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Make a List: 100 Ways to Be Kind to Myself

Happy woman sitting in a forest

Last week, I wrote about self-kindness and how to write a list of “100 ways to be kind to myself”. Kindness spreads like a ripple, so it must start from within us. I hope that by now, you have a basic list, but if you do not, please stop reading, make your own list and only then continue to read my list below.

Why?

The process of making up the list sends a message to your subconscious that you are important. However, if you copy someone else’s list, this does not happen.

Here is a list of things you can do to be kind to yourself. Only take those that suit your personality and adjust them to your preferences and to what makes you happy.

This post is part 41 of 48 in the series Make a List

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Published: April 19, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: how to, beliefs, change, social skills, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, body image, list, emotional intelligence

Make a List: Self-Kindness

Girl looking happy in fetal position

I have written a lot about kindness. I think that it makes the world go around and I like to think about it as a ripple. One act of kindness ripples and touches the lives of those who are far away from us.

The movie Pay it Forward showed the power of kindness in making the world a better place. I remember at the age of 16, I was a school captain and we had a teacher, named Reuben, who helped us a lot to change the lives of the students in our school. One day, a girl in the group asked him why he was dedicating so much time to us. He said, “If I make a difference in the lives of six of you, and each of you makes a difference in the lives of six other people, eventually, this world will be a better place”. I was 16 years old and this gave me a perfect understanding of the ripple effect of kindness.

For the last 32 years, I have been teaching emotional intelligence and kindness. used to be the part in EQ that we relate to others. In the last 10 years, it has changed for me as I became the state director of a not-for-profit organization, called “Together for Humanity”, which delivers diversity education.

Why?

This post is part 40 of 48 in the series Make a List

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Published: April 12, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Personal Development Tags: change, social skills, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, body image, list, emotional intelligence, how to, beliefs

The Power of Complimenting: Don’t Be Stingy

A young boy

Some parents are stingy with complimenting. I do not blame them. They probably grew up with stingy parents, who probably grew up with parents that did not compliment them either. I have said many times that we suffer today for things our ancestors did, which have not evolved.

Wake up, parents! We do not need to do the same things our great-great-grandparents did, because in some areas of life, they were not great at all. Giving compliments was definitely one of these areas.

The belief “back then” was that compliments got in the way of “building character”. I have clients and friends who say it aloud, “If you compliment people, especially children, they become complacent”.

What?!

Since when is complacent a bad word, anyway?

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Published: April 5, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: August 13, 2020In: Parenting Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, emotional development, abuse, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, teaching / teachers, fear, motivation, k-12 education, compassion, positive attitude tips, kids / children

No More Disappointment: The Biggest Loser Leads the Dance

Teenage boy looking away

Many forms of therapy try to help the client overcome pain. One big source of pain starts during childhood, when kids, with their lack of life experience, feel that they are a disappointment to their parents. Here is the story of Simon, who believed he was the biggest loser in his parent’s eyes.

Simon was an angry and frustrated teenager when he came to sit with me on my life coaching deck. I read what he and his parents had written to me and felt frustrated to see how yet another whole family was a victim of circumstances. Parents’ love can be overwhelming sometimes and being unaware of feelings and lacking the ability to manage them sabotages the relationships at home.

Parents need courage to realize that they are the most powerful in this dysfunctional dynamic, but most of them feel helpless and send their kids to be “fixed”. A relationship with a child is a dance. Some parents do not understand that they need to lead.

This post is part 17 of 19 in the series From the Life Coaching Deck

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Published: March 15, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Parenting, Teens / Teenagers, Beautiful people Tags: beliefs, expectation, change, practical parenting / parents, Life Coaching, perception, interpretation, positive attitude tips, teens / teenagers, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, emotional intelligence, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement

When Your Teen’s Friends are Bad Influence

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As parents, we put all our heart and energy into raising our children to be the best they can be. We want them to be as healthy, friendly, successful and happy as possible. In their teen years, most of us are afraid that their friends will become the most important people in our teenager’s life. So we want to make sure those friends do not have bad influence over them.

Our investment in our children, both material and emotional, is tested several times during their life. Their social connections are one big test of parenting, because as parents, we try to pass our philosophy and values to our children. If they spend their time with friends who tell them the opposite, this may weaken their belief in our philosophy and our values.

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Published: March 1, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Teens / Teenagers, Parenting Tags: attitude, teens / teenagers, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, emotional development, practical parenting / parents, how to, choice, beliefs, rules, social skills

How to Turn off Children’s Creativity

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As an educator and a mother, I believe in the importance of developing children’s creativity. My first real job as an educator was in a very special project, called “Creative Thinking”. It was a very important part in my career and in forming my philosophy.

I think this is the reason creativity is such a high value for me. I have written a lot about creativity and how to “turn it on”. But today, I would like to give some negative examples of ways you can turn it off, just as easily as you can turn it on.

Please check if your relationships with your children or students include any of these things. If so, this may be limiting their creativity and future success.

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Published: February 15, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Parenting, Kids / Children, Education / Learning Tags: focus, education / learning, success, expectation, emotional intelligence, practical parenting / parents, teaching / teachers, control, change, k-12 education, attitude, kids / children, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, creative / creativity

Education System on Trial and Found Guilty

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Until I studied Education, I had not questioned the education system. I do not think I’d had the tools to question it. But by the time I graduated (in Special Education), I had realized something was wrong. It was easy to see this while working with kids who were different (both gifted and those with learning difficulties).

Why?

Because special education kids did not fit into the “education box” and the school system did not cater for them. It got worse when I realized, thanks to my amazingly wonderful teachers, that the system just did not care for any of the kids, because every child is special and different in some way. The system cared for itself.

It was devastating!

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Published: February 9, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Education / Learning, Parenting Tags: society, k-12 education, video, academic performance, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, education / learning, special education, practical parenting / parents, school, change, learning disabilities

How to Stop Bullying with Empathy: The Story of Two Apples

2 apples

Bullying is an epidemic. It touches every part of our life and children are very vulnerable to bullying, because they do not have the tools to prevent it.

From the bully’s point of view, bullying is an act of fear. When the bullies feels inferior for some reason, they search for someone weak to pick on, in an attempt to feel better about themselves. Therefore, the best way to prevent bullying is to develop confidence and for children, this is still work in progress (it is work in progress for grownups too, but children are just at the beginning of this process).

What we need to change the world from bullying to respect and collaboration is empathy. As parents and educators, we can develop empathy in easy and effective ways.

This post is part 35 of 35 in the series Bullying

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Published: February 2, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 18, 2021In: Education / Learning Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, empathy, education / learning, practical parenting / parents, school, how to, change, perception, bullying

Men vs. Women: 6 Stereotypical Differences

Woman in a tie among men in ties

For many years, I stayed out of the “men vs. women” debate, mainly because of my dad. He is an old man who grew up in a very patriarchal and chauvinistic society, yet is the most admirable example of gender equality.

My dad cooked, took care of the kids, helped us with our did homework, cleaned the house (inside and outside), brushed our hair, did arts and craft and was never ashamed of any of it. He had four daughters and one son and I thought he was fair and equal in his attitude to boys and girls.

In fact, my dad’s behavior cluttered my outlook on life in a way, because whenever I heard someone talking about the stereotypical man, I said, “This is not true, because my dad is different”. Now, I have to admit that I was wrong. There is something true about the stereotypes about men and my dad was the odd one out.

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Published: December 6, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: empathy, men, emotions, emotional intelligence, feeling, control, expectation, change, relationships / marriage, work life balance, society, women, conflict, communication, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, focus, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, gender

Stop Verbalizing and Justifying Your Negative Feelings

Lion

As a life coach, I teach mindfulness. To me, mindfulness is observation of sensations, thoughts and emotions without judgment. Our conscious mind is in charge of 10% of our actions and our subconscious mind is in charge of 90%. Therefore, mindfulness is a simple and highly effective way to increase our awareness, overcome negative feelings and gain more control over our actions.

One basic tools used to reach high EQ is “Name the feeling”. Researchers have found that when people give a name to a hard feeling they have, their brain decreases the intensity of the feeling. Matthew D. Lieberman, professor of psychology and director of the UCLA Social Cognitive Neuroscience lab, has shown that simply labeling emotions reduced the activity of the amygdala, the brain’s center of emotional responses, which reduced fear. Naming emotions also increased activity in the pre-frontal cortex, the mind’s regulator.

Many people know this concept, but some of them take it too far, because not all verbalizing is healthy for us. Many people believe that if we name the “problem”, we are half-way into solving it. After working with many clients, I can tell you that almost 90% of them know what their problems are, but they are far from solving them.

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Published: November 17, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: perception, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotions, feeling, mindfulness, emotional intelligence, meditation, anxiety, how to, fear

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