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Wired for Happiness: The Three Brains

Even though our company slogan is that happiness is a choice, a lot of people tell me they have things in their lives that make them unhappy and they did not choose them. This is true! I have things like that too. While we might not always be able to choose to have things that make us happy, we all have the choice to decide what to do with the things we have.

I think the question of choice is very sensitive. Mainly because lots of our thoughts, feelings and beliefs are formed in the subconscious mind, the part of the brain that is hidden from us and seems like a complete mystery. Our minds are like an iceberg. The conscious mind is just the tiny tip sticking out of the water, while the subconscious is the massive body underneath that is in charge of 90% of our actions. How can we choose to control something we have no access to?

All we need to do is change our perception of our subconscious. It is actually within our control to change. We have a lot of access to our brains. In fact, we access our subconscious every second but we do it so fast and naturally that we do not even notice. Slowing down and noticing what is happening to us, can help greatly make good and happy choices.

This post is part 1 of 3 in the series Wired for Happiness

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Published: March 28, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: action, positive, beliefs, stress / pressure, empowerment, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, control, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, mind, emotions, change, feeling, happiness, thought, relationships / marriage, emotional intelligence, aggressive, how to, decision making, choice, spiritual

How to Choose the Best School for Your Kids: Questions to Consider

To find the school that best fits you and your child, and make sure you get the highest return on one of the biggest investments of your life, there are some things to think about. You need to consider how each of the factors or school characteristics influences your child’s education and success.

Here are some tips of what to consider when trying determining your formula for finding the best school. These will improve the chances of your investment being a success. They are in no particular order.

School Size

The size of the school needs to match your kid’s personality. Big schools have more programs, more enrichment, and more options in teaching. But there is always a risk that your child will get lost in the hustle and bustle. Check out the school, go meet the principal, talk to parents. Often, parents choose little schools because they want their child to get personal attention. The principal knows the children by name and the school has a personal touch. My children went primary school with over 1600 kids in it. The principal knew all the kids’ names, their parents’ names, their parent’s professions and what their hobbies were. It is possible to get a big school with a personal touch. This was good for my kids. Other parents who went to the exact same schools felt that their child was just a number in such a big school. It was not for them.

This post is part 3 of 3 in the series How to Choose the Best School for Your Kids

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Published: March 12, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 17, 2020In: Parenting, Education / Learning Tags: kids / children, special education, social skills, tips, school, family matters, behavior / discipline, emotional intelligence, environment, how to, assessment, education / learning, choice, k-12 education, practical parenting / parents, action, social, teaching / teachers, empowerment, tuition, mom, tutoring, change, needs, motivation, positive, learning disabilities

How to Choose the Best School for Your Kids: The Formula

As parents, our choice of appropriate school for our kids needs to be revaluated every year. If a child is spends up to 13 years at school, we should be re-evaluating our choice at least 13 times.

Unfortunately, some people just send their kids to the closest school. Sometimes, it is the only school available and in fact, they do not really have much of a choice. The majority of parents believe they should make schooling choices about two or three times. Depending on the structure of the education system, parents make choices about day care/ kindergarten, primary school, and middle school/high school. Some parents even consider this question only once and decide to send their kid to a college (which goes from kindergarten to Grade 12).

This post is part 2 of 3 in the series How to Choose the Best School for Your Kids

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Published: March 5, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 17, 2020In: Education / Learning, Parenting Tags: needs, learning disabilities, positive, special education, social skills, kids / children, school, family matters, tips, emotional intelligence, environment, behavior / discipline, how to, assessment, choice, k-12 education, education / learning, action, social, practical parenting / parents, empowerment, tuition, teaching / teachers, mom, tutoring, change, academic performance, motivation

How to Choose the Best School for Your Kids: Return on Investment

Education is one of the most important investments in life (followed closely by investing in relationships). Many people around the world spend a fortune on a good school for their kids. Sadly, this fortune is often wasted and they end up blaming their children for not making the most out of the opportunity they were given. It is similar to investing in the share market or in property, you find a lousy house or buy very shaky shares and complain when they do not increase in value.

Children spend the majority of their most valuable childhood years in educational institutions. Think about it this way: out of 7 days a week, 5 of them are dedicated to schooling. If the kids are also stimulated in other ways, they may even spend some of their weekends in educational endeavors.

Much like other investments, the decision whether to invest or not, and in what to invest depends on the potential return. If the return is high, it is considered a good investment. If the return is low, it is not a very good investment, and if there is likely to be a loss, it is a terrible investment.

This post is part 1 of 3 in the series How to Choose the Best School for Your Kids

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Published: February 21, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Parenting, Education / Learning Tags: academic performance, motivation, needs, learning disabilities, positive, special education, social skills, kids / children, school, family matters, tips, emotional intelligence, environment, behavior / discipline, how to, assessment, choice, k-12 education, education / learning, action, social, practical parenting / parents, empowerment, tuition, teaching / teachers, mom, tutoring, change

I Learned it from the Best

Parenting is a really important part of every child’s life. Not only because we rely on our parents 100% for food and shelter, but also because it lays the foundation for our futures. I want to share some things I learned in my psychology degree about how important parenting is in shaping kids’ lives, for better and for worse.

In my third year of psychology, I did a course on Psychopathology – the study of mental disorders. I found out that humans have an amazing capacity to cope. And boy, are we complicated! I also found out that one of the most important things with regards to mental illness is what happens to people in their early family life. On the one hand, if it is bad, it is one of the strongest contributors to mental illness. On the other hand, one of the best protective factors against mental illness is a supportive family. So what I want to talk to you about is the importance of a positive childhood. Because it is important.

As children, we look up to our parents. They are all powerful and all knowing. They tell us how to behave, and the difference between right and wrong. We turn to them when we need help. We copy their behavior, their coping mechanisms, and their attitudes. We define ourselves based on their feedback.

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Published: February 7, 2013 by Eden Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Parenting Tags: security, beliefs, empowerment, early childhood, self-fulfilling prophecy, love, attitude, emotional intelligence, kids / children, how to, tips, choice, behavior / discipline, truth, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, trust, emotions, safety, practical parenting / parents

Compassionate Relationship: Failed Sympathy

In the last chapter on tests in relationships, we talked about the risks of hidden apathy. Today, I will cover the risks of sympathy.

If you remember my example story, I was very, very sad when a contract I had been working on for about 3 years was suddenly stopped 2 month after it started. I was so excited and happy when it started that I was extremely sad when I was told the organization will not continue the project. To manage my feelings, I shared the story with people I have a relationship with. Lucky for me, most of my relationships were very supportive and I made sure not to share with those who were not.

Here are more examples of getting things wrong and failing the relationship test.

This post is part 4 of 4 in the series Compassionate Relationship

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Published: February 5, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: language, empowerment, happiness, relationships / marriage, compassion, social, communication, sympathy, focus, positive attitude tips, love, attitude, success, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, emotional intelligence, friends / friendship

Compassionate Relationship: Hidden Apathy

Here is an example of a relationship test at a level one – when one person is experiencing pain from an external source, which has nothing to do with the supporter/listener. Notice how easily things can go wrong and the relationship test can fail.

Last year, I was offered a position working within a team of people doing something that I absolutely loved. I had been working with them for over two years before that in an external capacity. We had been going back and forth for about a year, in discussions about me joining their team to write and implement a very special project. This whole time I was very happy and excited, waiting for the technical things to be sorted out so I could start the project. After two years of talking, it took a year to sign the contract and then I finally started writing the project. I was very hyped. But two month into the project, things changed in the organization. The person managing the project left and the wisest decision for me was to stop the project. I was soooooooooooooooooooooo disappointed. I was very sad and even cried. To manage the overwhelming challenge I was facing, I shared the story with other people, which put our relationships to the test. Lucky for me, most of my relationships were successful. While sharing my challenge with others, we both passed the test of support. But this is not always the case for every challenge. Here are some examples of relationships and how things can go wrong.

This post is part 3 of 4 in the series Compassionate Relationship

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Published: January 31, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: positive attitude tips, focus, attitude, love, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, success, friends / friendship, emotional intelligence, language, empowerment, happiness, relationships / marriage, compassion, social, communication

Compassionate Relationship: Empathy, Sympathy and Compassion

Most people have conflicts in their relationships and fail to resolve them because they confuse between empathy, sympathy and compassion. This confusion can be caused by either person in the relationship. It can be a result of ineffective expectations or insufficient support. Regardless the reason, life, the ultimate examiner, would give a “Fail! Big time!” on this test.

Understanding the difference between the three is essential to passing the relationship test. Here is my version of the difference.

Empathy is when you notice and understand the other persons’ situation, experience, perspective or feelings. It does not mean you share their feelings, agree with them or have been asked to share your judgment, thoughts or ideas. It definitely does not mean you need to solve their problem.

The best way to proceed is to say, “I can see that you are very disappointed and upset”, or just be a sounding board and repeat back to them what they said, “So you are sad because he was rude to you. I can understand why”. Often times, people only want empathy. Someone to talk to that will understand their perspective and feelings. Empathy is a way to give support with your presence.

This post is part 2 of 4 in the series Compassionate Relationship

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Published: January 22, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: compassion, communication, social, focus, sympathy, love, positive attitude tips, success, attitude, emotional intelligence, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, failure, friends / friendship, language, empowerment, empathy, happiness, relationships / marriage

To Do or Not To Do?

Hi Everybody! It has been a little while since I have written a post. Sorry for the long break. I have been extremely busy completing my honours degree in psychology. The year is finally over and I have graduate (woohoo!). Thank you to all of you who participated. I promise to write about my honours research very soon. In any case, I have been bursting with ideas for posts so I thought I would put in a quick one about decision making for your reading pleasure.

In a number of settings in my life, I have been faced with the dilemma of whether to do something or to do nothing. If you have ever needed to decide between doing something or not, you know that this can be a tough choice. Maybe you’re not sure what the consequences will be if you do or you are worried that you will miss out if you don’t.

A friend of mine by the name of Anna says that if you are faced with this sort of dilemma and you are not sure what to do, the best thing to do is nothing. She thinks the consequences are just too unpredictable and you are clearly not 100% confident of positive results. She thinks it is better to wait for another opportunity where you are sure that doing is better than not doing. In this way, you don’t have to live with the consequences of making a bad decision. Your lack of decision has made sure everything around you stays the same, ready for the next opportunity to come along.

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Published: January 17, 2013 by Eden Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting Tags: success, choice, action, empowerment, decision making, attitude, practical parenting / parents

Compassionate Relationship: The Relationship Tests

Our lives are full of relationships. Each of them is a test we need to pass in order to have a happy, healthy, successful and fulfilling life. Relationships are such an important element in our lives that we start the process even before we are born. We have 9 months of close, physical contact with our mom and through her, with our dad or her partner. The success of these early relationships will have a huge impact on our long term relationship with our parents – the most important test of our lives.

Life is full of tests because at every stage of our lives, we will have relationships with other people. It can be our families, our friends, colleagues, clients, people that provide us with a service or even people we meet for a short time whose name we may never know.

This post is part 1 of 4 in the series Compassionate Relationship

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Published: January 15, 2013 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Relationships / Marriage Tags: language, friends / friendship, empowerment, mother, mom, happiness, relationships / marriage, communication, compassion, focus, social, love, positive attitude tips, success, attitude, emotional intelligence, acceptance / judgment / tolerance

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