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Make a List: Self-Kindness

Girl looking happy in fetal position

I have written a lot about kindness. I think that it makes the world go around and I like to think about it as a ripple. One act of kindness ripples and touches the lives of those who are far away from us.

The movie Pay it Forward showed the power of kindness in making the world a better place. I remember at the age of 16, I was a school captain and we had a teacher, named Reuben, who helped us a lot to change the lives of the students in our school. One day, a girl in the group asked him why he was dedicating so much time to us. He said, “If I make a difference in the lives of six of you, and each of you makes a difference in the lives of six other people, eventually, this world will be a better place”. I was 16 years old and this gave me a perfect understanding of the ripple effect of kindness.

For the last 32 years, I have been teaching emotional intelligence and kindness. used to be the part in EQ that we relate to others. In the last 10 years, it has changed for me as I became the state director of a not-for-profit organization, called “Together for Humanity”, which delivers diversity education.

Why?

This post is part 40 of 47 in the series Make a List

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April 12, 2017 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, beliefs, body image, change, emotional intelligence, how to, list, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive attitude tips, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, social skills

The Power of Complimenting: Don’t Be Stingy

A young boy

Some parents are stingy with complimenting. I do not blame them. They probably grew up with stingy parents, who probably grew up with parents that did not compliment them either. I have said many times that we suffer today for things our ancestors did, which have not evolved.

Wake up, parents! We do not need to do the same things our great-great-grandparents did, because in some areas of life, they were not great at all. Giving compliments was definitely one of these areas.

The belief “back then” was that compliments got in the way of “building character”. I have clients and friends who say it aloud, “If you compliment people, especially children, they become complacent”.

What?!

Since when is complacent a bad word, anyway?

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April 5, 2017 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting Tags: abuse, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, compassion, emotional development, emotional intelligence, fear, k-12 education, kids / children, motivation, positive attitude tips, practical parenting / parents, teaching / teachers

No More Disappointment: The Biggest Loser Leads the Dance

Teenage boy looking away

Many forms of therapy try to help the client overcome pain. One big source of pain starts during childhood, when kids, with their lack of life experience, feel that they are a disappointment to their parents. Here is the story of Simon, who believed he was the biggest loser in his parent’s eyes.

Simon was an angry and frustrated teenager when he came to sit with me on my life coaching deck. I read what he and his parents had written to me and felt frustrated to see how yet another whole family was a victim of circumstances. Parents’ love can be overwhelming sometimes and being unaware of feelings and lacking the ability to manage them sabotages the relationships at home.

Parents need courage to realize that they are the most powerful in this dysfunctional dynamic, but most of them feel helpless and send their kids to be “fixed”. A relationship with a child is a dance. Some parents do not understand that they need to lead.

This post is part 17 of 19 in the series From the Life Coaching Deck

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March 15, 2017 by Ronit Baras In: Beautiful people, Parenting, Teens / Teenagers Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, beliefs, change, emotional intelligence, expectation, interpretation, Life Coaching, perception, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive attitude tips, practical parenting / parents, teens / teenagers

How to Turn off Children’s Creativity

Girl with disheveled hair looking worried

As an educator and a mother, I believe in the importance of developing children’s creativity. My first real job as an educator was in a very special project, called “Creative Thinking”. It was a very important part in my career and in forming my philosophy.

I think this is the reason creativity is such a high value for me. I have written a lot about creativity and how to “turn it on”. But today, I would like to give some negative examples of ways you can turn it off, just as easily as you can turn it on.

Please check if your relationships with your children or students include any of these things. If so, this may be limiting their creativity and future success.

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February 15, 2017 by Ronit Baras In: Education / Learning, Kids / Children, Parenting Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, attitude, change, control, creative / creativity, education / learning, emotional intelligence, expectation, focus, k-12 education, kids / children, practical parenting / parents, success, teaching / teachers

Men vs. Women: 6 Stereotypical Differences

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For many years, I stayed out of the “men vs. women” debate, mainly because of my dad. He is an old man who grew up in a very patriarchal and chauvinistic society, yet is the most admirable example of gender equality.

My dad cooked, took care of the kids, helped us with our did homework, cleaned the house (inside and outside), brushed our hair, did arts and craft and was never ashamed of any of it. He had four daughters and one son and I thought he was fair and equal in his attitude to boys and girls.

In fact, my dad’s behavior cluttered my outlook on life in a way, because whenever I heard someone talking about the stereotypical man, I said, “This is not true, because my dad is different”. Now, I have to admit that I was wrong. There is something true about the stereotypes about men and my dad was the odd one out.

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December 6, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, change, communication, conflict, control, emotional intelligence, emotions, empathy, expectation, feeling, focus, gender, men, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, relationships / marriage, society, women, work life balance

Stop Verbalizing and Justifying Your Negative Feelings

Lion

As a life coach, I teach mindfulness. To me, mindfulness is observation of sensations, thoughts and emotions without judgment. Our conscious mind is in charge of 10% of our actions and our subconscious mind is in charge of 90%. Therefore, mindfulness is a simple and highly effective way to increase our awareness, overcome negative feelings and gain more control over our actions.

One basic tools used to reach high EQ is “Name the feeling”. Researchers have found that when people give a name to a hard feeling they have, their brain decreases the intensity of the feeling. Matthew D. Lieberman, professor of psychology and director of the UCLA Social Cognitive Neuroscience lab, has shown that simply labeling emotions reduced the activity of the amygdala, the brain’s center of emotional responses, which reduced fear. Naming emotions also increased activity in the pre-frontal cortex, the mind’s regulator.

Many people know this concept, but some of them take it too far, because not all verbalizing is healthy for us. Many people believe that if we name the “problem”, we are half-way into solving it. After working with many clients, I can tell you that almost 90% of them know what their problems are, but they are far from solving them.

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November 17, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, anxiety, emotional intelligence, emotions, fear, feeling, how to, meditation, mindfulness, perception, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement

Mental Pain Shouldn’t Kill You. It Can Make You Stronger

The word depression projected onto a sad man's face

I have written before about emotional pain as a reaction to a perceived threat and our body’s way of telling us that something is wrong. Mental pain is not the enemy. It is the messenger. And it is very important not to kill it.

Many people will tell you that when you come out of the other side of pain, you feel stronger. I have learned the hard way that the fear of pain takes more energy than the pain itself. Worry is an example of it. When we worry, we experience mental pain from something negative we have imagined in our head. Yes, all in our head.

There are many techniques to turn mental pain into psychological strength and the more you use them, the less you feel the pain. I have gathered some of them here to share with you. All of them are proven and practical. I use them with my clients.

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October 25, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Health / Wellbeing, Personal Development Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, anxiety, attitude, change, depression, emotional intelligence, empowerment, focus, happiness, health / wellbeing, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive attitude tips, stress / pressure

Assertiveness: Successful Communication Summary

Middle-aged woman in a suit looking assertive

You can learn assertiveness skills at any stage of life and you can always improve them and gain more respect for yourself and others. In this post, I have gathered all of my assertiveness tips in one big list. I hope this summary will be useful for you and for your children and students.

If we create a society full of assertive people, we will not have conflicts and we will live with each other with respect, so pass this along to everyone you know.

This post is part 6 of 6 in the series Assertiveness

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October 20, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, aggressive, assertive, beliefs, change, choice, communication, control, emotional intelligence, empowerment, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive attitude tips, responsibility, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, tips, values

Vibrating Creamy Thoughts: My Birthday Present

Tree Rings

I am celebrating my birthday tomorrow. Every year, on my birthday, I hold a reflection ceremony. It is like a stock take for the passing year. I hope to grow from the inside every year, like the rings of a tree. I hope to add learnings into my life that will make me stronger and happier. These realizations are my own birthday presents.

Some people say that change takes a long time. I disagree. Only the lead-up to the change takes time. The change itself is immediate.

This year, when I did my annual reflection, I realized I had an insightful quantum moment that changed my path. This profound moment was short. It only took one hour.

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October 18, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development, Spirituality Tags: change, cooking, diet, emotional intelligence, feeling, food, fun, gratitude, health / wellbeing, love, mindfulness, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, spiritual, thought

Assertiveness: Know Your Rights

Assertive woman writing "I'll do it My Way"

So far, I have covered things that affect our ability to be assertive. This post adds some tips on how to know your rights, keep them and be assertive about them. I hope they will help you on your quest to develop your emotional intelligence and communicate with assertiveness.

When you are assertive, you express yourself with confidence without hurting others. You are firm, not a bully. You are clear, not manipulative. You are honest, not aggressive. Healthy communication is based on honesty, clarity and confidence.

First, you have to know your rights in every communication. It takes two to tango and when one has more rights than the other does, this will not be an assertive relationship. I suggest teaching kids these rights too and giving them opportunities to practice them.

This post is part 5 of 6 in the series Assertiveness

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October 13, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, assertive, beliefs, change, communication, control, emotional intelligence, empowerment, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive attitude tips, responsibility, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, tips, values

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