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How to Turn off Children’s Creativity

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As an educator and a mother, I believe in the importance of developing children’s creativity. My first real job as an educator was in a very special project, called “Creative Thinking”. It was a very important part in my career and in forming my philosophy.

I think this is the reason creativity is such a high value for me. I have written a lot about creativity and how to “turn it on”. But today, I would like to give some negative examples of ways you can turn it off, just as easily as you can turn it on.

Please check if your relationships with your children or students include any of these things. If so, this may be limiting their creativity and future success.

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Published: February 15, 2017 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Parenting, Education / Learning, Kids / Children Tags: creative / creativity, focus, education / learning, success, expectation, emotional intelligence, practical parenting / parents, teaching / teachers, control, change, k-12 education, attitude, kids / children, acceptance / judgment / tolerance

How to Focus: Juggling Life with Goals

Juggler with 6 balls

In How to Focus: 20-20-20 Vision, I explained how focus works and why it is essential in many areas of our life. I compared mental focus to clear vision. If we see well, we function well. If we are able to stay focused mentally, we also function well. Easy!

As I said before, when we focus on one thing, the rest is blurry. It is important to remember that we cannot focus on everything with the same level of intensity.

It is as if we juggle too many balls at the same time. Even highly trained jugglers can handle no more than six or seven balls at a time and they train for years to reach that point. If we want to juggle the things we need to do in life, we need to train for years, and the sooner we start, the better.

This post is part 2 of 2 in the series How to Focus

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Published: December 1, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: Life Coaching, relaxation, time management, tips, stress / pressure, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, focus, goals / goal setting, success, how to, inner peace

How to Focus: 20-20-20 Vision

Magnifying glass - helps you focus

If you wear glasses, you understand focus really well. Why is it easy for people who need glasses? Because many of them just cannot see what is in front of them without their glasses. If you cannot see clearly, it is very hard to function effectively.

I have been shortsighted since I was 15 years old. Without my glasses, I cannot read well, drive, enjoy TV or notice facial expressions from half a meter away. Without glasses, I cannot do my presentations, coach, cook, clean the house or even choose what clothes to wear. My vision plays a big part in my life, and without it, I am crippled.

Mental focus works the same. If we are not focused, it is as if our vision is blurred. The lack of focus affects all aspects of our life negatively and we are crippled.

This post is part 1 of 2 in the series How to Focus

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Published: November 24, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: tips, stress / pressure, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, focus, practical parenting / parents, success, goals / goal setting, how to, inner peace, exercise, Life Coaching, relaxation, time management

The Expectations Paradox: Mindfulness is the Cure

A tree with words about what love is

In the last two posts about the expectations paradox, I explained how expectations from others and ourselves can cause us lots of pain and why respect and acceptance are the keys to overcoming them. It is much better to be prepared for the future than to try to control a specific outcome. Today, I will describe how to develop respect and acceptance with mindfulness.

Mindfulness is a state of reflection with no judgment. This state is similar to mediation. We observe and do not let the ego interfere with our observation and tempt us to label and judge what we experience. In a mindfulness state, we do not give a rating to the event, thought or feeling. We only name it. In a higher state of mindfulness, even naming it is not necessary. We just notice.

I remember the first time I mediated. Gal and I were in California at a meditation course. Every week, we learned a different kind of meditation. We did walking, eating, light, mantra and visualizing meditations and we were very confused. Millions of thoughts ran through our minds and we had no control over them. When we got home, we went to sleep and felt overwhelmed.

This post is part 3 of 3 in the series The Expectations Paradox

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Published: September 13, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 21, 2022In: Personal Development Tags: mindfulness, meditation, empowerment, control, change, communication styles, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, communication, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, responsibility, love languages, success, expectation, emotional intelligence

The Expectations Paradox: Self-inflicted Pain

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In the last post about the paradox of expectations, I explained how unmet expectations can bring lots of misery to life when we do not understand them properly. Today, I will explore additional aspects of expectations and what happens to us when our expectations are not met.

Many people think that expectations are part of their identity. They expect so much of themselves that they believe this gives them the “right” to expect the same from others. I am sure that if you examine the definition of arrogance (“having or revealing an exaggerated sense of one’s own importance or abilities”), you will see someone who expects a lot from themselves and from others as arrogant. Thinking highly of yourself is great, but expecting others to fulfill your expectations is not!

Most people care a lot about what others think about them. They are in the approval trap and have the disease to please. It is very hard to be assertive and to take care of your own interests when you are busy pleasing others. It may be easier when you are young, but it becomes more complicated during the teenage years, when you realize that that some of the expectations of those around you contradict others.

More people find the pain we experience from unmet expectations unbearable. They think that life is hard when things do not happen the way they expect them to. But this is only because they believe life is supposed to work as they expect.

This post is part 2 of 3 in the series The Expectations Paradox

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Published: September 6, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 1, 2020In: Personal Development Tags: acceptance / judgment / tolerance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, communication, love languages, responsibility, expectation, success, mindfulness, emotional intelligence, empowerment, control, change, communication styles, positive attitude tips

Mindfulness Questions to Change Your Life for the Better

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Questions are very important on our way to mindfulness. The ancient Greek philosopher Socrates thought that questions could lead us to many discoveries. One of the most important discoveries is that questions can reveal to us what we think and lead us to a better life.

The formula is simple. When we ask good questions, we get good answers that can help us grow and evolve to a better version of ourselves.

As a life coach, I use questions a lot. I know that some questions I ask (myself or others) will lead to pain and others will empower. Questions can trigger responses like “let’s move on”, “let’s do something”, “let’s think positively”, “let’s plan”, “let’s change perspective” and “let’s appreciate”, like pressing a button.

Every thought we have also triggers a feeling, so by “pressing the button” for that thought, we can create that feeling. For example, the “good memory” button will make us happy and “bad memory” button will bring us pain and suffering.

We may not have more bad memories than good memories, but if we press the “bad memory” button more often, we will have more suffering.

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Published: September 1, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 14, 2021In: Personal Development Tags: mindfulness, emotional intelligence, action, empowerment, control, happiness, questions, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, focus, thought, responsibility, list, success

The Expectations Paradox: Danger Ahead

Sign: Danger, expectations ahead!

From the minute I woke up, at the age of 16, and took control of my life, I had a good understanding of the power of expectations. At least this is what I thought for a long time. I thought that I switched from having low expectation to high expectations and believed that high expectations were the key to success in life.

I still think so, although I believe that it is important to distinguish between expectations from ourselves and expectations from others. Even more important is what we do when our expectations are not fulfilled.

Expectations can be a blessing or a curse and we can always determine what they were after the event. Subconsciously, when we succeed, we tend to consider our expectations as blessings, as a ladder that led us to victory. When we fail, we consider them false, frustrating and painful. In victories, we reward ourselves for having “motivating expectations”. In failures, we blame circumstances and/or people, and sometimes, we blame ourselves.

Expectations are a double-edged sword if we do not define them properly.

This post is part 1 of 3 in the series The Expectations Paradox

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Published: August 30, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: motivation, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, expectation, responsibility, goals / goal setting, success, emotional intelligence, empowerment, control, change

Use Your Self-fulfilling Prophecy to Help Your Kids Succeed

3 happy sisters

What does “self-fulfilling prophecy” have to do with good education and helping your kids succeed? Everything!

To raise our children to be successful, happy, healthy and productive grownups, we need a holistic approach. Yet our society and education system take a different approach. Governments spend billions of dollars every year to establish and run educational institutes where kids learn literacy and numeracy. Children dedicate 13 to 15 years of their life to learning things that will play a small part of their adult life.

Do not get me wrong, I think it is important to learn to read. I am also a qualified math teacher and think math is important. But tell me, out of a week of your life, with 24 hours a day and 60 minutes every hour, how much time do you analyze poems or find square roots of numbers? Do your amazing English and math abilities determine how happy, successful, healthy, friendly and productive you are?

I wish!

Learning depends greatly on the self-fulfilling prophecy of the teacher. Yes, I know, it sounds harsh, but the quality of the learning is highly dependent on what goes on in the teacher’s mind (and in the holistic approach, parents are also teachers). Every time I finish a day of professional development for teachers, the teachers are surprised to discover that what they think of the students manifests itself in the students’ behavior, social interactions and academic achievements.

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Published: July 14, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: May 27, 2024In: Education / Learning, Parenting Tags: education / learning, expectation, projection, practical parenting / parents, school, teaching / teachers, success, beliefs, society, perception, intelligence, self-fulfilling prophecy, k-12 education

Find Your Inner Child and Discover Your Intuitive Wisdom

Little dirty boy eating ice cream

I have been working with children all my life. I think they have some wisdom that fades over the years. This is “thanks” to the education system, which teaches kids to ignore their intuitive wisdom and focus on memorizing, analyzing and following external rules. I always see my students as my greatest teachers, because they teach me what I once knew and forgot.

Children live from the heart. When they do something, they do it with every cell in their body. When they are happy, there are happy with every cell in their body, and when they are sad, it is heartbreaking to watch them.

My own children have made it easy for me to examine this purity, which is later lost. I have three of them, and they are totally different. Although they are 6 years apart in age, it was easy to notice that inside, they had a free spirit and only used the intuitive voice inside to guide them. When they played, they played with all their senses. They were not afraid to be silly or loud. When they ate, they never counted calories and I could see the satisfaction on their face when the food smeared all over it. I have hundreds of photos of them eating with a mess and looking very happy, which makes me wonder, “What do they know that we don’t?”

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Published: June 28, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 28, 2016In: Parenting, Personal Development Tags: emotional intelligence, wisdom, change, society, k-12 education, presentations, behavior / discipline, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, focus, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, school, education / learning, success

Parenting Focus: Point Your Flashlight and Magnifier at Good Things

Flashlight

Parents want to raise happy children. In all of the many parenting workshops I run, regardless of their parenting style, cultural background or socioeconomic status, all the parents want their kids to be happy, healthy and successful. The problem is that parents whose kids are not happy, healthy and successful do not understand how they contribute to this. They just cannot see how their parenting focus and the attention they give to problematic things creates these problems.

When children do not behave like we want them to and when they do things we do not like, we tend to pay attention to their behavior more than when they behave like we want them to and when they do things we like. This attitude only makes them continue to behave “badly” and creates a never-ending cycle of attention to “bad” behavior.

When pay attention to the problems, the problems keep growing, and then we pay attention to them more and we trap ourselves and our kids in this dysfunctional parenting style. In life, we get what we focus on. Some call it “the law of attraction”, I call it “the flashlight model”.

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Published: June 23, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: July 18, 2020In: Parenting, Personal Development Tags: positive, attitude, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, focus, emotional development, success, practical parenting / parents, emotional intelligence, how to, identity, happiness, law of attraction

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