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Moving House Made Easy: The New Place

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Moving to a new place is very exciting and a great opportunity to start fresh. A helpful tip to make the move smoother for everyone is to prepare them for what it is going to be like ahead of time.

How to prepare

When we move, we are usually concerned with the change in our basic needs and services. Being used to the old place, it can be hard to imagine what life in the new place is going to be like.

If you can, check out the new place. Checking out the new place ahead of time makes it easier to prepare yourself and your family for the new environment. If you get a chance to do that, take note of the surrounding area as well. This will make it easier for the entire family to prepare emotionally.

Visit those places physically with your kids, if possible, to make sure they have something to look forward to.

This post is part 4 of 13 in the series Moving House Made Easy

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July 22, 2014 by Ronit Baras In: Home, Parenting Tags: action, anxiety, change, environment, expectation, home / house, how to, kids / children, needs, planning, practical parenting / parents, school, tips, video

How to Feel Good: Take Time Off

Ronit and her Mother

During a recent presentation, someone asked me to share some tips on how to feel good. In the first post of the series How to Feel Good, I shared the science of endorphins – the feel good hormones. In the second, I covered the science of smiling. In this post, I suggest another great way to feel good – taking time off.

Last year, I took time off from everything (home, work, kids and Gal) and went overseas to spend some time with my family. It was a wonderful reminder for me about why we have take time off to recharge out emotional batteries.

Taking time off from daily life can have a positive impact on our health and wellbeing. It helps us regenerate and start fresh. Sleep is the body’s natural way of giving us time off. It “forces” us to rest so we can function. Did you know that without sleep, we would die? If you want to torture someone, you do not need to hurt them. Just deprive them of sleep for 2-3 night. Just ask any mom!

This post is part 3 of 4 in the series How to Feel Good

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May 29, 2014 by Ronit Baras In: Health / Wellbeing Tags: academic performance, anxiety, diet, focus, happiness, health / wellbeing, hobbies, holidays, hope, how to, lifestyle, meditation, memory, mind, mobile phone, motivation, partner, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive, relationships / marriage, relaxation, research, school, sleep, stress / pressure, time management, tips, travel, vacation

How to Overcome Shyness: Extra Tips

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In this final post of How to Overcome Shyness, I have added a few more tip to help you and your child.

If strangers are your greatest fear, practice. Conquer your fear by starting conversations with total strangers. Say something to the bus driver or the supermarket cashier. You will conquer your feelings by feeling the fear and doing it anyway. Take the risk. It gets easier after.

If your need to control things causes you to be shy, try letting go of your attachment to the outcome. Give it a go and wait to see what will happen. Accept things as they are. “Whatever will, be will be”.

If your shyness comes from a fear of being hurt by someone you trust, try opening up slowly. Share something small with someone. Take small risks of self exposure. Most people will share a similar sized ‘something’. If you are a parent helping a child, expose yourself first to encourage your child to do the same.

This post is part 4 of 4 in the series How to Overcome Shyness

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December 17, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: anxiety, change, control, emotional intelligence, fear, feeling, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, social, social skills, tips

How to Overcome Shyness: Tips

How to overcome shyness

Being shy can be pretty debilitating. And surprisingly, most people have experienced it at least once in their lives. In this part of “How to Overcome Shyness”, I want to share some tips with you on overcoming shyness.

We know from part one that there are three types of shyness: situational shyness (in specific situations), transitional shyness (during transitions or the process of change), and permanent shyness (in most social situations).

In the last post, I covered the four main causes of shyness: need for control, lack of trust, fear of being judged and being critical.

Now that we know the what and why behind shyness, I want to share some tips with you on how to overcome it. If you have kids, escort them in this exercise and help them practice the tips. You may have to be their facilitator.

This post is part 3 of 4 in the series How to Overcome Shyness

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December 10, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: anxiety, change, control, emotional intelligence, friends / friendship, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, skills, social, social skills, tips

How to Overcome Shyness: Causes of Shyness

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In the previous shyness post, I explained about the three types of shyness: situational shyness (in specific situations), transitional shyness (during transitions or change) and permanent shyness (pretty much in all social situations).

To be able to overcome our shyness, we need to understand the reasons behind it. Here are the four main reasons why shyness occurs:

The first is a need for control. Shyness can start when people feel like they are outside their comfort zone. People who experience this kind of shyness usually know what is socially acceptable in certain situations, they ask questions to be sure, and they are good at thinking on their feet. These people prefer to talk about their strengths and things within their comfort zone, they are well prepared and like consistency. When things are unclear, unpredictable, or when someone pressures them, they worry and become anxious because they lose their sense of control.

This post is part 2 of 4 in the series How to Overcome Shyness

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December 3, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: anxiety, change, control, emotional intelligence, fear, feeling, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, skills, social, social skills, trust

How to Overcome Shyness: Types of Shyness

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Most people, young and old, have experienced being shy in social situations. Most people also seem to think they are shier than everyone else. Surprisingly, they are wrong. 98% of people think of themselves as shy. As children, some people lack the skills and lived experiences of coping in social environments, which makes them feel crippled and develop a sense of helplessness because of it.

Shyness can be debilitating. The good news is that it can be changed.

Shyness is a form of anxiety. The severity of the anxiety depends on the type of shyness.

Situational Shyness

Situational Shyness means experiencing anxiety in certain, specific situations. Examples include, during a test, in a big group, when standing on stage, while having to present or make a speech, when answering a question, having to think on your feet or trying to make a good impression. The main challenge in this shyness is the timing. It never feels like the ‘right’. You never feel ready to tackle the task before you.

This post is part 1 of 4 in the series How to Overcome Shyness

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November 26, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: anxiety, change, control, emotional intelligence, fear, feeling, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, skills, social, social skills

I’m OK, You’re OK Parenting: Parenting Styles

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As a parent, it is important to be aware of which parenting style you use. The ideal is an “I’m OK – You’re OK” style. What’s your parenting style?

Once you know how you parent, you can slowly shift towards a more positive mindset. According to psychiatrist Thomas Harris, there are four types of parenting style:

– I’m OK – You’re OK
– I’m OK – You’re not OK
– I’m not OK – You’re OK
– I’m not OK – You’re not OK

The I’m OK – You’re OK mindset is important in all kinds of relationships: parent-child relationships, love relationships, family relationships and even work relationship.

This post is part 4 of 7 in the series I'm OK - You're OK Parenting

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September 12, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, anxiety, attitude, control, emotional intelligence, emotions, expectation, guilt, how to, motivation, practical parenting / parents, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, social skills

I’m OK, You’re OK Parenting: Guilt

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Guilt and shame are siblings in the family of feelings. Despite certain similarities, there is a clear distinction between them. Guilt is feeling bad about something you have done, while shame is feeling bad about who you are or a part of you. One is about behavior and can be changed. The other is related to your sense of identity and therefore harder to change.

In the ever evolving phases of parenting styles, the shift from physical punishment to shame was intended to use guilt more effectively than before, in the hope that it would teach children how to behave when their parents were not there. A bit like a GPS. Parents decided “guilt” was better than smacking because it worked even when mom and dad were not there. The purpose was still to monitor and control emotionally, but with good intentions; to create lasting discipline.

This post is part 3 of 7 in the series I'm OK - You're OK Parenting

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September 5, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, action, anxiety, behavior / discipline, beliefs, cultural, depression, emotional development, emotional intelligence, failure, fear, guilt, how to, identity, positive, practical parenting / parents, values

Kids Learn Through Play

Little boy in a straw hat

For children, life is a playground. They love to play. From tiny babies who hold toys and manipulate them clumsily, to school children, who play sophisticated games that require thinking, planning and manipulating, kids just love games. In fact, games are a source of calm and comfort for most. They stimulates the mind and body using a “fun incentive”.

Education in early childhood is very important in building the foundation for happy learning. The early impression children have of learning determines their attitude towards acquiring new knowledge later on in life. Researchers discovered that pre-teen children who called their learning activities “play” were more successful, happier in school and more socially content at the end of adolescence than those who considered their learning activities “work”.

Children play games for many purposes. For example, games can be used to improve social skills. During games, kids must negotiate, share, relate and connect with others. This helps develop understanding, compassion, empathy, acceptance and trust. Later on, this allows healthy intimacy.

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September 3, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Education / Learning Tags: academic performance, activity, anxiety, attitude, beliefs, creative / creativity, early childhood, education / learning, emotional development, empowerment, fun, k-12 education, kids / children, learning styles, memory, motivation, practical parenting / parents, school, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, social skills, success, success experience, teaching / teachers

I’m OK, You’re OK Parenting: Shame

Big communist hand pointing finger at man with bowed head

It is not easy to parent when our young kids just do not do what we want them to do. It was once popular to physically punish children for not doing what they are told. It was believed that if pain was associated with not doing what you are told, children would immediately obey.

This strategy was only useful for figures in authority (like parents and teachers). Unfortunately, it did not provide the desired outcome. Children simply learned not to get caught. If an authority figure disappeared or lost their power, the subject would revenge, big time.

After parents, there are authority figures like teachers, bosses, and managers who used shame as an alternative to physical punishment. It was a way to punish through emotional pain, without the physical pain. This seemed to work but the side effects can be severe.

This post is part 2 of 7 in the series I'm OK - You're OK Parenting

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August 13, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting Tags: abuse, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, addiction, aggressive, anger, anxiety, attitude, behavior / discipline, body image, control, emotional intelligence, fear, kids / children, positive, practical parenting / parents, sarcasm, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, teaching / teachers, trust, violence

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