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Distorted Definition of Depression Increases Depression

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Depression is a big problem in our society. People think that nowadays we have more depression, when in fact we do not. What we have is a distorted definition of happiness and depression.

Here are some myths about happiness and depression that make people feel even more depressed.

Myth 1: Happy people are happy at all the time

When I go over the happiness scale with my clients, many of them think that they are supposed to be happy all the time. I can understand how people with this distorted definition of happiness can feel depressed. Some of them say that on a scale of 1-100, a happy person feels 95 happy or even 100. Since 100 is a state of total excitement and bliss, we cannot experience the excitement if we are high all the time.

Human beings’ nervous system notices differences. Feeling just a little bit happier than before works just as well when you go from 32 to 35 as when you go from 62 to 65. So every day, focus on being just a little happier than you were yesterday.

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Published: April 12, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: April 12, 2016In: Personal Development, Health / Wellbeing Tags: attitude, health / wellbeing, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotions, feeling, focus, depression, control, change, happiness

3 Emotional Painkillers

Man holding his face in his hands in pain

In Holistic Approach to Emotional Pain, I explained why pain is not a punishment and we do not need to fight it. I also explained how the use of physical or emotional “substances” only makes us feel the pain longer and disrupts the function of the natural pharmacy we have in our body, which is in charge of flooding our system with “painkillers”.

In this post, I will share 3 “emotional painkillers” that will make pain go away faster.

1. The Rating Technique

The first emotional painkiller is used frequently by nurses and doctors. When you are in a hospital, before giving you your painkillers, the nurse will ask you to rate your pain from 1 to 10 and use this as a guide to determine your dosage.

This makes you develop an awareness of your feeling. If you say that the pain is a 9, the nurse will give you more painkillers and you will feel a bigger relief from them. If you say the pain is 3, the nurse may ask if you can wait a little longer and give you nothing for an hour.

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Published: March 29, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 25, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: health / wellbeing, depression, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, how to, feeling, fear, expectation, beliefs, change, happiness, anger, positive attitude tips, focus, attitude, emotional intelligence, stress / pressure, meditation

There Are No Hopeless Teens

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As a teen, I faced many challenges with how the system viewed my abilities. Since then, I got a degree in Special Education and promised myself that no teen that crossed my path would ever be hopeless. Over the last 30 years, I have had the honor of working with many teens who were given up by the system and have done my best to act on my promise.

A young boy (let’s call him Aaron) came to see me 3 years ago. He was a tall and handsome young teen in a big body. He was in 10th grade and his mom was very worried about him. She raised him by herself, together with his youngest brother after a very challenging breakup.

Aaron attended one of the most prestigious private high schools, located over an hour and half’s drive from his home and his academic scores were low. He was failing in most of the subjects. He also got in trouble with every teacher possible and had no friends.

Every day was a challenge. In the morning, Aaron refused to go to school. In the afternoon, he refused to do his homework. The school told his mom that Aaron was hopeless. But he was just was a smart kid that was lost in the system.

This post is part 15 of 19 in the series From the Life Coaching Deck

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Published: March 15, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: August 28, 2018In: Education / Learning, Beautiful people Tags: k-12 education, attitude, teens / teenagers, parenting teens, special education, education / learning, school, practical parenting / parents, success, beliefs, hope, story

Holistic Approach to Emotional Pain

H.O.P.E. Hold on, pain ends

Unfortunately, I have had a lot of pain in my life. Sometimes, it was physical pain and others times it was emotional pain. I know how pain feels, sounds, looks and what it does to my ability to think.

I think every person in the world experiences pain. In fact, everything that doesn’t happen the way we expect, causes us pain, and we can separate the pain by intensity or level of importance.

Many people separate physical and emotional pain. I strongly believe they work the same way in our mind.

I am not a medical doctor, more of a “heart” or “mind” doctor, and I mainly work with my clients on emotional pain. In my work as a happiness coach, I take clients through a process that uses their happiness as a tool to overcome their emotional pain. I tell all of them that it does not mean they will have no pain in their lives, but we will make sure that in the competition between pain and pleasure, pleasure will win.

First, it is important to remember that pain is an emotion that is important for us. Together with happiness and satisfaction, pain functions as guide, like a compass or GPS. When we feel great, this tells us, “Keep moving in the direction you are now”. And when we feel pain, this tells us, “Recalculating … please make a u-turn at the nearest available point”.

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Published: March 10, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 21, 2020In: Personal Development, Health / Wellbeing Tags: stress / pressure, health / wellbeing, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, focus, emotional intelligence, depression, happiness, attitude

Make a List: Ronit’s Gratitude Examples List

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So now you know about why it’s important to be grateful and how you can get yourself into a state of gratitude with not much effort and in a very short time. You just need to make a list of 100 things you are grateful for.

Many of my clients say this is not an easy exercise. They can think of 10 or 20 things, but not a 100. So I give them examples of my own gratitude. Usually, when I start sharing my gratitude list with my clients, they say, “Oh, yeah, I’m grateful for this too”.

I truly believe that all people have lots of things to be grateful for and if they struggle to find these things, it is only because they haven’t practiced doing it and maybe they need ideas.

This post is part 38 of 49 in the series Make a List

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Published: February 18, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: May 27, 2024In: Personal Development Tags: gratitude, attitude, success, emotional intelligence, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, depression, how to, beliefs, research, change, happiness, perception, focus, positive

Excuses, Excuses

Stick figure dragging a block saying Excuses, Excuses, Excuses...

We all have excuses for many things in life. If we examine our excuses, we will find that we only use them for the things that aren’t working in our life. We never make excuses for what works, do we?

Excuses are stories we tell ourselves to justify things that didn’t go according to the expectations of others and even our own. We have excuses for why we didn’t succeed, why we forgot, why we couldn’t and even why we missed opportunities. The list is endless.

Usually, we bounce between blame and justifications to overcome disappointment. It’s important to understand that it is not necessary to be hard on yourself whenever you come up with an excuse, and you should practice acceptance as another coping mechanism. Excuses are essential for our survival. Without them, we would not be able to overcome failure, but if we use them too often, we do more damage than good to our emotional state.

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Published: February 16, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 9, 2020In: Personal Development Tags: focus, responsibility, emotional intelligence, failure, positive attitude tips, attitude, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, expectation

Things to Be Grateful for

it's not happiness that brings us gratitude. It's gratitude that brings us happiness.

In our ever more stressful world, it can be challenging to find things to be grateful for if you don’t know where/how to look. I hope this post will help.

In the last chapters of the make a list series, I covered many topics that can bring awareness, happiness and success for people. I already know many who have tried making those lists and have made a huge change in their lives.

One major aspect of success in life is gratitude. If you want to learn from happy, successful people, it is a good idea to imitate their beliefs, thoughts and mindset, and when asked about their success and happiness, successful people have gratitude as part of their life.

It is always amazing for me to hear successful people saying, “I am lucky”, “I am fortunate”, “I am so grateful”. Those people, who worked hard (and long) for their successes, never forget to appreciate the things they have. The difference between them and unsuccessful people is that they never take what they have or what they achieve for granted.

This post is part 37 of 49 in the series Make a List

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Published: February 9, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: January 24, 2023In: Personal Development Tags: how to, beliefs, research, change, happiness, perception, focus, positive, gratitude, attitude, success, emotional intelligence, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, depression

How to Encourage: Ronit’s List of Compliments

Drawing of hand with the words You Are Beautiful

Since I wrote the first chapter of the compliments series, I have received some requests from readers to give them some ideas about compliments, so I thought it may be a good exercise to make a list of 100 compliments we can give others that will cover different areas of life.

By limiting myself to phrases that only focus on the other person and not on myself (because complimenting is giving, not taking credit and focusing on yourself), I got to 182.

Here’s my list of compliments. I suggest that you mark the compliments you find useful, change them to suit your needs and keep them somewhere handy. Then, refer to the examples when you need a compliment idea.

This post is part 3 of 3 in the series The Power of Compliments

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Published: January 28, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 1, 2020In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: attitude, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, communication, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, focus, projection, emotional intelligence, how to, relationships / marriage, affirmations, positive attitude tips

How to Accept Compliments with Grace

Thank You!

As I said in Compliments: Give to Receive, most people don’t receive many compliments, because they don’t give many compliments to others, and this is caused by not feeling good about themselves. I hope everyone started the compliment challenge and that you already see the impact on your own confidence and sense of wellbeing.

Not feeling good about yourself also makes you feel uncomfortable when someone else gives you a compliment. As you might expect, an awkward response to a compliment will discourage the other person from giving you any more compliments.

In this post, you will learn how to accept compliments with grace.

Some people are not used to compliments, so they are shocked when someone says something good about them. Most people say something that reduces the compliment, like “It was nothing”, “You should have seen me do it last time” or “This time was not that good”, which is just like getting a gift from someone and saying, “Sorry, I can’t accept your gift, because I don’t deserve it”…

This post is part 2 of 3 in the series The Power of Compliments

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Published: December 17, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: January 28, 2016In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: projection, emotional intelligence, how to, relationships / marriage, affirmations, positive attitude tips, attitude, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, communication, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, focus

Compliments: Give to Receive

Young Asian girl at sunrise

Giving and receiving compliments are very important communication skills that boost our self-confidence and the confidence of the people around us. We grow up in a society that struggles with giving and receiving compliments. People are stingy at the giving end and uncomfortable at the receiving end.

What many people don’t realize is that complimenting others is a projection of a trait, skill or beauty that we see in ourselves. It is a gift of kindness that when we give, we also receive.

Recently, I ran leadership training with a group of high school students and we talked about compliments. It took us 10 hours to change the lives of all those students and increase their self-confidence ratings by 20% to 50%. Yes, in just 10 hours of a very busy training day, we change their attitude towards themselves and other people.

One of the leaders came to me in the evening, after the session with the parents, to say “Thank you”. She said that the part about compliments was very meaningful for her. She felt that it was a shame they didn’t teach communication skills in primary school and that it was important to give compliments to others, and even more important to accept compliments. On the ride home, I thought about it and realized I had never written about compliments in my blog, so I thanked this girl for bringing it to my attention.

This post is part 1 of 3 in the series The Power of Compliments

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Published: December 15, 2015 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: January 28, 2016In: Personal Development, Relationships / Marriage Tags: positive attitude tips, attitude, leadership, communication, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, focus, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, projection, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, how to, role model, relationships / marriage, affirmations

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