If we want to understand ourselves and others, it is not enough to know what is important to us. We have to understand our needs. Needs are a belief that we have to have something, or that there is something we cannot live without. Regardless of whether it is true or not, we function in life based on this belief. Needs are different from desires because they come with a small sense of panic and pressure. The reason it is very important to identify our own and other’s needs is that needs are subconscious. They control our behavior and will override everything we value.
Abraham Maslow presented the basic human needs as a hierarchy that we gradually fulfill as we evolve and develop. We need to satisfy our basic needs and only then can we focus on other things.
Not all feelings can be easily analyzed based on Maslow’s hierarchy. Some levels of the hierarchy mix physical and emotion items (like sex). In addition, we do not always meet needs in the same order as what Maslow suggests in his hierarchy. Anthony Robbins separated the emotional areas from the physical and reworked them into 6 needs
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