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How Many Friends Can We Really Have?

150 is the number of people with whom one can maintain stable social relationships

In today’s world, when you can have 4,000 “friends” on Facebook, it is hard to determine the true definition of friendship. Knowing 4,000 people (and even only 1,000) does not mean you are friends. It means you know of, or maybe even have been acquainted with, that many people. Sometimes, you share nothing in common other than you happen to have a mutual contact. You might not have even met!

Professor Robin Dunbar, an anthropologist at the University of London, tried to find the answer to the question “How Many Friends Can We Really Have?” He found that there is a limit to how many friends we can have with whom we can maintain meaningful relationships. Dunbar claimed that we can only have relationships with an average of 150 people for them to be considered stable, effective social relationships. This is called Dunbar’s Number.

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Published: June 16, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 16, 2015In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: research, relationships / marriage, social, tips, friends / friendship, media, social media

Do Women Talk More Than Men? (Poll)

Man and woman holding up speech bubbles

I’ve always believed that women talk more than men. I don’t know why. I’ve just had this belief for many years, even though I’ve been together with a man who talks more than I do.

If I had to come to conclusions about men and women’s talking habits based on my personal experience, I would say that men talked 50% to 70% more than women. Yet I still think women talk more. I think I have held this belief since childhood, because there is a social belief that women talk too much and I never bothered to question it.

In my parents’ house, my mom didn’t talk more than my dad. There were four sisters in the house, and we definitely talked more than our brother, who was very quiet. I always just thought my personal circumstances were different from the average.

When I got married, I thought I was just not a typical woman and my husband, Gal, was not a typical man. But maybe this is how you see yourself and your partner, too…

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Published: April 30, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: women, men, beliefs, relationships / marriage, poll, attitude

Trust (or The Boy Who Cried Wolf)

Broken vase

Trust is a very important currency in marriage. It gives both partners a sense of certainty in the relationship, which helps it survive and remain strong. Certainty is a need we all have in life. Subconsciously, we would be willing to do a lot in order to have it met. When our sense of certainty is a bit shaky, we get anxious. This can be a killer in a relationship.

If you know the story of the boy who cried wolf, you understand why trust is so valuable. In the story, they boy would run to the village to beg the townspeople to help him. A wolf was chasing his sheep. The villagers rushed to help, only to discover that there was no wolf and the boy had lied. A week later, the boy did it again, and again, and again. The villagers came once, twice and even three time, and each time, there was no wolf. Until one day, the boy came running in a real panic, begging for help. A wolf was really chasing his sheep this time. But the villagers did not believe him. He had lied to them too many times. And the boy could only watch in horror as the wolf ate his sheep.

This post is part 29 of 33 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: March 31, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: tips, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, certainty, communication, partner, truth, trust, rules, relationships / marriage, story, decision making

How to Handle Conflict Resolution in the Family

Big family photo

Every family has fights. Even in the most wonderful family, people fight sometimes. Fights can be between the parents, between parents and kid and between kids themselves. Fight create conflict and can damage the delicate fabric of relationships.

However, if you come out of the other side of the fight stronger, it can in fact strengthen the bond between family members. This is why conflict resolution in the family is so important.

If you are a parent and you have fights in your family, rest assures you are perfectly normal. The science of conflict resolution is easy to learn and master. Once you learn the tricks, life can be much easier.

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Published: March 26, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 16, 2020In: Parenting, Relationships / Marriage Tags: partner, trust, practical parenting / parents, control, rules, change, parent coaching, relationships / marriage, communication, conflict, school, kids / children, skills, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, feeling, how to

Have Good Sex to Save Your Marriage

Two hands clasped on a sheet

Sex is one of the top three reasons why couples divorce. That means that it is highly important to work on improving your sex life. Of course, good sex goes hand in hand with good communication, trust, respect and working on keeping the relationship alive.

Attitude to sex is something many couples need to work on. In our growing life, there is not enough education about the importance of sex for health and wellbeing. It is a very sensitive topic that most people are left to learn from experience, friends or even the World Wide Web through porn movies (which unfortunately present a very unhealthy picture of the importance of sex and how to enjoy it).

Many of the clients I see who are separated or considering divorce report that sex was a major issue in their relationship. Not enough, not satisfying or enjoyable, too much, too little, too fast, too slow, only when drunk, feels like a chore, they feel their partner does not deserve it, no romance, not sexy. Every one of these is sad and painful for both parties.

This post is part 28 of 33 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: March 24, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 16, 2021In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: how to, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, research, health / wellbeing, divorce, feeling, exercise, partner, motivation, Life Coaching, relationships / marriage, romance, fun, women, attitude, love

Attachment Theory: Attachment Styles in Relationships and Marriages

Gal and Ronit Baras

So far, we’ve covered how attachment styles affect babies and individuals, but what about attachment styles in relationships and marriages?

Have you ever heard the theory that we pick partners who are similar to our parents? I have wondered about this over the years. My life partner, Gal is similar to my dad in some ways and totally different in many other ways. He is also similar to my mom in some ways and totally different to her in many other ways. I find it hard to either confirm or deny the theory.

While it is hard to decide if this theory works based on personal attributes, attachment theory claims that in some strange way we relate and attach to our partners and in a way that matches the attachment style that was created between us and our caregivers in those first years of our lives.

This post is part 6 of 6 in the series Attachment Theory

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Published: March 19, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: divorce, baby / babies, control, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, separation, empathy, change, emotions, early childhood, relationships / marriage, feeling, love, neurolinguistic programmiing / NLP, practical parenting / parents, abuse, conflict, emotional intelligence, anger, how to, aggressive, trust, kids / children, research, teens / teenagers

Be Kind Like Socrates: Triple Filter Test

Statue of Socrates

If there is a trait I want my kids to have, it is kindness. Being kind to others brings more kindness to your world. I want my kids to feel that they are surrounded by kind people.

Unfortunately, they are not always surrounded by kind people. At least not as I would like. It is frustrating because I can’t choose who they hang out with. When they were 5 or 6 years old, I could monitor their surroundings (even then it was not 100% of the time) but the more I wanted them to experience the world, the more I had to let go of this desire to control whether they hang around kind people or not.

My youngest daughter is now 13 years old and she is experiencing lots of the not-so-kind things her friends say about each other. There is a constant struggle for popularity and power through gossip and talking about each other behind backs. We as parents think this is the opposite of kindness and we don’t want our daughter to be part of it.

Talking about other people who are not present is not always bad. Our family rule is to only say nice things about others and “if you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything”. The more brutal version is “when you have nothing good to say, shut up!”.

Socrates had a very logical way to tackle the same problem. He called it the Triple Filter Test. Here is a nice story that explains Socrates way of deciding whether to talk or not talk about others behind their back.

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Published: March 17, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 17, 2015In: Personal Development, Parenting, Relationships / Marriage Tags: parenting teens, practical parenting / parents, how to, control, rules, relationships / marriage, story, kids / children

Ronit’s 100 Happy Valentine’s Day Tips

Couple sitting on a park bench

This year, Gal and I are celebrating our 34th Valentine’s Day and we are very proud and happy to be together. We are also sad to look around and see that fewer and fewer couples are able to find happiness and love on this day. Over the last five years, more of my clients experienced relationship breakdowns than ever before. Divorce and separation are very sad and challenging for the couple and for their families.

This week, I received a request from a radio show to share 5 Valentine’s Day tips with their listening couples. This made me think that I have many more tips and the fill list from my relationship tool kit is below.

I highly recommend having such a list for yourself. If you could give other couples advice on how to have a happy relationship, what would you say? Write down your ideas and read them every once in a while (even I have to read my own advice from time to time, especially in tough times).

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Published: February 10, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: hugs, needs, forgiveness, how to, positive attitude tips, choice, positive, trust, tips, divorce, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, valentine's day, love languages, change, freedom, happiness, feeling, touch, relationships / marriage, expectation, love, conflict, partner, money, family matters, list

Don’t Clam Up

Clam shell

In previous chapters of the “Save your Marriage” series I explained the two communication patterns that can destroy every marriage: The king/queen and the nitpicker. As I said before, no one becomes a “king” or a “nitpicker” because they enjoy it. Most of the time, they do it on a subconscious level, because they grew up in a house where one or both parents were kings or nitpickers and made them feel small and helpless.

In the last chapters, I explained how parents who abuse or bully, like the “king/queen” or the “nitpicker”, can raise kids who are constantly on guard. In this chapter, I will explain how some parenting styles can “breed” kids who clam up and withdraw into their shells. This communication style can be very devastating for them in their future relationships and marriage.

This post is part 27 of 33 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: November 27, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 2, 2020In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: choice, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, change, emotions, communication styles, feeling, relationships / marriage, partner, hope, practical parenting / parents, conflict, communication, anger, focus, positive, abuse, kids / children, success, fear, self confidence / self esteem / self worth

Don’t Be On Guard

Fencing foil

In the last chapters of “Save Your Marriage”, I explained how some parenting styles can “breed” kids who clam up and withdraw into their shells. This communication style can be very devastating for them in their future relationships and marriage. In this chapter of the series, I will explain how parents who abuse or bully, like the “king/queen” or the nitpicker, can raise kids who are constantly on guard. These kids try to protect themselves from pain and heartache and by that, they invite bullies and conflicts into their lives.

Growing up in a household where you feel constantly attacked and ridiculed, where one or both of your parents make you feel small and helpless, where you have no support and protection, where one or both of your parents nitpick, criticize, complain, are never satisfied and often angry, can make children alert and hypersensitive to any small signs that someone is going to hurt them.

This is actually a very natural reaction, in an attempt to protect themselves. But when taken into adulthood, into relationships or marriage, it can be very damaging. There is a phrase, the best defense is offense. These kids adopt this philosophy because they were attacked a lot. As a result, they sometimes see an attack when there is none. They are very sensitive to criticism and their emotional state is “I am not OK, You’re not OK” (see series I’m OK, You’re OK Parenting for tips on emotional intelligence).

This post is part 26 of 33 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: November 20, 2014 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 29, 2018In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: self confidence / self esteem / self worth, change, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, happiness, partner, Life Coaching, practical parenting / parents, communication styles, relationships / marriage, conflict, positive, communication, kids / children, abuse, emotional intelligence, tips, negative

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