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Teen Sex: Not Allowed!

Teen couple in school corridor

Recently, I saw a client who was very concerned about her teen daughter getting closer to a boy she was spending time with. She suspected they were having sex. She was completely panicked about it and started preventing her daughter from seeing her boyfriend. Her daughter was 16 years old and had been seeing this boy for over a year. I asked my client why she was worried and she didn’t really know how to answer. In her mind, teen sex was out of the question. Teens should not have sex and that’s it.

My client had many issues with sex that she never had a chance to discuss with anyone in her life, not even her husband. It was one of those things she never believed she would ever discuss with anyone. It was private, done behind closed doors, quietly, so no one would hear or know. Especially not the kids.

I told her about a story I wrote. It was about a group of teens discussing the topic of parents having sex. One of them discovered, by accident, that his parents were having sex and the story is about how they deal with this “discovery” as a group. I wrote this book (to be published yet) after listening to my then 15 year old daughter and her friends having this same discussion: do parents have sex? I was very proud of my daughter, who was the one saying, “of course they do”. Most of the other kids felt sick just imagining it.

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Published: July 7, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: May 17, 2022In: Teens / Teenagers, Relationships / Marriage, Parenting Tags: story, needs, attitude, touch, teens / teenagers, values, parenting teens, fear, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, control, feeling, mother, practical parenting / parents, change, Life Coaching, relationships / marriage

Do Parents Let Their Kids Play Violent Video Games?

Violent video games

Recently, I received a question from a mother who said her teenage kids wanted to watch violent video games and they claimed other parents allowed their kids to do so. They thought she was just being mean and ignorant of what was happening in the world. “I do not like the idea of them playing violent and sexist video games but I feel helpless”. Her idea was to design a questionnaire for parents and see if her teenagers were right. She asked me what I think of her idea. Here is what I wrote to her:

Your experience is quite normal and it is wonderful to read that there are people like you still out there, advocating for children to be engaging in healthy activities!

Feel free to set the rules in your house. Your teen is a teen. He does not set the rules. You do! He is welcome to make different rules in his house!

You don’t need a questionnaire to back up what you already know is right. You can be the captain of your own family ship, regardless of what other parents do.

Kids cannot buy their own games, computers, iPhones, etc. You have a lot more power than you think! I have clients who found amazing result when they put their kids on a technology diet for a week. Their kids were suddenly like new! If they can’t use your credit card and don’t know your PayPal password, you have nothing to worry about.

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Published: June 23, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Parenting, Kids / Children Tags: questions, kids / children, responsibility, teens / teenagers, parenting teens, computer, tips, violence, behavior / discipline, mother, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, rules, movies, tv, list, technology, practical parenting / parents, social

Handy Family Tips: What to Do When There is No Shaving Cream?

A girl shaving her legs in the bathtub

If you have teens in the house, I’m sure you will relate to this. If you have a teenage boy, he’s probably started shaving their facial hair. If you have a teenage girl, she’s probably started shaving her legs.

Recently, my youngest daughter started shaving her legs. She is very proud and happy with her smooth legs, admiring and sharing the results with the whole family.

This reminded me of myself, at her age. Except that I was not allowed to shave. So I did it in secret, which meant I could not use my dad’s shaving cream or he would find out. I always used the a bar of soap instead. It made my legs so dry, I had to put moisturizing cream on my legs every time. At least it wasn’t as bad as shaving with nothing at all and leaving my legs itchy and with the occasional cut.

Recently, I saw some things being posted about using hair conditioner as a substitute for shaving cream. It sounded like a good option and I decided to check it out. I discovered that it is even better than shaving cream! Even my son tried it on his facial hair and said it was fabulous.

This post is part 22 of 24 in the series Handy Family Tips

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Published: May 7, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Home Tags: creative / creativity, how to, family matters, teens / teenagers

Attachment Theory: Attachment Styles in Relationships and Marriages

Happy family and dog on a beach

So far, we’ve covered how attachment styles affect babies and individuals, but what about attachment styles in relationships and marriages?

Have you ever heard the theory that we pick partners who are similar to our parents? I have wondered about this over the years. My life partner, Gal is similar to my dad in some ways and totally different in many other ways. He is also similar to my mom in some ways and totally different to her in many other ways. I find it hard to either confirm or deny the theory.

While it is hard to decide if this theory works based on personal attributes, attachment theory claims that in some strange way we relate and attach to our partners and in a way that matches the attachment style that was created between us and our caregivers in those first years of our lives.

This post is part 6 of 6 in the series Attachment Theory

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Published: March 19, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 5, 2024In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: separation, empathy, change, emotions, early childhood, relationships / marriage, feeling, love, neurolinguistic programmiing / NLP, practical parenting / parents, abuse, conflict, emotional intelligence, anger, how to, aggressive, trust, kids / children, research, teens / teenagers, divorce, baby / babies, control, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement

Attachment Theory: Secure and Insecure Attachment in Adult Life

Baby walking down the beach

Secure and insecure attachment styles in babies produce different life styles in adults. Researchers have found that the relationship between babies and their parents (mainly moms) has a direct impact on their self-esteem and relationships as they grow older. Children who have a secure attachment will be more independent, have healthy connections with others, show higher emotional intelligence, perform better at school and have strong, steady relationships as adults.

If the world we live in is full of stress (which it is), then children with secure attachment will experience less depression and anxiety as adults, because they can manage their feelings better.

Through verbal and non-verbal communication, the relationship between parents and their babies in that first year of life gives the child a map with which to navigate the world and their experiences. This bond between parent and child during this critical time will shape their future relationship, teach them ways to calm themselves, manage stress, build their resilience and teach them how to find happiness and success in life.

I have often heard that babies only need to be fed, put to sleep, and changed in order to grow healthy. In fact, it is how we feed them and the way we put them to sleep or change and bath them that shapes the formation of attachment. It teaches them how life works and how they should behave.

This post is part 4 of 6 in the series Attachment Theory

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Published: March 5, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Babies / Maternity, Parenting, Kids / Children Tags: father, relationships / marriage, kids / children, teens / teenagers, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, communication, baby / babies, success, emotions, practical parenting / parents, fear, research

Peer Pressure: The Power of the Group

Teens are often criticized for not being able to stand up to peer pressure. In my parenting workshops I show parents and teachers how much they, as mature adults, grownups and parents, submit to group pressure. They are usually very shocked to discover how many things they do that do not match their own thoughts and beliefs, and how strong their desire is to be accepted, not judged and not criticized by the people around them.

Being social creatures makes us compromise our thoughts and beliefs to match those of the society we live in. It is in some way a survival mechanism that got out of control. In the beginning, we did it to survive in the group. Later on we have to obey the group if we want to be accepted in.

The power of peer pressure was examined many years ago in a famous study called “Asch’s conformity experiment”. This short video can explain how easy it is conform.

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Published: October 2, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Parenting, Teens / Teenagers Tags: values, parenting teens, books, stress / pressure, beliefs, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, control, feeling, rules, practical parenting / parents, parent coaching, teen books, society, social, video, teens / teenagers

Teen Driving

Man driving a car

If your teenager has just started driving, you must be feeling just like me, worried. My son Tsoof got his driving license this year. He is a very calm and relaxed driver, he does not drink and does not drive at night very often. Still, if he comes home from a party late at night, I get a bit worried.

Why? Because other teens his age, who are on the road at the same time, are also driving.

This is not a very productive feeling to have as a parent. After all, we must empower our teens to be responsible and safe on the road and not scare them that “driving = danger”.

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Published: January 21, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 17, 2021In: Teens / Teenagers Tags: safety, research, teens / teenagers, parenting teens, tips, practical parenting / parents

Choice Theory: Happy Classrooms

Teachers can make the classroom a happy environment for children by addressing the basic needs based on the choice theory and making sure kids have a choice.

In previous blog posts on choice theory, I explained William Glasser’s theory that everything we do in our life is a result of our choice. It is applicable to parenting, business, management, and relationships. It is very applicable to education and the way classrooms are designed.

Unfortunately, most classrooms are not places where one can be free to follow the basic needs based on the choice theory.

This post is part 5 of 6 in the series Choice Theory

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Published: October 17, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development, Emotional Intelligence Tags: choice, teaching / teachers, rules, listening, k-12 education, academic performance, needs, teens / teenagers, behavior / discipline, school, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, education / learning

Teaching & Education Beliefs: I Am an Educator

Pile of small chalkboards

In today’s part of Teaching & Education Beliefs, I want to share with you the first 20 of the top 100 beliefs I have about teaching and education.

Last week we discussed where beliefs about teaching come from: from our parents and our own teachers. In this post, I want to share some helpful tips that I found useful through my career.

1. I am an educator. I teach, I coach, I present, I motivate, I do public speaking, I write, I do my community work. In all those roles, I educate kids and grownups on how to find the gifts they have inside and let themselves shine.

2. School is not a place where kids come to gain knowledge; it is a small version of real life. Children have opportunities to use trial and error without detrimental consequences. Kids come to school to learn about themselves, grow and evolve.

This post is part 2 of 6 in the series Teaching & Education Beliefs

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Published: June 6, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Education / Learning Tags: kids / children, action, teens / teenagers, beliefs, tips, empowerment, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, communication styles, education / learning, learning styles, school, reading, teaching / teachers, touch, activity, success, k-12 education, emotional intelligence, academic performance, how to, attitude, books

Complaining about the New Generation (Cont.)

Comparing between the old and new generations bring lots of grief to children today. Last week we talked about the dangers of comparing, the risks of having an old vs. new mentality. This time, I would like to offer a more even way of comparing. A perspective where the old generation, my generation, learns to appreciate what each of us has brought to the table, rater than idealizing the old way.

Try to figure out how old the grandmother is in this story.

One day, a young boy asked his grandma about her thoughts regarding changes that happened in the world since she was born. This is what she said…

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Published: May 23, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting Tags: change, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, family matters, contribution, story, expectation, interpretation, practical parenting / parents, generation X, Generation Y, attitude, grandparents, grandchildren, beliefs, kids / children, generation gap, teens / teenagers

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