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The Bystander Effect

Human behavior was always something that fascinated me. During my studies I learned about the difference between what people think they do and what they actually do. Since then I have been hooked. You see, when we are under pressure, we react differently to when we have time to think, analyze and react at our own pace.

Some people say that under pressure, we reveal our true selves. Others think it is the opposite – we are ourselves all the time and the ugly side of us comes out when we are pushed. I tend to think that when we are under pressure, our reptilian brain, the one in charge of “fight or flight”, takes over. Like a survival mechanism, we react instinctively to protect ourselves when we are stressed or we think we are in danger (whether that danger is real or perceived).

Often times, we see other people’s poor behavior and say, “Oh, I would have done it differently. I would have done such and such and I would have said so and so”. The truth is, we can speculate about what we might have said until we are blue in the face but until we are in a stressful situation, we will not know how we will react.

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Published: April 18, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Emotional Intelligence Tags: emotional intelligence, determination, anxiety, assessment, interpretation, fear, decision making, choice, video, safety, attitude, security, questions, action, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, research, behavior / discipline, conflict, feeling, aggressive, teaching / teachers

Six Human Needs: Contribution

Connection is the last of the six human needs.

In my last few posts on human needs, we talked about how people have needs for certainty, variety, significance, love & connection and growth. The last need left for us to discuss is contribution. If we think of our needs in pairs, growth and contribution go together. These two needs usually appear last, after we have found ways of attaining the other four needs.

Unlike some of the other needs, growth and contribution are not in conflict with each other. They do not need to be in balance. Rather, the more we have of one, the more we have of the other one.

In the last chapter, I gave some examples to increase personal growth. In this chapter, I will cover examples to improve contribution.

Contribution is any act or intention to act that improves the position of others. It can be a physical improvement or even an emotional improvement. If the interaction has made the other person feel better, even in a small way, you have contributed to someone else’s life.

This post is part 7 of 7 in the series Six Human Needs

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Published: April 16, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Personal Development Tags: change, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, happiness, creative / creativity, focus, motivation, freedom, skills, decision making, emotional intelligence, needs, certainty, how to, positive attitude tips, education / learning, choice, positive, feeling, action, attitude, contribution, beliefs, leadership, practical parenting / parents, research, behavior / discipline, teaching / teachers, control, health / wellbeing

Six Human Needs: Growth

Growth is the fifth of the six human needs.

The first 4 needs we discussed (variety and certainty, significance and love and connection) may interfere with each other and are in constant strive for balance. The last two needs that people have are the need for growth and for contribution. Unlike the first 4 needs, these needs help and support each other in order to achieve a higher level of fulfillment.

It is estimated that we need to have our first four needs met before we are able to grow and contribute. For example, it is very hard for people to give when they do not have certainty. Think about it. How easy is it for someone to give their time when they are working 14 hours each day to provide for their family? How easy is it for you to invest in growing, learning, developing, when you are busy trying to fit in with others who think learning and developing are not socially favorable? Not very easy, right?

When we are “empty”, it is harder for us to give. When we are supported and strong, our ability to contribute and help others is much greater.

The great thing about growth and contribution is that they support each other and can happen from very small things. When we contribute, we give ourselves an opportunity to grow and when we grow as individuals, we increase our capacity to give and make a difference to those around us.

This post is part 6 of 7 in the series Six Human Needs

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Published: April 9, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: focus, goals / goal setting, exercise, attitude, love, change, behavior / discipline, skills, happiness, health / wellbeing, emotional intelligence, motivation, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, how to, cooking, creative / creativity, fear, decision making, freedom, choice, social, action, academic performance, certainty, beliefs, needs, education / learning, research, positive attitude tips, feeling, control, positive

Kids Cheating with Mobile Phones: Who is to Blame?

Schools struggle a lot with the increased use of mobile phones by children. Many new regulations are in place to stop children from bringing mobile phone to school. At a primary school level, some schools ask the students to deposit their mobile phones at the office. In high schools, the phone devices are part of everyday life and a regular item in each class. In the past, teachers had to deal with the concentration and focus of the children. Now, they need to fight the attraction of the mobile phones as well!

With the introduction of mobile phones, one new problem that teachers to deal with is cheating on tests. In the past, students had to think of very sophisticated ways of writing cheat shits on paper, on their hand, the back of the ruler or the calculator. Kids today have a very handy way to keep the information and they use it well.

A survey conducted by a media sources with some common sense discovered that a third of teens with mobiles admitted to storing information on their phone, using it in an exam or texting their friends the answers while their friends are in the exam.

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Published: February 28, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 7, 2023In: Education / Learning, Kids / Children Tags: research, kids / children, change, teens / teenagers, memory, parenting teens, school, intelligence, behavior / discipline, values, anger, health / wellbeing, art, family matters, creative / creativity, assessment, education / learning, fear, technology, practical parenting / parents, choice, k-12 education, teaching / teachers, internet, academic performance, digital, attitude

Facebook: The Parenting Enemy

This week, in my art class, we talked about Facebook. I have to say I am a bit nervous when we talk about Facebook. Some clients of mine experienced a big trauma when a member of their family posted something on Facebook. The post was the sort of thing that was so terrible, each and every one of them wanted the earth to open up and swallow them. They are still sorting out the issues and nothing they do will be able to remove the post.

Another couple I coached separated because of Facebook. There was nothing they could do to forgive each other for writing those things. You see, when someone says something nasty, it is painful, for sure. But when it is written online and the whole world can see it, the pain aches for a long time afterwards. In both of these cases, we are talking about grownups.

Can you imagine what happens if kids do it?

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Published: February 14, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting Tags: practical parenting / parents, activity, home / house, technology, time management, sympathy, music, academic performance, choice, kids / children, computer, teens / teenagers, research, parenting teens, control, health / wellbeing, kids coaching, creative / creativity, family matters

Girls in Blue and Boys in Pink

Gender stereotyping has bothered me since the first years of my education studies. When I learned to recognize that we, as teachers, make assumptions about kids even if we do not like to admit it, I realized that I could influence the kids I worked with by using positive prejudice or limiting prejudice.

The gender stereotype is one of the biggest and most limiting stereotypes. It influences how we make decisions and we often make bad decisions based on it.

Although I understand there are some major differences between boys and girls, men and women (for example, having different physical features), I think the main difference is due to the way they are treated since childhood. Yes, I know, it is not easy to admit that we treat boys and girls differently and by that, we teach them to behave differently, but I think it all starts with dressing girls in pink and boys in blue.

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Published: November 22, 2012 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting, Kids / Children Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, baby / babies, gender, practical parenting / parents, choice, research, identity, society, family matters, self-fulfilling prophecy, kids / children

International Parenting Survey

Parenting is very important to me. It is so important that I have been spending many hours of my time to write over 1,000 articles to help parents raise happy, successful, friendly, smart, talented, sensitive, adventurous, courageous, loving children. The number of readers in this blog indicates that these articles help many parents do the most important job in their life – being a successful parent and raising successful, happy children.

Recently, I received a request to promote an international parenting research, conducted by the University of QLD, which aims to discover parents’ thoughts about their kids, their ideal parenting philosophy, their actual parenting style, the services and support available to them and those they need to improve their parenting.

I am very happy to promote this research. I have gone in myself and completed the survey and I believe the results will highlight the importance of parenting programs and the need to help parents with a very important task.

If you are one of the thousands of parents who have participated in the Happy Parents Raise Happy Kids program, remember to add it to the list of programs you are familiar with when you do the survey.

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Published: July 20, 2012 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Parenting Tags: practical parenting / parents, beliefs, research, change, motivation, society, lifestyle, family matters, kids / children, communication, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, emotional intelligence, behavior / discipline, choice

Parenting Research

Ever since I started studying for my degree in Education, the science of parenting has appealed to me. I remember that for my third year of studies, I registered for a special course to become a facilitator of parenting workshops, but I was not accepted. I was so upset. I told the girl in the office, “What do you mean ‘not accepted’? I’m the best student in my class. You can’t get anyone better than me around here”, and she said, “Only parents can be facilitators of a parenting course”.

As soon as Eden was born, I understood what she had meant.

The search for what makes a good parent and teacher did not stop when I was told I could not do the parenting course. I went on a personal journey to try to find the pieces of my most valuable puzzle in life – the makings of a great parent.

I think this constant search has brought me to where I am today. Working with the “education triangle” of parents, teachers and students to understand what makes great kids. At one stage, I remember, it hit me that although some pieces of the puzzle would reveal themselves as time went on, I could already see the picture of a great parent clearly. I had found the most important pieces and I started sharing them with as many parents as I could through my parenting workshops and this parenting blog.

My daughter, Eden, who is now 23 years old, was one of the participants in my lifelong research. In some ways, she still is. She has even shared some of her feelings and thoughts as a participant on this blog (see Eden’s posts).

I am not sure if this was the reason she decided to study psychology, but she did.

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Published: June 6, 2012 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Parenting Tags: motivation, relationships / marriage, family matters, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, communication, behavior / discipline, focus, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, responsibility, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, choice, research, violence

Art Fights Depression

Gail asked for a relationship coaching session, but said she would come by herself. “My husband won’t come”, she said. No matter what I asked her, her answer was related to the fact her husband was depressed and was unwilling to help himself. He had lost his job years before and that had sucked the life out of him. For 5 years, he had been sucking the life out of Gail and her two wonderful boys.

Having a depressed family member is not easy to handle. Most of the time, the depressed person cannot admit he or she needs help and rejects any help attempt. Those around them feel helpless and drained.

Gail was very creative in her attempts to help her husband. She went to the doctor and talked to him. She tried to make him go to the doctor, without success. She got him some vitamins and he refused to take them. She arranged holidays to make him happy, but he stayed depress.

Eventually, after 5 years of trying, Gail left home.

This post is part 7 of 19 in the series From the Life Coaching Deck

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Published: January 27, 2012 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 18, 2021In: Health / Wellbeing, Beautiful people Tags: depression, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, how to, health / wellbeing, research, change, happiness, Life Coaching, relationships / marriage, lifestyle, grief, emotional intelligence

Why Brush Your Teeth

Parents want the best for their kids. We all know how important it is to brush our teeth in the morning and in the evening in order to keep germs away and avoid cavities and pain, not to mention large dental bills. But did you know that having white teeth can do a lot not just for your kids’ health, but also for their psychology and their level of success in life?

Well, when people smile, showing a full set of white teeth, it can be seen up to 200 meters. Whether we like the idea or not, people associate white teeth with success. I would want my kids to know that, together with the health benefits of taking care of your teeth.

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Published: July 9, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Health / Wellbeing, Success / Wealth, Parenting Tags: research, motivation, perception, lifestyle, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, health / wellbeing, projection, practical parenting / parents, success, choice

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