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Assertiveness and Self Esteem

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Today, let’s talk about assertiveness and self-esteem. You will see how being assertive cures the “disease to please” and get useful, practical tips for increasing your own assertiveness and that of your kids.

I am sure this has happened to you before. Something happened, you felt uncomfortable, but said nothing. Some time later, you thought, “I should have said this” or “I should have told them what I thought”.

The expression “should have” indicates disappointment. Using it does not support self-esteem and makes you feel weak but we all have it some way or another. “Should have” is telling yourself you regret not having handled a situation differently or allowing someone to bully you.

If you use this expression often, you probably need to take an assertiveness pill. I am sure you have heard about assertiveness, but what is it really?

This post is part 8 of 20 in the series Self Esteem Mini-Course

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Published: May 7, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 23, 2019In: Personal Development, Parenting, Success / Wealth Tags: assertive, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, communication, emotional intelligence, beliefs, relationships / marriage

How to Get Rid of Doubts

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Today, in part 7 of the self-esteem mini-course, I would like to talk about doubts, the killers of self-esteem, and the role parents can play in filling up doubt-holes with confidence.

My hope is that if you want your kids to have high self-esteem, you will shift your focus from your kids to yourself. Because your attitude as a parent is the key to raising happy, confident kids with high self-esteem.

Parents who drink are more likely to raise kids who grow up to be drinkers. Parents who gamble are more likely to raise kids who grow up to gamble themselves. Therefore, parents with doubts and low self-esteem are more likely to raise kids with low self-esteem.

I believe this cycle needs to end.

This post is part 7 of 20 in the series Self Esteem Mini-Course

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Published: April 30, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: February 25, 2020In: Parenting, Emotional Intelligence, Kids / Children Tags: kids / children, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, practical parenting / parents, vision, values, trust, beliefs, family matters

Hugging Babies is Not Enough

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Last week, after posting Self Esteem Mini-Course (part 6), I got this comment from Chuck Bluestein referring to his post called What Causes a Lack of Self-Esteem in Americans. According to Chuck, the lack of physical touch in infants is the source of the problem. In short, we are not hugging babies enough.

Well, Chuck, I agree with you that physical touch is essential for kids’ physical and emotional growth. I even think that parents who think they are “spoiling” their babies by holding them in their hands are being unreasonable.

Yes, babies need hugging and touching. But the real problem in our society starts when they grow a bit and Mom and Dad think it is inappropriate to touch them anymore. It reached a stage where grown-ups who lived together in the same house for years shake hands when they see each other.

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Published: April 21, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 18, 2021In: Emotional Intelligence, Kids / Children, Parenting, Teens / Teenagers Tags: teens / teenagers, love, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, emotional intelligence, practical parenting / parents, hugs, depression, communication styles, learning styles, relationships / marriage, early childhood, kids / children, touch

Your Self-Esteem Checklist

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For people to think highly of themselves, they need to be aware of every aspect of the self and identify their own personal scale to measure their performance. Most people are so used to defining themselves based on others around them that I can understand why this is not an easy task. Easy it may not be, but it is possible and, I believe, essential.

Last week, in Service Your Self-Esteem, we talked about essential rules to increase self-esteem. To increase our self-esteem, we need to look at ourselves carefully and examine each part of what creates the self.

Last week, we met Eli, my mechanic, and talked about his checklist for car maintenance, the one he uses before returning each car to its owner. Well, here (at last) is a self-esteem checklist – your very own list of the parts of your self-esteem.

This post is part 6 of 20 in the series Self Esteem Mini-Course

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Published: April 14, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: May 6, 2020In: Life Coaching, Emotional Intelligence Tags: Life Coaching, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, focus, health / wellbeing, success, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, beliefs, happiness

14 Ways to Teach Your Kids Resilience

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As much as we would like to defend our kids from the difficulties in life, from experiencing crisis, change or loss, we cannot! However, we can give our kids the tools to recover from difficult times when those hit.

Many people say to me, “They are just kids. What horrible things can possibly happens to them?”

My answer is, “Let’s not wait to find out”.

For children, what seems like a simple thing might be a horrible problem. We have good friends whose 18-year-old son took a gun and shot himself in the head because he was not accepted to the course he wanted.

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Published: April 8, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 18, 2021In: Parenting, Emotional Intelligence, Kids / Children Tags: teens / teenagers, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, health / wellbeing, focus, practical parenting / parents, success, negative, teen books, positive attitude tips, kids / children

Service Your Self-Esteem

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Last month, I sent my car to be serviced. On the front window, my mechanic put a label telling me when to bring the car to him for the next service. When he returned my car, it drove perfectly, quietly, smoothly, swiftly and without any black smoke coming out of the exhaust pipe.

People are a lot like cars. We function well, smoothly and at full speed when we take good care of ourselves. When we neglect ourselves, we feel bad, rejected and frustrated and our performance suffers. Whereas cars need servicing every 10,000km, people need it roughly every week (10,000 minutes), so take care of yourself at least once a week to feel fresh and shiny.

This post is part 5 of 20 in the series Self Esteem Mini-Course

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Published: April 7, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 18, 2021In: Personal Development, Life Coaching Tags: personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, self confidence / self esteem / self worth

How To Help Your Fat Kid Stop Being Overweight

Overweight child eating cupcake with blue icing

If you have a “fat” or overweight child, you know they suffer a lot from some associated problems. Many grownups carry feelings of self-loathing and self-disappointment following the negative treatment they got during their younger years.

Being fat is not only about what we eat. It’s also about what makes us eat more than what our body requires. A fat kid almost always suffers from low self-image too.

Overweight kids need a healthy, balanced eating plan, together with an emotional plan, which doesn’t damage their self-image any further.

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Published: April 3, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 18, 2021In: Parenting, Kids / Children, Health / Wellbeing Tags: fat, overweight, positive attitude tips, kids / children, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, diet, practical parenting / parents, body image, focus, food

Teen Birthday Parties: Who Needs Them Anyway?

Teen girl blowing out candles on a cake at a birthday party

It was the third birthday our daughter had refused to celebrate with friends. For her 17th birthday, she invited a couple of girls to go out for a movie. For her 18th birthday, she spent the day crying because it was her grandmother’s funeral (and her dad was away to attend).

When she approached her 19th birthday, we had the same discussions about a party all over again.

When I was kid, most of the kids wanted to have a party, at least on their birthdays. Only the “rich” kids could have parties every year. Some rare kids had parties more than once a year and those were obviously the most popular.

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Published: March 27, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: January 22, 2020In: Teens / Teenagers, Personal Development, Parenting Tags: teens / teenagers, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, emotional intelligence, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, identity, practical parenting / parents, mother, father, mom, dad, happiness, teen books, kids / children

Social Identity

Social gathering with friends

Today, let’s explore how we form our social identity and how it can contribute to our self-esteem.

Psychologists claim that we have a social identity. From the moment kids see themselves as part of a family, they start forming their social identity. Our self-esteem, which is what we think about ourselves, is greatly influenced by the groups we associate ourselves with and by what they think and do. For that matter, our family is our first social group.

If you want to understand the influence of the groups on our life, put yourself at the center of a circle and draw bigger and bigger circles around you for your family, friend, work colleagues, acquaintances and so on. The closest the circle to you, the more influence you allow this group to have on your life.

This post is part 4 of 20 in the series Self Esteem Mini-Course

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Published: March 25, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: January 22, 2020In: Parenting, Emotional Intelligence, Kids / Children Tags: dad, happiness, relationships / marriage, social skills, family matters, kids / children, identity, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, mother, practical parenting / parents, father, mom

Beliefs and Where They Come From

Affirmations on a man's shape

Every person in the universe is searching for happiness. Our thoughts about ourselves, our self esteem, are part of that one “map” that everyone is looking for, the one we think fits us all. But we all have different experiences and mindsets. Therefore, we each use a different map to guide us to our own happiness.

This post is part 3 of 20 in the series Self Esteem Mini-Course

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Published: March 18, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 24, 2019In: Life Coaching, Parenting, Emotional Intelligence, Kids / Children, Did You Know? Tags: happiness, positive attitude tips, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, focus, beliefs, empowerment, wisdom

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