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Trust (or The Boy Who Cried Wolf)

Broken vase

Trust is a very important currency in marriage. It gives both partners a sense of certainty in the relationship, which helps it survive and remain strong. Certainty is a need we all have in life. Subconsciously, we would be willing to do a lot in order to have it met. When our sense of certainty is a bit shaky, we get anxious. This can be a killer in a relationship.

If you know the story of the boy who cried wolf, you understand why trust is so valuable. In the story, they boy would run to the village to beg the townspeople to help him. A wolf was chasing his sheep. The villagers rushed to help, only to discover that there was no wolf and the boy had lied. A week later, the boy did it again, and again, and again. The villagers came once, twice and even three time, and each time, there was no wolf. Until one day, the boy came running in a real panic, begging for help. A wolf was really chasing his sheep this time. But the villagers did not believe him. He had lied to them too many times. And the boy could only watch in horror as the wolf ate his sheep.

This post is part 29 of 34 in the series Save Your Marriage

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Published: March 31, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: tips, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, certainty, communication, partner, truth, trust, rules, relationships / marriage, story, decision making

Be Kind Like Socrates: Triple Filter Test

Statue of Socrates

If there is a trait I want my kids to have, it is kindness. Being kind to others brings more kindness to your world. I want my kids to feel that they are surrounded by kind people.

Unfortunately, they are not always surrounded by kind people. At least not as I would like. It is frustrating because I can’t choose who they hang out with. When they were 5 or 6 years old, I could monitor their surroundings (even then it was not 100% of the time) but the more I wanted them to experience the world, the more I had to let go of this desire to control whether they hang around kind people or not.

My youngest daughter is now 13 years old and she is experiencing lots of the not-so-kind things her friends say about each other. There is a constant struggle for popularity and power through gossip and talking about each other behind backs. We as parents think this is the opposite of kindness and we don’t want our daughter to be part of it.

Talking about other people who are not present is not always bad. Our family rule is to only say nice things about others and “if you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything”. The more brutal version is “when you have nothing good to say, shut up!”.

Socrates had a very logical way to tackle the same problem. He called it the Triple Filter Test. Here is a nice story that explains Socrates way of deciding whether to talk or not talk about others behind their back.

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Published: March 17, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 17, 2015In: Personal Development, Parenting, Relationships / Marriage Tags: kids / children, parenting teens, practical parenting / parents, how to, control, rules, relationships / marriage, story

Abusive Parenting Cycle

Cow in a meadow

Recently, I wrote a post about parents who justify their bad parenting style by claiming they are better than their own parents. Parenting like this creates a cycle: bad parenting, leads to difficult children, who become bad parents, who raise difficult children, etc. Over the last 28 years, I have dedicated my work to breaking this cycle. To helping kids through helping their parents.

Last week, this topic came up again when I met a 16-year-old girl who came for teen coaching. I sat in front of her for almost 2 hours and was shocked at how mature and aware she was. She was sitting in the same balcony in which I have seen many grownups who did not understand half of the things she did. Last year, I started writing a fictional story about a girl with parent problems and anorexia. In front of me was this most beautiful, good looking girl with a similar story. It amazed me to discover that the story is so much worse when you see it in real life.

She was a 16 year old, living with abusive parents, who believed they were better than their own parents, because unlike them, they did not use physical violence. It surprised me that they sent her for life coaching though. It seemed very contradictory to what a controlling and abusive parent would do. Never-the-less, I asked about her grandparents to get a better picture. Things became crystal clear: they had been abusive parents, who raised abusive kids, who become abusive parents. This cycle would go on and on unless this troubled, 16 year old teen could stop the cycle with her awareness (if she survived the emotional abuse).

This post is part 11 of 19 in the series From the Life Coaching Deck

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Published: February 3, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: February 29, 2020In: Personal Development, Parenting Tags: violence, feeling, dad, practical parenting / parents, Life Coaching, neurolinguistic programmiing / NLP, anorexia, story, bullying, attitude, abuse, grandparents, emotional intelligence, kids / children, control

Relationships Set in Sand, Not Stone

Write your hurts in sand. Carve your blessings in stone

Relationships are very sensitive and needs to be cherished. Sometimes in life, they will be threatened. Every conflict puts a relationship to the test, and we have plenty of conflicts in our lives.

As part of my work as a state director of Together for Humanity Foundation, I often lead discussions with kids and teachers about ways to deal with conflict and how it impacts our relationships. One story we tell the kids is the story of the Sand and Stone. This is a story that is important to keep in mind for every relationship: parent-child relationships, couples, friends, work colleagues, countries, enemies and for any two people who are in a relationship.

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Published: October 15, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: February 9, 2015In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: poll, story, kids / children, friends / friendship, focus, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, inspiration, partner, emotional intelligence, choice, relationships / marriage, perception, conflict

God and Parenting

Father and son flying a kite on the beach

For most kids, their parents are like Gods. I know I believed my parents were almighty and strong. The strength of this belief is similar to the strength of the belief in God’s existence. A belief is a thought, opinion or conviction about something, for which a person has confidence in the truth of its existence. Whether you believe in something or not has to do with how confident you are in the truth of it. It is the same for kids and their beliefs about parents. For example, whether a child believes in their parents’ love or not has to do with how confident there are in the truth of this love.

The hardest part for kids is that they are dependent on their parents to plant these beliefs in their minds. They will believe they are amazing only after their parents repeatedly tell them it is so.

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Published: August 1, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting Tags: self confidence / self esteem / self worth, practical parenting / parents, love, trust, story, activity, kids / children

Don’t Judge a Book by its Cover

Cup with 60s faces

Over the past 5 years, I have been working as the director of a not-for-profit organization dealing with diversity education. I have had the honor of working with over 20,000 kids in primary and high school and taking them through a process that helps them realize that underneath the look, the clothes, the skin color, the gender, the religion, the language and accent, there are amazingly wonderful people.

I ask all my student to fill out a feedback form. The form asks them what message they took from the workshop/presentation/activity. I have received over 20,000 feedback forms with amazing things kids write. More often than not, they write “don’t judge a book by its cover”.

In my workshops, the opportunity often presents itself to discuss our own self-judgment. I bring up the fact that it can be damaging to consider ourselves inferior based on what we look like on the outside. To illustrate my point, I share the water story. It is a great way to understand what is important in life and why what we have inside is much more important than the outside.

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Published: July 30, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: attitude, diversity, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, beliefs, story, self-talk

Complaining about the New Generation (Cont.)

Comparing between the old and new generations bring lots of grief to children today. Last week we talked about the dangers of comparing, the risks of having an old vs. new mentality. This time, I would like to offer a more even way of comparing. A perspective where the old generation, my generation, learns to appreciate what each of us has brought to the table, rater than idealizing the old way.

Try to figure out how old the grandmother is in this story.

One day, a young boy asked his grandma about her thoughts regarding changes that happened in the world since she was born. This is what she said…

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Published: May 23, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting Tags: kids / children, generation gap, teens / teenagers, change, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, family matters, contribution, story, expectation, interpretation, practical parenting / parents, generation X, Generation Y, attitude, grandparents, grandchildren, beliefs

Complaining about the New Generation

In my work with parents and teachers I hear lots of complaints about the “new generation”. Adults seem to think that “children these days are selfish, materialistic, impulsive and have no respect”. This makes me really worried. Not because kids today are like that but because the older generation, my generation, holds on to these thoughts. In life, we get what we focus on.

The rules of the self fulfilling prophecy claim that whenever you treat someone in a certain way, you will eventually make them behave like that. So, if the new generation is treated like they are disrespectful, selfish, materialist and impulsive, they will eventually be like that. In other word, you see the world through the lenses you put on. If you want to change what you see, change your lenses.

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Published: May 16, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting Tags: attitude, grandparents, grandchildren, beliefs, kids / children, generation gap, teens / teenagers, change, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, family matters, contribution, story, expectation, interpretation, practical parenting / parents, generation X, Generation Y

Down Syndrome & Inspiration

I learnt about Down Syndrome first hand during my first year of university. I was working with a child with Down Syndrome during my work experience. At first, it was scary and I felt devastated. After getting to know the kid, I learned that he was no different than any other child with intellectual difficulties. To my greatest surprise, he improved quickly and learned a lot. It made me wonder how far we could go. I had my doubts when he did not get things the first time around, but he taught me that as long as I continued to teach him, he would continue to learn.

This experience, coupled with my work on a project about creative thinking (where we tried to teach physics to grade 1 students), taught me that too often we limit kids by our expectations. If we allow them to move forward at their own pace, they will exceed our highest expectations.

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Published: April 25, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Parenting Tags: practical parenting / parents, choice, video, teaching / teachers, beliefs, positive attitude tips, empowerment, positive, change, attitude, motivation, kids / children, family matters, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, early childhood, affirmations, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, skills, law of attraction, creative / creativity, inspiration, story, education / learning, emotional intelligence, persistence, expectation, how to, compassion

Know Your Partner: Musts

Any relationship is a form of agreement between two or more people. The deeper the relationship, the more things you will need to agree on for your relationship to stay positive. Some relationships, like marriage and having children together, are more important than others. They have a huge impact on our lives and our futures. I call them love agreements.

Love agreements will change over time. Just how they change will depend on the circumstances. Each person changes within themselves and their agreements with each other change accordingly. For couples, it is very important for each side to make sure they are “sailing in the same direction”. While each of them may change in different ways, together, they want to be going the same way. If one wants to sail north and the other’s greatest desire is to sail south, then their relationship will suffer. One or both of them will have to compromise.

When we talk about relationships, the word compromise pops up as a desired outcome. I think compromise is important, but I also believe that some compromises cannot last for very long. They are often the source of conflict and can cause much heartache.

This post is part 1 of 8 in the series Know Your Partner

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Published: April 23, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, determination, emotions, how to, law of attraction, feeling, choice, story, thought, beliefs, activity, separation, positive attitude tips, rules, positive, change, attitude, happiness, questions, communication, Life Coaching, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, love, relationships / marriage, health / wellbeing, success, romance

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