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Choice Theory Can Save Your Marriage

Couple laughing with hot drinks and dog

Relationships are very sensitive. Bringing two people together creates lots of fun and joy, but at the same time, it creates conflict and pain. According to Choice Theory, we can develop habits that create more fun and joy and less conflict and pain.

Dr. William Glasser is an American psychiatrist I highly appreciate. He developed Reality Theory, which later became known as Choice Theory.

In the seventies, Glasser’s work was not widely accepted by his colleagues. While others thought that human behavior was affected by external sources, Glasser believed in personal choice, personal responsibility and personal transformation.

Other psychiatrists categorized certain behaviors as mental disorders and prescribed medication accordingly. Glasser believed he could teach his patients to make better choices to achieve better results.

He applied his theories to education, management and marriage. The examples I give in this post are relevant to marriage.

This post is part 32 of 34 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: October 17, 2018 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 17, 2018In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: relationships / marriage, conflict, attitude, communication, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, focus, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, how to, choice, control, change

Men vs. Women: 6 Stereotypical Differences

Woman in a tie among men in ties

For many years, I stayed out of the “men vs. women” debate, mainly because of my dad. He is an old man who grew up in a very patriarchal and chauvinistic society, yet is the most admirable example of gender equality.

My dad cooked, took care of the kids, helped us with our did homework, cleaned the house (inside and outside), brushed our hair, did arts and craft and was never ashamed of any of it. He had four daughters and one son and I thought he was fair and equal in his attitude to boys and girls.

In fact, my dad’s behavior cluttered my outlook on life in a way, because whenever I heard someone talking about the stereotypical man, I said, “This is not true, because my dad is different”. Now, I have to admit that I was wrong. There is something true about the stereotypes about men and my dad was the odd one out.

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Published: December 6, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: emotions, emotional intelligence, feeling, control, expectation, change, relationships / marriage, work life balance, society, women, conflict, communication, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, focus, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, gender, empathy, men

Save Your Marriage with Better Time Management

Couple holding hands on a street

Relationships are a sacred thing. Some say it is the only thing that matters. At the beginning of every relationship, we dedicate a lot of time to each other and over time, it gets harder.

Every married couple with children will tell you how their life changed as soon as their first child was born. Suddenly, quiet time to hold hands or cuddle becomes a rare event that must be carefully planned. Therefore, good time management can often make or break a relationship.

I have been working with many couples who come for coaching with the hope to save their marriage. Most of my clients think that to save their marriage, we need to focus on the big things, but for many of them, the problem is time management. I know it sounds funny, but it is one of the simplest one to fix.

This post is part 31 of 34 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: November 29, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: February 15, 2023In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: lifestyle, tv, time management, focus, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, love, choice, computer, change, relationships / marriage, work life balance

Happy Friendship Anniversary

Couple at sunset

This week, Gal and I celebrated 36 years of being together. We have known each other for 37 years, been a couple for 36, lived together for 31 and been married for 29 years. Every year, we celebrate our friendship anniversary instead of our wedding anniversary, because our wedding experience was not a very happy experience and we would really like to celebrate a happy thing in our life rather than an event we never liked.

I have a relationship philosophy that worked very well for me over the years. I am happy that my philosophy, together with Gal’s, brought us together to this anniversary. We still fight. We still disagree on things. We are very different in many ways, but we are still friends who love each other and care about each other greatly.

In my sessions, I share with my clients my formula for happy relationships. After each session, I send them a summary of the topics we covered, so they can reflect and work on their relationship. I have decided to include them here with the hope that many more people will use them to reach happy, supportive and loving relationships.

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Published: September 27, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 17, 2021In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, friends / friendship, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, love, responsibility, inspiration, how to, Life Coaching, relationships / marriage, romance, positive attitude tips

There is Life after Relationship Breakup

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Relationships are at the heart of human society. Some say that being in a relationship is a basic need. In the bible, even the animals in Noah’s ark were in pairs. I think we are meant to be in relationships. Having a partner to share our life and be with us along the way gives lots of certainty in life. Together we share love, friendship, adventures, struggles, finance and children, and together, it is always easier and more fun. Unfortunately, sometimes, it just does not work. In fact, in our society today, relationship breakup comes more often than not and with it comes pain, grief and loss of hope.

I work with many couples through relationship breakups and with individuals rebuilding their life after breaking up with a partner, and I can reassure you, there is life after a relationship breakup. Usually, couples feel a hole in their heart that they wish to fill up. The desire to fill this hole drives them quickly into a new relationship that looks exactly like the one they left in pain.

Why?

Because the separation originated from a hole inside of them, which they thought the other did not fill, and they enter the new relationship with the same mindset. After a short time of excitement and attention, they realize that the new partner, lover or boyfriend/girlfriend cannot fulfill their needs and they go through the same breakup with more pain, more grief and more loss.

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Published: May 17, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 5, 2023In: Relationships / Marriage, Personal Development Tags: responsibility, expectation, how to, choice, divorce, separation, change, relationships / marriage, perception, attitude, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, projection, feeling

How to Encourage: Ronit’s List of Compliments

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Since I wrote the first chapter of the compliments series, I have received some requests from readers to give them some ideas about compliments, so I thought it may be a good exercise to make a list of 100 compliments we can give others that will cover different areas of life.

By limiting myself to phrases that only focus on the other person and not on myself (because complimenting is giving, not taking credit and focusing on yourself), I got to 182.

Here’s my list of compliments. I suggest that you mark the compliments you find useful, change them to suit your needs and keep them somewhere handy. Then, refer to the examples when you need a compliment idea.

This post is part 3 of 3 in the series The Power of Compliments

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Published: January 28, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 1, 2020In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: relationships / marriage, affirmations, positive attitude tips, attitude, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, communication, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, focus, projection, emotional intelligence, how to

How to Accept Compliments with Grace

Thank You!

As I said in Compliments: Give to Receive, most people don’t receive many compliments, because they don’t give many compliments to others, and this is caused by not feeling good about themselves. I hope everyone started the compliment challenge and that you already see the impact on your own confidence and sense of wellbeing.

Not feeling good about yourself also makes you feel uncomfortable when someone else gives you a compliment. As you might expect, an awkward response to a compliment will discourage the other person from giving you any more compliments.

In this post, you will learn how to accept compliments with grace.

Some people are not used to compliments, so they are shocked when someone says something good about them. Most people say something that reduces the compliment, like “It was nothing”, “You should have seen me do it last time” or “This time was not that good”, which is just like getting a gift from someone and saying, “Sorry, I can’t accept your gift, because I don’t deserve it”…

This post is part 2 of 3 in the series The Power of Compliments

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Published: December 17, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: January 28, 2016In: Relationships / Marriage, Personal Development Tags: self confidence / self esteem / self worth, communication, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, focus, projection, emotional intelligence, how to, relationships / marriage, affirmations, positive attitude tips, attitude, acceptance / judgment / tolerance

Compliments: Give to Receive

Young Asian girl at sunrise

Giving and receiving compliments are very important communication skills that boost our self-confidence and the confidence of the people around us. We grow up in a society that struggles with giving and receiving compliments. People are stingy at the giving end and uncomfortable at the receiving end.

What many people don’t realize is that complimenting others is a projection of a trait, skill or beauty that we see in ourselves. It is a gift of kindness that when we give, we also receive.

Recently, I ran leadership training with a group of high school students and we talked about compliments. It took us 10 hours to change the lives of all those students and increase their self-confidence ratings by 20% to 50%. Yes, in just 10 hours of a very busy training day, we change their attitude towards themselves and other people.

One of the leaders came to me in the evening, after the session with the parents, to say “Thank you”. She said that the part about compliments was very meaningful for her. She felt that it was a shame they didn’t teach communication skills in primary school and that it was important to give compliments to others, and even more important to accept compliments. On the ride home, I thought about it and realized I had never written about compliments in my blog, so I thanked this girl for bringing it to my attention.

This post is part 1 of 3 in the series The Power of Compliments

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Published: December 15, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: January 28, 2016In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: role model, relationships / marriage, affirmations, positive attitude tips, attitude, leadership, communication, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, focus, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, projection, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, how to

Anger Management: What NOT to do when you are angry

Anger management

Anger is a state of mind that prevents us from thinking clearly. When people are angry, they do and say things they regret later on. Anger is an emotional state that brings hostility with it.

I once saw a quote that says that anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. That helped me rethink my own anger. The problem with anger is the side effect of what we do when we are angry, so this post tells you what not to do when you are angry.

The secret to anger management is preparing in advance. If you pay attention and avoid the things listed below, you will be in a better place.

This post is part 3 of 3 in the series Anger Management

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Published: December 8, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 8, 2015In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: sleep, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, meditation, research, control, violence, change, alcohol, conflict, anger

Emergency Relationship Coaching Essentials

Young happy married couple

I have seen many couples who are in pain in their relationship. Many of them come for relationship coaching when they can no longer stand the pain. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend/partner/father-of-my-children for 35 years and I have learned over time that couples can love each other very much but still be in this pain.

It is easy to take each other or the relationship for granted. The investment of energy we put into the beginning of this relationship (the chase) cannot continue with the same passion and effort forever, so we all ease the pressure of the hunt, which is natural and more sustainable, and sometimes we ease it too much.

The good news is that getting help is much better than not. Every year, I have more couples coming for relationship coaching. Every year, we hear about another couple we knew from our travels around the world who separated or divorced. Every year, our kids tell us about more friends whose parents divorced, and every year, another couple from our community is in some crisis and considering divorce.

Those people didn’t get help. At least not on time to sale their marriage. Do you know the phrase “seek and you shall find”? If they asked for help, they would have found it.

Those who did come for relationship coaching look for help because they still love each other and want their marriage to work. When both of them come with the desire to make their marriage work, it will work. Why? Because whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are always right, and they think they can.

Many of them search for quick fix and want to leave the session feeling fully in-love and without hurts and hard feelings, which never happens in the first session, though they leave with big hope because I give them emergency tools to manage the communication while allowing the pain to dissolve.

This post is part 30 of 34 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: November 26, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 29, 2018In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: communication, focus, gratitude, love, responsibility, divorce, change, relationships / marriage, conflict, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement

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