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Preparing for Mother’s Day

Every year, when Mother’s Day approaches, I think of my role as a mother. It may not be easy to be a mom but it is highly rewarding. Many moms come to see me in my coaching practice. A lot of them experience many parenting struggles. Not all of them were ready to be a parent. This makes me wonder, how do we expect people to do something we do not prepare them for?!

The only preparation we get for being a parent is from our parents. This comes long before we even think of having children, and we need to keep these memories for over 20 to 25 years in order to use them with our own children. I think the saying “we are only as good as the quality of our teachers” is suitable here. Much like in school, you know your subjects well if your teacher was awesome. In the school of life, you know how to parent if your parents were awesome. Unfortunately, we cannot choose our teachers, not in school or in life.

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Published: May 6, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Parenting Tags: positive, kids / children, tips, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, school, education / learning, role model, partner, negative, emotional development, mother, practical parenting / parents, mom, change, video

Negative Beliefs About Money

Empty wallet comes from negative thoughts about money

I was born in a poor family and I think the people in my family had poor beliefs about money. I made it my goal to raise my kids with rich and wealthy beliefs about money.

I think I did. You see, poor people adopt beliefs to justify the fact that they do not have money. Because of their beliefs, they do not take certain opportunities to gain money and their situation remains the same.

My job as a mother is to keep my kids away from those thoughts.

Most people think that in order to have money, you need to make, earn or win it. I think that in order to have money, we have to have good thoughts and beliefs about money, about making money, about finances and wealthy people.

This post is part 8 of 10 in the series Happily Wealthy Family

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Published: March 27, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: April 20, 2020In: Parenting, Success / Wealth Tags: conflict, list, lifestyle, practical parenting / parents, family matters, focus, wealth, values, spiritual, money, budget, negative, rich, beliefs, poor, positive attitude tips, change, kids / children, happiness

Start Your Happiness Journey

Happiness sign on the beach

My dad always said that the process of anything in life depends highly on how your start it. A good start will set us up for a nice and easy process, while challenging starts will set the tone for struggle. I think happiness is a lifelong quest. I chose to adopt my dad’s philosophy and tried to instill this belief in my children.

Here are my A to Z rules for having good starts and continuing the happiness journey. I hope you will find them successful and encouraging.

Act on your goals rather than waiting for things to happen to you. If you want to start feeling happy, make it happen. Act on it. Waiting for that “one day” when your life will be they way you want it to be will only reinforce the fact that you are far away from it. Moving slowly, by taking action, towards your goal, will make you feel like you are just that tiny bit closer.

This post is part 6 of 6 in the series A-to-Z Guides

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Published: March 13, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: failure, goals / goal setting, action, change, happiness, motivation, hope, positive, tips, success, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, list, negative

The Art of Listening: Things to Watch Out For

Listen to hear, not to speak

To conclude The Art of Listening series, here are some tips on things to watch out for in deciding which listening style to adopt.

In previous posts, I covered situations when it is hard to listen, types of listening and how to become good listeners. However, putting all this into practice means you need to know when it is appropriate to adopt one style over another. There are some things to watch out for in making that decision.

Be a kind listener when:
1. The speaker is angry or in a bad mood.
2. The speaker feels judged or stressed.
3. When you want to please the listener or need something from him/her.

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Published: January 14, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: positive, tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, focus, friends / friendship, emotional intelligence, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, how to, empathy, negative, feeling, change, relationships / marriage, social skills, listening

Wired for Happiness: Wires and Highways

Last time we talked about the snake brain. Even though our brain has 3 parts, each with different functions, the primitive snake brain is far superior when we are stressed. It has two main functions: (1) food (yummy, yummy!) and (2) protecting us from danger with a fight or flight response. Meanwhile, the puppy brain stores information as emotions and uses them to navigate us. For example, on a conscious level, we would label all kinds of anger with the same five letters: a.n.g.e.r. The puppy brain is able to distinguish between “I was slightly angry”, “I was angry”, “I was very angry” and “I was soooooooo angry”. In the brain, the feeling is stored along with its intensity.

Whenever something happens to us, the puppy brain searches our emotion bank for similar feelings we experienced in the past. This helps it decide how to translate the new information.

This post is part 2 of 3 in the series Wired for Happiness

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Published: April 2, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: anxiety, interpretation, choice, decision making, negative, positive attitude tips, beliefs, positive, empowerment, attitude, change, stress / pressure, happiness, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, memory, emotions, anger, feeling, focus, aggressive, thought, emotional intelligence, affirmations

My Anti -TV campaign

As an advocate of emotional intelligence, I object to kids watching TV. Everything I try to give them, the TV is destroying. I think bringing a TV home is like bringing the opposition into your living room, to tell your kids that you, the parent is wrong. Why would you do that?

When Eden was young and we were a young couple, we did not have a TV at home. My grandmother, who wanted to buy a new TV, suggested we take hers and we refused. We worked and when we were home, there were better things to do with our time than watch TV. Some family members and friends thought we were nuts and that we were not preparing our daughter to live in the real world. 24 years later, I can tell you, she is prepared for the real world, maybe even better than many other kids her age.

A month ago, Brisbane experienced a huge storm and trees were up rooted not far from us (it was really scary). Many houses experienced major damage and were without electricity for days (Many difficulties pop up when you do not have electricity for 3 days. We depend on electricity so much). We were the lucky ones. The only thing that happened to us was that our 20 year old 25 inch TV shorted (even though it had a surge protector). Tsoof and Gal were very happy because they have been wanting to buy a new TV for a year. Eden and I were not very happy. We ended up buying a huge TV with the promise to only watch videos and minimize watching TV.

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Published: March 19, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Parenting Tags: decision making, negative, kids / children, computer, teens / teenagers, mother, parenting teens, father, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, mom, movies, dad, practical parenting / parents, television, home / house, tv, responsibility, family matters, values, technology, emotional intelligence

Consistency is Key to Good Parenting

In my last post, I Learned it From the Best we talked about how influential parenting is for a child’s future. In the long term, some things parents do are positive and some are negative. But which ones are positive? Which parenting styles are good for your children? In this post, I want to go into detail about the importance of consistency – the value of giving consistent rewards, punishments, attention and praise.

In early childhood, parenting in general gives children a toolkit of skills and beliefs they can take with them. It helps them deal with the challenges that life puts in their paths. If parents give their child positive, useful tools, then they are well equipped for the future. Things like praise and attention give confidence. On the other hand, parents who give their children bad habits and poor attitudes are setting them up for struggle. Addictive behaviors and poor eating habits are examples of unhelpful tools.

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Published: March 7, 2013 by Eden Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Parenting Tags: divorce, positive attitude tips, separation, positive, mother, attitude, father, stress / pressure, values, mom, behavior / discipline, money, dad, certainty, anxiety, relationships / marriage, practical parenting / parents, how to, conflict, role model, family matters, negative, budget, beliefs, academic performance

Inspiration for Success: A Frog and a Parrot

When those around us do not support us, we can try to get rid of them. But sometimes they are the people we love, those who are close to us. If we got rid of all the people we feel do not give us love, cannot give us care, consideration, encouragement, motivation, hope, inspiration, kindness, empathy, compassion, or forgiveness, we would probably be a bit lonely. If they stay around us, we need to develop selective hearing. The best way for me to explain what I mean is through the story of the deaf frog.

Once upon a time, a group of small frogs decided to have a climbing competition. Their goal was to reach the top of a very tall tower. The frog community was very happy and excited. Many frogs gathered around the tower to watch the race and cheer the competitors on. The tower was so tall that no one in the crowed really believed the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower. Throughout the competition, the crowd said things like: “The tower is too high”, “Oh, way too difficult”, “They will never make it to the top”, “There is no chance they will succeed”, and the tiny frogs began collapsing, one by one. At those who kept climbing the crowd continued to yell, “It is too difficult! No one will make it!”, “Just give up!”, “What needs to happen, for you to understand that you cannot make it?” and more and more tiny frogs got tired and gave up. But one continued to climb higher and higher. This one tiny frog refused to give up and kept on climbing. With a final big effort, he reached the top. When the winning frog came down, all of the other tiny frogs wanted to know how this one frog managed to do it. They asked him how he had found the strength to succeed and reach the goal. It turned out that the winning frog was deaf!

This post is part 2 of 2 in the series Inspiration For Success

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Published: December 13, 2012 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: emotional intelligence, self-talk, choice, persistence, goals / goal setting, negative, interpretation, action, decision making, beliefs, positive, empowerment, attitude, wisdom, tips, mind, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, love, change, behavior / discipline, inspiration, motivation, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, success, affirmations, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement

The Art of Letting Go: Negative Self-Talk

People think in words. Every thought, feeling and idea we have, we give it a name. Naming (or labeling) is a very easy way to experience the world. Think of the color pallet. If you work with computers, you know that when choosing a color, it is not good enough to say “red”, because there are many shades of red, but in our life as humans and not computers, whenever we talk about scarlet, burgundy, ruby, magenta, maroon, coral or rose, we simply say “red”. Life is so much easier that way.

Words can be empowering or limiting. They can be our protectors, our guardian angels, or our demons, our tormentors. People who value words very much and find their power may wonder, “How can words be limiting?”

I think they are limiting for two reasons: they cannot describe the whole range of human experiences they make it difficult to recognize change.

When making a choice about letting go of some of our habits, letting go of the power we give words is highly important and can provide a lot of comfort and peace of mind. Think about it this way: using words to describe an experience is like trying to fit a giant into a space large enough for a grain of sand.

One of the ways in which words can limit us is negative self-talk.

This post is part 8 of 10 in the series The Art of Letting Go

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Published: November 6, 2012 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: communication, self-talk, success, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, emotional intelligence, behavior / discipline, how to, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, fear, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, choice, negative, identity, change, Life Coaching, self-fulfilling prophecy

The Art of Letting Go: Painful Past

From the moment we are born, time is a great challenge for us. We learn to read the clock around the age of 6 or 7 and we build our life around the time, but we do never have a good understanding of time. Although we all have the same amount of time, we treat it differently.

The movie In Time is a wonderful masterpiece about our relationship with time. The movie Tuck Everlasting is another wonderful attempt, examining life without the limitation of time. The concept of time is so interesting for me that I have dedicated a whole book to our existence in this puzzle of past, present and future. In this book, I do not claim to understand time, just to explore it. I think that time can be a servant or a master and that we can be trapped in time or freed by it.

One of the biggest miseries of life is to be trapped in a time we no longer have control over – the past. Many of my clients come to coaching to understand this and to free themselves from the pain of the past. If you have had a chance to read the previous chapter about blame and justification, you probably understand the limitations of living in the past and allowing the past to limit. Whenever we have a bad experience and we use the past to justify it, we keep ourselves stuck.

This post is part 7 of 10 in the series The Art of Letting Go

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Published: October 30, 2012 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Personal Development Tags: change, happiness, motivation, projection, Life Coaching, inspiration, self-fulfilling prophecy, emotional intelligence, positive, how to, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, fear, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, choice, negative, goals / goal setting, beliefs

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