When we talk about relationships, we immediately imagine a cuddling couple full of love. When we think relationship breakup, we think there is a communication breakup. There is some truth in it, but communication is not always what is said but also what is transferred in silence.
In a world where everyone seems to be in a hurry to speak, explain, defend, or correct, silence in relationships can feel unfamiliar, almost uncomfortable. But silence is not the absence of communication; it is a form of communication. And in relationships, especially long-term ones, the moments between the words often matter more than the words themselves.
I like to think of conversations as dance. When both people move in rhythm, it feels effortless. But when both pull in different directions, someone gets stepped on. Silence is the moment where both partners pause long enough to feel each other, to sense the rhythm and feel the music again.
In my relationship coaching program, I get many couples coming “minutes” before they divorce claiming they “don’t communicate well” and I am there to tell them it has nothing to do with communication but everything to do with safety.
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