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Toxic People and Why You Should Stay Away from Them

Ronit, Tsoof and Noff on the Great Ocean Road

I think that the people in our life have the potential to help us evolve into better versions of ourselves. On the other hand, toxic people drain us from energy and do not help us move forward. In some ways, they even take us backwards.

When my youngest sister traveled, I made her a journal to capture her experiences and added quotes. One of them was this:

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”

– Mark Twain

This quote now hangs on my fridge too.

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November 8, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, change, feeling, friends / friendship, happiness, how to, list, negative, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, self confidence / self esteem / self worth

Experiences, not Possessions: How to Best Spend Money on Your Kids

Baras family in Thailand

If you wonder how to give your kids the best life possible, do not buy them things. Instead, give them great, exciting experiences. Research shows they will remember special events and adventures longer and relive the joy and excitement again and again.

We live in a world of abundance. If you want to understand how much you have today, all you need to do is think of how your life would have been 50 years ago. I like asking myself, “What did my parents not have 50 years ago that I (or my kids) have today?” It is a good lesson in perspective.

Unfortunately, not every person who asks this question reaches the same conclusion. Some people feel grateful and other feel fear. Grateful people, who feel that they are fortunate, tend to appreciate what they have and care for it. Fearful people panic and start to accumulate things. No matter how much they accumulate, they are never happy. Fear takes away the joy of what they already have.

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November 3, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting Tags: education / learning, fun, happiness, holidays, how to, lifestyle, memory, money, practical parenting / parents, school, travel, vacation

Make a list: Life Lessons Learned

Road sign with all arrows leading to the right way

Old people often reflect on life and give the younger generations their list of life lessons learned. It is as if experience gives them the credit to give tips to the young on how to live life.

Well, it does! Experience is important and the best thing about it is that it helps develop perspective.

Unfortunately, not all old people with lots of experience have the perspective to give “young ones” and many of their tips are not applicable to the way life happens now. What worked for my parents, who are now in their 80’s, might not work for me or for my children.

Does this mean I cannot learn from them? No! I can learn a lot from them, but it is best to develop my own lessons, because the lessons I learn by myself are the lessons I can live by.

This post is part 39 of 47 in the series Make a List

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November 1, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: beliefs, change, choice, happiness, how to, mindfulness, perception, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, responsibility, rules

Children with Auditory Processing Disorders or Not?

A brain made from words marking the different brain functions

I went to study special education to help children and adults with learning difficulties. When I started my journey, over 30 years ago, I thought there were many people with learning difficulties. I still think there are, but in the past, I was convinced they were “organic” – physical, possibly genetic – and therefore hard to change.

Now, after seeing so many children and people of all ages, I think that social attitude creates or aggravates the problems in many cases. Many people have small difficulties that are blown out of proportion and labeled as disorders.

Auditory processing disorders are very popular and easily labeled, even among very young children. Every year that passes, I hear about younger and younger kids with auditory processing disorders. Recently, I even talked to a mother whose son was one year old and she insisted he had an auditory processing disorder. I am qualified enough to know that I cannot assess a child for APD at one year of age.

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October 27, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Education / Learning, Parenting Tags: academic performance, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, auditory, change, communication, health / wellbeing, how to, k-12 education, kids / children, learning disabilities, learning styles, practical parenting / parents, special education, story

Mental Pain Shouldn’t Kill You. It Can Make You Stronger

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I have written before about emotional pain as a reaction to a perceived threat and our body’s way of telling us that something is wrong. Mental pain is not the enemy. It is the messenger. And it is very important not to kill it.

Many people will tell you that when you come out of the other side of pain, you feel stronger. I have learned the hard way that the fear of pain takes more energy than the pain itself. Worry is an example of it. When we worry, we experience mental pain from something negative we have imagined in our head. Yes, all in our head.

There are many techniques to turn mental pain into psychological strength and the more you use them, the less you feel the pain. I have gathered some of them here to share with you. All of them are proven and practical. I use them with my clients.

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October 25, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development, Health / Wellbeing Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, anxiety, attitude, change, depression, emotional intelligence, empowerment, focus, happiness, health / wellbeing, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive attitude tips, stress / pressure

Assertiveness: Successful Communication Summary

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You can learn assertiveness skills at any stage of life and you can always improve them and gain more respect for yourself and others. In this post, I have gathered all of my assertiveness tips in one big list. I hope this summary will be useful for you and for your children and students.

If we create a society full of assertive people, we will not have conflicts and we will live with each other with respect, so pass this along to everyone you know.

This post is part 6 of 6 in the series Assertiveness

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October 20, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, aggressive, assertive, beliefs, change, choice, communication, control, emotional intelligence, empowerment, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive attitude tips, responsibility, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, tips, values

Assertiveness: Know Your Rights

Assertive woman writing "I'll do it My Way"

So far, I have covered things that affect our ability to be assertive. This post adds some tips on how to know your rights, keep them and be assertive about them. I hope they will help you on your quest to develop your emotional intelligence and communicate with assertiveness.

When you are assertive, you express yourself with confidence without hurting others. You are firm, not a bully. You are clear, not manipulative. You are honest, not aggressive. Healthy communication is based on honesty, clarity and confidence.

First, you have to know your rights in every communication. It takes two to tango and when one has more rights than the other does, this will not be an assertive relationship. I suggest teaching kids these rights too and giving them opportunities to practice them.

This post is part 5 of 6 in the series Assertiveness

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October 13, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, assertive, beliefs, change, communication, control, emotional intelligence, empowerment, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive attitude tips, responsibility, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, tips, values

Assertiveness: Live by Your Own Standards

Faceless woman with a sign showing arrows pointing at the word CONFIDENCE

Assertiveness is a helpful skill in life, yet most people do not have it. They do not have it because they could not learn it at home or from anyone else except professionals. You see, the people who teach assertiveness must be very confident and not afraid that you might use assertiveness with them, and these people are hard to find.

Am I assertive all the time? No, not really. Sometimes, I choose avoidance or aggression, and every time I use them, I feel uncomfortable. They either hurt me or others, which is not very good. Still, I aim to use assertiveness in my communication with others and most of the time, I do.

Assertiveness requires confidence to express your own thoughts and feeling without fear and without the need, desire or intention to hurt anyone else. It is important to distinguish between having the intention to hurt and actually hurting someone else.

This post is part 4 of 6 in the series Assertiveness

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October 6, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, assertive, beliefs, change, choice, communication, control, emotional intelligence, empowerment, expectation, freedom, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive attitude tips, responsibility, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, stress / pressure, values

Assertiveness: Things You Should Keep to Yourself

A safe behind heavy doors

Keeping things to yourself does not mean keeping them a secret. Assertiveness comes from confidence, while secrets come from fear. Sharing is expressing yourself confidently without reservation and without any pressure to convince others or justify your own thoughts and beliefs.

Here is a list of things you can keep to yourself or share selectively. If you are confident about them, you do not need validation, approval or to have the majority with you to hold them. If you want someone’s opinion, ask. If someone asks for your opinion, respect their choice not to accept it or to do whatever they want with it. If they disagree, do not like it or do not want to use it, it should not create any doubt in you. Some things are yours to keep and you can share them, but never with pressure. Pressure is not assertiveness.

This post is part 3 of 6 in the series Assertiveness

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September 29, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, assertive, change, choice, control, emotional intelligence, empowerment, freedom, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive attitude tips, responsibility, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, stress / pressure, trust

Happy Friendship Anniversary

Couple at sunset

This week, Gal and I celebrated 36 years of being together. We have known each other for 37 years, been a couple for 36, lived together for 31 and been married for 29 years. Every year, we celebrate our friendship anniversary instead of our wedding anniversary, because our wedding experience was not a very happy experience and we would really like to celebrate a happy thing in our life rather than an event we never liked.

I have a relationship philosophy that worked very well for me over the years. I am happy that my philosophy, together with Gal’s, brought us together to this anniversary. We still fight. We still disagree on things. We are very different in many ways, but we are still friends who love each other and care about each other greatly.

In my sessions, I share with my clients my formula for happy relationships. After each session, I send them a summary of the topics we covered, so they can reflect and work on their relationship. I have decided to include them here with the hope that many more people will use them to reach happy, supportive and loving relationships.

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September 27, 2016 by Ronit Baras In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, friends / friendship, how to, inspiration, Life Coaching, love, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, positive attitude tips, relationships / marriage, responsibility, romance

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