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Mindfulness Questions to Change Your Life for the Better

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Questions are very important on our way to mindfulness. The ancient Greek philosopher Socrates thought that questions could lead us to many discoveries. One of the most important discoveries is that questions can reveal to us what we think and lead us to a better life.

The formula is simple. When we ask good questions, we get good answers that can help us grow and evolve to a better version of ourselves.

As a life coach, I use questions a lot. I know that some questions I ask (myself or others) will lead to pain and others will empower. Questions can trigger responses like “let’s move on”, “let’s do something”, “let’s think positively”, “let’s plan”, “let’s change perspective” and “let’s appreciate”, like pressing a button.

Every thought we have also triggers a feeling, so by “pressing the button” for that thought, we can create that feeling. For example, the “good memory” button will make us happy and “bad memory” button will bring us pain and suffering.

We may not have more bad memories than good memories, but if we press the “bad memory” button more often, we will have more suffering.

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Published: September 1, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 14, 2021In: Personal Development Tags: happiness, questions, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, focus, thought, responsibility, list, success, mindfulness, emotional intelligence, action, empowerment, control

What Others Think about You Is … None of Your Business

Man covering his face with a mask showing words like meaning, persona, memory, conditioning, etc

When I was young, if someone asked me to complete the sentence “What others think about you is …” I would have said, “the most important thing in life”. I thought that, because of how I grew up. My mom, who is over 75 years old now, still thinks that we live to impress other people and navigate our life based on what they think about us.

When I studied Education, I realized that most parents in the world teach this to their kids. At first, they say, “Whatever your parents think about you is the most important thing in life”. Later on, they say, “What your teachers think about you is also important”.

They are all very surprised when their kids become teenagers and transfer this to their peers and add, “Whatever your friends think about you is the most important thing in the world”.

It is a natural progression. If you practice worrying and navigate your life based on what others think about you, you become good at … worrying and navigating your life based on what others think about you.

Simple!

When you follow this path, you never learn who you are and how to navigate life based on what you think of yourself.

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Published: August 4, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: April 15, 2024In: Parenting, Education / Learning Tags: emotional development, conflict, practical parenting / parents, positive attitude tips, teaching / teachers, responsibility, leadership, emotional intelligence, stress / pressure, how to, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, role model, behavior / discipline, fear, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, beliefs, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, rules, education / learning, Life Coaching, expectation, social skills

Your Child’s Subconscious Mind Has No Sense of Humor

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When people ask me to summarize my studies, I say they were all about how the brain works. The first four years focused on how to use this knowledge to stimulate learning. Later on, I learned how to work with the subconscious mind to avoid misery and have more success and more happiness.

Learning about the brain is a never-ending quest. There is much research in the world about the brain and its functions in health, in success, in relationships, in learning and in everyday life. Over the years, I have tried to share my learning about the brain and its functions through this blog, especially in relation to parenting and education.

Why parenting and education? Because these two areas are very close to my heart. Since you are reading this, you probably care about them too.

Today, I would like to share some insight that is very important in parenting and in education. I want to tell you how the conscious and the subconscious minds work. Specifically, I want to tell you about how the subconscious mind deals with humor.

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Published: July 12, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: July 12, 2016In: Parenting, Education / Learning Tags: beliefs, Life Coaching, sarcasm, interpretation, humor, kids / children, communication, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, responsibility, behavior / discipline, values, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, emotional intelligence, emotional development, how to, practical parenting / parents

Raising Children with “The Disease to Please”

The Disease to Please

Children are affected strongly by their emotional state. When I work with children, I can see their performance decrease when they are emotionally preoccupied. Some kids are affected more and others less, but all of them drop in performance when they are down.

Kinesthetic children are typically affected more, because they are very sensitive to the people around them. These are the kids who can “sense” others around them and all they want is for “everyone to be happy and nice to each other”.

Children who are highly sensitive to pressure are at risk of developing “the disease to please” – dependence on external rewards and oversensitivity to pressure. It is the perception that other people’s feelings are so important that they trump your own.

In most cases, “the disease to please” comes from fear of rejection, which most people want to avoid. Many people have this disease and they got it during their childhood. We can say that this kind of disease is contagious and we catch it from our parents…

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Published: July 8, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: August 13, 2020In: Parenting Tags: communication, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, love, emotional development, emotional intelligence, practical parenting / parents, how to, choice, motivation, perception, kinesthetic, kids / children, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline

Find Your Inner Child and Discover Your Intuitive Wisdom

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I have been working with children all my life. I think they have some wisdom that fades over the years. This is “thanks” to the education system, which teaches kids to ignore their intuitive wisdom and focus on memorizing, analyzing and following external rules. I always see my students as my greatest teachers, because they teach me what I once knew and forgot.

Children live from the heart. When they do something, they do it with every cell in their body. When they are happy, there are happy with every cell in their body, and when they are sad, it is heartbreaking to watch them.

My own children have made it easy for me to examine this purity, which is later lost. I have three of them, and they are totally different. Although they are 6 years apart in age, it was easy to notice that inside, they had a free spirit and only used the intuitive voice inside to guide them. When they played, they played with all their senses. They were not afraid to be silly or loud. When they ate, they never counted calories and I could see the satisfaction on their face when the food smeared all over it. I have hundreds of photos of them eating with a mess and looking very happy, which makes me wonder, “What do they know that we don’t?”

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Published: June 28, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 28, 2016In: Parenting, Personal Development Tags: emotional intelligence, wisdom, change, society, k-12 education, presentations, behavior / discipline, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, focus, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, school, education / learning, success

Parenting Focus: Point Your Flashlight and Magnifier at Good Things

Flashlight

Parents want to raise happy children. In all of the many parenting workshops I run, regardless of their parenting style, cultural background or socioeconomic status, all the parents want their kids to be happy, healthy and successful. The problem is that parents whose kids are not happy, healthy and successful do not understand how they contribute to this. They just cannot see how their parenting focus and the attention they give to problematic things creates these problems.

When children do not behave like we want them to and when they do things we do not like, we tend to pay attention to their behavior more than when they behave like we want them to and when they do things we like. This attitude only makes them continue to behave “badly” and creates a never-ending cycle of attention to “bad” behavior.

When pay attention to the problems, the problems keep growing, and then we pay attention to them more and we trap ourselves and our kids in this dysfunctional parenting style. In life, we get what we focus on. Some call it “the law of attraction”, I call it “the flashlight model”.

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Published: June 23, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: July 18, 2020In: Parenting, Personal Development Tags: attitude, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, focus, emotional development, success, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, how to, identity, happiness, law of attraction, positive

Children with the Auditory Communication Style

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In my child assessments, I check children’s communication styles. I have been doing this for so long that my family members can sometimes identify the kids with auditory communication style right away, because they talk. A lot!

I usually pay attention to the way they use verbal stimulation to memorize things, if they whisper as they work and if they can repeat numbers and sounds. I also check the way they respond to verbal encouragement. Generally, they do much better when they can control their auditory space than when they are restricted.

Auditory kids are very influenced by the sounds around them and are unable to block them. They are very sensitive to arguments, shouting, yelling, crying, whining and scolding. Some of them say they feel pain when their teacher or parent shouts. Communicating with them in a loud voice may cause them to shut down completely. On the other hand, speaking to them in a soft, calm voice supports their learning greatly.

Children with the auditory communication style can learn anything, as long as it is associated with sound effects, a funny voice, an accent or even a lisp.

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Published: June 21, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 21, 2016In: Parenting, Education / Learning Tags: how to, practical parenting / parents, auditory, communication styles, affirmations, assessment, k-12 education, self-talk, questions, school, attention deficit / add / adhd, music, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, emotional intelligence, self confidence / self esteem / self worth

Stop Looking for Certainty and Have Faith

Country road going toward a rainbow

Certainty is a great asset in life. We all seek certainty. Some seek it inside themselves and others seek it externally. Some find it in faith, others in routine. Certainty gives us lots of confidence in the world around us. We use it to mourn the fact we were not born fortunetellers. We do not like the idea that we cannot control the future and this shakes our confidence. If we want confidence, we must lean on some things to will stay stable in our life.

I find certainty an overrated concept. In marriage, for example, people seek signs of certainty that they have chosen the right match.

One of my clients was very upset her boyfriend asked her to sign a prenuptial agreement and did not want to marry. I specifically say, “did not want to marry”, because she said that he did not want to marry her, but he did not want to marry anyone else either. He just did not believe in the institute of marriage.

When we examined this desire for certainty, we realized that if she married him in a flashy, white dress wedding, she had a greater chance of divorcing him. The more we discussed it, the more she realized that the intentions, the desire to work on the relationship and the commitment do not change if they have the same bank account, a white wedding or an expensive honeymoon. All couples start with the right intention and lucky us, they cannot see into the future.

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Published: June 16, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: April 18, 2021In: Personal Development Tags: attitude, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, certainty, emotional intelligence, expectation, beliefs, control, change, happiness, relationships / marriage, hope

How to Overcome Hard Times with Mindfulness

Surviving Tough Times

Hard times are part of life. Even the happiest and most successful people go through hard times. When they describe their successes, they typically share the hard times and how they got over them. When you are in the middle of a difficult period, it feels all consuming, like end of the world. It feels… hard!

Unfortunately, negative thinking can make the hard times feel even harder. Think of it as driving a car. Good times are like driving in a flow, when all the traffic lights are green and it feels like you are cruising. Hard times feel like there is a stop sign or red light at every intersection, and driving seems to take forever, because the cars in front of you cannot move forward, while you are running late for an important meeting.

When your thinking is negative, it feels like you are driving… backwards.

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Published: June 7, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 7, 2016In: Personal Development Tags: feeling, frustration, success, mindfulness, emotional intelligence, depression, how to, control, self-talk, questions, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement

The 10,000-hour Rule and Becoming a Facebook Expert

10,000 Hours

When my son had some friends over for lunch one day, we had a talk about what they did in their spare time. This question always interested me, because my son, Tsoof, never had any spare time in high school. In the last year of high school, he started at 7am and finished around 5pm most days of the week. Since he was in bed by 8:30-9:00pm, there was not much time left for other things.

I was very surprised when some of them told me they spent 3-4 hours during weekdays on Facebook, and on the weekend, they even got to 6-8 hours.

I was shocked!

It made me realize why Tsoof was in a different state to them. Back then, he had no Facebook account, he was a student leader, he was taking a university course, he had 8 before-school and after-school activities every week and he was an excellent student.

I told them that if they understood the 10,000-hour rule, they would see that they were gearing up to be experts in … Facebook.

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Published: May 12, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: February 5, 2024In: Personal Development, Parenting Tags: social media, success, how to, motivation, academic performance, positive attitude tips, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, education / learning, procrastination, practical parenting / parents, skills

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