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Know Your Partner: Parenting

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If you are familiar with this blog, you know that parenting is one of our key topics and that is why it is important to discuss parenting when you get to know your partner. This is the final installment of Know Your Partner, a series of posts to help you get to know your partner, and today’s post is about parenting.

You may find that you need to ask many questions that are not cover here. Also, keep in mind that people’s opinions about parenthood are often not fully formed yet. If you have never been a parent, you don’t know what you don’t know.

In this case, parenting is like a discovery zone – you pave the path while walking it. Focus instead on attitudes you think will benefit you or may become an obstacle in your relationships. If attitudes are an obstacle, do not worry. It is possible to change them. It is just good to know what they are at the start, so you can make an educated decision about whether to go into this relationship or not.

This post is part 8 of 8 in the series Know Your Partner

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Published: June 25, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting Tags: family planning, practical parenting / parents, conflict, communication, lifestyle, love, family matters, values, decision making, emotional intelligence, positive attitude tips, choice, attitude, beliefs, questions, father, kids / children, happiness, emotions, relationships / marriage

The Bystander Effect

Human behavior was always something that fascinated me. During my studies I learned about the difference between what people think they do and what they actually do. Since then I have been hooked. You see, when we are under pressure, we react differently to when we have time to think, analyze and react at our own pace.

Some people say that under pressure, we reveal our true selves. Others think it is the opposite – we are ourselves all the time and the ugly side of us comes out when we are pushed. I tend to think that when we are under pressure, our reptilian brain, the one in charge of “fight or flight”, takes over. Like a survival mechanism, we react instinctively to protect ourselves when we are stressed or we think we are in danger (whether that danger is real or perceived).

Often times, we see other people’s poor behavior and say, “Oh, I would have done it differently. I would have done such and such and I would have said so and so”. The truth is, we can speculate about what we might have said until we are blue in the face but until we are in a stressful situation, we will not know how we will react.

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Published: April 18, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Emotional Intelligence Tags: teaching / teachers, emotional intelligence, determination, anxiety, assessment, interpretation, fear, decision making, choice, video, safety, attitude, security, questions, action, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, research, behavior / discipline, conflict, feeling, aggressive

Six Human Needs: Contribution

Connection is the last of the six human needs.

In my last few posts on human needs, we talked about how people have needs for certainty, variety, significance, love & connection and growth. The last need left for us to discuss is contribution. If we think of our needs in pairs, growth and contribution go together. These two needs usually appear last, after we have found ways of attaining the other four needs.

Unlike some of the other needs, growth and contribution are not in conflict with each other. They do not need to be in balance. Rather, the more we have of one, the more we have of the other one.

In the last chapter, I gave some examples to increase personal growth. In this chapter, I will cover examples to improve contribution.

Contribution is any act or intention to act that improves the position of others. It can be a physical improvement or even an emotional improvement. If the interaction has made the other person feel better, even in a small way, you have contributed to someone else’s life.

This post is part 7 of 7 in the series Six Human Needs

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Published: April 16, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Personal Development Tags: health / wellbeing, change, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, happiness, creative / creativity, focus, motivation, freedom, skills, decision making, emotional intelligence, needs, certainty, how to, positive attitude tips, education / learning, choice, positive, feeling, action, attitude, contribution, beliefs, leadership, practical parenting / parents, research, behavior / discipline, teaching / teachers, control

Wired for Happiness: Changing Wires and Strengthening Highways

Our brains are full of neurons – synaptic connections that link our life experiences to our emotions. Think of them as wires. Some are conscious and some are subconscious. The Be Happy in LIFE program takes people though the process of noticing their wires, evaluating them, choosing good wires and changing wires on the way to happiness.

Every client who takes a journey with us reaches their happiness goal. We bring the knowledge and all it takes is a bit of courage. I will share the knowledge with you here and all you need to do is gather some courage to make lasting changes.

So, how do we change our wires?

The key is to choose what you want to think.

This post is part 3 of 3 in the series Wired for Happiness

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Published: April 11, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 13, 2023In: Personal Development Tags: relationships / marriage, emotional intelligence, aggressive, how to, decision making, choice, spiritual, action, positive, beliefs, stress / pressure, empowerment, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, control, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, mind, emotions, change, feeling, happiness, thought

Six Human Needs: Growth

Growth is the fifth of the six human needs.

The first 4 needs we discussed (variety and certainty, significance and love and connection) may interfere with each other and are in constant strive for balance. The last two needs that people have are the need for growth and for contribution. Unlike the first 4 needs, these needs help and support each other in order to achieve a higher level of fulfillment.

It is estimated that we need to have our first four needs met before we are able to grow and contribute. For example, it is very hard for people to give when they do not have certainty. Think about it. How easy is it for someone to give their time when they are working 14 hours each day to provide for their family? How easy is it for you to invest in growing, learning, developing, when you are busy trying to fit in with others who think learning and developing are not socially favorable? Not very easy, right?

When we are “empty”, it is harder for us to give. When we are supported and strong, our ability to contribute and help others is much greater.

The great thing about growth and contribution is that they support each other and can happen from very small things. When we contribute, we give ourselves an opportunity to grow and when we grow as individuals, we increase our capacity to give and make a difference to those around us.

This post is part 6 of 7 in the series Six Human Needs

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Published: April 9, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: change, behavior / discipline, skills, happiness, health / wellbeing, emotional intelligence, motivation, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, how to, cooking, creative / creativity, fear, decision making, freedom, choice, social, action, academic performance, certainty, beliefs, needs, education / learning, research, positive attitude tips, feeling, control, positive, focus, goals / goal setting, exercise, attitude, love

Wired for Happiness: Wires and Highways

Last time we talked about the snake brain. Even though our brain has 3 parts, each with different functions, the primitive snake brain is far superior when we are stressed. It has two main functions: (1) food (yummy, yummy!) and (2) protecting us from danger with a fight or flight response. Meanwhile, the puppy brain stores information as emotions and uses them to navigate us. For example, on a conscious level, we would label all kinds of anger with the same five letters: a.n.g.e.r. The puppy brain is able to distinguish between “I was slightly angry”, “I was angry”, “I was very angry” and “I was soooooooo angry”. In the brain, the feeling is stored along with its intensity.

Whenever something happens to us, the puppy brain searches our emotion bank for similar feelings we experienced in the past. This helps it decide how to translate the new information.

This post is part 2 of 3 in the series Wired for Happiness

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Published: April 2, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: beliefs, positive, empowerment, attitude, change, stress / pressure, happiness, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, memory, emotions, anger, feeling, focus, aggressive, thought, emotional intelligence, affirmations, anxiety, interpretation, choice, decision making, negative, positive attitude tips

Wired for Happiness: The Three Brains

Even though our company slogan is that happiness is a choice, a lot of people tell me they have things in their lives that make them unhappy and they did not choose them. This is true! I have things like that too. While we might not always be able to choose to have things that make us happy, we all have the choice to decide what to do with the things we have.

I think the question of choice is very sensitive. Mainly because lots of our thoughts, feelings and beliefs are formed in the subconscious mind, the part of the brain that is hidden from us and seems like a complete mystery. Our minds are like an iceberg. The conscious mind is just the tiny tip sticking out of the water, while the subconscious is the massive body underneath that is in charge of 90% of our actions. How can we choose to control something we have no access to?

All we need to do is change our perception of our subconscious. It is actually within our control to change. We have a lot of access to our brains. In fact, we access our subconscious every second but we do it so fast and naturally that we do not even notice. Slowing down and noticing what is happening to us, can help greatly make good and happy choices.

This post is part 1 of 3 in the series Wired for Happiness

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Published: March 28, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: mind, emotions, change, feeling, happiness, thought, relationships / marriage, emotional intelligence, aggressive, how to, decision making, choice, spiritual, action, positive, beliefs, stress / pressure, empowerment, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, control, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement

My Anti -TV campaign

As an advocate of emotional intelligence, I object to kids watching TV. Everything I try to give them, the TV is destroying. I think bringing a TV home is like bringing the opposition into your living room, to tell your kids that you, the parent is wrong. Why would you do that?

When Eden was young and we were a young couple, we did not have a TV at home. My grandmother, who wanted to buy a new TV, suggested we take hers and we refused. We worked and when we were home, there were better things to do with our time than watch TV. Some family members and friends thought we were nuts and that we were not preparing our daughter to live in the real world. 24 years later, I can tell you, she is prepared for the real world, maybe even better than many other kids her age.

A month ago, Brisbane experienced a huge storm and trees were up rooted not far from us (it was really scary). Many houses experienced major damage and were without electricity for days (Many difficulties pop up when you do not have electricity for 3 days. We depend on electricity so much). We were the lucky ones. The only thing that happened to us was that our 20 year old 25 inch TV shorted (even though it had a surge protector). Tsoof and Gal were very happy because they have been wanting to buy a new TV for a year. Eden and I were not very happy. We ended up buying a huge TV with the promise to only watch videos and minimize watching TV.

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Published: March 19, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Parenting Tags: movies, dad, practical parenting / parents, television, home / house, tv, responsibility, family matters, values, technology, emotional intelligence, decision making, negative, kids / children, computer, teens / teenagers, mother, parenting teens, father, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, mom

Six Human Needs: Significance

Lion - king of the animals and a symbol of significance

Significance is the third of the six human needs. It is the quality of being worthy and special. Everyone is different so everyone wants to feel special in some way. Significance is not a desire but a need that people cannot live without. We all have this need to feel unique and different.

If you have ever watched parents or siblings when a baby has just come home from the hospital, you can see that the baby gets lots of attention. It can be asleep in a crib, opening its eyes, or doing nothing all and everyone is still fascinated. To all mothers and fathers, their baby is the most beautiful thing in the world. Why? Because their baby is special to them.

The desire to be special starts at birth and is essential to physical and emotional development in babies. This was investigated in a study conducted on babies in an orphanage. It was found that those who were given care but not attention did not developed physically and emotionally due to lack of touch and attention. Babies who had a replacement mother figure, (regardless of gender) who gave them attention developed properly.

This post is part 3 of 7 in the series Six Human Needs

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Published: February 26, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: April 3, 2021In: Personal Development Tags: certainty, focus, emotional intelligence, how to, motivation, decision making, needs, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement

Six Human Needs: Variety

Variety is the second of the six human needs. It is a sense of change, interest and adventure that we all need in order to feel alive.

Have you ever been in a job or relationship where you have been totally certain that you could do it forever? And then suddenly you got bored? Did you ‘play’ with it to make it more fun? Lots of people do!

Doing the same things over and over again can be boring and people are willing to do a lot to feel lively. Sometimes they will even do things that are harmful for them.

Variety and certainty are very much connected to each other. They sit on either side of a scale that needs to be in constant balance. When we have too much certainty we reach a level where we are running on automatic. We look for a change to break up the monotony and bring some interest.

This post is part 2 of 7 in the series Six Human Needs

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Published: February 19, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: certainty, focus, emotional intelligence, how to, motivation, decision making, needs, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement

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