Appearance
- What do you most like about your appearance? Why?
- What do you most dislike about your appearance? Why?
- As a child, were you proud/ashamed of your appearance?
- Do you have strong preferences for a particular type of partner?
- How would you feel if your partner wore things you did not like?
- How important is it to you that you always look your best?
- What do you think of couples who make an effort to look good while they are still dating but stop as soon as they move in together or get married?
- How important is your partner’s appearance to you?
- What do you do to take care of your looks?
- Have you undergone any cosmetic procedures to maintain your look?
- What is your opinion on being overweight?
- Do you think controlling weight is important for men? Women?
- Is your partner’s weight important to you?
- What would be your reaction if your partner were to gain a lot of weight?
- Would you go on a weight controlling program to support your partner?
- How much money do you spend on your look?
- What do you think about looking old?
- Do you worry about losing your look (after giving birth? From getting old?…)?
- How would you react to your partner losing a limb (whether through accident, sickness, etc.)?
- Do you believe it is important to be physically attracted to your partner?
- Do you think people who live together for many years are still physically attracted to each other?
- Has “look” ever been the reason you and previous partners broke up?
Work and Money
- When was the first time you started working for money? How old were you and what were the circumstances?
- What do you do for a living?
- Are you working in your chosen field?
- How many hours a week do you work?
- What do you do at work?
- Do you travel for work?
- Do you work from home?
- Are you self employed?
- Is your work dangerous?
- Do you like your job?
- What do you most like about your work/job?
- What do you most hate about your work/job?
- What would make your work perfect?
- If you could have all the money in the world, what would you do for a living?
- Has anyone ever said you were a workaholic?
- Have you ever been fired?
- Have you ever quit a job suddenly?
- Do you change jobs a lot?
- How much do you earn in a year?
- Do you have savings?
- How do you manage your money?
- Do you use a credit card? How?
- Do you have any loans?
- Do you have any financial commitments (debt, alimony, child support, loans…)?
- Do you consider your work a career or just a job?
- What do you spend most of your money on?
- Do you spend money on drinking?
- Do you gamble?
- Who handled money at your house when you were a kid?
- Who do you think should handle the money in your house, you or your partner?
- Who do you think should to pay for the movie or restaurant when you go out with your partner?
- When you want something but do not have the money right now, would you save up for it, or would you buy it now and pay later?
- Has your work ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
- Do you have any conflicts over money with someone in your life?
- Do you think married couple should have shared bank account or two separate accounts? Or both?
- How do you think couples should manage their finances?
- Who do you think should earn more money in the household? Why?
- Do you feel that bills should be divided based on a percentage of each person’s salary?
- Do you believe in prenuptial agreements? Under what circumstances?
- Do you believe in establishing a family budget?
- Was money ever the reason for a breakup of a previous relationship?
- Has someone ever tried to control you with money? How? Why?
- Would you consider yourself a saver or a spender?
- If something is broken, will you try to fix it or buy a new one?
- Do you usually buy the newest gadgets?
- Do you like expensive things or practical things?
- Do you care what others think about your money?
- What do you think about wealthy people?
- Do you think you are wealthy? If so, what made you wealthy? If no, why not?
- What fun things do you use your money for?
- If you had a tight budget, what would you do with pleasure activities?
- How much money is “enough money”?
- What is your retirement plan?
- When will you retire?
- What do you plan to do when you stop working?
Health
- How would you describe the current state of your health?
- Were you a healthy kid?
- Have you ever had a serious illness?
- Have you ever had surgery?
- Do you have health insurance?
- Do you have dental insurance?
- What do you think about healthy eating?
- Do you drink coffee? Tea? How many cups a day?
- Do you smoke? If so, how many cigarettes a day?
- Do you take drugs? If so, what kind? How much? When and why?
- Do you drink alcohol? If so, what kind, how much? When and why?
- Do you have any addictions?
- Have you ever suffered from an eating disorder?
- Have you ever been in a serious accident?
- Do you take medication? If so, what for?
- Have you ever had a sexually transmitted disease?
- Have you ever been treated for a mental disorder?
- Do you see a therapist? If so, for what reason?
- Do you play sports or take exercise classes?
- Do you go to the gym? If so, how many hours a week?
- Who do you think is in charge of your health?
- Do you meditate?
- How many hours do you sleep a night?
- When you are feeling down, what do you do to pick yourself up?
- Do you think your physical and mental health have any impact on your relationship?
- Have you ever been in a physically or emotionally abusive relationship?
- Do you take any medication?
- Do you take any medication that might impact having a satisfying sex life? (For example, drug/alcohol addiction, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, vaginal dryness…)?
- Do you have any family history of diseases? (Hearth, cancer, mental…)
- Are there any genetic problems in your family history?
- Have any of these health problems ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
Join me next week for important questions to ask your partner if you want to be parents: education, leisure, travel and vacations, holidays and birthdays.
Till then,
Ronit
This post is part of the series Know Your Partner:
- Know Your Partner: Musts
- Know Your Partner: Questions to Ask
- Know Your Partner: Appearance, Work, Money and Health
- Know Your Partner: Education, Leisure, Holidays and Birthdays
- Know Your Partner: Home, Food, Telecommunication & Pets
- Know Your Partner: Beliefs & Attitudes
- Know Your Partner: Attitudes About Gender and Sex
- Know Your Partner: Parenting