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The Empty Nest Identity Crisis: When Parenting Changes

Many parents experience what psychologists call the empty nest identity crisis — a period where their role, routines, and sense of purpose suddenly shift.

Not long ago, we joined that group of parents. Our nest turned empty.

We have three children, and our youngest moved out at the age of 21.

My adjustment to the empty nest identity crisis didn’t start when she moved out. It actually began years ago when my first daughter left home.

And honestly? I’m still adjusting.

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Co-Sleeping Safety: A Warm Bed or a Slippery Slope?

co-sleeping safety parent and child sleeping together peacefully

Co-sleeping safety, the practice of parents sharing a bed with their children, has sparked ongoing debate for years. I remember the conversation when I gave birth to my own daughter, later on when I had an early childhood center, in my work with parents, and now… as a grandmother.

Don’t you look at a photo of a parent cuddling a sleeping child and feel those fuzzy, warm feelings? I know I do.

And yet… feelings are not always the full story.

Warm feelings can comfort us, but they can also distract us from asking the harder questions.

When I look at co-sleeping safety, I don’t just see comfort. I also see the long-term cost.

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Parenting and Friendship: Why You Shouldn’t Be Your Child’s Best Friend

parent child relationship showing healthy parenting and friendship boundaries

When working with parents about their parenting style, I meet many parents disappointed with their relationship with their children.

And surprisingly, the problem often comes from the same place. Too many parents hold the false belief that they can become their children’s best friends.

They can’t. And more importantly, they shouldn’t.

This confusion between parenting and friendship is becoming more common in modern families. Parents want closeness. They want trust. They want their children to feel comfortable sharing their lives.

Children do not need another friend. They need a parent.

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Help Your Anti-Social Child Develop Strong Social Skills

anti-social child sitting alone at playground watching other children play

Parents come to me and say “I have an anti-social child”.

Most parents understand something very important about life: children with good social skills tend to be happier and more successful.

It begins early in childhood. The children who learn how to connect, communicate, and build friendships often grow into adults who find relationships easier, handle challenges better, and even live longer.

In fact, researchers have been studying the connection between social skills and well-being for decades. Psychologist Julianne Holt-Lunstad (2010) conducted a large study examining social relationships and health outcomes. She found that people with strong social connections had a 50% higher chance of living longer compared to those who were socially isolated.

That’s huge.

But what happens when you have an anti-social child?

What if your child prefers to stay alone, struggles to connect with others, or avoids social situations altogether?

Before we panic, we need to understand something very important.

Social skills exist on a spectrum.

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Weak Generation Myth: Why Every Generation Thinks the Next One Is Weaker

Every generation seems convinced that the next one is weaker. Less resilient. Less committed. Less capable.

And every generation is wrong.

Every generation calls the following one the weak generation.

If you look back honestly, you’ll see the pattern repeating itself again and again. Parents complained about their children. Teachers complained about their students. Elders complained about “kids these days.” Not because the next generation was failing or truly a weak generation — but because the world had changed, and the old tools no longer fit the new reality.

Plato complained that young people had bad manners and no respect for authority. Socrates worried that writing would weaken memory. Parents once feared novels, then radio, then television, then video games, and now screens.

The fear is always the same: “They have it too easy. They won’t cope. They are weaker than we were. They are a weak generation.”

I remember my dad saying it about my generation. Every generation says that because things were simpler in their generation and they believe the younger generation are slack, spoiled, and living an easy life.

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Mindfulness for Kids: Teaching Children the Gift of Silence

Child practicing mindfulness for kids during a quiet moment by the window

Silence is one of the greatest gifts we can offer our kids, yet it’s also one of the rarest. In a world full of notifications, background chatter, rushing, and constant stimulation, children rarely have the space to hear their own thoughts — or their own hearts. That’s why mindfulness for kids has become such an important tool.

And at the centre of that mindfulness, sits silence.

Silence is more than the absence of noise. It’s a gentle teacher. It teaches kids to slow down, pay attention, and understand themselves. It builds self-regulation, confidence, emotional maturity, and resilience — skills that stay with them for life.

In the silence series, I covered many aspects of the importance of silence in life. In this chapter, we’ll explore mindfulness for kids, why silence is essential for children’s emotional growth, how to introduce it without force, playful ways to help kids enjoy stillness, and simple quiet rituals you can bring into your home.

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Narcissism in Children: When Parenting Turns into a Mirror

Narcissism in children - an identity crisis

Narcissism in children rarely starts with arrogance or entitlement. More often, it begins with love—mixed with pressure.

Parents want to do well. They want their children to succeed. They want to feel proud, but when a child’s behavior starts to feel like a personal report card, something quietly shifts. The focus moves away from the child’s emotional world and toward the parent’s self-image. Children feel that shift instantly.

Most parents deeply love their children. They want them to feel confident, capable, and special. But sometimes, love quietly slips into over-praise, control, or emotional absence—and instead of growing self-worth, a child grows something else entirely.

Think of it like this: Self-worth is a strong internal spine. Narcissism is a shiny external costume.

When a child is either placed on a pedestal or left emotionally unseen, they don’t learn who they are, they learn who they’re expected to be. And if they grow up with a narcissistic parent, they often believe this dynamic is normal, even healthy.

This article explores how narcissism in children can develop through everyday parenting dynamics. How it differs from healthy self-esteem, what the research actually says, and—most importantly—how we can break the cycle and start experiencing our child as a separate human being rather than a reflection of yourself.

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The Danger of Believing “He’ll Grow Out of It”

In the wonderful journey of parenthood, we often encounter challenges that leave us scratching our heads, wondering how to navigate the troubled waters of raising children.

Whether it’s tantrums, defiance, or developmental delays, the phrase “He’ll grow out of it” has become a common strategy, offering just temporary comfort in moments of uncertainty. But what if I told you that this seemingly innocent phrase could be more harmful than helpful?

What if it isn’t just a passing phase? What if it’s a symptom of a deeper issue that requires attention and intervention? What happens if children learn that this is a good strategy to manipulate you and they practice it over and over again?

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The Gift of Silence in Parenting: How Pausing Helps Children Feel Seen and Safe

Parenting is often described as loud — literally and emotionally. Kids chatter, cry, argue, negotiate. Parents explain, repeat, call out, remind, negotiate back. And underneath all of that noise lies another layer: the emotional noise of stress, expectations, and daily overwhelm.

But hidden in chaos is one of the most powerful tools a parent can use: silence. Not the silent treatment. Not punishment. Not disconnecting.

But intentional quiet — the space that lets emotions settle, thoughts clarify, and hearts communicate without words. In psychology, we call it “containing,” where you become a container for your child’s feeling.

You don’t remove the feeling, not try to fix it, not try to prevent it, judge it, criticize it, or approve it but hold it with grace, while your child is processing it. You are giving your child a gift. A sacred space held in silence.

Families talk a lot. But they don’t always hear each other.

This is where silence in parenting becomes a gift. Silence helps children feel emotionally safe. It helps parents respond instead of reacting and it strengthens connection in ways talking simply cannot.

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Secrets of Silence and Emotional Intelligence

Father and son practising silence and emotional intelligence together

Silence is a powerful emotional tool most families never use intentionally. We’re taught to talk things out, explain, discuss, debate — but not to pause. Not to let quiet space do the heavy lifting.

And yet, some of the strongest emotional intelligence comes from moments when we say nothing at all.

Silence and emotional intelligence are working together.

Think of silence like the body’s cool-down after a run. Without that recovery time, the muscles tighten, the heart stays racing, and the system never resets.

In the same way, without silence, the emotional brain never cools down. It simply reacts, jumps, triggers, and spirals.

But when we give the mind quiet space, something extraordinary happens, reactions soften, thinking sharpens, and awareness rises. This is where silence and emotional intelligence meet — in the gap between stimulus and response.

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