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Know Your Partner: Appearance, Work, Money and Health

Welcome to the third installment of “Know Your Partner”. In this series war are talking about questions you and your partner should discuss before you move in together, get married or have kids. These questions will help you find your partner’s “musts”. To read more about “musts”, check out Know Your Partner: Musts. In the last post in the series, we listed questions about relationships, every day life, family background and friends. This post covers questions about appearance, work, money and health.

This post is part 3 of 8 in the series Know Your Partner

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Published: May 7, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: rules, obesity, body image, change, positive attitude tips, communication, appearance, happiness, positive, love, income, Life Coaching, attitude, money, partner, relationships / marriage, questions, success, addiction, alcohol, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, emotional intelligence, work life balance, health / wellbeing, how to, romance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, choice, determination, emotions, beliefs, law of attraction, feeling, separation, activity, thought

The Art of Letting Go: Attachments

Change is not easy for many people. Over time, we develop beliefs, thoughts, attitudes and behaviors that give us a feeling of certainty in the world and make up our identity, and identity is a big thing for people. It is the skeleton that defines who we are. This makes it very hard for us to let go when it seems like we have to give up a bone from our skeleton and we are afraid we will not be able to stand properly.

People are a lot like monkeys. If you want to catch a monkey, you can put a cage with a banana in front of it. Once the monkey holds the banana, the monkey is trapped, because their hand will not come out with the banana. Monkeys are not smart enough to know that if they let go of the banana, they will be able to slide their hand out of the cage, so they stay trapped.

People hold on to beliefs, thoughts, attitudes and behaviors that trap them like bananas and are afraid to let go of them even when they rot and smell.

For most, letting go of a banana means that we will no longer be able to maintain our identity. Allowing change means that we will be crippled or handicapped. I think this is because they consider letting go as a form of giving up and since childhood, they have heard millions of times “Never, never give up!” and interpreted it as “Never let go”.

This post is part 1 of 10 in the series The Art of Letting Go

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Published: September 11, 2012 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: identity, diet, change, body image, happiness, focus, eating disorders, projection, overweight, responsibility, obesity, success, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, emotional intelligence, behavior / discipline, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, choice, beliefs

Trust Your Healing Powers

As a life coach, I have to keep a strong belief in the power of coaching even when those who come for coaching seem impossible to help at first. Recently, I had to question my belief when a new client came to me that made me doubt my ability to help her. After years of working with people and helping them see the amazing power of the mind, when Millie came, I had some doubts.

Millie was referred to me by a friend. He said to me, “Ronit, Millie needs to come and see you urgently”. So we scheduled a session and to my coaching deck came a gentle, beautiful 40-year-old woman with spots all over her face.

The more she told me about the problem, the more I doubted about my ability to help her. How on Earth can I help a woman with a 35-year-old skin problem? I am not a dermatologist. I panicked a bit and talked to myself, “Come on, Ronit, you’ve helped people who had taken antidepressants for 24 years, you’ve helped people who had used drugs, you’ve helped sick people. You can do this”. One side of me said, “You can do it”, while the other asked, “How?”

I had no answer.

This post is part 8 of 19 in the series From the Life Coaching Deck

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Published: July 23, 2012 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Beautiful people, Health / Wellbeing Tags: mind, change, body image, food, responsibility, happiness, inspiration, Life Coaching, emotional intelligence, lifestyle, how to, choice, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, trust, health / wellbeing, beliefs, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement

Anorexia: Healing through Creativity

Creativity and self-expression are wonderful ways to recover from an eating disorder. Not eating and overeating are ways to control your life. Creativity happens when there is full control and can even be a form of meditation.

When I was young, I had many throat infections. My mom’s solution was always to take me to the doctor and give me antibiotics. This was a major part of my life for about 10 years. I took antibiotics about 6 months every year as a kid. It freaks me out to think about it now. When I grew up and learned more about the connection between physical problems and emotional states, I discovered that my throat infections could have been a result of being unable to express myself. Funnily enough, when I started writing at the age of 14, they disappeared.

I also learned that self-expression can be a cure, so since then, whenever my throat starts playing up and I have that familiar dry tingle threatening to flare, I sing! I turn the music on at full volume, or do it in the car, and sing! It does magic. One day and the infection is gone.

Using art for self-expression is a wonderful way to regain control over your life. You are on your own, creating what is in your mind. No criticism, no expected outcomes, just you and your creative flow, so you can feel how your body obeys your commands.

In any creative form, there is a sense of freedom that anorexic people desperately need. They have the freedom to try new things, the freedom to make mistakes, the freedom to express themselves, the freedom from rules and boundaries – basically, the freedom to be themselves.

Also, immersing ourselves in creative art can work as a great distraction from thinking about the emotional challenges that take over otherwise. Anorexic people continually think about their “distorted body”, about food and about their problems. Keeping busy and doing something creative is like putting a sign on the door saying “time out” from thinking and hopefully those thoughts will never come back.

People are different and find different forms of self-expression, but all of them are wonderful and can help in healing and recovering from anorexia or other eating disorders.

This post is part 7 of 8 in the series Anorexia

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Published: July 16, 2012 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Emotional Intelligence, Health / Wellbeing Tags: identity, diet, exercise, body image, change, focus, eating disorders, projection, anorexia, emotional intelligence, overweight, anxiety, stress / pressure, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, how to, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, choice, health / wellbeing, creative / creativity

Anorexia: Love Your Body

Women with Anorexia have issues with their body image and a feeling of helplessness and inability to control their life. The combination of these challenges makes them seek control in any way and not eating seems to them a great way to gain control.

Society around us obviously contributes a lot to the negative body image and self image girls have during childhood, through their teenage years and later on into adulthood. The image of an anorexic teen girl can be misleading. There are also many women are anorexic who need help.

One way of healing is learning to love your body.

Loving your body is giving yourself the permission to feel good physically and it must be done slowly, with love and with patience. If you are a parent or someone who wants to help an anorexic person, just saying, “You need to love your body”, will not make the required difference.

The best idea is to help the anorexic person search for good things – positive thoughts, encouragements, small bits of progress and every little achievement – to help change their perception of their life’s reality.

This post is part 6 of 8 in the series Anorexia

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Published: June 25, 2012 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Emotional Intelligence, Health / Wellbeing Tags: emotional intelligence, overweight, dreams, how to, perception, choice, self-fulfilling prophecy, beliefs, teens / teenagers, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, diet, identity, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, body image, change, health / wellbeing, focus, eating disorders, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, projection, anorexia, inspiration, fat, goals / goal setting

Anorexia: Warning Signs

One of the things every parent will tell you when his/her daughter is diagnosed with Anorexia or any other eating disorder is that they could not see it coming. I am sure they mean it. Parents do not want to believe their child is having a problem, including me. It is mainly because most of us think that it says something about us. Maybe it says we have failed and we are not good parents. The problem with this fear is that it clutters our thinking and makes us blind to the warning signs of anorexia.

Be brave! Keep reading and look carefully at every photo, even though they are scary.

Having a child with Anorexia or any other eating disorder requires strong, brave parents who manage to help their child despite what others might say about them. The problem with Anorexia is that everyone can see it. Most kids do not do a very good job hiding it.

A couple of years ago, I worked with an anorexic woman who was 40 years old and weighed about 25kg (55lbs). Trust me, that was scary! It is not something you can hide very well. When I was in hospital with her, in the mental ward, there were other girls there and not all of them were teens. They looked like skeletons! But it is much harder to notice anorexia when it is developing and people often say, “She’s just a bit skinny, that’s all. She’ll get over it”.

This post is part 3 of 8 in the series Anorexia

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Published: August 26, 2011 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Health / Wellbeing, Parenting, Teens / Teenagers Tags: projection, teens / teenagers, responsibility, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, emotional intelligence, health / wellbeing, how to, practical parenting / parents, eating disorders, anorexia, fat, overweight, diet, society, body image, family matters

Anorexia: Model Parenting

Young woman measuring her waist

We happened to watch a TV piece on top models’ body image, eating habits and self-inflicted damages.

Top model Jessica Gomes (24) said the pressure on models to be slim was enormous and that models are afraid to miss out on work opportunities in the highly competitive fashion industry, so they use some excessive methods to keep themselves trim. She said models run for days on a mix of lemon juice and maple syrup, which also “cleanses”. To keep their energy up and be able to work, they drink coffee and use Cocaine.

The article mentioned Ana Carolina Reston (see her in the pictures), a famous Brazilian model who died from Anorexia at the age of 21, weighing 40kg (88lbs). Her mother told the press Ana had eaten nothing but apples and tomatoes for 2 months before she died.

Although the article did a very good job showing models who decided to eat normally and still got excellent jobs, Ronit and I were left with a very painful question:

Where are those top models’ parents?

This post is part 2 of 8 in the series Anorexia

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Published: June 16, 2010 by Gal Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Parenting, Health / Wellbeing Tags: anorexia, society, lifestyle, diet, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, body image, health / wellbeing, focus, responsibility, practical parenting / parents, choice, safety, eating disorders

Thanks to the Tooth Fairy

My daughter Noff is 8 years old. Yes, this is late, but about 6 months ago, she started growing “Shark teeth” behind her lower front teeth. The orthodontist suggested pulling the baby teeth out and creating space for the “Shark teeth” to position themselves in the right place over time. So we scheduled a time to pull Noff’s baby teeth out and she was brave and managed the injections very well. When her lips went numb and she could not feel them, that scared her a bit, but other than that, everything was great.

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Published: August 25, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 24, 2019In: Kids / Children Tags: self confidence / self esteem / self worth, body image, focus, projection, emotional intelligence, change, happiness, motivation, kids / children

TV Diet (2): Health Concerns

Many studies have been done on the influence of TV on viewers (in fact there have been 4,000 studies on the effect on children alone, which you should not read if you love watching TV). Excessive TV viewing raises concerns in five major areas: Health, Behavior, Outlook on life, Relationship and Education

This post is part 2 of 18 in the series TV Diet

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Published: July 13, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 18, 2021In: Health / Wellbeing, Parenting Tags: health / wellbeing, eating disorders, practical parenting / parents, teen books, fat, overweight, lifestyle, tv, obesity, diet, kids / children, body image, teens / teenagers, choice

How to Make Troubled Teens Relax: Change Your Parenting

Troubled teen girl

What are troubled teens? Could your teen be troubled? Can you do anything about it as a parent? What can you do? Get your answers right here.

In the past few weeks, I overheard talk about a teenager (let’s call him Jonathan). Besides being very talented, he used to be friendly and “normal”. But recently started to miss classes, show up late, fail various subjects and behave indifferently. One speculation was that he might have started using drugs.

I thought this was serious enough to report to his school through a friend of ours, who is his teacher. “Speculation or not, the school should look into it”, I said.

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Published: June 10, 2009 by Gal Baras
Last modified: October 21, 2020In: Parenting, Teens / Teenagers Tags: lifestyle, family matters, body image, academic performance, drugs, teens / teenagers, communication, behavior / discipline, money, practical parenting / parents, depression, anxiety, how to, books, relationships / marriage

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