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Why Do People Bully?

Understanding the dynamics of bullying is very important in finding the solution for it. In the next two chapters of the bullying series, I will discuss the characteristics of two main players in the bullying phenomenon – the Bully and the Bullied (victim). I say two main players, because there are many other players in the game, but they will be discussed later on.

From a very early stage of the bullying research, it was obvious that bullies have special characteristics. Research done in 2007 by Field found that bullies have difficulties with schoolwork, health and self-esteem. Field also found that bullies have personal, social and interpersonal difficulties, including challenges in dealing with emotions and conflicts, lack of compassion and inability to express empathy.

As the challenges bullies have are all associated with their inability to manage their feelings, it is easy to see that bullies have low emotional intelligence.

This post is part 5 of 35 in the series Bullying

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Published: November 15, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Parenting, Kids / Children, Personal Development Tags: social skills, society, communication, aggressive, school, bullying, emotional intelligence, k-12 education, kids / children, how to, safety, behavior / discipline, beliefs, practical parenting / parents, violence, relationships / marriage

Types of Bullying

Drawing of a group of men bullying another

In the past, people considered physical aggressiveness as bullying. Being a form of violence, it was easy to distinguish. Every physical act that was meant to hurt someone else physically was violence and therefore an act of bullying. However, the modern definition of bullying is much broader, so that made many people think there is a lot more bullying today, when in fact, it was here all along, but it was much more acceptable.

For example, name calling and exclusion of people based on their gender, race or disability were very common parts of daily life 40 years ago. I remember myself being intimidated by name calling as a kid. I was bullied and a bully myself. I was made fun of constantly for my skin color or ethnic affiliation and I joined others in making fun of others for other reasons.

I do not think we have more bullying nowadays. I think the level of bullying is similar to what it was in the past, we just pay attention to it more now and are more willing to address it and create an accepting, tolerant and happy society.

People use different forms of bullying to threaten, intimidate and create emotional pain. Here is a list of behaviors that are considered bullying. As I read each one of them, I saw only one form that was new and was not there 40 years ago. Other than that, we had them all and in some respects even worse.

This post is part 4 of 35 in the series Bullying

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Published: November 8, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 25, 2019In: Personal Development, Parenting, Kids / Children Tags: relationships / marriage, social skills, society, communication, aggressive, school, bullying, emotional intelligence, k-12 education, kids / children, how to, safety, behavior / discipline, beliefs, practical parenting / parents, violence

What is NOT Bullying?

Pillow fight - not bullying

When talking about bullying, it is very important for parents (and teachers and kids) to understand what bullying is not. Many times, a single act or behavior is out of proportion, but it is not considered bullying.

Some people think that bullying is any aggressive behavior and although such behaviors are a source of concern and need attention, it is important to separate them from bullying. As I said in the first chapter of the bullying series, bullying is recurring and deliberate abuse of power.

It is not easy for kids to understand the difference between a deliberate act and an accidental one, but it surprises me that many grownups also talk about things people do to them as if they were done intentionally to hurt them. Such perception is very dangerous, because every minor act of conflict, done without any intention to harm, can escalate and become a big conflict.

Much like in any communication, whether it is verbal or not, there are two sides involved. Bullying is a form of communication and depends not only on the giver but also on the receiver. For an incident to be considered bullying, the aggressor must want to hurt someone and the victim must perceive the incident as a deliberate act of abuse.

It is very important for the victim to know what bullying is not to make sure that when things seem hurtful, they will not fall immediately into the category of bullying, because the way to overcome bullying is different from the way to overcome other hurtful acts.

This post is part 3 of 35 in the series Bullying

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Published: November 1, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: April 20, 2020In: Personal Development, Parenting, Kids / Children Tags: practical parenting / parents, violence, relationships / marriage, social skills, society, communication, aggressive, school, bullying, emotional intelligence, k-12 education, kids / children, how to, safety, behavior / discipline, beliefs

Bullying Statistics are Scary

Bullying has become a problem in our society. As I promised in the first chapter of the bullying series, I will share with you today the facts and figures about bullying and they are very scary. But I am not writing this to scare you, just to create awareness to this epidemic of violence in our society. I also believe that parents and educators, who are the majority of the readers of this site, have the power to change it.

Bullying statistics from research

I have spent a long time reviewing information about bullying. Much of it appeared on various government sites, so where the source is missing below, some government agency has publicly confirmed it.

* A study done in 2007 on a group of 6th Graders found that 89% of kids had experienced some form of bullying and 59% of the students had participated in some form of bullying

This post is part 2 of 35 in the series Bullying

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Published: October 25, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: March 19, 2021In: Personal Development, Parenting, Kids / Children Tags: violence, behavior / discipline, change, practical parenting / parents, relationships / marriage, social skills, society, communication, aggressive, school, bullying, emotional intelligence, k-12 education, kids / children, how to, safety, acceptance / judgment / tolerance

Bullying Facts and Myth

Love Shouldn't Hurt written on woman's bare back

Bullying is part of every kid’s life, unfortunately. It is estimated that every person bullies someone, is bullied by someone or witnesses someone else being bullied during childhood.

I am writing about bullying because some of my work with kids, although it seems related to academic achievements and learning difficulties, is overcoming emotional baggage that starts with some form of bullying.

To my surprise, most kids do not know what bullying is.

So first, let’s get the facts straight.

This post is part 1 of 35 in the series Bullying

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Published: August 2, 2010 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: September 17, 2020In: Personal Development, Parenting, Kids / Children Tags: safety, behavior / discipline, beliefs, practical parenting / parents, violence, relationships / marriage, social skills, society, communication, aggressive, school, bullying, emotional intelligence, k-12 education, kids / children, how to

TV Diet (4): Kids’ Outlook on Life

Not only does TV affect kids’ behavior. One of my biggest concerns as a parent and a life coach is the influence of TV on kids’ outlook on life. If my daughter, who is officially an adult and who did not watch much TV during her younger years, thinks CSI is real, I am worried about her outlook on life, because she sees the world as a scary and dangerous place. This is even more of a worry with younger kids.

This post is part 4 of 18 in the series TV Diet

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Published: July 27, 2009 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 24, 2019In: Parenting Tags: teens / teenagers, role model, choice, behavior / discipline, beliefs, practical parenting / parents, violence, relationships / marriage, lifestyle, television, tv, bullying, values, kids / children, emotional intelligence

Matters of Life and Death

Throughout my childhood, I often heard my parents talking about “making the right decisions”. I remember wondering many times, “What are the right decisions?” I remember the strongest feeling I had from what my parents thought about the right decisions was that decisions were always a matter of life and death.

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Published: September 22, 2008 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: December 24, 2019In: Personal Development, Parenting Tags: fear, choice, failure, bullying, decision making, teens / teenagers, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, practical parenting / parents, success, suicide

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