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Children with Auditory Processing Disorders or Not?

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I went to study special education to help children and adults with learning difficulties. When I started my journey, over 30 years ago, I thought there were many people with learning difficulties. I still think there are, but in the past, I was convinced they were “organic” – physical, possibly genetic – and therefore hard to change.

Now, after seeing so many children and people of all ages, I think that social attitude creates or aggravates the problems in many cases. Many people have small difficulties that are blown out of proportion and labeled as disorders.

Auditory processing disorders are very popular and easily labeled, even among very young children. Every year that passes, I hear about younger and younger kids with auditory processing disorders. Recently, I even talked to a mother whose son was one year old and she insisted he had an auditory processing disorder. I am qualified enough to know that I cannot assess a child for APD at one year of age.

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Published: October 27, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 26, 2019In: Education / Learning, Parenting Tags: learning disabilities, story, k-12 education, academic performance, kids / children, communication, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, special education, health / wellbeing, how to, practical parenting / parents, auditory, change, learning styles

Assertiveness: Successful Communication Summary

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You can learn assertiveness skills at any stage of life and you can always improve them and gain more respect for yourself and others. In this post, I have gathered all of my assertiveness tips in one big list. I hope this summary will be useful for you and for your children and students.

If we create a society full of assertive people, we will not have conflicts and we will live with each other with respect, so pass this along to everyone you know.

This post is part 6 of 6 in the series Assertiveness

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Published: October 20, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: February 11, 2021In: Personal Development Tags: how to, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, choice, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, beliefs, empowerment, control, change, assertive, communication, aggressive, responsibility, positive attitude tips, values, tips, emotional intelligence, acceptance / judgment / tolerance

Assertiveness: Know Your Rights

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So far, I have covered things that affect our ability to be assertive. This post adds some tips on how to know your rights, keep them and be assertive about them. I hope they will help you on your quest to develop your emotional intelligence and communicate with assertiveness.

When you are assertive, you express yourself with confidence without hurting others. You are firm, not a bully. You are clear, not manipulative. You are honest, not aggressive. Healthy communication is based on honesty, clarity and confidence.

First, you have to know your rights in every communication. It takes two to tango and when one has more rights than the other does, this will not be an assertive relationship. I suggest teaching kids these rights too and giving them opportunities to practice them.

This post is part 5 of 6 in the series Assertiveness

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Published: October 13, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Personal Development Tags: communication, tips, responsibility, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, values, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, emotional intelligence, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, how to, beliefs, empowerment, control, change, assertive, positive attitude tips

Assertiveness: Live by Your Own Standards

Faceless woman with a sign showing arrows pointing at the word CONFIDENCE

Assertiveness is a helpful skill in life, yet most people do not have it. They do not have it because they could not learn it at home or from anyone else except professionals. You see, the people who teach assertiveness must be very confident and not afraid that you might use assertiveness with them, and these people are hard to find.

Am I assertive all the time? No, not really. Sometimes, I choose avoidance or aggression, and every time I use them, I feel uncomfortable. They either hurt me or others, which is not very good. Still, I aim to use assertiveness in my communication with others and most of the time, I do.

Assertiveness requires confidence to express your own thoughts and feeling without fear and without the need, desire or intention to hurt anyone else. It is important to distinguish between having the intention to hurt and actually hurting someone else.

This post is part 4 of 6 in the series Assertiveness

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Published: October 6, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: February 28, 2020In: Personal Development Tags: change, assertive, communication, positive attitude tips, responsibility, stress / pressure, values, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, emotional intelligence, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, choice, freedom, beliefs, expectation, empowerment, control

Be Your Child’s Speech Therapist with Mouth Gym

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Over the last 30 years, I have had a chance to see many children with speech difficulties. Children who do not speak properly may sound cute at first, but this might become an obstacle as they grow up. At some stage, their parents stress about it and take them to a speech therapist or a speech pathologist.

But parents can fix some of the speech problems very easily. This post includes my tips for fixing one of the major speech difficulties – physical sound production. Hundreds of parents around the world have used them and changed their children’s life. If your child has trouble pronouncing words, you do not need a speech therapist.

Using the suggestions below will do the same for your child.

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Published: September 20, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: May 24, 2020In: Parenting, Education / Learning Tags: communication, how to, auditory, learning disabilities, activity, fun, kids / children, tips, practical parenting / parents, teaching / teachers

The Expectations Paradox: Mindfulness is the Cure

A tree with words about what love is

In the last two posts about the expectations paradox, I explained how expectations from others and ourselves can cause us lots of pain and why respect and acceptance are the keys to overcoming them. It is much better to be prepared for the future than to try to control a specific outcome. Today, I will describe how to develop respect and acceptance with mindfulness.

Mindfulness is a state of reflection with no judgment. This state is similar to mediation. We observe and do not let the ego interfere with our observation and tempt us to label and judge what we experience. In a mindfulness state, we do not give a rating to the event, thought or feeling. We only name it. In a higher state of mindfulness, even naming it is not necessary. We just notice.

I remember the first time I mediated. Gal and I were in California at a meditation course. Every week, we learned a different kind of meditation. We did walking, eating, light, mantra and visualizing meditations and we were very confused. Millions of thoughts ran through our minds and we had no control over them. When we got home, we went to sleep and felt overwhelmed.

This post is part 3 of 3 in the series The Expectations Paradox

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Published: September 13, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: June 21, 2022In: Personal Development Tags: control, change, communication styles, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, communication, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, responsibility, love languages, success, expectation, emotional intelligence, mindfulness, meditation, empowerment

The Expectations Paradox: Self-inflicted Pain

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In the last post about the paradox of expectations, I explained how unmet expectations can bring lots of misery to life when we do not understand them properly. Today, I will explore additional aspects of expectations and what happens to us when our expectations are not met.

Many people think that expectations are part of their identity. They expect so much of themselves that they believe this gives them the “right” to expect the same from others. I am sure that if you examine the definition of arrogance (“having or revealing an exaggerated sense of one’s own importance or abilities”), you will see someone who expects a lot from themselves and from others as arrogant. Thinking highly of yourself is great, but expecting others to fulfill your expectations is not!

Most people care a lot about what others think about them. They are in the approval trap and have the disease to please. It is very hard to be assertive and to take care of your own interests when you are busy pleasing others. It may be easier when you are young, but it becomes more complicated during the teenage years, when you realize that that some of the expectations of those around you contradict others.

More people find the pain we experience from unmet expectations unbearable. They think that life is hard when things do not happen the way they expect them to. But this is only because they believe life is supposed to work as they expect.

This post is part 2 of 3 in the series The Expectations Paradox

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Published: September 6, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 1, 2020In: Personal Development Tags: responsibility, expectation, success, mindfulness, emotional intelligence, empowerment, control, change, communication styles, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, communication, love languages

The Devastating Relationship between Expectations and Conflicts

Couple under signs in opposite directions saying "I am right" and "Me too"

Conflicts determine the quality of every relationship. Even the most loving couples, friends or family members face conflict in their life. It is because we are different people, with different life experiences, tendencies, desires, fears, challenges and upbringing.

Every moment in time, whether we have judged it as a negative, positive or neutral, has molded us into the people we are today. We can define ourselves as the accumulation of all those split-second moments of experience and how they have affected us.

It is important to remember that even twins, having the same genetic code, do not have the same path in life, because each of them was in a different place in their mother’s womb, was born at a different time, has a different name and reacts differently to the same experiences. As hard as it may be to accept, the chances that two people will go through the same experience and come out of it the same way is zero.

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Published: August 16, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 20, 2022In: Personal Development Tags: emotional intelligence, change, happiness, hope, conflict, positive attitude tips, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, expectation, communication

Your Child’s Subconscious Mind Has No Sense of Humor

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When people ask me to summarize my studies, I say they were all about how the brain works. The first four years focused on how to use this knowledge to stimulate learning. Later on, I learned how to work with the subconscious mind to avoid misery and have more success and more happiness.

Learning about the brain is a never-ending quest. There is much research in the world about the brain and its functions in health, in success, in relationships, in learning and in everyday life. Over the years, I have tried to share my learning about the brain and its functions through this blog, especially in relation to parenting and education.

Why parenting and education? Because these two areas are very close to my heart. Since you are reading this, you probably care about them too.

Today, I would like to share some insight that is very important in parenting and in education. I want to tell you how the conscious and the subconscious minds work. Specifically, I want to tell you about how the subconscious mind deals with humor.

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Published: July 12, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: July 12, 2016In: Parenting, Education / Learning Tags: interpretation, humor, kids / children, communication, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, responsibility, behavior / discipline, values, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, emotional intelligence, emotional development, how to, practical parenting / parents, beliefs, Life Coaching, sarcasm

Raising Children with “The Disease to Please”

The Disease to Please

Children are affected strongly by their emotional state. When I work with children, I can see their performance decrease when they are emotionally preoccupied. Some kids are affected more and others less, but all of them drop in performance when they are down.

Kinesthetic children are typically affected more, because they are very sensitive to the people around them. These are the kids who can “sense” others around them and all they want is for “everyone to be happy and nice to each other”.

Children who are highly sensitive to pressure are at risk of developing “the disease to please” – dependence on external rewards and oversensitivity to pressure. It is the perception that other people’s feelings are so important that they trump your own.

In most cases, “the disease to please” comes from fear of rejection, which most people want to avoid. Many people have this disease and they got it during their childhood. We can say that this kind of disease is contagious and we catch it from our parents…

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Published: July 8, 2016 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: August 13, 2020In: Parenting Tags: emotional intelligence, practical parenting / parents, how to, choice, motivation, perception, kinesthetic, kids / children, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, behavior / discipline, communication, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, love, emotional development

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