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The Magic of Encouragement

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Children will strive with encouraging. If kids were plants, their environment would be the soil while encouragement and support would be the water and sun they need in order to grow.

Children who receive positive encouragement grow up to have very strong emotional stamina. Their emotional intelligence helps them manage challenges, difficulties and failure. These skills form the basis of growing up to be successful people. Parents, teachers and caregivers are those who can give us these skills.

Here is a list of 20 positive feedback starters that encourages kids to keep doing something you would like to support and promote. You can change the ending to suit whatever it is you want to encourage.

“You’ve done a wonderful job at… picking up the toys”
“It was an excellent idea to… make a strong foundation for the Lego building”
“You must be very proud of yourself for… submitting the assignment on time”

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Published: November 19, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Emotional Intelligence, Parenting Tags: emotional development, practical parenting / parents, failure, teaching / teachers, empowerment, conflict, positive, kids / children, behavior / discipline, early childhood, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, skills, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, success, education / learning, emotional intelligence

What Does Children’s Behavior Mean?

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This week, a client of mine asked about her son’s behavior. Thomas, her 3-year-old son, does not know what to do when kids take things from him. Sharon, his mum, says he starts crying immediately. She is worried that this will be his behavior in the future. She wrote in her email to me, “If a child cries when kids take toys from him, does it mean he will grow up to use crying whenever things do not go his way?”

The simple answer is:

No. Just because kids do certain things do when they are young, does not mean they will do them as adults.

Kids are inexperienced in searching for ways to get what they want. They have had limited exposure to “life” so they use more primitive and intuitive ways of getting things. When they were born, all they knew how to do was cry. And they found it to be an effective way to get what they needed. We all used crying as a method when we were babies, but that does not mean we do it now that we are grown up, at least, not in the same way.

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Published: October 31, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Ask Ronit, Kids / Children Tags: kids / children, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, education / learning, skills, emotional development, practical parenting / parents, action, mother, social skills, conflict, social

Self Regulation: Research

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In my last post I wrote about the difference between parents who try to control their kids and those who are self controlled. It all depends on the “self regulation muscle”, which has three levels of strength: weak, medium and strong.

This week, I would like to share some research on self regulation that might help you on your parenting adventure. It may even help prevent conflict and disagreement in your other relationships.

Remember, it is called “self” regulation for a reason. It is not something you can do to someone else. You have to do it for yourself. This is what most parents do not understand. They try to enforce regulations, but they are an external force so it does not work as well.

This post is part 2 of 3 in the series Self Regulation

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Published: October 28, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development, Parenting Tags: practical parenting / parents, relationships / marriage, conflict, goals / goal setting, time management, positive attitude tips, attitude, focus, imagination, role model, kids / children, choice, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, research, planning, empowerment, emotional development, control

Choice Theory: Happy Parenting

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In the previous chapter of the choice theory, I explained the controlling and connecting habits—the caring or deadly habits based on William Glasser. In his theory, Glasser explained many of our behaviors as a choice. There are basic beliefs in his theory that all therapies are based on.

Based on Glasser, when we behave, it is a mix of action, thinking, feeling, and physiology. He called it “total behavior,” as they appear in different degrees and in combination.

He very much focused on taking responsibility in order to gain control and it is quite relevant to parenting.

This post is part 3 of 6 in the series Choice Theory

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Published: October 3, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 4, 2013In: Personal Development, Parenting Tags: happiness, guilt, values, Life Coaching, emotional development, success, perception, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, compassion, role model, needs, choice, positive, trust, kids / children, failure, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, language, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, beliefs, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, gratitude, identity, responsibility

I’m OK, You’re OK Parenting: “I’m OK” Beliefs

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This is the last installment in the “I’m OK, You’re OK Parenting” series. To wrap up, I want to share some beliefs that have helped me as a parent, and also many of my clients, to adopt an I’m OK, You’re OK parenting mentality.

The best way to overcome guilt and shame is to adopt beliefs that strengthen our view of ourselves as OK (I’m OK) and of others as OK (You’re OK) – The I’m OK, You’re OK mindset. There are many ways to identify whether you are in another frame of mind. For example, If you are upset, or disappointed, if you lecture your kids, or want them to do something they do not want to do, if you are threatening them, punishing them, shouting at them or if you want to teach them a lesson, if you shame them, use name calling, or ridicule them, and if you think life needs to go your way “or else”, this generally means you are not in the I’m OK, You’re OK mode. This means your child is also learning this mindset and will most likely not be in the I’m OK, You’re OK mode either.

This post is part 7 of 7 in the series I'm OK - You're OK Parenting

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Published: October 1, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development, Parenting Tags: failure, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, language, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, beliefs, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, gratitude, identity, responsibility, happiness, guilt, values, Life Coaching, emotional development, success, perception, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, compassion, role model, needs, choice, positive, trust, kids / children

Choice Theory: Happy Relationships

Heart-shaped maze

The choice theory, founded by William Glasser, suggests that all our actions are chosen and driven by the five basic needs: survival, love and belonging, power, freedom, and fun.

In relationships, our needNeed for love and belonging for love and belonging is the most important one. Based on Glasser, satisfying this specific need will guarantee our ability to fulfill all other needs. The source of all problems in the world, according to the choice theory, is disconnection. Behavior problems, mental illnesses, violence, abuse, crime, school problems, marriage breakdown, relationship challenges, and depression are all a result of our inability to connect or feel love and have a sense of belonging.

Our relationship with those we care about and care for us depends on our caring ability. Glasser suggested that there are 7 deadly habits that needed to be replaced with 7 caring habits.

This post is part 2 of 6 in the series Choice Theory

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Published: September 26, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: values, relationships / marriage, success, perception, emotional intelligence, compassion, choice, needs, trust, positive, failure, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, language, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, beliefs, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, identity, gratitude, happiness, guilt, responsibility, Life Coaching, emotional development

Choice Theory: Be Happy in Life

Dr. William Glasser’s 5 Basic Needs

Dr. William Glasser is an American psychiatrist who developed the Reality Theory, which later on became known as the Choice Theory. In the seventies, Glasser’s work was not highly accepted by his colleagues.

While others thought that human behavior is affected by external sources, Glasser believed in personal choice, personal responsibility, and personal transformation. While others considered certain behaviors as mental disorders and prescribed medication for these, Glasser believed in the education and empowerment of his clients to change their choices. He applied his theories on education, management, and marriage.

The Choice Theory states that a person’s behavior is inspired by what that person wants or needs at that particular time, not an outside stimulus. Glasser thought all living creatures control their behavior to fulfill their need for satisfaction in one or more of these five areas:

This post is part 1 of 6 in the series Choice Theory

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Published: September 19, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 28, 2022In: Personal Development, Life Coaching Tags: failure, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, language, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, beliefs, identity, guilt, gratitude, happiness, emotional development, responsibility, Life Coaching, practical parenting / parents, values, perception, success, compassion, emotional intelligence, needs, choice, positive, trust, acceptance / judgment / tolerance

I’m OK, You’re OK Parenting: Guilt

Shadow of parent point down at sitting child

Guilt and shame are siblings in the family of feelings. Despite certain similarities, there is a clear distinction between them. Guilt is feeling bad about something you have done, while shame is feeling bad about who you are or a part of you. One is about behavior and can be changed. The other is related to your sense of identity and therefore harder to change.

In the ever evolving phases of parenting styles, the shift from physical punishment to shame was intended to use guilt more effectively than before, in the hope that it would teach children how to behave when their parents were not there. A bit like a GPS. Parents decided “guilt” was better than smacking because it worked even when mom and dad were not there. The purpose was still to monitor and control emotionally, but with good intentions; to create lasting discipline.

This post is part 3 of 7 in the series I'm OK - You're OK Parenting

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Published: September 5, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 5, 2019In: Parenting Tags: emotional intelligence, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, depression, behavior / discipline, anxiety, how to, guilt, fear, emotional development, failure, practical parenting / parents, action, beliefs, identity, positive, values, cultural

Kids Learn Through Play

Little boy in a straw hat

For children, life is a playground. They love to play. From tiny babies who hold toys and manipulate them clumsily, to school children, who play sophisticated games that require thinking, planning and manipulating, kids just love games. In fact, games are a source of calm and comfort for most. They stimulates the mind and body using a “fun incentive”.

Education in early childhood is very important in building the foundation for happy learning. The early impression children have of learning determines their attitude towards acquiring new knowledge later on in life. Researchers discovered that pre-teen children who called their learning activities “play” were more successful, happier in school and more socially content at the end of adolescence than those who considered their learning activities “work”.

Children play games for many purposes. For example, games can be used to improve social skills. During games, kids must negotiate, share, relate and connect with others. This helps develop understanding, compassion, empathy, acceptance and trust. Later on, this allows healthy intimacy.

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Published: September 3, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 5, 2019In: Education / Learning Tags: academic performance, beliefs, attitude, empowerment, kids / children, motivation, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, learning styles, creative / creativity, social skills, education / learning, memory, emotional development, success experience, practical parenting / parents, early childhood, activity, teaching / teachers, school, fun, success, k-12 education, anxiety

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