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Mental Pain Shouldn’t Kill You. It Can Make You Stronger

The word depression projected onto a sad man's face

I have written before about emotional pain as a reaction to a perceived threat and our body’s way of telling us that something is wrong. Mental pain is not the enemy. It is the messenger. And it is very important not to kill it.

Many people will tell you that when you come out of the other side of pain, you feel stronger. I have learned the hard way that the fear of pain takes more energy than the pain itself. Worry is an example of it. When we worry, we experience mental pain from something negative we have imagined in our head. Yes, all in our head.

There are many techniques to turn mental pain into psychological strength and the more you use them, the less you feel the pain. I have gathered some of them here to share with you. All of them are proven and practical. I use them with my clients.

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Published: October 25, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: October 21, 2020In: Personal Development, Health / Wellbeing Tags: happiness, positive attitude tips, attitude, focus, stress / pressure, emotional intelligence, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, depression, health / wellbeing, anxiety, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, how to, empowerment, change

The Optimistic Creed

Be Optimistic

Everybody in the world wants happiness. Ask around and you will see. Being optimistic is a way to reach happiness and if you want to go this way, you must first believe that it will take you to where you want to go.

When we talk happiness at my workshops, many people highlight the obstacles to happiness. They share stories of heartache, disappointment, frustration, failure and pain. For them, you can only be in a state of happiness when everything in life functions at a 100%. When I ask them, “What makes you happy?” they mostly list what needs not to happen, which shows a focus on the past and on avoiding pain.

When I draw their attention to this focus, they make a list of what needs to happen for them to be happy. This is better, but we quickly discover that one painful thing is enough for them to feel unhappy, but to feel happy, they need the whole list to happen at the same time. This way, they make sure that unhappiness is easy to reach and happiness is really hard.

When my clients understand that this is a problem, they usually ask, “Ronit, how do we change the formula?” and one of the best ways to do it is by practicing optimism.

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Published: October 4, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: February 15, 2023In: Personal Development Tags: personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, gratitude, emotional intelligence, anxiety, empowerment, happiness, optimism, law of attraction, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance

Mindfulness Questions to Change Your Life for the Better

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Questions are very important on our way to mindfulness. The ancient Greek philosopher Socrates thought that questions could lead us to many discoveries. One of the most important discoveries is that questions can reveal to us what we think and lead us to a better life.

The formula is simple. When we ask good questions, we get good answers that can help us grow and evolve to a better version of ourselves.

As a life coach, I use questions a lot. I know that some questions I ask (myself or others) will lead to pain and others will empower. Questions can trigger responses like “let’s move on”, “let’s do something”, “let’s think positively”, “let’s plan”, “let’s change perspective” and “let’s appreciate”, like pressing a button.

Every thought we have also triggers a feeling, so by “pressing the button” for that thought, we can create that feeling. For example, the “good memory” button will make us happy and “bad memory” button will bring us pain and suffering.

We may not have more bad memories than good memories, but if we press the “bad memory” button more often, we will have more suffering.

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Published: September 1, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 14, 2021In: Personal Development Tags: success, mindfulness, emotional intelligence, action, empowerment, control, happiness, questions, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, focus, thought, responsibility, list

My Personal Spring Cleaning of the Mind

Ronit Baras

My life changed when I was a teenager. I was in the middle of 10th Grade when the school counselor gave me a letter telling me that since I had too many failures in my report card, I would not be able to stay for 11th Grade.

There was nothing special about it. I counted the days to the end of the year, so I would not have to go to school anymore. I hated school with every cell of my body. I was looking forward to the end of it.

The change happened when there was a contradiction between what I wanted and how it felt. You see, I wanted to leave school at the end of 10th Grade anyway, but it just did not feel right.

This inner conflict was a very big quantum moment in my life. It made me wonder, “How was it possible to get what you want and still be unhappy about it?” It is a big question. Have you ever asked yourself this? I suggest you do!

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Published: August 25, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: mind, rules, change, happiness, questions, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, values, feeling, emotional intelligence, choice, failure, beliefs

The Devastating Relationship between Expectations and Conflicts

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Conflicts determine the quality of every relationship. Even the most loving couples, friends or family members face conflict in their life. It is because we are different people, with different life experiences, tendencies, desires, fears, challenges and upbringing.

Every moment in time, whether we have judged it as a negative, positive or neutral, has molded us into the people we are today. We can define ourselves as the accumulation of all those split-second moments of experience and how they have affected us.

It is important to remember that even twins, having the same genetic code, do not have the same path in life, because each of them was in a different place in their mother’s womb, was born at a different time, has a different name and reacts differently to the same experiences. As hard as it may be to accept, the chances that two people will go through the same experience and come out of it the same way is zero.

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Published: August 16, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 20, 2022In: Personal Development Tags: conflict, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, expectation, communication, emotional intelligence, change, happiness, hope

Emotional Freedom: Let Go and Be FREE!

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I do not know about you, but once, whenever I thought about freedom, I thought of a prison. I imagined someone trapped in a closed place against his will. It was always a physical place, with bars and darkness, and just thinking of it upset me.

When I started studying how the brain works, my perception changed. I learned that there is another prison – a very secure place that is the hardest to escape. Most of us live in the prison of our own mind, in which we are limited by our way of thinking.

I remember the time that I experienced the loss of my child. I could feel how quickly I was building my own prison and how each thought was adding one more bar and one more lock around me. The hardest realization was that only I could set myself free.

No one in their normal mind wants to be trapped inside their mind. Yet, in some way or another, we all are. This is because we are not in our normal mind. Yes, me too. Do not take this too hard, but Buddhists think we are all delusional, trapped in the prison of our own ego.

Think about it: imprisonment is the absence of freedom. We only desire freedom when we feel that we do not have it. If you feel free, why would you search for freedom? This comparison between what we have and what we lack, followed by the bad feeling we have about it, is a prison in itself.

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Published: August 11, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: perception, positive, responsibility, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, freedom, depression, expectation, how to, negative, beliefs, control, change, happiness

How to Release Negative Emotions: 10 Constructive and Healthy Ways

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Most people think that emotions are not controlled. They come and go from somewhere in the brain or the body, and we have no control over them. In my coaching, I come across this misconception with every new client. Usually, they are not happy about something in their life and they come to me because they do not think they can change it on their own.

In general, emotions are not a problem. If they are happy emotions and if we feel good about them, we do not want to change them. But if they are painful and make us uncomfortable, then we want them out of our system and fast – and usually for the right reason. Feelings manifest into our physical world. If you think of emotions as vibrations, then we feel their vibration in our body as a physical reaction.

When I was young, my younger sister and I were fans of Louise Hay’s book You Can Heal Your Life.

We borrowed it from the local library and she bought it for me as a birthday gift. In the book, Louise Hay describes the connection between body and mind and explains how every thought, feeling, idea and action has a physical manifestation.

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Published: August 9, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: negative, happiness, conflict, positive attitude tips, tips, stress / pressure, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, responsibility, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, emotions, meditation, feeling, how to, expectation

How to Get a Good Night’s Sleep and Why You Really Need It

Girl sleeping on feathers

When I was a kid, I did not really understand the importance of sleep. For years, I considered sleep a waste of time. I wanted to do so many things that I did not sleep much. My oldest daughter, Eden, never slept much either. She is 27 now and although she understands the importance of sleep in her mind, she sleeps very little.

It took me a long time to understand that we need to sleep because our body uses this time to rejuvenate, clear out toxins and recharge our batteries. Over the years, I also learned that the hours of sleep is not the only important thing. More important is who you are taking to bed with you every night and what happens in the minutes before you fall asleep.

I am sure you have heard the importance of starting the day on the right foot many times. Whatever happens in the morning will determine the rest of the day. Your day can be calm, organized, happy and cheerful, or angry, rushed, stressed, chaotic, sad and grumpy, depending on how you get out of bed.

Well, same thing happens when you get into bed, when you prepare for another big part of your every day – sleep. We spend a third of our life sleeping. If you live to be 90 years old, you will have slept 30 years of it. So you might as well make sure you get the most of this time.

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Published: August 2, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Personal Development, Health / Wellbeing Tags: imagination, tips, health / wellbeing, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, creative / creativity, gratitude, goals / goal setting, how to, happiness, relaxation, sleep

Reasons: The Search for Cause and Effect

A row of dominos with a hand in the middle stopping them from continuing to fall

I often hear that finding the reasons for things we do is the way to have a happy life. There are many public claims that understanding why we do things cures bad decisions and is the way to contentment.

However, it is important to distinguish between the search for a reason and finding a reason. Searching for a reason is a continuous state of limbo, based on the belief there is one true reason for something. Finding a reason is just an illusion that the reason we found is the one true reason.

There is a big challenge in searching for the one reason, mainly because most of our decision making (in fact, more than 90%) is done by our subconscious mind, which means we are not aware of it. We only know of 10% of it.

Our conscious mind can process a limited number of thoughts and memories, so it is unlikely to lead us to the “right” reason, or right decision. At the same time, our subconscious mind can process millions of thoughts and memories in a split second. We can never hope to be aware of everything that goes on “down there”.

So in humans, the concept of cause and effect is not that simple. There is no single cause that will lead to the same effect.

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Published: July 28, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: behavior / discipline, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, assumptions, emotional intelligence, choice, control, happiness, interpretation, decision making, acceptance / judgment / tolerance

Parenting Focus: Point Your Flashlight and Magnifier at Good Things

Flashlight

Parents want to raise happy children. In all of the many parenting workshops I run, regardless of their parenting style, cultural background or socioeconomic status, all the parents want their kids to be happy, healthy and successful. The problem is that parents whose kids are not happy, healthy and successful do not understand how they contribute to this. They just cannot see how their parenting focus and the attention they give to problematic things creates these problems.

When children do not behave like we want them to and when they do things we do not like, we tend to pay attention to their behavior more than when they behave like we want them to and when they do things we like. This attitude only makes them continue to behave “badly” and creates a never-ending cycle of attention to “bad” behavior.

When pay attention to the problems, the problems keep growing, and then we pay attention to them more and we trap ourselves and our kids in this dysfunctional parenting style. In life, we get what we focus on. Some call it “the law of attraction”, I call it “the flashlight model”.

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Published: June 23, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: July 18, 2020In: Parenting, Personal Development Tags: self confidence / self esteem / self worth, focus, emotional development, success, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, how to, identity, happiness, law of attraction, positive, attitude, acceptance / judgment / tolerance

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