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May "I Can’t" Rest in Peace

This week, I got phone calls from two teachers who had been through my life coaching and professional development programs, where I told them a story about another teacher. Each of them told me, “Ronit, I did it! The whole funeral, it was fantastic!”

After the first call, I was very happy, but since I am not a strong believer in coincidence, I said to myself that the universe was trying to tell me something after the second call. Translating from “universe” language to “Ronit” language, this meant I needed to write about that funeral – one of the most wonderful funerals everyone should take part in.

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Published: March 8, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 29, 2022In: Personal Development, Parenting Tags: optimism, positive, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, inspiration, practical parenting / parents, success, emotional intelligence, choice, negative, change, motivation

What If

Girl looking doubtful

All too often, we ourselves having a bright idea, only to shoot it down a few seconds later with, “Yes, but what if ?” Since the idea was still fresh in our mind, even the smallest hesitation can sometimes bury it, never to be seen again.

Worries, stress and negative self doubt all your creativity and pretty much guarantee that even if there was a way to turn your idea into reality, you will not be able to see it if it bumped you on the nose.

And that is a pity. It really is.

So how do you overcome obstacles and turn your ideas into reality? You use your imagination.

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Published: March 3, 2010 by Gal Baras
Last modified: December 2, 2022In: Personal Development, Parenting Tags: practical parenting / parents, focus, goals / goal setting, inspiration, success, emotional intelligence, how to, beliefs, motivation, dreams, optimism, self confidence / self esteem / self worth

Avatars of the Mind

Human beings are formed united with the universe, unaware of dangers, evils or even simple discomforts. Then, the warm water is gone, there is a bright light, a blend of strong sounds, pulling and shaking. This is the beginning of realizing we may need to protect ourselves from what is outside of us, i.e. the rest of the world.

It is not that the world is necessarily bad, but there is a chance parts of it might be bad for us. It is not that we are uncomfortable all the time, but in-between comforts, we learn to fill our time with concerns about when the next pain or problem might hit us and what it might be.

So we find ourselves in a familiar enough situation – waiting in line at the bank, driving on the road, entering a busy car park or going to the doctor – and our protective mind kicks in and starts to imagine the worst case scenario.

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Published: February 24, 2010 by Gal Baras
Last modified: December 24, 2019In: Personal Development Tags: how to, fear, beliefs, optimism, relaxation, self-fulfilling prophecy, imagination, focus, stress / pressure, vision, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, projection, emotional intelligence

What are you made of?

From time to time, being so involved with parents and parenting, people send us stories and video clips about special parents who truly go above and beyond what most people would do for their kids. It makes me wonder about what parents are made of.

Imagine you are in the delivery room, having your baby boy. You are overjoyed, until the doctor examines him. You already know something is not right and then you hear this, “I’m terribly sorry, but your son was born with no eyes and with a certain debilitating problem in the joints that will make his movements very limited”.

If you are feeling the urge to get up and run for your life, away from the enormous burden of dependence, struggle and hopelessness, please stop for the next 6 minutes and see how a special pair of parents, especially the father, have handled such a fate and turned it around into the most inspiring story of dedication and triumph over the odds.

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Published: January 25, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 9, 2021In: Parenting Tags: family matters, projection, persistence, responsibility, video, inspiration, attitude, emotional intelligence, acceptance / judgment / tolerance, role model, practical parenting / parents, choice, motivation, relationships / marriage, optimism, focus, determination, vision

Never Too Late

For some people, the beginning of a new year (and their birthday), is a sad day. When everyone around talks about goals, motivation and New Year resolutions, it is hard to avoid measuring our achievements from the previous year and those we have not achieved stand out like a sore thumb. “There you have it – another proof you have not achieved your goals and time is ticking. If you don’t get your act together, it’s going to be too late”.

Is it?

The ticking of time as it runs out is an illusion we adopt as soon as we learn to tell the time. Together with the sense of the achievement (that we can tell the time), the loss of freedom and hope starts creeping in as time starts to control us. This is the birth of the notion that something can be “late”, which sits in our mind together with frustration, helplessness and giving up. From there, the road to “too late” is short.

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Published: January 15, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 24, 2019In: Personal Development, Beautiful people Tags: change, motivation, focus, dreams, projection, optimism, inspiration, persistence, success, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, emotional intelligence, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, how to, goals / goal setting, choice, books, beliefs

How to Praise Your Kids (5)

Star-shaped trophy

For over 24 years, I have been focusing on emotional strength and I believe this is the key to any type of success in life. I think rewarding kids for emotional stretches is the best way to praise them. As a special education teacher, working with kids who struggle and kids who are gifted, praising for effort was always one of my main tools. Remember, it is not the success that counts, but the emotional stretch. Although it may be a cliché, “Good try” has real power.

Research on emotional intelligence has found that persistence is a powerful ingredient in any success formula. So how do you teach persistence? My answer is “Reward every attempt and praise it, regardless of the outcome”. As I said, in special education, it is a major teaching tool and I have countless examples. Here is one from my own home that happened recently.

This post is part 5 of 5 in the series How to Praise Your Kids

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Published: December 17, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 28, 2022In: Parenting, Personal Development Tags: optimism, k-12 education, academic performance, attitude, communication, kids / children, focus, projection, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, success, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, education / learning, how to, practical parenting / parents, motivation

How to Praise Your Kids (4)

Football Trophy

You can see them on the sports filed or in a lesson. They are smart kids, but they need constant reminders of their abilities and reassurance that they are OK. I often wonder how come those kids are so good, so smart and so capable, no one else around them can compete with their skills and abilities, yet are still very competitive.

It is because over-praising can backfire.

An analysis of over 150 studies about praise discovered there is a risk in praising. Being praised caused students to be less persistent, to need more eye contact with the teacher and to be less confident when answering a question (you know those uncertain answers that sound like questions). Students who were praised a lot were less independent in their schoolwork.

This post is part 4 of 5 in the series How to Praise Your Kids

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Published: December 15, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: May 27, 2024In: Parenting, Personal Development Tags: emotional intelligence, education / learning, how to, practical parenting / parents, motivation, optimism, k-12 education, academic performance, attitude, communication, kids / children, focus, projection, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, success, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement

How to Praise Your Kids (3)

Thumbs Up

In 1969, Nathaniel Branden wrote that self-esteem is the single most important factor in people’s life and people need do all they can to achieve positive self-esteem. Later, as it happens sometimes in the psychology field, the self-esteem movement took this idea to the extreme. Every kind of feedback was suddenly considered as criticism and swapped with “rewards” to build self-esteem.

However, this sometimes created over-rewarding and achieved nothing, if not the opposite.

This post is part 3 of 5 in the series How to Praise Your Kids

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Published: December 14, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 28, 2022In: Parenting, Personal Development Tags: projection, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, success, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, education / learning, how to, practical parenting / parents, motivation, optimism, k-12 education, academic performance, attitude, communication, kids / children, focus

How to Praise Your Kids (2)

Brain

Yesterday, I wrote about Prof. Carol Dweck’s research on the difference between praising effort vs. praising natural talent. I encourage you to read about this research (if you have not already), because it highlights some of the issues with the impact of praising on kids’ self-esteem.

One big question that came out this research was “What can parents and schools do to still build kids’ self-esteem and enhance their performance (possible after the “mistake” of telling the kids how smart they are)?

Dr. Lisa Blackwell, Dweck’s assistant, conducted a research to improve kids’ math scores using the knowledge and information gathered in her work with Dweck.

This post is part 2 of 5 in the series How to Praise Your Kids

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Published: December 11, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: November 28, 2022In: Parenting, Personal Development Tags: attitude, communication, kids / children, focus, projection, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, success, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, education / learning, how to, practical parenting / parents, motivation, optimism, k-12 education, academic performance

How to Praise Your Kids (1)

Kids Drawing

A few weeks ago, when my 8-year-old daughter Noff brought her “Alien House” from school, we were all very impressed. It was a tall 3-story box house, with lights (because her alien was afraid of the dark) and she had planned and executed her plan at school and had received an A+ for the assignment. The masterpiece stood proudly on top of our fridge for over 3 weeks and during that time, everyone who passed next to it, including her older siblings, praised her and said, “Noff, your alien house is just wonderful”, “Well done”, “You’re so creative” and “You’re so smart”.

What do you think? Did we do the right thing? Should kids be praised? If so, how should kids be praised for best results?

This post is part 1 of 5 in the series How to Praise Your Kids

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Published: December 10, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 18, 2021In: Parenting, Personal Development Tags: k-12 education, academic performance, attitude, communication, kids / children, focus, projection, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, success, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, emotional intelligence, education / learning, how to, practical parenting / parents, motivation, optimism

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