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Slow Down and Smell the Flowers

This month was very hectic for me and therefore for our entire family. I had many big projects to complete and I could not do them without the help of my family. Gal and the kids helped me a lot and we ended up dedicating almost 3 weekends to this work (we are still recovering from work, work and more work). All this work involved doing things I love, so it made me excited and I was in total flow and winding down was not easy. That made me think about slowing down as the topic this time.

Slowing down is a challenge for many people. The more successful you are at what you do, the more you risk being unable to slow down and enjoy the simple things. Slowing down is a challenge for me, so I am taking the time to write what happened to me in the last month and how I got over it (still doing that).

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Published: August 13, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Personal Development Tags: relaxation, success, time management, emotional intelligence, stress / pressure, meditation, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, how to, goals / goal setting, choice, happiness, motivation, dreams, society, lifestyle, focus

In Excess

In the not-so-distant past, most people lived in small places and had to do things themselves. They grew crops, cared for animals, sewed their own clothes, built their own houses, met the same small group of people from childhood to old age and learned about the rest of the world only when strangers came to town.

When something broke, those “olden days” people had to fix it themselves or take it to a specialist, such as the blacksmith or the cobbler. Time was cheap and materials, like metal and medicine, were very expensive and hard to get. There was a lot of time, so life was slow. There was a lot of space and travel was slow, so there was little change.

The world’s culture evolved around this lifestyle. The main values taught to kids were self-sufficiency, industry, thriftiness, modesty, discipline and courtesy. When they grew up, they also learned faithfulness and responsibility.

I have a feeling your parents may have tried to instill some of these values in you too, even if your life was quite different. I know mine did, as did the parents of all my friends.

The general focus of people was on getting things and keeping them. There was little choice, so what people got, they enjoyed.

Today, life is radically different for most people. Most people live in big cities, have easy access to large amounts of food, drink, clothes and other goods and are exposed to a never-ending stream of high-pressured information through the TV, the radio, the Internet, the mobile phone, printed media and various other means.

The general focus of people should be on choosing things and enjoying them. But it is not.

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Published: August 11, 2010 by Gal Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Parenting, Health / Wellbeing Tags: change, happiness, society, lifestyle, focus, relaxation, values, time management, emotional intelligence, stress / pressure, fear, health / wellbeing, choice, practical parenting / parents, beliefs

Un-sense-able teens

During my parenting workshops, I ask the parents to describe the challenges they have with their kids. Parents of teens often excuse all their challenges as the result of their kids reaching the “teen” stage. “You know how teens are”, they say.

During the workshops, we discuss many of our beliefs and how they affect our kids’ behavior and I hear myself saying to parents again and again that the image teens have is worse than their behavior. Teens are considered emotional, insensitive, subject to peer pressure, disrespectful, irresponsible and moody, but what they have is just a bad reputation!

I do not think it is a coincidence that all those teens have parents who are able to see beyond their hair color, their hairstyle, their piercing, their desire to be with friends, their rebellious behavior and their academic achievements. It is not a coincidence at all. It is a formula that works. If you can see beyond what is on the surface, you will raise happy teens and you will be a happy parent.

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Published: August 6, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Teens / Teenagers, Parenting Tags: behavior / discipline, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, focus, practical parenting / parents, projection, emotional intelligence, beliefs, society, family matters, academic performance, teens / teenagers, parenting teens

Bullying Facts and Myth

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Bullying is part of every kid’s life, unfortunately. It is estimated that every person bullies someone, is bullied by someone or witnesses someone else being bullied during childhood.

I am writing about bullying because some of my work with kids, although it seems related to academic achievements and learning difficulties, is overcoming emotional baggage that starts with some form of bullying.

To my surprise, most kids do not know what bullying is.

So first, let’s get the facts straight.

This post is part 1 of 35 in the series Bullying

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Published: August 2, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 17, 2020In: Personal Development, Parenting, Kids / Children Tags: relationships / marriage, social skills, society, communication, aggressive, school, bullying, emotional intelligence, k-12 education, kids / children, how to, safety, behavior / discipline, beliefs, practical parenting / parents, violence

Lie to Me

As a parent, I often wonder how my kids interpret their world. Besides being younger than I am and lacking experience, they have grown up in a period and an environment so different to mine this is worth looking at.

Try to remember the last time you watched the news on TV. The anchors smiled most of the time, didn’t they? They even exchanged jokes from time to time, right? But the topics on the news were all doom and gloom – shootings, robberies, dishonest politicians, government decisions you may not like, etc.

Is it appropriate to behave cheerfully when you deliver bad news?

Now, consider most of the “sitcoms”. In a typically conversation, the audience is the real listener and the participants are just acting out a script, so delivering hurtful words, putting others down and using sarcasm are all “part of the deal”, while keeping a posture and facial expression that says, “Yeah! I’m all that”.

But in our daily life, there is no audience. The only ones hearing the words are us and we get hurt by them. And when someone we love says something that hurts and looks like they have just won the lotto, it makes us wonder how much they care.

I believe these things (and others) are leading our kids to distrust body language, facial expression and tone of voice as ways to receive messages from others. Worse, by often mimicking this inconsistent behavior, our kids are actually training themselves to lie better, which makes me worry for them sometimes.

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Published: July 28, 2010 by Gal Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Parenting, Opinion Tags: practical parenting / parents, choice, truth, trust, beliefs, change, society, television, communication, tv, focus, body language, emotional intelligence, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, role model

Children are Our Future

Being parents means our job is to prepare our kids for the future, particularly for the unfortunate event of us stopping to be there for them. Whitney Houston made the phrase “I believe the children are our future” famous singing The Greatest Love of All.

Yeah, well, this is exactly it: we need to stop thinking about how we used to be and focus more on how things are for our kids right now and how they are likely to be for them in the future. Lingering in the past is possibly the biggest disservice we can do for them.

We must grasp the idea that our kids’ life is going to be incredibly different from ours and that there is really no way to know for sure what it is going to be like. In fact, it is likely to keep changing all the time and very rapidly, which means we need to build them for change.

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Published: July 21, 2010 by Gal Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Parenting Tags: lifestyle, technology, flexibility, focus, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, vision, practical parenting / parents, responsibility, emotional intelligence, how to, beliefs, change, society

Kids Leading Social Change

Next month, for the second time, I am taking a group of 50 student leaders from 7 schools to a leadership camp called “Kids Leading Social Change”. The reason I gave the program this name is that I believe kids can lead social change.

One of my 11th Grade teachers told me that if I make a difference in the lives of four people and they make a difference in the lives of four people each, and the cycle of change continues, after a very short time, we will make this world a better place.

Six kids who attended the previous camp organized other students from their school, with the help of their chaplain, and wrote an intergenerational play for elders. They performed their play during Senior Week in front of 400 elders. My teacher said I needed to change only four people, but soon after that camp, I had reached over 400.

When I prepared the camp for them last year, I searched the Internet for things kids can do to make a difference and found a great big list of kids and their ideas for making a difference. I have added my ideas at the bottom of the list and I hope that after next month’s camp, I will add more.

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Published: July 16, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 18, 2021In: Education / Learning Tags: kids / children, vision, creative / creativity, inspiration, emotional intelligence, beliefs, purpose, change, motivation, society, k-12 education, leadership, focus

Karate Kidding

Of course we took the kids to The Karate Kid. We are not parents who deprive our kids from being exposed to popular culture. We had seen all the prequels, it had Jackie Chan, action, Will Smith’s son and a glimpse of China. What could be better? Besides, we thought it would make a good ending for their school break and something we could all enjoy together.

But for me, The Karate Kid was a total let down. Sure, I saw the old Mister Miyagi movies when I was younger, but that would not explain some of the things that bothered me. Maybe I will just start listing them and you will see why.

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Published: July 14, 2010 by Gal Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting, Opinion Tags: choice, beliefs, violence, society, perception, diversity, kids / children, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, practical parenting / parents, communication, responsibility

Anorexia: Model Parenting

Young woman measuring her waist

We happened to watch a TV piece on top models’ body image, eating habits and self-inflicted damages.

Top model Jessica Gomes (24) said the pressure on models to be slim was enormous and that models are afraid to miss out on work opportunities in the highly competitive fashion industry, so they use some excessive methods to keep themselves trim. She said models run for days on a mix of lemon juice and maple syrup, which also “cleanses”. To keep their energy up and be able to work, they drink coffee and use Cocaine.

The article mentioned Ana Carolina Reston (see her in the pictures), a famous Brazilian model who died from Anorexia at the age of 21, weighing 40kg (88lbs). Her mother told the press Ana had eaten nothing but apples and tomatoes for 2 months before she died.

Although the article did a very good job showing models who decided to eat normally and still got excellent jobs, Ronit and I were left with a very painful question:

Where are those top models’ parents?

This post is part 2 of 8 in the series Anorexia

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Published: June 16, 2010 by Gal Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Parenting, Health / Wellbeing Tags: anorexia, society, lifestyle, diet, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, body image, health / wellbeing, focus, responsibility, practical parenting / parents, choice, safety, eating disorders

Top Parenting Bloggers Discuss (12): Parenting Boys and Girls

Gender is no doubt a huge factor in parenting. Many parents would like to know their baby’s gender before it is born, because gender matters to them. In our society, the role of girls and women is different from the role of boys and men. It is hard to ignore these roles and treat kids equally, because in the eyes of our society they are not equal.

So what should we do? Should we parent our kids differently if they are boys or girls or should we treat them just the same?

Research on people’s attitude towards boys and girls has found that parents and adults generally treat boys and girls differently even when they are just babies. In a famous research done with a group of babies that were dressed in pink or blue (without any relation to their real gender) the researchers discovered that the pink babies (presumably the girls) were picked up more by the adults and received more eye contact than the blue babies (presumably the boys).

How do you think this translates to parenting?

This post is part 12 of 14 in the series Top Parenting Bloggers Discuss

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Published: June 11, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: January 16, 2023In: Parenting Tags: practical parenting / parents, gender, choice, beliefs, society, perception, attitude, kids / children, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline

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