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Attachment Theory: Main Characteristics of Attachment

Baby boy in a sailors hat sitting in a lifesaver float

The emotional bond between people depends on their ability to connect and the style of the connection. The attachment we have with the people in our lives (partners, children, siblings, friends and even our own parents) are strongly associated with the attachment we formed in our early years of life, with our primary caregiver (usually our parents). Similarly, the challenges we experience in our relationships as adults are shaped by the patterns of challenge from our early attachments.

According to John Bowlby, attachment is the connection a baby forms with its parent to ensure their basic needs of safety, comfort, care and pleasure are met. He described this attachment as “lasting psychological connectedness between human beings”. Bowlby believed that the style of the relationship between the parent (mainly the mother) and the child in this critical period of the baby’s development becomes a blue print for later relationships.

The main idea of attachment theory is that the caregivers provides the baby with a safe and secure base from which to explore the world. The baby knows that it is safe to venture out and explore the world, and that the caregiver will always be there to come back to for comfort in times of stress and discomfort.

This post is part 1 of 6 in the series Attachment Theory

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Published: February 12, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: February 29, 2020In: Parenting, Kids / Children Tags: father, baby / babies, communication, mom, feeling, early childhood, dad, emotional development, anxiety, toddlers, practical parenting / parents, anger, trust, aggressive, safety, family matters, security, needs, research, kids / children, separation, stress / pressure, mother, self confidence / self esteem / self worth

Raising Babies: Talk, Talk, Talk

Baby girl and little boy

I have three kids and they all started talking very early. Many new parents ask me if it is better for babies to talk early or not? Is it something they are born with?

Firstly, I personally do not think this is hard-wired. There is no timer in the brain of a baby that says, now you are 1 years old, you should start saying words. It is very much dependent on the stimulation the baby gets from their environment.

Secondly, babies who can communicate early are very easygoing babies.

Why?

Because they can express themselves and are not as frustrated as a baby who uses sounds to communicate.

This post is part 6 of 7 in the series Raising Babies

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Published: January 20, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 2, 2020In: Babies / Maternity, Parenting Tags: environment, kids / children, behavior / discipline, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, baby / babies, education / learning, communication, emotional development, early childhood, practical parenting / parents, language, family matters

To Work or Not to Work? A Mother’s Dilemma

Child playing peek-a-boo

To work or not to work? Every mother faces this dilemma with every newborn baby. I had three kids, each born in a different place in the world and each in different circumstances, and I had the same dilemma each time.

When Eden, my 25 year old, was born, I could not really choose. I was still studying for my degree and working for a living. I had to go back to college and work a month after I had given birth to her. Fortunately for me, I could leave Eden with Gal, who was juggling his studies and his work to care for Eden. It ended up being the most wonderful experience both for Eden and for Gal.

When Tsoof, my 18 year old, was born, we lived in California, USA. This was far away from our families, after we had lost two kids. When he was 4 months old, we moved to Thailand. When he was about 10 months old, I felt like I was going nuts staying at home and we got a nanny. This allowed me to go to work, have adult conversations and keep my sanity.

When Noff, my 13 year old, was born, we lived in Melbourne, Australia. I started a business and she went to a family day care twice a week. This allowed me to fulfill my obligations to my clients.

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Published: September 4, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 4, 2014In: Parenting Tags: early childhood, k-12 education, skills, decision making, fear, literacy, choice, kids / children, mother, baby / babies, mom, emotional development, kindergarten, change, child care, work life balance, family planning

The Beauty Inside

The Beauty Inside video

It is a fact that we cannot see ourselves the same way others can see us. Firstly because we usually see ourselves in the mirror which is not the same position others see us in. Secondly, because we see ourselves from the inside and the inside is cluttered by thoughts and feelings we have towards ourselves.

The beauty inside is developed by what others, who are very close or important to us, say about us. I have met many grownups who carry negative beliefs from childhood. For example, people who are critical of a facial feature like a long nose or big eyes that mom or dad mocked at the age of 6. They simply cannot shake this feeling in adulthood.

I myself grew up in a culture that thought straight hair was an advantage and curly hair was not. As kids, we spent year looking for ways to straighten our hair. It was only when I grew up and met others who spent a fortune on curling their hair that I learned to appreciate what I have. This is a natural process.

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Published: May 1, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 29, 2022In: Personal Development Tags: positive, attitude, kids / children, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, women, feeling, body image, thought, early childhood, appearance, beliefs, practical parenting / parents, perception, video

Parenting: The Adler Method

Alfred Adler: Individual Psychology

Alfred Adler (1870-1937), was a philosopher and psychiatrist who believed that humans have two basic needs: to belong and to feel significant. In the early 1900’s he started addressing the issue of quality parenting and the importance of parent education. If you are reading this blog and realize that we focus on empowering parents, we want you to know that Adler did this over 100 years ago.

Adler developed a theory that was very holistic at its core. He believed that when we are encouraged, we feel capable and appreciated. This contributes to a feeling of connectedness and we are more likely to be cooperative. When we are discouraged, we withdraw, give up and feel depressed.

Adler’s theory was very much relevant to parenting because he believed that our lifelong coping strategies depend on how connected we were to our parents and how significant we felt in our family. Based on Adler’s theory, every person is an individual who was created in early childhood, by his or her early life experiences, which are made up of his or her relationships within the family. Adler thought that a misbehaving child is a discouraged child. Instead of trying to put pressure on the child to change their undesired behavior, you should help them feel valued, competent and special.

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Published: April 17, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting Tags: empowerment, feeling, change, emotional development, conflict, practical parenting / parents, environment, goals / goal setting, needs, focus, attitude, early childhood, kids / children, values, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, success, behavior / discipline, emotional intelligence, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, depression, emotions

The Magic of Encouragement

Character holding feedback sign

Children will strive with encouraging. If kids were plants, their environment would be the soil while encouragement and support would be the water and sun they need in order to grow.

Children who receive positive encouragement grow up to have very strong emotional stamina. Their emotional intelligence helps them manage challenges, difficulties and failure. These skills form the basis of growing up to be successful people. Parents, teachers and caregivers are those who can give us these skills.

Here is a list of 20 positive feedback starters that encourages kids to keep doing something you would like to support and promote. You can change the ending to suit whatever it is you want to encourage.

“You’ve done a wonderful job at… picking up the toys”
“It was an excellent idea to… make a strong foundation for the Lego building”
“You must be very proud of yourself for… submitting the assignment on time”

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Published: November 19, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Emotional Intelligence, Parenting Tags: emotional intelligence, emotional development, practical parenting / parents, failure, teaching / teachers, empowerment, conflict, positive, kids / children, behavior / discipline, early childhood, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, skills, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, success, education / learning

Kids Learn Through Play

Little boy in a straw hat

For children, life is a playground. They love to play. From tiny babies who hold toys and manipulate them clumsily, to school children, who play sophisticated games that require thinking, planning and manipulating, kids just love games. In fact, games are a source of calm and comfort for most. They stimulates the mind and body using a “fun incentive”.

Education in early childhood is very important in building the foundation for happy learning. The early impression children have of learning determines their attitude towards acquiring new knowledge later on in life. Researchers discovered that pre-teen children who called their learning activities “play” were more successful, happier in school and more socially content at the end of adolescence than those who considered their learning activities “work”.

Children play games for many purposes. For example, games can be used to improve social skills. During games, kids must negotiate, share, relate and connect with others. This helps develop understanding, compassion, empathy, acceptance and trust. Later on, this allows healthy intimacy.

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Published: September 3, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 5, 2019In: Education / Learning Tags: kids / children, motivation, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, learning styles, creative / creativity, social skills, education / learning, memory, emotional development, success experience, practical parenting / parents, early childhood, activity, teaching / teachers, school, fun, success, k-12 education, anxiety, academic performance, beliefs, attitude, empowerment

National Teacher Appreciation Day

National Teacher Appreciation Day was this week on May 7 2013. This is a wonderful idea. Teachers deserve much more appreciation than they currently receive.

Teaching and education are the tool and the outcome in a student’s life. Much like the artist uses a brush to paint. The teacher is the artist, teaching is the brush and education is the finished canvas.

Teaching has been my journey for the last 27 years. I am not a school teacher any more but I still consider myself an educator. I teach, I coach, I present, I motivate, I do public speaking, I write, I do community work and in all those things I educate kids and grownups to find the gift they have inside let it shine.

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Published: May 9, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 9, 2020In: Education / Learning Tags: fun, education / learning, truth, assessment, thought, beliefs, compassion, contribution, empowerment, academic performance, teaching / teachers, wisdom, positive attitude tips, early childhood, mind, public speaker, special education, rules, positive, school, motivation, attitude, responsibility, motivational speaker, kids / children, success, dreams, behavior / discipline, emotional intelligence, affirmations, creative / creativity, role model

Parenting By Example

Even though this video was about how cute animals are, I could not help thinking how wonderful the big dog was at encouraging the little puppy to try something it thought was too hard. It did not bark, it did not push, it did not show disappointment. It simply let by example. It did not give up when it did not work the first time, or even the first three ties. It kept doing it again and again, until the puppy was confident enough to try it for himself.

Parenting is the same. When we want our kids to do things that they are afraid to do, we need to show them how we do it. Again and again. Without shouting, telling them they are small and unable, calling them names or showing disappointment. We do not even need to push them to do the things they cannot do, do not want to do, or are afraid to do. We need to lead by example. Again and again. Until our kids are confident enough to do it themselves.

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Published: May 2, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Parenting Tags: happiness, expectation, persistence, practical parenting / parents, early childhood, video, teaching / teachers, skills, positive attitude tips, success, positive, emotional intelligence, kids / children, how to, tips, role model, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, fear, behavior / discipline, action, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, empowerment, education / learning

Down Syndrome & Inspiration

I learnt about Down Syndrome first hand during my first year of university. I was working with a child with Down Syndrome during my work experience. At first, it was scary and I felt devastated. After getting to know the kid, I learned that he was no different than any other child with intellectual difficulties. To my greatest surprise, he improved quickly and learned a lot. It made me wonder how far we could go. I had my doubts when he did not get things the first time around, but he taught me that as long as I continued to teach him, he would continue to learn.

This experience, coupled with my work on a project about creative thinking (where we tried to teach physics to grade 1 students), taught me that too often we limit kids by our expectations. If we allow them to move forward at their own pace, they will exceed our highest expectations.

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Published: April 25, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Parenting Tags: beliefs, positive attitude tips, empowerment, positive, change, attitude, motivation, kids / children, family matters, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, early childhood, affirmations, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, skills, law of attraction, creative / creativity, inspiration, story, education / learning, emotional intelligence, persistence, expectation, how to, compassion, practical parenting / parents, choice, video, teaching / teachers

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