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Know Your Partner: Questions to Ask

Last week, we talked about how every person has “musts”, things they absolutely cannot live without. It is important for each person in a couple to know their partner’s “musts” before they decide to move in together, to get married or to have kids. This week, I thought I would give you a list of questions to help you along your journey. This list includes questions about relationships, everyday life, family background and friends.

This list is very important to use in different relationship situations:

Before moving in with someone.
Before marriage.
Before deciding to have kids.
On anniversaries – in order to update each other about the ways we have changed.
When experiencing relationship conflict.
Before making the decision to break up a partnership.
There are a few rules to remember when asking these questions. This will make the question and answer process more effective and successful:

This post is part 2 of 8 in the series Know Your Partner

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Published: April 30, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: activity, beliefs, positive attitude tips, separation, positive, rules, attitude, change, questions, happiness, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, communication, Life Coaching, health / wellbeing, love, relationships / marriage, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, success, romance, emotions, emotional intelligence, determination, feeling, how to, law of attraction, thought, choice

Know Your Partner: Musts

Any relationship is a form of agreement between two or more people. The deeper the relationship, the more things you will need to agree on for your relationship to stay positive. Some relationships, like marriage and having children together, are more important than others. They have a huge impact on our lives and our futures. I call them love agreements.

Love agreements will change over time. Just how they change will depend on the circumstances. Each person changes within themselves and their agreements with each other change accordingly. For couples, it is very important for each side to make sure they are “sailing in the same direction”. While each of them may change in different ways, together, they want to be going the same way. If one wants to sail north and the other’s greatest desire is to sail south, then their relationship will suffer. One or both of them will have to compromise.

When we talk about relationships, the word compromise pops up as a desired outcome. I think compromise is important, but I also believe that some compromises cannot last for very long. They are often the source of conflict and can cause much heartache.

This post is part 1 of 8 in the series Know Your Partner

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Published: April 23, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: determination, emotions, how to, law of attraction, feeling, choice, story, thought, beliefs, activity, separation, positive attitude tips, rules, positive, change, attitude, happiness, questions, communication, Life Coaching, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, love, relationships / marriage, health / wellbeing, success, romance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence

The Bystander Effect

Human behavior was always something that fascinated me. During my studies I learned about the difference between what people think they do and what they actually do. Since then I have been hooked. You see, when we are under pressure, we react differently to when we have time to think, analyze and react at our own pace.

Some people say that under pressure, we reveal our true selves. Others think it is the opposite – we are ourselves all the time and the ugly side of us comes out when we are pushed. I tend to think that when we are under pressure, our reptilian brain, the one in charge of “fight or flight”, takes over. Like a survival mechanism, we react instinctively to protect ourselves when we are stressed or we think we are in danger (whether that danger is real or perceived).

Often times, we see other people’s poor behavior and say, “Oh, I would have done it differently. I would have done such and such and I would have said so and so”. The truth is, we can speculate about what we might have said until we are blue in the face but until we are in a stressful situation, we will not know how we will react.

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Published: April 18, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Emotional Intelligence Tags: safety, attitude, security, questions, action, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, research, behavior / discipline, conflict, feeling, aggressive, teaching / teachers, emotional intelligence, determination, anxiety, assessment, interpretation, fear, decision making, choice, video

Moving Forward

As you probably know by now, life does not always work the way you expect it to. As a parent, you also know that your kids do not always do what you expect them to. Sure, it is tough sometimes, but it is the same for everybody. No matter how hard we try, we sometimes face situations we do not like.

The main difference between people who succeed in life and those who do not is what they do next. This is also the difference between parents who raise happy and successful kids and those who do not.

While I was thinking about this topic, I remembered a quote by an American president about taking action. When I looked it up, it turned out to be by Theodore Roosevelt, who is also quoted as saying many other highly appropriate things. I will include these within this post for your enjoyment and your (kids’) benefit.

“Never throughout history has a man who lived a life of ease left a name worth remembering”
– Theodore Roosevelt

Stopping progress

The best way to keep yourself right where you are and place yourself at the mercy of your circumstances, or your kids’ behavior, is to keep finding reasons for not making any progress.

No matter what anyone says to you, what are the chances it will be perfect? None. So you can always respond with, “Oh, no, this doesn’t cover everything”, or words to that effect.

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Published: May 16, 2012 by Gal Baras
Last modified: March 3, 2025In: Personal Development, Parenting Tags: responsibility, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, men, behavior / discipline, art, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, success, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, goals / goal setting, how to, choice, wisdom, communication, change, focus, motivation, vision, questions

Make a List: Find your Happy-ism

Happiness is a very important treasure that all humans seek. Gal and I have been researching and teaching happiness for a long time. As a happiness coach, I can tell you that one of the greatest difficulties of finding this treasure is that most people do not really know how it looks, feels or sounds. They spend most of their life searching for an idea that they do not understand very clearly.

I have read hundreds of books about happiness, motivation and success and written many articles, lesson plans and presentations about happiness and in all of them, I get to the same point: happiness is not absolute and does not follow the “one size fits all” rule. Therefore, I cannot teach happiness. All I can teach people is how to find it inside.

Most of my clients are very surprised when I tell them I do not have a happiness formula for them. Many people would like a formula or a pill that will fix their life and make them happy quickly and easily. When they come to coaching, they often think it is like going to the doctor and saying, “Ronit, I’m sick. Can you give me a pill to fix it?”

Well, I do not. You see, happiness pills are very special. Only those who make them can enjoy the magic of their cure. Every one of us is a chemist searching for the right ingredients in the right combination that defines their own happiness pill. Each pill is unique to its creator. I happened to be studying the chemistry of happiness, success and motivation and have had the honor of studying and working with lots of successful chemists, so I can share with my clients some tips about ingredients that do not work and others that were proven to be very successful. One of the reasons my clients are so successful is that they understand I cannot prescribe them a pill, but that with my help, they do not start from scratch.

This post is part 33 of 49 in the series Make a List

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Published: May 14, 2012 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: happiness, motivation, Life Coaching, questions, focus, success, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, how to, choice, beliefs, change

The Hunger Games

This week, Ronit and I watched The Hunger Games. We knew the general plot when we entered the cinema, but we came out feeling sick, not only because the film was excessively violent, not only because those who were violent in it were teenage children, but mostly because it was such a strong portrayal of modern life.

Both Ronit and I slept very badly that night and had very scary dreams.

In the movie, there are 12 districts full of poor workers who can barely get enough food to eat. Their life is mud (literally), they are dressed in light-blue working uniforms and live in fear. These districts are ruled by “the capitol”, a magnificent and decadent city, where people spend their time dressing to impress and trying to find things to entertain themselves. There is police/army force, dressed in white, which swiftly handles any disruptions.

But the main instrument of power is TV and there is one particular show in TV everyone must watch to remember their place in this futuristic society – The Hunger Games.

There were many similarities between The Hunger Games and our life, which I wanted to share with you. This will be depressing, so after that, I will also share with you how you, me and other parents can make reality different, for us and for our kids.

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Published: March 28, 2012 by Gal Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting Tags: focus, dreams, freedom, inspiration, society, practical parenting / parents, money, lifestyle, success, television, emotional intelligence, tv, how to, wealth, fear, questions, choice, stress / pressure, control, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, change, behavior / discipline, motivation, self confidence / self esteem / self worth

Questions, Questions

All men are created … innocent. Women too, of course. Kids start their life trusting their parents completely and following in their footsteps, which is very reassuring, but as soon as they become teenagers, critical thinking kicks in and they start to “see the cracks” and question everything.

Most parents find this annoying and challenging and resent their budding grownups for “bugging” them with their doubts and endless second-guessing. Those same parents typically frowned at them when they were 1 year old and walked around, pointing at things and asking, “What’s this?” When they were 2 years old, their parents became frustrated that they wanted to do everything themselves, and when they were 4, the parents were upset because no matter what happened, they kept asking, “Why?”

But these tender ages, along with the rest of childhood, are a time of discovery, and questions keep our kids’ mind sharp, teaching them about the world at their own pace and according to their own interests. In short, questions are good.

There are several types of questions, each with its own advantages and disadvantages, and all very useful in parenting and generally in life.

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Published: November 23, 2011 by Gal Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting Tags: relationships / marriage, family matters, questions, kids / children, communication, teens / teenagers, focus, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, emotional intelligence, behavior / discipline, how to, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, choice, practical parenting / parents, motivation, Life Coaching

IQ or EQ – Your Choice

Recent research about the perception of truth has found that when we hear something three times or more, we tend to accept it as truth. Scary, no? During our lifetime, we receive an enormous number of messages more than three times and therefore, we are doomed to be confused. As an example, just take competing ads for similar products, like toothpaste, hand cream or frozen peas and you will know what I mean.

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Published: July 21, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 18, 2021In: Personal Development Tags: questions, focus, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, success, education / learning, emotional intelligence, how to, choice, truth, beliefs, motivation, lifestyle, k-12 education

Motivating Kids (11)

When kids pursue their desires, whether they allow you to motivate them or not, they face difficulties and may be discouraged many time along the way. In fact, every unsuccessful event may cause them to give up. Their natural reaction may not be “I should try something else” but “Maybe this is not important enough to me”. After all, they are just kids and this is a natural reaction for most people.

This post is part 11 of 19 in the series Motivating Kids

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Published: May 14, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 18, 2021In: Personal Development, Parenting, Kids / Children Tags: how to, role model, motivation, relationships / marriage, sarcasm, questions, communication, kids / children, inspiration, success, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, emotional intelligence, practical parenting / parents

Creative Kids (4)

In the last three weeks, I wrote ideas to boost creativity in kids. In my opinion, kids already have natural creativity in them and our aim is to nurture it and make sure it does not disappear. In my book, “Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers”, I wrote that creativity, along with flexibility and tolerance, are natural states of mind and our job as parents and educators is to nourish them to full blossom.

This post is part 4 of 7 in the series Creative Kids

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Published: April 20, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 18, 2021In: Education / Learning, Parenting Tags: friends / friendship, vision, creative / creativity, success, education / learning, emotional intelligence, practical parenting / parents, fun, time management, social, questions, humor, kids / children

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