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Turn Your Unhappiness into Personal Growth

Unhappy young woman

I often discuss happiness with my clients. They find it very awkward when I tell them it is possible to find happiness everywhere, including times of unhappiness.

Most people try to avoid unhappiness like the plague. They divide life into happy and unhappy and think they should move towards happy and avoid unhappy. This is good if you think of it as a process and direction, but not if you think of it as something that shrinks you. You see, we can grow from happiness and we can grow from unhappiness.

Trent was a 28-year-old man who worked at a petrol station. He was healthy, made good money, could pick shifts if he wanted to do something in the evening, had time for computer games and had some good friends.

On the surface, you’d think Trent had a very good life, but he didn’t. His friends were all professionals with university degrees, and he still didn’t know what he wanted to do in his life. He told me he’d never known what he wanted to do in his life.

One day, Trent had a weekend away with his friends, and although the time spent together was fantastic, Trent came back very unhappy. This was when he looked for a life coach and found me.

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Published: October 10, 2018 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: May 17, 2022In: Personal Development Tags: emotional intelligence, feeling, how to, choice, empowerment, happiness, motivation, Life Coaching, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotions

Make a List: 100 Reasons to Be Wealthy

Home, stacks of coins and a clock - that's how wealth is built

Everyone wants to be wealthy. We want it for our children and for ourselves. The problem with being wealthy is that if you are not born to wealth and know exactly what it means, you don’t know how to get there.

The Internet contains millions of websites, blogs, podcasts and videos of people who promise you that if you do what they’ve done, you will become wealthy. If they were so successful, everyone who visited their site would be wealthy by now. Sadly, the transition from not being wealthy to being wealthy is filled with obstacles.

To me, wealth is a sense of security. Real richness is mostly about things that you have and no one can take away from you. We can be rich in memories, rich in experiences, rich in love and rich in friendships, not just possessions.

This post is part 44 of 49 in the series Make a List

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Published: August 8, 2018 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: April 19, 2020In: Success / Wealth, Personal Development Tags: money, success, emotional intelligence, beliefs, lifestyle, wealth, financial freedom, focus, practical parenting / parents, vision

Pursuing Parenthood: This is Your Chance!

Newborn baby's feet

On my living room wall, there is a picture of a woman with peacock feathers for hair. I drew it six years ago and called it “Mother”. I wanted my children to see it every day so they can see how much I love them and how proud I am being their mother.

Last week, when my youngest daughter and my son performed together, I asked them at the end of the show if they were able to see my feathers. They knew what I meant.

Over the years, working to help my clients work on their emotions, I came up with a new form of therapy. I call it “Pride Therapy”. I believe it is the cheapest, healthiest, fastest and most effective form of self-therapy. You work on your emotions, become a happy parent, raise happy kids and boost your happiness by being very proud of whatever your kids achieve.

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Published: September 20, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 5, 2023In: Parenting Tags: choice, empowerment, hope, pregnancy, tips, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, inspiration, emotional intelligence

Resilient Teens: Bend or Break!

Teenage girl in devil costume peeking shyly behind a post

“Teens today have an easy life” is a very common phrase. I tend to think that grownups say it because they have forgotten what it means to be a teenager. They say that teens need more discipline, more structure, more rules, more determination and more motivation. I say they need to be more resilient, because teens today have it tough and need to be able to bounce back quickly and very often. They need to bend, so they do not break.

It is easy to look at your own teenage years in retrospect, with the “creative dementia” that comes with age, and say that they were fun. People forget. We are programmed to forget the tough things in order to survive, but expecting our kids to perform where we have failed ourselves is a double standard. The reason I have not forgotten my teenage experiences was that I have been working with so many teens since then. Even if I would have forgotten naturally, they have reminded me that this period brings with it many challenges. The physical-hormonal part of adolescence is a myth that grownups have created to help them forget that the social-emotional side is where they failed.

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Published: April 28, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 4, 2023In: Teens / Teenagers, Parenting Tags: empowerment, flexibility, k-12 education, teens / teenagers, parenting teens, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, practical parenting / parents, social media, emotional intelligence, how to

You Can Change Your Life

A bridge over a creek

Change is not easy and you can recognize the points that have changed your course in life only in hindsight. We call these points “quantum moments”. I have had many quantum moments in life and the ones that have steered me in the right direction included reading books, meeting inspiring people and attending empowering events. I contemplated each of them until I got to some realization that later became part of my being.

My biggest change in life was when I was 15 years old. I remember how before it, I dreamed every day of waking up to a different life. I said, “I wish…” and had millions of wishes. I hoped to be the Genie of the Lamp, but every morning realized I was not. I built up hopes and got up in the morning to realize they were just illusions that I had no power to fulfill.

You see, it is one thing to want and another thing to make it happen.

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Published: April 25, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 5, 2023In: Parenting Tags: happiness, motivation, financial freedom, positive attitude tips, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, inspiration, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, success, goals / goal setting, emotional intelligence, how to, empowerment, change

Make a List: 100 Ways to Be Kind to Myself

Happy woman sitting in a forest

Last week, I wrote about self-kindness and how to write a list of “100 ways to be kind to myself”. Kindness spreads like a ripple, so it must start from within us. I hope that by now, you have a basic list, but if you do not, please stop reading, make your own list and only then continue to read my list below.

Why?

The process of making up the list sends a message to your subconscious that you are important. However, if you copy someone else’s list, this does not happen.

Here is a list of things you can do to be kind to yourself. Only take those that suit your personality and adjust them to your preferences and to what makes you happy.

This post is part 41 of 49 in the series Make a List

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Published: April 19, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 9, 2024In: Personal Development Tags: music, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, money, list, emotional intelligence, kindness, how to, beliefs, change, social skills, body image, positive attitude tips, focus, love, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, art, self confidence / self esteem / self worth

Make a List: Self-Kindness

Girl looking happy in fetal position

I have written a lot about kindness. I think that it makes the world go around and I like to think about it as a ripple. One act of kindness ripples and touches the lives of those who are far away from us.

The movie Pay it Forward showed the power of kindness in making the world a better place. I remember at the age of 16, I was a school captain and we had a teacher, named Reuben, who helped us a lot to change the lives of the students in our school. One day, a girl in the group asked him why he was dedicating so much time to us. He said, “If I make a difference in the lives of six of you, and each of you makes a difference in the lives of six other people, eventually, this world will be a better place”. I was 16 years old and this gave me a perfect understanding of the ripple effect of kindness.

For the last 32 years, I have been teaching emotional intelligence and kindness. used to be the part in EQ that we relate to others. In the last 10 years, it has changed for me as I became the state director of a not-for-profit organization, called “Together for Humanity”, which delivers diversity education.

Why?

This post is part 40 of 49 in the series Make a List

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Published: April 12, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 9, 2024In: Personal Development Tags: touch, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, love, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, men, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, art, list, emotional intelligence, kindness, how to, beliefs, change, social skills, body image, positive attitude tips, school

The Power of Complimenting: Don’t Be Stingy

A young boy

Some parents are stingy with complimenting. I do not blame them. They probably grew up with stingy parents, who probably grew up with parents that did not compliment them either. I have said many times that we suffer today for things our ancestors did, which have not evolved.

Wake up, parents! We do not need to do the same things our great-great-grandparents did, because in some areas of life, they were not great at all. Giving compliments was definitely one of these areas.

The belief “back then” was that compliments got in the way of “building character”. I have clients and friends who say it aloud, “If you compliment people, especially children, they become complacent”.

What?!

Since when is complacent a bad word, anyway?

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Published: April 5, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: August 13, 2020In: Parenting Tags: compassion, positive attitude tips, kids / children, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, emotional development, abuse, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, teaching / teachers, fear, motivation, k-12 education

No More Disappointment: The Biggest Loser Leads the Dance

Teenage boy looking away

Many forms of therapy try to help the client overcome pain. One big source of pain starts during childhood, when kids, with their lack of life experience, feel that they are a disappointment to their parents. Here is the story of Simon, who believed he was the biggest loser in his parent’s eyes.

Simon was an angry and frustrated teenager when he came to sit with me on my life coaching deck. I read what he and his parents had written to me and felt frustrated to see how yet another whole family was a victim of circumstances. Parents’ love can be overwhelming sometimes and being unaware of feelings and lacking the ability to manage them sabotages the relationships at home.

Parents need courage to realize that they are the most powerful in this dysfunctional dynamic, but most of them feel helpless and send their kids to be “fixed”. A relationship with a child is a dance. Some parents do not understand that they need to lead.

This post is part 17 of 19 in the series From the Life Coaching Deck

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Published: March 15, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Parenting, Beautiful people, Teens / Teenagers Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, emotional intelligence, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, beliefs, expectation, change, practical parenting / parents, Life Coaching, perception, interpretation, positive attitude tips, teens / teenagers

How to Turn off Children’s Creativity

Girl with disheveled hair looking worried

As an educator and a mother, I believe in the importance of developing children’s creativity. My first real job as an educator was in a very special project, called “Creative Thinking”. It was a very important part in my career and in forming my philosophy.

I think this is the reason creativity is such a high value for me. I have written a lot about creativity and how to “turn it on”. But today, I would like to give some negative examples of ways you can turn it off, just as easily as you can turn it on.

Please check if your relationships with your children or students include any of these things. If so, this may be limiting their creativity and future success.

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Published: February 15, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Parenting, Education / Learning, Kids / Children Tags: k-12 education, attitude, kids / children, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, creative / creativity, focus, education / learning, success, expectation, emotional intelligence, practical parenting / parents, teaching / teachers, control, change

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