain.

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February 20, 2014 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting, Personal Development Tags: attitude, beliefs, change, conflict, education / learning, emotional development, emotional intelligence, empowerment, failure, fear, feeling, focus, humor, identity, kids / children, loss, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive attitude tips, practical parenting / parents, relationships / marriage, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, social skills, sport, stress / pressure, success, tips

The Magic of Encouragement

Character holding feedback sign

Children will strive with encouraging. If kids were plants, their environment would be the soil while encouragement and support would be the water and sun they need in order to grow.

Children who receive positive encouragement grow up to have very strong emotional stamina. Their emotional intelligence helps them manage challenges, difficulties and failure. These skills form the basis of growing up to be successful people. Parents, teachers and caregivers are those who can give us these skills.

Here is a list of 20 positive feedback starters that encourages kids to keep doing something you would like to support and promote. You can change the ending to suit whatever it is you want to encourage.

“You’ve done a wonderful job at… picking up the toys”
“It was an excellent idea to… make a strong foundation for the Lego building”
“You must be very proud of yourself for… submitting the assignment on time”

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November 19, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Emotional Intelligence, Parenting Tags: behavior / discipline, conflict, early childhood, education / learning, emotional development, emotional intelligence, empowerment, failure, kids / children, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive, practical parenting / parents, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, skills, success, teaching / teachers

Choice Theory: Happy Business

Which direction to take?

In the last two posts on “choice theory,” I covered William Glasser’s reality theory and the seven deadly and caring habits and their impact on relationships and parenting.

Glasser’s choice theory helped not just individuals but also organizations like schools and businesses to enable management, workers, and students to take part in the system using internal motivation and avoid conflicts.

Every business transaction (and schooling is similar) is a transaction in relationship. We call good relationship a good business transaction, and conflict, anger, disappointment, and frustration a bad business transaction. For a business to succeed, it needs to establish good relationship between all participants and connect well. Glasser called it “Lead Management.” Using the choice theory in business, employees, managers, suppliers, and clients replace external control with internal control based on happy and successful relationship and are very much dependent on the managers, who lead the organizations.

This post is part 4 of 6 in the series Choice Theory

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October 10, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Emotional Intelligence Tags: choice, communication styles, decision making, emotional intelligence, evaluation, failure, gratitude, guilt, identity, leadership, Life Coaching, listening, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, responsibility, success

Choice Theory: Happy Parenting

You have a choice

In the previous chapter of the choice theory, I explained the controlling and connecting habits—the caring or deadly habits based on William Glasser. In his theory, Glasser explained many of our behaviors as a choice. There are basic beliefs in his theory that all therapies are based on.

Based on Glasser, when we behave, it is a mix of action, thinking, feeling, and physiology. He called it “total behavior,” as they appear in different degrees and in combination.

He very much focused on taking responsibility in order to gain control and it is quite relevant to parenting.

This post is part 3 of 6 in the series Choice Theory

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October 3, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting, Personal Development Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, beliefs, choice, compassion, emotional development, emotional intelligence, failure, gratitude, guilt, happiness, identity, kids / children, language, Life Coaching, needs, perception, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive, practical parenting / parents, responsibility, role model, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, success, trust, values

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